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INTRODUCTION
You know what happens when your woman feels like a queen? She starts treating
you like a king. And that’s when she starts to bring out your hidden strengths and
you, in turn, activate the sensuality that lies dormant in her.
This little book will show you the precise romantic gestures that will drive your
woman wild. See her eyes light up as she can’t help but respond with love,
laughter and outright physical affection!
Whether you’ve been married for thirty years or just fell into bed for the
first night together, these 30 Tricks will have her open to you like a
hot-house flower.
What you will find in these pages are romantic seeds—seeds of
a special kind. You might even call them “heirloom” variety
seeds, sexy love-life enhancers that are sure to please. Use
them with focus and passion
and your woman will feel like
royalty.
These are not your
everyday tabloid-variety sex
tips... Another list of Cosmo-
girl glam-bam, do me
ma’am, one-off gimmicks.
These suggestions will not
leave you wondering, “What
do I do next?”
30 Romance Tricks
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When you are finished reading you will become a gifted lover who can
engineer his woman’s passion both in and out of the bedroom. Imagine
being able to get her turned on for you when you’re not even in the room, or
house, or even in the same country.
This book will change the game and, in fact, may
stop the “game” altogether. I mean, really,
wouldn’t you rather kick-start an intimate life that
is second to none? Wouldn’t you rather have a
relationship that satisfies both of you beyond your
wildest imaginings?
Are you in?
Good, then let me drill it down for you.
In the pages that follow, you will find 30 keys to
unlock the treasures of romance. These collection
of romantic tips, tricks and techniques are my very
best material. More than just gestures or
behaviors, these are ways of being that can shift
the context of your relationship from a dry, drab,
ho-hum existence into a magical enticement that gives you both a zing
of exciting energy to take into your day. I’ve laid these out in a specific
fashion so you can personalize the suggestions to fit both your
lifestyle and your lady’s tastes.
What this book is not.
This is not a laundry list of cutesy ideas. These are not
“techniques” that turn you into a needy bootlicker.
These are masculine strategies. That’s right. Full of strength
and backbone, when you take this approach you will see
her melt before your eyes, feel how she softens to your
touch and watch as the tension drips out of her face. Listen
while her breath quickens and then deepens into a purr.
Hear your own heartbeat grow strong as it drums in your
veins. Take charge and be that man that knows how to take
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Why reinvent the wheel? This eBook is designed to show you, as a man,
what kinds of romantic gestures women most appreciate, so that you can
become a master of your own romantic offerings. Select from a wide range of
contemporary ideas you can personalize or follow exactly.
Discoveries in neuroscience, biology and physiology give us clues that improve our
ability to truly romance a lover. And the examples you’ll find in this book, drawn
from the “5 Pillars of Passion” are solidly rooted in love and compassion for yourself
and your lover. These examples get to the core of what we as humans find romantic.
They are affirming and delightful. They will make you smile. They will warm your
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These Ideas Are Fully-Loaded
Why not begin well-armed, with a blowtorch instead of a match?
These romantic ideas have three things going for them you won’t find in any other
book like this. First, each is designed to draw out her femininity and bolster your
masculinity, because passion ignites when
boy meets girl. When a seductive technique
incorporates the magnetism, that natural
pull that comes from polarity, it works even
faster to flame her desire for you.
Secondly, these romantic strategies leverage
her innate biology - to inflame her Cave
Woman urges. The third way these ideas
come fully loaded is how they reflect the
romanced: declarations of love, feeling
through her senses, playful
adventures, erotic communication
and paying attention to her,
which is called “mindfulness.”
If you bought this book to romance your lady, thank you. The world
needs more romantic men. If you are a woman craving more
romance, I applaud you for taking into your own hands your
desire to be romanced. Either gift this book to your man or
read it and tell him what you liked best so he can give you
exactly what you want, the way you want it. That level of
clear communication is very helpful for our guys. They like
checklists and specifics because it helps them know they
are “doing it right” for you. Don’t be afraid to ask to be
romanced. Just give your guy lots of appreciation for
everything he tries.
The next short chapters give you an easy understanding
of how to be extremely romantic and how to further
personalize each.
Salvation at last for men
who’ve been mystified by women
and relationships. Susan Bratton’s
30 Romance Tricks is a brilliant
instruction manual for men on how
to create the relationships both
men and women dream about.
Simple, clear, and straightforward
strategies for men and women to
play on the same team so that they
both win big!”
— Dr. Deborah Anapol,
out of the box relationship coach and
author of The 7 Natural Laws of Love.
“
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This Will Lead To Sex
A Word Of Caution
You know that phrase, “two steps forward, one step back?” Imagine you are running
up a flight of stairs. In your haste, you trip and fall halfway back down.
Because these romantic actions
lead to sensual and sexual
intimacy and deepen both you
and your partner’s feelings of
love, if you’re not careful how you
use these powerful techniques,
your lover may push you back
down the steps. Here’s how to
gracefully keep ascending her
love ladder.
These are not actions
that “get you sex.”
These are activities
that increase
her desire to
be physically
close to
you.
Expecting a quid pro quo, keeping score or using romantic
gestures as a way to barter for sex will backfire on you and
set you further back from your goal of physical intimacy.
Better to use romance as a stair step up to passionate
physical intimacy.
Perhaps it because I know you but I
thought your big, bright, beautiful sassy voice
came out just right. I very much appreciated
not only the very useful information but the
lightness, compassion and humor with which it
was delivered. I actually felt quite validated as
in, “Hey, I do that already… cool. Now I know
why it works!” and I am also quite excited to try
out some new “tricks” (like the Best Hug in the
World and Favorite Frames technique). And
you’ve got me thinking about we can do next for
an adventure!
There were two very simple suggestions that
really rang true for me: “There is no such thing
as failure… merely feedback,” and “Be right
here, right now with her, putting your attention
on her.” Oh yes. It works.
Terrific book for both men and women looking
to become Olympic class lovers!
— Art Rogers,
Education Specialist at Swords to Plowshares
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Lead Her Down The Slippery Slope To All The Sex
You Can Handle
You are going to get more physical intimacy, and likely more sex, depending on
the particulars of your relationship, from your romantic gestures. But you can’t
expect romance to shortcut sensuality and seduction.
Women need to trust you and your intentions. Take the time to savor romancing
her. Don’t do it just for her. Romance her for the sheer joy of creating pleasure for
her and yourself, you’ll be leading her down the slippery slope to all the sex you
can handle.
Here’s how it works:
1. Romance her first, without expectation.
2. Sensually awaken her body. The Sensate Connection romance ideas are great
for this.
3. Seduce her both with words and actions.
4. Give her immense pleasure with advanced sexual mastery techniques.
Note: 30 Romance Tricks focuses on romance. The Resource Section of
this book will lead you to more information on awakening your woman
sensually and seduction strategies for men in relationship.
Give Freely
Romance is the action of focusing on making her feel your love
— both emotional and physical —because this feeling
strengthens the bond between lovers, connecting you
together through your hearts.
