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This document summarizes the artist's calculated search for love through sharing intimate details of herself online in order to feel less alone and make up for emotional neglect from her childhood. She realizes her motivation stems from a desire to feel loved and connected after feeling isolated as a child. The artist dedicates her work to her father and brother as people who have loved her all along in the way they knew how.
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LOE Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D. .docx
LO\/E
Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D.
G.K. HALL & CO.
Boston, Massachusetts
1989
Copyright © l972 by Leo F.Buscalia.
All rights reserved.
See.p. 169, which is an extension of this page.
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data
Buscaglia, Leo F.
Love / Leo Buscaglia. _
p. cm.—(G.K. Hall large print book series)
Reprint. Originally published: Thorofare, N.J. : Slack, c1972.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-8161-4511-3 (lg. print)
1. Love. 2. Large type books. I. Title.
[BF575.L8B842 1989]
l58’.2—dc19 88-25170
This book is dedicated to Tulio and Rosa
Buscaglia, my father and mother who were
my best teachers of love, because they never
taught me, they showed me.
This book is also dedicated to all those
who have helped me to continue to grow in
love, and those who will help me tomorrow.
Leo Buscaglia
“To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible
deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is
no reparation, either in time or in eternity.”
—Kierkegaard
Contents
Introduction
Forward to Love
Love As A Learned Phenomenon
Man Needs To Love And Be Loved
A Question of Definition
Love Knows No Age
Love Has Many Deterrents
To Love Others You Must First Love Yourself
To Love You Must Free Yourself Of Labels
Love Involves Responsibility
Love Recognizes Needs
Love Requires One To Be Strong
Love Offers No Apology
Introduction
In the winter of 1969, an intelligent, sensitive female student of mine committed suicide. She was
from a seemingly fine upper middle class family. Her grades were excellent. She was popular and
sought after. On the particular day in January she drove her car along the cliffs of Pacific Palisades in
Los Angeles, left the motor running, walked to the edge of a deep cliff overlooking the sea and leaped
to her death on the rocks below. She left no note, not a word of explanation. She was only twenty.
I have never been able to forget her eyes; alert, alive, responsive, full of promise. I can even recall
her papers and examinations which I always read with interest. I wrote on one of her papers which
she never received, “A very fine paper. Perceptive, intelligent and sensitive. It indicates your ability
to apply what you have learned to your ‘real’ life. Nice work!” What did I know about her “real”
life?
I often wonder what I would read in her eyes or her papers if I could see them now. But, as with so
many people and situations in our life, we superficially experience them, they pass and can never
again be experienced in the same manner.
I was not blaming myself for her death. I simply wondered what I might have done; if I could have,
even momentarily, helped.
It was this question, more than anything else, that led me, in that year, to start an experimental class. It
was to be an informal group with voluntary attendance, where any student could be present or drop
out at any time, if he so des ...
LOE Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D. .docx
LO\/E
Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D.
G.K. HALL & CO.
Boston, Massachusetts
1989
Copyright © l972 by Leo F.Buscalia.
All rights reserved.
See.p. 169, which is an extension of this page.
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data
Buscaglia, Leo F.
Love / Leo Buscaglia. _
p. cm.—(G.K. Hall large print book series)
Reprint. Originally published: Thorofare, N.J. : Slack, c1972.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-8161-4511-3 (lg. print)
1. Love. 2. Large type books. I. Title.
[BF575.L8B842 1989]
l58’.2—dc19 88-25170
This book is dedicated to Tulio and Rosa
Buscaglia, my father and mother who were
my best teachers of love, because they never
taught me, they showed me.
This book is also dedicated to all those
who have helped me to continue to grow in
love, and those who will help me tomorrow.
Leo Buscaglia
“To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible
deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is
no reparation, either in time or in eternity.”
