The document summarizes two stories about difficult father-son relationships where chess games and arm wrestling matches were how the fathers bonded with their sons. In the first story, a son named Miles could only get his father's attention by winning at chess every time they played. In the second story, the author Brad Manning would always lose to his father in arm wrestling as a kid but later decided not to beat his father as an adult to avoid hurting him. Both stories convey the lesson that winning isn't necessary to prove yourself to someone and making the right decision is most important.