Romancing your partner is a gift you give yourself too.
Keeping score is fruitless — love is immeasurable. And it
doesn’t matter if, at first, you do “all the work” of romancing
her. Keep at it and soon she will be romancing you back.
Because romance is simply irresistible.
The more you give, the more you’ll get. Start giving freely
and you’ll see that more of your day is love-filled, sweet
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Teach your partner how to love you back in ways you most enjoy.
Romantic gestures range from subtle flirting to outright seduction to
vulnerable declarations of love.
Tell her explicitly the joy you get from romancing her. That you don’t do it to get
anything, you do it for the pleasure of seeing her thrill to your advances. Because
this joy you get will naturally evolve into
more opportunities for sexual intimacy.
Get into the present time when you are
being romantic. Move toward being right
in the moment with her, fully present. Try
to let go of your absolute plan for a
romantic encounter and just go with the
flow of her reactions. That way what ever
you do will feel natural instead of forced
or pre-planned. Leave some space for
spontaneity in the creation of your
romantic plans.
Now it’s time to understand and
appreciate how powerfully our
physiology, especially hormones, impact her feelings for you. The more
you understand the root behavior of women’s emotional and physical
reactions to sex and love, the better you can leverage the little time
you have in your busy schedule and make the right moves that
work like magic to thrill her to you.
Rejection-Proof Your Advances
Rejection is the most damning of experiences. It contracts
you and makes you feel badly about yourself. It’s hard NOT
to take rejection personally.
If one of your romantic advances gets rejected, understand
that it may have nothing to do with you. There is no such
thing as failure, if you look at it merely as feedback.
Bring a compassionate heart to your interrelations with your
woman. She doesn’t mean to make you feel badly, so don’t!
Just live and learn, move on and try another romance Trick.
Every one of the “Tricks” in this
book softened my heart, lit my fire,
or got me wet. I’m sending a copy to
every man I know! I enthusiastically
endorse 30 Romance Tricks. Without
a doubt, Susan’s savvy men will give
more ongoing pleasure than ever to
their lucky women!”
— Dr. Patricia Taylor,
Creator of Expand Her Orgasm Tonight,
Seduce Her Tonight, Seduction Accelerator
and Her Sexual Trainer.
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You’ll find what works.
We are wired do anything we can do to AVOID rejection including not
bothering to romance her because we’re afraid she’ll reject our advances or
shame us.
That means we’re not being romantic because we’re afraid of rejection.
And here’s the solution
Rejection-free romance.
How?
Small Offers.
Start making her multiple choice options instead of one option.
You’ll see Small Offers built into many of the 30 Romance Tricks.
You are leading her with your suggestions, but she’s getting to choose from your
options. You’ll see what I mean as you get into the 30 Tricks.
You’re Always Training Her
According to Dr. Patti Taylor in her book, “Her Sexual Trainer:
Unlock Her Most Intense Sensual Responses,” you are
always training her with every action you take.
The good news?
These 30 Romance Tricks will train her to be excited by
you and in love with you.
Female Viagra.
— Sloane Fox,
Sensual Ambassador, Personal Life Media, Inc.,
“
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Foundation
Create Your Own Unique
Romantic Ideas Once You
Know How To Romance
Any Woman
Leveraging the Latest in
Neuroscience, Biology and
Physiology To Generate
Massive Pleasure
Romance Is Magical!
Cultivating Desire
As you romance her, you will
see her desire for you
increase. When you know how desire works, you can remove any stumbling
blocks that are keeping her desire tamped down.
You see, desire is a life force. Everyone has desire. We are born and
die sexual creatures. If desire is missing, it’s not gone, it’s being
covered up.
What’s covering it up? Either fear or pain of some kind.
When your wife or girlfriend was a little girl, she dreamed of
her boyfriend, her husband, her white knight. Your woman
has desire for romance, love, sensuality and sex. You just
need to bring her back to those core memories.
What can you do to increase her desire?
Her desires will increase for you when two things are
present.
The first is safety.
When a woman feels safe with you, when you protect her
“Susan Bratton has a gift for taking
the complexities of scientific research
and turning them into fascinating
stories that help us understand love and
desire. In 30 Romance Tricks, any man
who’s stumped about how to woo his
woman will find approaches that
reignite her love chemistry. This is
neuroscience you can use. Tonight!”
— Susan Kuchinskas,
author of Love Chemistry: How the Oxytocin Response
Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love; and What
the Caveman Knew: Trigger Your Woman’s Primal Urges
and Reignite Your Sex Life.
“

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from anything that could happen, her desire will increase.
The other component that increases desire is risk.
Huh? How can that be? How can a woman want both safety and risk?
Risk is fun when it’s edgy and gets the blood pumping, but is rooted in a foundation
of safety.
Risk doesn’t mean danger. Think about it more like novelty or variety.
When a woman gets to try something new with you, but you make it safe to try, you
are leading her and providing safety and variety, which is an intoxicating elixir for her.
You will notice that a number of the 30 Romance Tricks are both safe and novel.
Susan Bratton has written a fun-filled,
information-packed resource that will be useful
to any man who wants to be a better lover — in
the fullest sense of that word.
With Susan’s book
as your guide, you can create more love,
romance, and healthy aliveness for both yourself
and your partner. I think even the most sexually
and emotionally literate men will find value in
these pages.
— Susan Cambell, Ph.D,
author of Getting Real, Truth in Dating, The Couples Journey,
and other titles
“
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What The
Caveman Knew
Another way to increase her desire is to
understand how she works hormonally.
The world’s leading expert on sexual
chemistry is Susan Kuchinskas, author of
“The Chemistry of Connection. “Here is
a short excerpt from her eBook, “What
The Caveman Knew.”
To become a master at romancing your
woman, you must understand what’s
going on with your partner hormonally.
Her hormones override her rational logic
and control how much of you she feels
at any moment.
Let’s go back in time to the life of the
Cave Man and Cave Woman.
FOUR brain chemicals ruled her mating
instincts then, and still do today:
Testosterone: The chemical of lust
drives US to have sex and propagate the species.
Dopamine: The chemical of reward actually peaks before we
get the reward. It’s triggered by novelty.
Oxytocin: The chemical of trust and bonding makes us love
our mate.
Prolactin: The chemical of satiety. This hormone helps US
feel fulfilled and satisfied by our sexual experiences.
To trigger these chemicals to turn on the romance takes a
combination of Novelty, Danger and Polarity.
I’ll get into Polarity next, but you can see that desire is ruled
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The Power of Polarity
Polarity occurs when both masculine and feminine behaviors are present. The
tension between the masculine and feminine create the energy of desire.
As you start being more masculine in her eyes, she’ll naturally become more
feminine. To enhance romance, you will want to increase your masculinity and evoke
her femininity. This creates romantic heat, without becoming overtly sexual, which
can turn her off.
The pull of desire comes from the tension between your masculine and her
feminine sides.
Add a little safe but new variety into your romance activities and you create an
intoxicating romantic brew.