—Kierkegaard
Contents
Introduction
Forward to Love
Love As A Learned Phenomenon
Man Needs To Love And Be Loved
A Question of Definition
Love Knows No Age
Love Has Many Deterrents
To Love Others You Must First Love Yourself
To Love You Must Free Yourself Of Labels
Love Involves Responsibility
Love Recognizes Needs
Love Requires One To Be Strong
Love Offers No Apology
Introduction
In the winter of 1969, an intelligent, sensitive female student of mine committed suicide. She was
from a seemingly fine upper middle class family. Her grades were excellent. She was popular and
sought after. On the particular day in January she drove her car along the cliffs of Pacific Palisades in
Los Angeles, left the motor running, walked to the edge of a deep cliff overlooking the sea and leaped
to her death on the rocks below. She left no note, not a word of explanation. She was only twenty.
I have never been able to forget her eyes; alert, alive, responsive, full of promise. I can even recall
her papers and examinations which I always read with interest. I wrote on one of her papers which
she never received, “A very fine paper. Perceptive, intelligent and sensitive. It indicates your ability
to apply what you have learned to your ‘real’ life. Nice work!” What did I know about her “real”
life?
I often wonder what I would read in her eyes or her papers if I could see them now. But, as with so
many people and situations in our life, we superficially experience them, they pass and can never
again be experienced in the same manner.
I was not blaming myself for her death. I simply wondered what I might have done; if I could have,
even momentarily, helped.
It was this question, more than anything else, that led me, in that year, to start an experimental class. It
was to be an informal group with voluntary attendance, where any student could be present or drop
out at any time, if he so des.
Mindful monday: living your truth!
Discovery takes letting go of the “shoulds,” which I find highly detrimental. After years of being who we think we should be, we can bury who we really are so deep that we don’t even know anymore. We do it for other people: parents, friends, teachers, bosses, etc...
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LOE Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D. .docx
LO\/E
Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D.
G.K. HALL & CO.
Boston, Massachusetts
1989
Copyright © l972 by Leo F.Buscalia.
All rights reserved.
See.p. 169, which is an extension of this page.
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data
Buscaglia, Leo F.
Love / Leo Buscaglia. _
p. cm.—(G.K. Hall large print book series)
Reprint. Originally published: Thorofare, N.J. : Slack, c1972.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-8161-4511-3 (lg. print)
1. Love. 2. Large type books. I. Title.
[BF575.L8B842 1989]
l58’.2—dc19 88-25170
This book is dedicated to Tulio and Rosa
Buscaglia, my father and mother who were
my best teachers of love, because they never
taught me, they showed me.
This book is also dedicated to all those
who have helped me to continue to grow in
love, and those who will help me tomorrow.
Leo Buscaglia
“To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible
deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is
no reparation, either in time or in eternity.”
—Kierkegaard
Contents
Introduction
Forward to Love
Love As A Learned Phenomenon
Man Needs To Love And Be Loved
A Question of Definition
Love Knows No Age
Love Has Many Deterrents
To Love Others You Must First Love Yourself
To Love You Must Free Yourself Of Labels
Love Involves Responsibility
Love Recognizes Needs
Love Requires One To Be Strong
Love Offers No Apology
Introduction
In the winter of 1969, an intelligent, sensitive female student of mine committed suicide. She was
from a seemingly fine upper middle class family. Her grades were excellent. She was popular and
sought after. On the particular day in January she drove her car along the cliffs of Pacific Palisades in
Los Angeles, left the motor running, walked to the edge of a deep cliff overlooking the sea and leaped
to her death on the rocks below. She left no note, not a word of explanation. She was only twenty.
I have never been able to forget her eyes; alert, alive, responsive, full of promise. I can even recall
her papers and examinations which I always read with interest. I wrote on one of her papers which
she never received, “A very fine paper. Perceptive, intelligent and sensitive. It indicates your ability
to apply what you have learned to your ‘real’ life. Nice work!” What did I know about her “real”
life?
I often wonder what I would read in her eyes or her papers if I could see them now. But, as with so
many people and situations in our life, we superficially experience them, they pass and can never
again be experienced in the same manner.
