This document discusses the differences between using a matchmaking service to "date" versus to find a "mate". It notes that if the goal is immediate gratification, a real matchmaker may not be the best option. However, if previous dating experiences have not led to success, an old-school matchmaker who personally knows their clients and has an open-ended contract may be a better choice. This type of matchmaking provides substantial client information and vetted matches based on preferences to help those seriously looking to find "the one".

1. DO YOU WANT TO DATE OR A MATE?
It’s Your Choice…
When deciding to use a matchmaking service one of the most important considerations is are you looking to
“date” or to “mate”. You should feel that your investment is in your future, starting a brand new life with
someone who you have chosen who has chosen you. If you are truly serious about finding love then it may be
time to get serious about how to achieve that goal.
If you are interested in immediate gratification than a REAL matchmaker is not what you are looking for. I am
from the old school of matchmaking combined with the realities of 2013. If you are looking for “dates” i.e.,
buying a specific number of dates for a specific period of time, then Bon Jour is not for you. If, however, you
have played the numbers game with the Internet dating services to no avail and/or other services who sell
“dates” with no success perhaps it is time to go old school.
Old school meaning one matchmaker who knows all of her clients, who gets to know you personally, who has
an open-ended contract so that whenever the right person comes in you will be here. Collaborative
matchmaking not a dictatorship. Matchmaking that gives you substantial information on each client including
current photos, a 6 page questionnaire and my input from my knowledge and experience of 24 years in the
matchmaking business.
If you are serious about finding “the one” perhaps it’s now time to get serious about how you do that.
Matchmaking is an art. It is not always immediate gratification…”well what do I get for the filing fee”?
Hopefully you get married when the right person presents themselves, you get to be a client until and when that
person presents themselves, you invest a fraction of the expense you would pay in services who just throw you
together with the number of dates you purchased. You get a REAL matchmaker who has had 312 successful
marriages and knows what works and what doesn’t. You meet ONLY the appropriate matches based on your
preferences and criteria who have been vetted by me. You also receive access to the single professionals who
are prevalent in Denver and who are genuinely serious about their future and finding a mate!