The way to think about being masculine to increase romance is to think of yourself
as her “protector.” Being her protector creates safety for her. Are you noticing how
these three activities are inextricably entwined?
All of the romance ideas in this eBook combine the masculine/feminine and
the danger and safety so that her hormones love you, her body loves you,
hear heart loves you and her mind loves you.
Be A Ninja
Don’t tell her you bought this book.
Here’s why.
It will be more fun for both of you if you just starting doing
them. She’ll get more joy out of the experience if you
surprise her.
Surprise is one of the “5 Pillars of Passion.” Surprise and
adventure are woven into a number of the 30 Romance
Tricks in this eBook.
Don’t ruin it for her, or put more pressure on yourself, by
setting expectations. Just act, “as if” you are confident. This
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benefit of the doubt even if you have some tiny imperfections (that only
you can see) but you will score bonus points just for trying.
Next, put your full intention into making them really lovely for both of you. You
will be more masculine just by leading her and showing her how fun it is to be
romantic together. As you show your joy, you invite in her joy.
The rest is history.
Recapping The Fundamentals Of Romance
To recap, romancing her releases “Love Chemicals” that fuel her desire. But for her to
truly enjoy any romantic experience you create, it needs to have both a safe foundation
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If you want to turbo-charge her feelings for you, then tease out her
feminine side, by being more masculine. These Tricks work like magic
because of biology! Man and woman meet danger in safety. Just like the good
old Cave Man days.
Being free of a sex goal, starting with small offers to ramp her libido up, wanting
her honest feedback so she can “train you” about her preferences and giving her
your presence, by being in the moment during your romantic times together will
heighten your mutual pleasure immeasurably.
She Wants Your Presence
Have you heard the term, “being in the moment?” You are aware of your body, your
surroundings and what’s happening with your partner. You are not thinking about the
past or future. You are right here, right now with her, putting your attention on her.
Another way of thinking about giving her your presence is described as being
mindful. And mindfulness is one of the 5 Pillars of Passion. This is what she wants:
“Your attention.” You must be present and stay involved in the moment to make
these romantic Tricks truly effective. Start by redirecting energy and awareness
from your head down into your body. Lead the way and show her that you
are doing this and she will want to join you.
Stop worrying, planning and thinking ahead — just relax and BE — and
ask her to join you in a relaxing moment.
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The “5 Pillars of Passion”
These Five Things Are Most Romantic To Her
Now You’re Getting Into The Details Of What Makes Any Action Romantic
Women Value 5 Kinds Of Romance Most
There are five types of romantic actions that are universally loved by women.
Mindfulness, Sensate Connection, Playful Adventure, Erotic Communication
and Declarations.
Mindfulness
Romance requires attention and intention. Remember earlier in this eBook when
you read about how she wants your “presence?” That’s part of mindfulness. When
you are with her, be present and in the moment.
Mindfulness also means taking into account her preferences — seeing life
through her eyes.
Another important facet of mindfulness to your woman is showing
your sensitive side to her. This creates intimacy and lets her know
that you trust her to see your vulnerabilities. And vulnerabilities
don’t mean weaknesses. When you show your emotions, your
sentimentality, it creates an opportunity for mutual self-
disclosure. When you share your feelings, especially how
they make you feel in your body, you are engaging with her
mindfully. Women treasure this level of intimacy.
1 — Mindfulness
• Show her plenty of attention and positive intention
• See life through your partners eyes
• Show your sentimentally sensitive side
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Sensate Connections
Sensate connection simply means connecting with her senses. It goes
beyond touch to include all the senses - touch, taste, smell, vision, hearing
and intuition. Anytime you can create romance that is corporeal, or “of the
body,” she will find it romantic.
The most common kinds of sensate connection
occur when you hold her, look into her eyes and
touch her affectionately. This is why flowers,
candy and perfume are classic romantic gifts.
They touch the senses, which touch her heart.
Playful Adventure
Three easy words of advice: Be more fun.
You are 80% of the way to being Mr. Romantic just by being FUN. Be more fun.
You are moving her toward pleasure with your romantic actions. Whether it’s
the spirit of adventure or adding the element of surprise — these include
some kind of small risky action, coupled with some kind of variety, which
fuels desire. Spontaneity and playfulness add excitement and bring
her back to her good feelings she had as a child. This adolescent
memory evokes a powerful time when she had many of her
“romantic firsts.” When you surprise and delight her; when
you make her feel like a kid again, you create romantic
moments that deepen your love for each other.
2 — Sensate Connection
• Mutual holding
• Eye-gazing
• Affection, touch, warmth
3—Playful Adventure
• A spirit of adventure
• Spontaneity and playfulness
• An element of surprise
• Excitement

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Erotic Communication
The reason she likes sweet talk and you want to see her wearing lingerie is
because men are generally more visual and women often prefer to hear and
listen. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the way to a woman’s
heart is through her brain. She needs to hear your deep voice declaring your
appreciation for her.
The modes of erotic communication are vast: talk, text, email, phone, online posting,
mailing her a card, notes in her purse...
Erotic communication ranges from handwritten
poetry to songs written and sung for her to
dirty talk in the bedroom. Done with grace,
each of these is a path to her heart.
Declarations
The most meaningful romantic gestures are those that honor the time you’ve spent
together “making history.” Only with time can you develop special rituals and
traditions. Homages to your past will ground her in your love in a way that none
of the previous four pillars can do. Think about family traditions. Don’t they
ground you in a way little else does? Romantic gestures can be simple tokens
of your love for her. That pebble you picked up on the beach on the day
you proposed; the flowers you gave her on your first date that she
pressed in a book, her wedding dress that still fits after all these
years... These are the symbols of your love and what women find
to be the utmost romantic. These are the most precious of all
romantic gestures
because they are
rare and take
time to evolve.
Now we get to the fun part - The TricksEach activity
or gesture is organized by the 5 Pillars of Passion. First you’ll
get six Mindfulness techniques, then six ways to stimulate
her physical body romantically, and so on, ensuring you have
a wide variety of options in each category.
4 — Erotic Communication
• Text, email, call, poetry, songs,
• dirty/sexy talk
5 — Declarations
• Rituals and traditions of your love
• Symbols and tokens of your love
• Homages to your past

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30 Romance Tricks Overview
MINDFULNESS
1. Notincing Her
2. Relationship Values
3. Love Slave: Two Hours To Fix Anything
4. Three Things I Love About You
5. Small Offers
6. Texting Check-ins
SENSATE CONNECTION
1. Get Her Moving
2. The Classic: Flowers, Candy, Perfume, Lingerie
3. Sing
4. Daddy Energy
5. Get Wet
6. Setting-Up Your Loverspace
PLAYFUL ADVENTURE
1. A Hot Make-Out In The Back Seat of the Mini-Van
2. A Stroll In The Garden Holding Hands
3. Spoil Her In Bed
4. Satisfy Her With New Food
5. Take Her To Look At Something Interesting
6. Have Her Model Sexy Lingerie For You
EROTIC COMMUNICATION
1. Connect Her To Her Beauty
2. Sharing Frames
3. Romance Texting
4. Mirror and Match
5. Lead Her With Future Pacing
6. Aural Appreciation
DECLARATIONS
1. Mementos
2. Frame your Marriage Certificate
3. Start An Expanded Orgasm Practice Together
4. Declaring Your Undying Love
5. Bragging Rights To Sparkle Abundance
6. Photographic Memory
Print this page and keep it handy to remind you of your favorite Tricks. You
can also sign up at and receive one email a week for thirty weeks reminding
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30 Romance Tricks
The actual Tricks you’ll personalize start here.
