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Fostering Children Mindfully
1. Fostering Children With
Mindfulness
Cameron Aggs
cameron@bemindful.com.au
Director, Mindfulness Training Australia
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2. Aims....
Theory: To present an overview of mindfulness and
attachment theory that allows you to develop your
understanding of they apply to fostering children
Experiential: To provide a space for you to experience
mindful state of consciousness, and to give you
techniques to help you get back there.
Tomorrow: To provide exercises to get you forming new
habits..
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3. Methods
Powerpoints
COS Worksheets
Video
Brief Meditations
Participation in brief meditations is voluntary
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4. Attachment theory
What is it?
Rupture and repair
Tracking: The Circle of Security
Marked and Contingent Communication
Parenting: 25 Words or Less
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5. Mindfulness
What is it?
How does it enhance parenting
Identifying and working through difficult emotions
Using your faculty of attention and your willingness „feel
into‟ experience as your best weapons.
Staying loose and „psychology flexible‟
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6. „Loose‟ with what?
What are some of the key challenges of Fostering?
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7. Question No 1.
Who among us can evoke a peaceful state of
mind at will?
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8. “3Rs” Practice:
Achieving Peace of Mind
Release the mind from „too much thinking‟ and/or the
struggle against „what is‟.
Relax the body, notice your breathing.
Return to (a state of being in) this moment; where you
have all the resources you need.
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9. Mindfulness as a State of
Presence
Mindfulness is an active state of returning towards presence
(Has at least) 3 Qualities
Light: As in buoyant in the Mind
Unencumbered by past and future and fixation
Relaxed: As in soft in the body
Particularly the belly, chest, shoulders, jaw
Grounded as in the bum in the chair and the feet on the floor
Mind „riding‟ the breath
Light. Relaxed. Grounded.
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10. 4Breaths Technique
Coming into a state of presence:
Lightly, mindfully watching the breath
Coordinating with the fingers: Motor-
movement
Rounds of 4
“These 4-Breaths are Mine”
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11. Central Concepts of
Mindfulness
Internal experiences are transient and in constant change
Thoughts and emotions are not facts;
Though some are very „sticky‟
They happen within a larger context: The Space of the
Mind
The unavoidable nature of pain
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12. The „Not-So‟ Magical Formula
PAIN + NON ACCEPTANCE = SUFFERING
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13. Quick Tips to Enhance Your
Suffering
When we fixate on the 3U events – We suffer
When we personalise our struggles – We suffer
When we catastrophise our present circumstance – We
suffer
When we presume when the 3U events are „unfair‟ – we
suffer
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14. We must learn to let it flow…
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15. Is this true…?
“The mind if not stirred, will become clear”
-Sogyal Rinpoche
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16. 2-Step process
Before „Letting-flow‟, we must chart the course of this
stream. We must know its texture…. The feelings, the
pain of it, the impact. We must learn how to make a
space for it as it is.
= Acceptance
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17. Acceptance
It‟s an intentional activity…
Saying “Yes” to experience
- Tara Brach
“It‟s already here…. Let me feel it”
-John Kabat-Zinn
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18. Putting it into words…
Holding our own experience in Mind
Compassion and non-judgment as the anesthetic
Reporting on the facts
SIFT
3-Minute Breathing Space
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19. Mindfulness and Attachment
Developing a secure relationship with ourselves
Passing on secure states on to children
Foster children don‟t neccisarily see you as an
attachment figure
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20. Attachment Behaviour
“Attachment behaviour is any form of behaviour
that results in a person attaining or maintaining
proximity to some other clearly defined
individual who is conceived as better able to
cope with the world. It is most obvious
whenever the person is frightened, fatigued, or
sick, and is assuaged by comforting and
caregiving.”
- Bowlby, 1988
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21. Biological Imperative
Proximity Maintenance: The child strives to stay near
the caregiver, thus keeping the child safe.
Secure Base: The caregiver provides a secure and
dependable base for the child to explore the world.
Safe Haven: When the child feels threatened or afraid,
he or she can return to the caregiver for comfort and
soothing.
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22. Carer responsiveness
Children learn to behave in ways to elicit a carer
response
The level and quality of this response is a major factor
in a child‟s attachment to a carer
Different levels of responsiveness result in different
styles of attachment - categorised as secure, anxious
resistant, avoidant or disorganised-disorientated
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23. Impact of Empathic Failure
“Whatever she fails to recognize in him he is
likely to fail to recognize in himself. In this way, it
is thought that major parts of a child‟s developing
personality can become split off from those parts
of his personality that his mother recognizes and
responds to, which in some cases include
features of personality that she is attributing to
him wrongly.”
- Bowlby (1988) p.132
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24. Tracking the Child
Magic Question: What does my child need from me
now?
Support My Exploration (top half)
Support My Refueling (bottom hlaf
Reflective Functioning: What are you most comfortable
with?
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26. Rupture and Repair
Time-In / Time Apart
The importance of space… Cool processing
The ability to acknowledge and contain our own hurt
feelings
The ability to help the child think through (reflect) and
make sense of their experience
When I said Z… did you think X and so you did Y?
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28. Marked and Contingent
Communication
Transmission of secure states of mind
Communicates both „coping‟ and „understanding‟
When it comes to emotions: A child gets to know their
own mind through having their experience „digested‟ or
„processed‟ in our mind first…
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29. Mindfulness and Attachment
Revisited
Attachment = What Skill
Mindfulness = How Skill
Attachment = Tracking Child
Mindfulness = Tracking Self
Attachment = Importance of reading cues
Mindfulness = Importance of staying „relaxed and
present
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30. The Three Rs of Mindfulness
Release the mind from „too much thinking‟
and/or the struggle against „what is‟.
Relax the body, notice your breathing.
Return to this moment; where you have all
the resources you need…
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31. Accessing Resources
Password Resources: See feedback form
3R‟s Meditation:
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Youtube: „Hidden Holding / Always Held‟
Youtube: 3 Minute Breathing Space
Youtube: Rest In Natural Great Peace
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32. Thank You!
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Email me: cam@bemindful.com.au
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