I was not blaming myself for her death. I simply wondered what I might have done; if I could have,
even momentarily, helped.
It was this question, more than anything else, that led me, in that year, to start an experimental class. It
was to be an informal group with voluntary attendance, where any student could be present or drop
out at any time, if he so des ...
LOE Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D. .docx
LO\/E
Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D.
G.K. HALL & CO.
Boston, Massachusetts
1989
Copyright © l972 by Leo F.Buscalia.
All rights reserved.
See.p. 169, which is an extension of this page.
Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data
Buscaglia, Leo F.
Love / Leo Buscaglia. _
p. cm.—(G.K. Hall large print book series)
Reprint. Originally published: Thorofare, N.J. : Slack, c1972.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-8161-4511-3 (lg. print)
1. Love. 2. Large type books. I. Title.
[BF575.L8B842 1989]
l58’.2—dc19 88-25170
This book is dedicated to Tulio and Rosa
Buscaglia, my father and mother who were
my best teachers of love, because they never
taught me, they showed me.
This book is also dedicated to all those
who have helped me to continue to grow in
love, and those who will help me tomorrow.
Leo Buscaglia
“To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible
deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is
no reparation, either in time or in eternity.”
—Kierkegaard
Contents
Introduction
Forward to Love
Love As A Learned Phenomenon
Man Needs To Love And Be Loved
A Question of Definition
Love Knows No Age
Love Has Many Deterrents
To Love Others You Must First Love Yourself
To Love You Must Free Yourself Of Labels
Love Involves Responsibility
Love Recognizes Needs
Love Requires One To Be Strong
Love Offers No Apology
Introduction
In the winter of 1969, an intelligent, sensitive female student of mine committed suicide. She was
from a seemingly fine upper middle class family. Her grades were excellent. She was popular and
sought after. On the particular day in January she drove her car along the cliffs of Pacific Palisades in
Los Angeles, left the motor running, walked to the edge of a deep cliff overlooking the sea and leaped
to her death on the rocks below. She left no note, not a word of explanation. She was only twenty.
I have never been able to forget her eyes; alert, alive, responsive, full of promise. I can even recall
her papers and examinations which I always read with interest. I wrote on one of her papers which
she never received, “A very fine paper. Perceptive, intelligent and sensitive. It indicates your ability
to apply what you have learned to your ‘real’ life. Nice work!” What did I know about her “real”
life?
I often wonder what I would read in her eyes or her papers if I could see them now. But, as with so
many people and situations in our life, we superficially experience them, they pass and can never
again be experienced in the same manner.
I was not blaming myself for her death. I simply wondered what I might have done; if I could have,
even momentarily, helped.
It was this question, more than anything else, that led me, in that year, to start an experimental class. It
was to be an informal group with voluntary attendance, where any student could be present or drop
out at any time, if he so des.
Mindful monday: living your truth!
Discovery takes letting go of the “shoulds,” which I find highly detrimental. After years of being who we think we should be, we can bury who we really are so deep that we don’t even know anymore. We do it for other people: parents, friends, teachers, bosses, etc...
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Boys I've Kissed
- 1. My calculated search for love Loretta Neal Grad Studio I School of Design Carnegie Mellon University Fall 2011t
- 2. Introduction
- 3. Will people think I’m a slut? Are people going to talk about me behind my back if I show this? Exploration
- 5. But what is this really about? I’m driven to share myself so completely because I don’t want to feel alone, isolated and disconnected anymore. I had enough of that growing up. This is really about my search for love to make up for a childhood characterized by subtle but profound emotional neglect.
- 6. Whoa.
- 7. This just got really deep really fast.
- 8. Visual elements and early critiques
- 10. Details
- 14. I dedicate this book to Ed and Max because they DO love me and have all along. They were loving me the only way they knew how when I was a girl. The only difference now is that I know they love me; I can feel it. Now I consider these two the very best men I know. And I love them right back.