These ideas incorporate polarity, balance risk and safety and are based on the
“5 Pillars of Passion” for maximum effectiveness.
Mindfulness
#1 Noticing Her
There is nothing more romantic to a woman than when you notice something special
about her. We call this, “Erotic Vigilance” - one of the Four Keys to Seduction.
It’s THIS simple to do:
If you forget all 29 other Romance Tricks, but you remember to notice
one special thing about her every day, she’ll light up like the NY
skyline.
Unlike men, who don’t need constant reassurance, women thrive
on a steady stream of approval and appreciation. We like to
HEAR you compliment us. This is also a form of Erotic
Communication.
Moreover, by being the man that compliments her, you are
leading her with your masculinity. By complimenting her on
her feminine activities and womanly looks, you’ll
automatically increase your polarity and you encourage her
feelings of trust and safety in your presence. This is
essential to encouraging the safety/risk duality of romantic
eroticism.
Start noticing something special about her each day and
reflecting what you notice back to her.
“Is that a new top? It really compliments your shape, baby.”
“I love when you cook this meal. It always tastes so good to me.”
“You remembered to pick up milk. Thank you! You are so good
at staying on top of a million details.”
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#2 Relationship Values
There are some very specific reasons you are in a relationship instead of
being a bachelor. What are they? Sex, home cooked meals, companionship?
There are very specific things that — if you didn’t get them — it wouldn’t be
worth being in a relationship — you would choose to go it alone.
It’s the same for your partner. There are very specific reasons for her being in a
relationship instead of being single.
There are specific things she values that are the reasons why she’s with you.
And you know what? Your list is likely wildly different from her list.
Many women value security, family ritual, faith, humor, trust...
Men often regard passion, recreational companionship, a quiet, loving home and a
woman who takes care of her health and beauty important.
What are your “Relationship Values™?”
Having a conversation with her about what she MUST HAVE to be in relationship
and sharing with her what YOU VALUE is the first step.
The second step is getting up every morning and focusing on giving
her what she values, instead of giving her what YOU value. And
then when she puts her energy into giving you what you value,
instead of giving you what she’s trying to get, your romance
catches on fire.
Once you are both getting your unique needs met, you’ll see
how satisfying your life together can be.
Simply doing the exercise of getting clear on each other’s
Relationship Values may be the best conversation you two
ever have.
Here are some free additional resources about discovering
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#3 Love Slave: Two Hours To Fix Anything
To get her “love chemicals” pumping you can look for ways to be her
protector. Become her “Cave Man Love Slave” for two hours and take care of
anything she needs around the house, with her car... whatever she wants you
to do for two hours to help make her life more pleasurable. Don’t tie this effort
to getting sex. Doing “chores” to help her out so you can get sex is so transparent
it will backfire on you. As Karen Brody says in the “Seduction Integrity” module of
Revive Her Drive, “We talked about the classic nice guy. He’s in a dynamic of
bargaining for sex. He’s doing all of the things he thinks he needs to do in order to
get sex. For a lot of men it’s unconscious. They’re in relationships and they’re in such
a pattern of doing the things they think they need to do that they’re not really in
partnership and in service to their partner. Their relationship is based primarily on
“working for sex.”
Susan Bratton: Like the guy who cooked dinner and got lucky once so now he’s
hoping it will work again?
Karen Brody: Exactly. It’s such a turn-off for a woman. She can feel it. She has
an intuitive radar for noticing your ways of bargaining for sex. And what she
starts to believe inside of herself is that you’re all about the sex. Now why
does she believe this? Because if you weren’t all about the sex you
would never bargain. You wouldn’t bargain at all. You would insist on
having that deep loving sexual connection with her. You’d be direct
about it. You wouldn’t feel that you needed to take out the
garbage or take her to Hawaii to get that great sex.”
As you are being her Cave Man Love Slave, make sure you
stop and kiss and hug her as you are working. Make it a fun
time together. Have her hold the drill, tell you exactly how
she wants the work... make it a playful adventure.
You can even put a love note in her purse offering your Love
Slave Services. This creates Polarity, Erotic Communication
and Desire in one fell swoop, and your effort to take care of
her needs further establishes the net of safety in the
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#4 “Tell Me Three Things You Love About Me”
This is a game I’ve been playing for 21 years with my husband and now we
do it with our daughter and our friends and they love it too.
The rules are simple.
Whenever either of you want it, you ask your partner to tell you “3 Things They
Love About You.”
The Trick is...
You can never repeat the same things twice.
Each time you are asked, you come up with three fresh, new reasons why you love
her.
I just turned to my husband and asked him, “Honey, Can you please tell me three
things you love about me?”
Here’s what he said today:
“I love that you go in the hot tub without a bathing suit.”
“I love the clever romantic Tricks you come up with. I’m proud of how you
help guys have the passion they deserve.”
“I love how fun you always make it when we go out to dinner with
friends.”
When you are challenged to come up with new appreciations on
the spot and you just simply think about what it is that you love
about your woman, your feelings of gratitude just expand on
themselves. This is more “Erotic Vigilance,” one of the 4 Keys
to Seduction.
This sweet game works best when your lady can ask you
any time she wants a little encouragement. Sometimes
when I’m feeling a lack of confidence, I ask for “Three
Things.”
You’ll feel good about yourself that you can supply a never-
ending list of sweet appreciation to your woman. And she
will be delighted to reciprocate whenever you want to hear
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#5 Small Offers
I am going to take a side trip into seduction. Though I continue to caution
you about not using romance Tricks to get sex, here’s a technique that you
can easily scale back to romantic offers. I’m going to notch up into how to make
her an offer for sexual variety that will incorporate mindfulness, erotic
communication, polarity and a balance of risk and safety which will cultivate more
desire.
You can always fill in the blanks with smaller, less sexual offers to charm her.
Trust this: She wants to be dripping with desire for you.
To get turned on, she may require more of a medley of sexual options offered to her
than you’ve been providing… even if she resists your advances.
She’ll want more sex with you overall if you break it down into SMALL
OFFERS.
Think of yourself as a sensual waiter with a very rich menu of sexy ideas from which
your gal can select.
She might want a little snack.
Perhaps she would enjoy a breast massage with organic oil or prefer to sit
on your lap and have you kiss her and stroke her hair, her back, her
thighs.
She might want a little something more…
Maybe she can lean up against you with her back against your
belly while you run your hands all over her and stroke her
while you’re watching a movie in bed together?
