2. You’ve been sending out resumes like crazy. Maybe you’ve even gotten a few interviews. But at some point, you realize that no news isn’t good news. You’ve been rejected. Dealing with the challenges of searching for a job is never easy, but dealing with rejection doesn’t have to tank your morale .
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4. Pinpoint what event and thoughts are creating the feeling of anger. Is it realistic? At the same time, vent and express the anger in an effective way. Exercise, cry, take a bath or shower, listen to music, write, talk with a friend or partner to express the anger and understand it. Getting over it will help you move forward more constructively.
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6. Endorphins are natural pain and stress fighters produced by your body. The activity will help you clear your head, expend some energy and recharge for the next round.
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10. It’s also helpful to reach out for emotional support. Have a couple of friends with whom you can share your frustrations. These could even be others who are looking for work and share your same struggles.
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12. Are you making it to the interview stage but no further? Practice your interviewing skills with someone who can honestly and clearly evaluate your presentation and presence, like Ron Shippers or Jacky Green. Are you applying for jobs that are not the right match for your skill level and qualifications? Re-evaluate your job search strategy and perhaps expand your options.
13. Rejection hurts, but following this advice will help you make sure it doesn’t derail your job search.
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18. Instead, job seekers should approach their search by changing the conversation from “I need a job” to “I can solve problems for your business.” Stymied job seekers would be wise to step back and take stock of their true value in the working world. This will boost your confidence and will position you to behave more professionally and appropriately. If you are unable to identify and articulate your value, a good career coach like Ron Shippers or Jacky Green can help you prepare and package yourself for a much more effective job search experience.
19. Extreme Follow Up Jeff Vaught, president of Transition Essentials, a career consulting firm in Orion Township, Michigan, remembers being hounded by a desperate job seeker a few years ago. “ Only a few hours after setting up the interview, the candidate called to confirm,” he recalls. “And then again at midnight that same day, leaving a voice mail that they were ‘too excited to sleep.’ It didn’t end there, though -- they also called again at 7:30 a.m. the next morning.”
20. Vaught canceled the interview and didn’t reschedule. “The lack of common sense of appropriate business etiquette made it difficult to imagine them working for the company,” he says. “The desperation raised a lot of red flags.” A better approach would have been to make one follow–up call to confirm the interview -- ideally, first thing the morning of the appointment. “That would have shown a better sense of etiquette as well as a concern for my schedule,” Vaught notes. “Overall this would have shown an individual who was being professional and enthusiastic about the position without crossing the line to desperation mode.”
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23. What he does take seriously, though, is straight talk. “If you know why you’re good, show me, don’t tell me,” he says. Provide quantifiable examples of how you could help the business meet goals. “Those who explain themselves in a cool and deliberate way get my attention,” he says.
24. Toeing the fine line between being proactive and seeming desperate can be tough, but staying on the proactive side is crucial to job search success. “It’s a fact that assertive rules the day, and especially in hard times,” Laermer says. “But, man, some of the things people do to get attention are shocking. And I wonder who taught them that. You can already see how much training they’re going to need to get into shape. Why would we call them in?”
