This document provides guidelines for effective communication in a Christian family. It emphasizes communicating clearly, pleasantly, positively, honestly, and biblically. Specific bible verses are referenced that teach about controlling one's tongue, speaking the truth in love, avoiding lies, and using God's words. The document also recommends establishing regular "Communication Time" in the family to discuss important issues, goals, schedules, ministry, studies, budgets, decisions, and God's word. Regular communication time is presented as a way to improve relationships and build up the family through focused discussion of key concerns.

1. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
IN A GREAT CHRISTIAN FAMILY

2. Proverbs 18:21
The tongue has the power of life and
death, and those who love it will eat
its fruit.
Proverbs 10:20
The tongue of the righteous is choice
silver, but the heart of the wicked is
of little value.
Proverbs 11:12
A man who lacks judgment derides
his neighbor, but a man of
understanding holds his tongue.

3. Proverbs 31:26
She speaks with wisdom, and
faithful instruction is on her
tongue.
James 1:26
If anyone considers himself
religious and yet does not
keep a tight rein on his
tongue, he deceives himself
and his religion is worthless.

4. 1. COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
- What do you want to say?
Proverbs 10:19
When words are many, sin is not
absent, but he who holds his
tongue is wise.

5. 2. COMMUNICATE PLEASANTLY
- happily avoiding ill-temper manner
Proverbs 15:30
A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and
good news gives health to the bones.
Proverbs 21:23
He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps
himself from calamity.

6. 2. COMMUNICATE PLEASANTLY
- gently avoiding harsh, provocative,sarcastic
and offensive words
Ephesians 6:4
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to
wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and
admonition of the Lord.
Proverbs 25:15
Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and
a gentle tongue can break a bone.

7. 3. COMMUNICATE POSITIVELY
- avoid negative words
- filled with affirmations and
appreciations
Proverbs 12:18
Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings
healing.

8. 4. COMMUNICATE HONESTLY
- speak truthfully avoiding lying
Ephesians 4:15
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we
will in all things grow up into him who
is the Head, that is, Christ.
Colossians 3:9
Do not lie to each other, since you have
taken off your old self with its practices

9. 5. COMMUNICATE BIBLICALLY
- speak with God's words
- Your human words are not
powerful. God's words are powerful
- Your human words are not always
right . God's Words are always right
Proverbs 31:26
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful
instruction is on her tongue.

10. Deu 6:5 Love the LORD your God with
all your heart and with all your soul and
with all your strength.
Deu 6:6 These commandments that I
give you today are to be upon your
hearts.
Deu 6:7 Impress them on your children.
Talk about them when you sit at home
and when you walk along the road,
when you lie down and when you get
up.
Pro 22:6 Train a child in the way he
should go, and when he is old he will
not turn from it.

11. 6. COMMUNICATE HUMOROUSLY
- inject humor and funny stories
• Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is good
medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the
bones.
• Proverbs 15:13 A happy heart makes the face
cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.
• Proverbs 15:15 All the days of the oppressed
are wretched, but the cheerful heart has a
continual feast.

12. B. ESTABLISH A REGULAR
GOOD " COMMUNICATION
TIME " IN YOUR FAMILY
1Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and
build each other up, just as in fact
you are doing.

13. Communication Time is a Quality
Time of Communication and
Affirmations
Communication Time is a fixed time
for a discussion of important
concerns in the marriage or family
Communication Time will radically
improve your relationships

14. 9 Important Concerns in Communication Time
1. Issues, Struggles and Challenges to Solve and Pray for
note: Use a notebook for resolutions.. It is called "
RESOLUTION NOTEBOOK "
2. Goals and Plans to Achieve and Pray for
3. Schedules
a. Events
b. Activities
4. Ministry and Discipleship
5. Studies updates
6. Friendships and love life of children
7. Budget
8. Decisions
9. Words of God and God's Revelations
( Devotion and Bible Reading )

15. Important Concerns include
1. Issues, Struggles and Challenges to Solve and Pray
for
2. Goals and Plans to Achieve and Pray for
3. Events
4. Activities
5. Budget
6. Ministry and Discipleship
7. Words of God and God's Revelations
8. Studies updates
9. Friendships and love life of children
10. Decisions

16. Conclusion:
1. Dedicate your tongue to communicate
wisely and effectively
2. Commit to establish regular good "
Communication Time " weekly for the couple
and monthly for the whole family ( 2 hrs for
each )
3. Commit to build up and make your family
happy by your communication