How about an Expanded Orgasm date where you stroke her
genitals, belly, thighs and get her engorged with multi-
orgasmic arousal?
Maybe a “Sandbox Date” where you practice something new
you’ve wanted to try sexually and give each other feedback?
Seldom does a woman really want an offer of full out sexual
intercourse. That’s too much too soon.
We need to be warmed up before that even sounds like a
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You’ll have a LOT more sex if instead, you run her these menus of
options, likely starting even smaller than these ideas with a sensual
massage, a bath together, even a back or foot rub.
The more SMALL OFFERS you make her, ultimately the more sex you’ll have.
If she turns your offers down, scale them back, don’t take it as rejection, just try
again.
Remember: There is no failure, only feedback.
These menus really get you two
trying a lot of variety of beautiful,
sensual activities…
Which is EXACTLY what she needs to
get turned on:
VARIETY.
Variety and novelty are the spice of
your sex life and your romantic life.
#6 Texting Check Ins
When you’re off at work during the day, does she come to your mind
at times? If so, take just a second to text her and let her know.
Maybe you can take a picture of where you are at that moment
and just check in with her saying, “Gassing up the car and
thinking about getting home to you tonight.”
This doesn’t need to be directly romantic, because the
romantic part is that you are thinking about her — she’s on
your mind.
That’s “mindfulness,” which is the essence of the first six
first Romantic Tricks. Considering her, looking at life through
her eyes, having her top of mind because you love her.
Romance can be as easy as snapping a “selfie” at the gas
station.
Susan Bratton offers a compelling and
entertaining articulation of the life-
transforming value of romance for
today’s man and woman.”
— Geralyn Gendreau,
author of, The Overeating Cure
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Sensate Connection
This will likely be your favorite section because you get to touch and feel her.
Using these specific strategies that encourage Sensate Connection do more to
make her feel feminine than any of the others, because they connect her brain
and heart to her body.
#7 Get Her Moving
Take her dancing, undulating to the rhythm of music. Enroll her in a Yoga, Tai Chi or
a Qi Gong class as a surprise. It’s more fun for both of you when you join in on a
Playful Adventure with her and it enhances the polarity of male and female physicality.
#8 “The Classics: Flowers, Candy, Perfume, Lingerie”
You don’t get to say flowers are a romantic cliché unless you’ve actually given her
flowers in the last thirty days. Please, don’t overlook the classics. They are
classics for a reason.
Try this twist on the old standard, “It’s romantic to give your girl candy.”
Buy a small amount of premium chocolate candy. Four pieces of
Godiva, or six pieces of See’s, a couple of fancy candy bars at a
gourmet grocer or some Belgian chocolate from a Chocolatier if
you live in a city that has a Chocolatier. Make this an EVENT.
Tell her you have a surprise for her. If you can get her to
snuggle next to you on the sofa or sit on your lap on a
kitchen chair while you give her your surprise, you also get
to play her protector.
When she’s nestled against you, kiss her on her cheeks, her
temples, her eyelids and then put one peck on her lips.
Immediately pull a beautifully wrapped box of chocolate out
from behind you and ceremoniously present it to her. Look
her in the eyes when you tell her you love her. Let her open
the box of candy and look at them with her and notice how
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her eyes so she can’t see which piece you select and slowly feed her a
bit of chocolate. Then do it.
Ask her to describe the taste to you.
After she’s chewed and swallowed, and if she’s comfortable with it, kiss her lightly
on the lips.
WOW!
How romantic is that scene? And it’s sweet, loving and you can make that as sexy as
you want. If you two are HOT together, you can be running your hands up and down
her back, her derriere, her thighs. You can kiss her deeply and have a hot chocolaty
make out.
Now that’s romantic.
I sent this Chocolate Candy Trick to ten of my girlfriends and all ten said they
would explode in excitement at the thought of a man doing this to them.
You can make this Chocolate Candy Trick very sensual. And if you want an
even more sensual gift experience, buy her a sueded silk or satin (not
polyester, guys) nightie or gown. Do you know how good sueded silk and
real satin feel to the hand? Imagine how good it feels on her body.
Put care into the presentation. What are you going to do when you
bring home a nightgown, beautifully wrapped? How are you
going to give it to her? The giving of the gift is as important as
the gift itself. Don’t squander the romance by simply handing
her a present. Make the giving of the gift the best part of the
idea.
When you give her a silk or satin negligée, her skin will be
caressed by you with every brush of fabric. With this gift,
you will awaken both her skin and her sense of touch just
as flowers and perfume awaken her sense of sight and
smell.
A quick trip to the department tore perfume counter where
you and she can both sniff the fragrances and take home
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Sensate Connection into a bonus Playful Adventure.
You’ll get to smell her over and over when you just can’t make the decision
about your favorite scent.
Wink. Wink.
#9 Sing!
Make a playlist of her favorite songs from the months you were first falling in love
and sing along together in the car. This will flood her with Oxytocin and make her feel
almost as good as when you make love.
Sing with a deep, masculine voice. Be silly about yourself, singing down as low as you
can go. Resonate your voice in your chest like an opera singer. Goof around a bit and
be playful. Make her giggle.
Singing causes you both to breathe more deeply, oxygenating your systems, which
in turn makes you feel more alive together.
Singing also opens up your throats, loosens your mouths and tongues and
makes kissing afterward a particularly delicious feeling.
Singing your old time favorite songs creates memories and meaning,
adding to the romance.
#10 Daddy Energy
A great way to increase your masculinity and evoke her
feminine side is with “Daddy Energy.”
Women love to be kept safe and taken care of, especially
strong women. You can grab her as she walks by and sit
her on your lap. Say, “Hey, Little Girl, Whatcha doin? Give
Daddy a kiss.” “That’s my girl.”
She will love this and so will you.
Another way to give her some Daddy is this. You can “Claim
Her” by gently resting your hand on her knee in the car as
you’re driving together. That subtle but powerful gesture says
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Another way to invoke Daddy Energy that’s easy to do as you’re walking
together is this:
As you are walking together, stop, hug her and release her and keep walking.
Don’t say a word. Make the hug long enough for it to really feel good but short
enough to keep her from talking. The element
of surprise is key here in creating desire.
Because surprise is related to risk, yet as her
man, you’re a safe guy to give her that
reckless hug.
Adding a couple of sweet kisses to her eyelids
makes this even more romantic to her.
Here’s my favorite Daddy Energy strategy.
Give her “The Best Hug In The World.”
Try this with your lady when you are lying in bed or on the sofa together. Hold her
tight, with both of your arms wrapped around her, securely anchoring her. Pull her
close to you — abdomen to abdomen, heart to heart — and then hold her. Don’t
hold her too tight, but hold her tight enough that when she relaxes, she can feel
that you really have her safe.
Don’t let go.
Ask her to relax fully in your arms.
Tell her you are not going to let go until she asks you to.
Ask her to relax for you again.
Tell her you love her. Tell her she’s your precious angel. Tell her
you are so glad you are sharing your life with her. Tell her
whatever is real for you.
As she relaxes, remind her that you’ve got her, and squeeze
her just a little more tightly. Keep a medium and constant
amount pressure on her everywhere your body is touching
hers. Don’t let go. Don’t release her. Don’t open your arms.
Encourage her to feel you holding her. Whisper in her ear in
a low, soothing voice your request that she allow herself to
relax and feel held by you. As she relaxes, just keep holding
her. Ask her to relax. Ask her to just let it all go. Remind her
that you have her completely.
I never thought about how I
hugged my woman.
Thanks for these specific
instructions. I posted them on
my mirror.”
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And no matter what you do, do not ease up on the sweet embrace until
she asks you to.
This strong, solid, long hug may be the best she’s ever gotten.
Because here’s what happens in most hugs. The minute she relaxes, he thinks
it’s a signal to let go.
Don’t let go. Just let her melt in your arms.
And as you’re holding her, think about how
much you love this sassy, sweet, delicate,
kick-butt creature.
And fill her with love and affection.
Breathe with her.
Match her breath and then slowly deepen your breaths and “breathe her.” Set
the pace of the breathing so her breath slows and deepens and your hearts
beat as one.
Feel free to give her plenty of instruction before you start, so she knows
you will not let go. So she knows you are encouraging her to feel really
held by her man.
Now that is MANLY.
#11 Get Wet
Take a bubble bath together. You know what to do. Candles.
Champagne. This basic strategy is just classic delight for
women. Especially if you fill up the tub, get the room ready
and let her get undressed and in the tub when you’re not
looking.
If she’ll allow you, towel her dry at the end.
Then if she’ll allow you, rub organic coconut oil (get it from
a massage store or natural foods grocer) all over her whole
body and wipe the excess off with a towel.
She’ll feel softer than she’s ever felt.
Now I’m kicking myself for all the
missed opportunities.
I now know they were begging
me to do exactly what you
described.
— Pete I. A.
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#12 Setting Up Your Loverspace
How much time do you spend preparing the room for lovemaking? Do you
run in, bounce on the bed and holler, “Yeah, baby, let’s do it!” Well, you’re
probably doing a little better than that, but for a woman to really let go and
surrender into bliss with you, I suggest you do what Dr. Patti Taylor calls, “Setting
the Loverspace.”
I can’t wait to tell you about what this means for the future of your love life. Setting
Loverspace makes a profound impact on her ability to relax and surrender to her
body’s pleasure with you.
Setting up your Loverspace lets you enjoy delightful anticipation of time you will spend
together in physical intimacy.
When you put attention on creating a pleasant atmosphere for foreplay, the
lovemaking that follows is much sweeter and more erotic.
Every woman is unique, so you must explore with her what kind of Loverspace set
up she would find most luxurious. Find out the following things by asking her:
“When we make love, if conditions were so perfect for you that you could relax
and totally enjoy yourself, what would they be?”
1. Would it be lighter or darker?
2. What temperature would the room be to make you most
comfortable?
3. Which room would you like to be in?
4. Would you enjoy music or silence?
5. What is your favorite kind of massage oil or cream?
This is called, “Running a Menu.” Once you know what she
prefers, make them so.
Bring hand towels or washcloths folded in a neat pile. If she
likes it darker but not pitch dark, try a 30-Watt Orange CFL
Lightbulb.
See if you can make it very comfortable for her in the room
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Then start very slowly, just talking, hugging, holding, touching and
lightly stroking each other. Move into massaging and kissing and let your
romance evolve from there if you both feel inclined.
Sometimes it’s nice just to romance her and feel her body without hoping for
sex. By being less needy, it sometimes works in your favor. Other times, she’s
longing for you just to tell her exactly what to do and take her on a sensual ride so
she can enjoy your masculine leadership and surrender to her femininity.
If she has trouble doing this, or you cannot figure out whether it is time to lead or let
her initiate, then there are two questions to ask yourself:
1) Is she comfortable surrendering to you? If she’s hesitant, then you are not yet
giving her the quality of sensual pleasure she needs to feel comfortable.
2) Are you meeting her Relationship Values™? (See Trick #2)
Start by Setting up the Loverspace and then you can move her forward into deeper
intimacy from there. Make it comfortable before taking the next step with her. This
will have her trust your good intentions and open to you further.
Playful Adventure
Are you a fun guy?
f you’ve been too serious, it’s time to lighten up, take a deep breath
and learn to laugh again.
Let’s get frisky.
Now that you are noticing her and putting your attention on
her you can amp up your romancing to another level by
combining risk and safety to create desire.
Risk can come in the form of doing something new together.
Or that risky, adventurous feeling can be generated by and
outing (or “inning”) that provides variety.
As you think about which of these Playful Adventures you
can personalize for your taste, look for opportunities to add
Polarity. How can you make her feel her femininity as you
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#13 A Hot Make-Out In The Back Seat of the Mini-Van
“I got a sitter and a new romantic playlist... Meet me in the mini-van at 7pm.”
Then take her to In-And-Out Burger and go park somewhere with a view and
kiss her, feed her and love her.
#14 A Stroll In The Garden Holding Hands
“All the flowers in the park are in bloom. I have a bottle of wine, our camera and a
blanket. Be ready by 4pm for a stroll in the garden, hand-in-hand.”
#15 Spoil Her In Bed
“There are three magazines, a chocolate bar, and a cup of tea by your bedside table.”
“Go get in bed, relax and I’ll meet you there with a bottle of warm organic coconut oil
in thirty minutes.”
#16 Satisfy Her With New Food
Go out to a new restaurant together. Research online to find a new place in town
that gets great reviews. Make a reservation, specifically request a romantic table
and drive her there.
As you get in and out of the car, get out, go around and open her door for her
and offer her your hand. Ask her to wait to get out so you have time to go
around. She’ll wait.
Open the door to the restaurant for her, get her coat and get her chair
for her.
Don’t ever stop doing getting her door, her coat, her chair.
From now on, for as long as you know this woman, get her
doors, her coat and her chair.
She will love you for it.
Other women will love you for it.
Other men of quality will appreciate you as a brother who
is a man of value.
If she resists, tell her you love the little ways you get to treat
her like a lady and ask her if she’ll allow you the pleasure.
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#17 Take Her To Look At Something Interesting
What are you interested in? Real-Estate? Go look at open houses.
Wine? Go wine tasting.
Stand up paddle boards? Go take a lesson.
Dutch-Belted Lakenvelder Cattle?
Antique Hunting?
Horseback Riding?
Four-Wheel Driving?
Think about three things you might enjoy doing together and run her a menu offering
her those three fun outings and let her choose.
Then take her and romance her the whole time.
#18 Have Her Model Sexy Lingerie For You
Even in many small towns, there are lingerie stores. The best in the world I’ve
found so far — though I make it my duty to explore every new city — is
Agent Provocateur. (Pronounced, “pro-vah-cah-tour.)
The store in SOHO in New York City is lit like a pink boudoir inside.
The lingerie is gorgeous, classic, sophisticated and sexy.
The lighting is low and warm and there’s a comfy leopard print
chair in a private dressing room area in back.
You get to sit on the leopard “throne” and have bubbly
water while your gal gives you a modeling parade of
lingerie outfits.
The prices at Agent Provocateur are astronomical. If you’re
on a budget, try Wicked Temptation’s wonderfully-priced
lingerie and don’t miss their adorable costumes like,
“Pleasure Officer” or “Pirate Lass.”
If your girl is smokin’ hot, how about playing Fireman
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Erotic Communication
#19 Connect Her To Her Beauty
Cultivate your sensitivity to beauty by noticing what you feel, smell, taste and
see. As you become more aware of what you think is beautiful, you can bring her
attention to the beauty you are appreciating. This is a form of practicing gratitude.
Being grateful for the beauty you see in everyday life helps you connect her to
beauty during the day.
Make her feel like a classic goddess, a woman of the centuries. Even if she feels tired
and out of sorts, reminding her of her natural womanly femininity will open her to
more pleasure.
Try to get her out of her head, out of her “tasks to do” mindset.
Get her to remember her physical body by describing the sensations you are
experiencing. You will help her put her own attention on her sensual side.
Erotic Communication is an excellent way to instill romantic feelings into her
awareness. Especially if you are a man who is articulate. Use your talents. Call
what you’re experiencing out to her. “Look at that magnificent sunset.” “Your
skin feels like sueded silk to me.”
Surrounding her with 360 degree positive recognition for the joy she
brings you will go a long way toward getting her excited to be with you.
Do this: Write down three things you really love
about the intimate connection you feel with her.
1. Be VERY specific, with as much detail as possible, focusing
on what is real for you, what is physical, what is corporeal,
how your body and her body feel.
_______________________________________
2. What is one special moment from the last time you
were romantic that you are mentally savoring?
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3. Come up with one example of how your body felt when you two had
your last romantic interlude.
___________________________________________________________
BONUS Appreciation
4. Think of your very favorite attribute of her body – what is your favorite spot today?
___________________________________________________________
Now you have plenty of ideas to share with her about what it is that you loved best
last time you felt very close to her.
We women find this absolutely intoxicating, utterly romantic.
We are gluttons for feedback, for verbalization, for appreciation.
And once you start giving it to her, she’ll start giving it back to you.
Give It To Her.
Now you can use these observations in different ways so she
sees, hears and feels your appreciation.
She may discount or not believe what you say. Women often
find it hard to take in compliments.
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Whisper these delicious sentiments in her ear as you hold her in
full embrace.
Leave her a voice mail.
Write her a love note and tuck it in her purse or under her pillow.
Touch your favorite part of her body as you show her why you love it.
Texting, whispering, voice mail, love notes and touching are different ways of
communicating erotically with her.
Find the one that suits you two most and give it a try. This one is pretty edgy for
many men. She will reward you for even the smallest of efforts, so it pays to be bold
and tell her what you love about her.
#20 Sharing Frames
One effective technique to continually expand the passion in your relationship
is Frame Sharing. Frames allow your partner to understand what it’s like
for you when the two of you are together.
Because women enjoy hearing and talking about special moments,
this is a particularly powerful romantic experience for your lover.
Dr. Taylor explains how to Share Frames with your lady:
The Favorite Frames technique expands and deepens your
experience together, making it an even more meaningful
memory.
I like to share favorite frames after making love so my
partner can take even more pleasure in experiencing my
experience as I tell him about it.
People find they enjoy re-living specific date experiences,
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You might think this happens only when you hear your partner’s frames,
but I think you’ll find that when you share a frame, you will recall something
you missed at the time.
Talk about your experience during (if appropriate), and afterwards in a
specific way:
Each of you shares one specific frame (or snapshot in time) of the
experience that relates to something you felt in your body, that you really
enjoyed.
For example, John might say, “Sue, when I hugged you more tightly as we kissed, I
noticed you relaxing and letting go. I felt a warm rush of energy and love for you.”
And then Sue might say, “John, when you took me in your arms, I felt my whole body
sink down to a new level of letting go and opening up, and this rush of sensation
came up through my pussy, that then shot right up into my belly, like white-hot
heat.”
You can share frames about the following sorts of details:
• How the room looked or felt
• The music you liked and its effect on you
• Specifics about your partner’s appearance
that pleased you
• And your experiences during the physical
and communication components of the date
At other times, you may find it fun to share frames around
non-date moments, such as how delighted you were when
he fixed your computer or how much you enjoyed being
surprised when she cooked your favorite dinner – and even
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#21 Romantic Texting
If you are a man of few words and “Sharing Frames” sounds torturous, you
may prefer to text her your sentiments.
Texting is the “love note of the 21st century” and can create an enormous amount
of turn-on for each other.
If you don’t know what to write, get some pre-written texts and simply modify what
is already penned for you. Sloane Fox, our Sensual Ambassador, has a free eBook
called, “Sexy Texting Made Easy,” with done-for-you texts. Send an email to and she’ll
send you a free copy.
Texting stokes her fires through the day. And she is like a fire while you are a light
switch – ready on command. She needs tinder and kindling, sweet little texts that
keep her mind on romance and on you, that fan her flames and stoke her embers
and add fuel to her fire– until she’s burning hot and bright for you.
As Calle Zorro says about texting... “Don’t try to close the deal all at once.”
I got a blank text from my wife the other day.
I asked, “Why did you send me a blank text?”
She said, “Because I’m not talking to you.”
The typical guy moves in on his wife and tries to
drive his foreplay all the way home to intercourse
in one pass, and that’s not how you do it.
It will get you much better results with your woman
if you move her toward a sexual encounter, and
then suddenly drop your interest and move away
as if you’ve just lost all your desire for sex.
That gives your woman a chance to chase and
pursue you.”
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Don’t require that your lady responds to you by texting back. Don’t get
upset if your texts don’t get a response at first. Don’t text overtly sexual
content to her at first, start with romantic texts. She may be uncomfortable
with the concept at first until she sees it’s a fun, safe new way to create intimate
connection.
One guy told me, “I texted her and she didn’t respond, but when I got home I got
a very hot kiss that night!”
In order to create the energy of desire, you must enter into this strategy with a playful
loving approach and escalate from there.
Sexting Escalation goes like this:
Playful>Romantic>Sensory>Sensual>Seductive>Sexual
Don’t skip steps or she’ll get upset, feel pushed or manipulated and you’ll be
leaving a lot of pleasure on the table.
Enjoy the journey.
Start very small.
Leave sex out of it and focus on romance to unlock her heart.
#22 Mirror and Match
The way we try to please our lover is by doing to them what
we think is romantic or sensual. But your ideas about what
is exciting and desirable are likely very different than what
she finds romantic. If you do to her what you want for
yourself, you are missing the opportunity to give her exactly
what she craves.
How do you know what she wants, even if she cannot tell
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Try this one day. Mirror the kind of love, attention and affection your
woman gives you by doing the same behavior right back to her.
See how delightfully she responds.
Here is an excerpt from Sexual Sticking Points, a module in the Seduction Summit
that is part of our Revive Her Drive online home study course where David Van
Arrick of explains the power of Mirroring and Matching.
“Pay attention to her non-verbal cues – how she touches you, where she touches
you, the way she touches you – and you just mirror them back to her. Touch her the
same way, the same pressure, the same angle, the same place. This will send subtle
but powerful body messages to her that you are just like her, that you are at the same
place as she is, and when that happens, she puts a little checkmark on that little list
she’s got inside her mind and body that tell her it’s okay to go to the next level.
The key is to go at the pace she goes, match her cues and then slowly reward, follow
her and then slowly begin to lead her increment by increment where you want her
to go, but make sure that every time you do she’s rewarded with pleasure.
Remember that the behavior that gets rewarded gets repeated.
Mirroring and matching are very simple tactics. Yet you’d be amazed at
the miracles it can create in terms of deeper intimacy and more
fulfilling experiences for both of you. What happens when you do
this to a woman is you bring her to arousal faster, you increase
her desire more powerfully, and it doesn’t matter if she has
body issues, control issues, or even if she’s afraid. When you
do this you bypass all of that. It goes right to the part of her
that tells her what’s okay to go forward and what’s not.” —
David Van Arrick
#23 Lead Her With Future Pacing
One of the most reliable ways to increase your masculine
leadership is to Lead Her with Future Pacing.
Future Pacing is when you tell her what is about to
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Remember when I taught you how to give her “The Best Hug In The
World?” — the “Daddy Energy” Trick in Sensate Connection? The big
bear hug? Did you notice how you were instructed to tell her that you
were going to hold her until she relaxed, and you kept encouraging her to
relax and sink into your arms?
That was Future Pacing. You let her know what was about to happen.
As you talk to her, use a deep, low, masculine “Voice of Authority.”
You can Lead Her With Future Pacing anytime but it’s especially sensual during
massage and lovemaking when you are telling her what you are about to do to her.
She can enjoy it more both hearing about what you are going to do and then feeling
it. This communication can be very erotic.
#24 Aural Appreciation
There are many ways to give her aural appreciation without talking or using any
words. For example, you can Whistle At Her Nearly Inaudibly as she walks
through the room.
You can growl when you hug or kiss her. You can moan during lovemaking
and express the pleasure she’s making you feel.
Whistling, growling and moaning are ways of making sounds of
pleasurable appreciation that are heady and exhilarating for both
of you. She will find these very romantic.
Declarations
#25 Mementos
Save the ticket stubs from a concert you take her to.
Pick up a rock from a beach walk and put it by your front
door.
What tokens of your times together can you save and bring
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The token can be very simple, because this Trick is about making
meaning, making history together.
Look for small mementos you can save as a reminder of your romantic times
together.
#26 Frame Your Marriage Certificate
A sweet declaration of your love that makes a lovely anniversary gift is a framed
certificate of your marriage. If yours isn’t “pretty,” have one made by a calligrapher.
There are wedding certificate holders and lots of marriage license frames available
online. Women find this sentimentality a very romantic declaration of your love.
#27 Start An Expanded Orgasm Practice Together
A beautiful ritual you can share together is to start a practice of “Expanded Orgasm.”
This is time you carve out of your busy lives together to connect as one in a
refreshing orgasmic meditation practice.
You know how people have a meditation practice or they practice tennis
together? Well, you can start a daily or weekly practice of filling her up with
the kind of orgasms only women can have.
A man is “one and done” and when he climaxes, he needs a
refractory period of minutes, hours or even a day to recover.
A woman does not require an orgasmic refractory period. She
can climax and climax and climax again for literally hours.
That is just how her body works. And you can stack her
orgasms on top of one another and with each successive
climax you can stretch out her moment of climax like taffy.
It’s very fulfilling for a couple to have an activity you do
together where each of you gets better over time and you
both enjoy yourselves.
What better activity than giving your lady ever-increasing
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#28 Declaring Your Undying Love
How will you express your undying love for her?
Making the statement to her, not just assuming she knows you love her, is very
romantic for a woman. Don’t miss the most simple romantic action you can take.
Express yourself.
#29 Bragging Rights
To Sparkling Abundance
Let’s face it. Almost every women alive loves jewelry. We love bragging to our
girlfriends about the sparkly jewelry our man, our lover, our boyfriend gave us.
Give her a reason to brag about you to her mother.
You don’t need to spend much, and it’s best to keep it simple (and
returnable). Just the fact that you took a risk to buy her jewelry is
enough. Don’t hold back. Be bold.
The most simple kinds of jewelry to get women are diamond
tennis bracelets and diamond stud earrings. They are classic,
simple and match everything. You do not need to get her
real diamonds, but it’s best if the metal is real gold. Cubic
Zirconia or other diamond alternatives combined with 14
carat gold are very reasonably priced and look beautiful.
Don’t miss the opportunity to give her a sparkly gift because
you are afraid she won’t like it. Just pick something that
reminds you of her and give it to her. If she exchanges it
for something she likes better, you still get the brownie
points and she will still brag about what romancer you are!
“You are my lady, don’t ever forget it.” “I’ll love you now and forever.”
— Calle Zorro
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#30 Photographic Memory
Women find it meaningful to look at family photos.
Here are a couple of ideas that leverage the meaning-making of photos. The
easiest Trick is to haul out old family photos and have her snuggle up next to
you on the couch and talk about your memories as you look at them.
Another romantic photo experience that also adds Playful Adventure is to
take photos when you are out on dates. Put together one of those
photo-books that are now so easy to find online. Or take some
pictures to a professional framer and have a framed montage
made.
Another way to demonstrate how much she means to you is
to schedule a portrait photography session for the two of you
and if you have children, a family photo.
You can be everyone’s hero by treating the extended family
- your parents and siblings — to sit for a family portrait. You
set it up and invite them all to come.
If you are a close-knit clan, she’ll surely be pleased by your
romantic gesture.
What’s better, as the man of the family, this feeds into
Polarity because you are taking a leadership role setting up
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Recap
What You Know Now About Romance
You will start seeing her face brighten and her whole body come alive. Her outlook
will improve. She will start feeling happier and less stressed. She will feel loved
and protected by her man. And the more powerful and strong your woman, the
MORE she wants to feel those feelings of love and protection.
After reading all 30 Tricks, you now have some appreciation about how powerful
these particular recommendations are because these Tricks make you appear more
masculine and they foster her femininity. This creates the polarity, or magnetism,
that make these romance tactics more compelling to her, because rooted in her
physiology is the need for her to feel protected by her man.
Many of these strategies also incorporate an element of risk with an element of safety
to stimulate her desire for you.
They also incorporate all “5 Pillars of Passion” so you can “fire on all cylinders.”
Be careful that you don’t come out, guns blazing, and overwhelm her with
romance and expectation. These are powerful strategies. Dish them out, bit
by bit, each day.
Your Personalized Plan
Designing Your Easy Blueprint
Get your plan organized as you read this so
you won’t have to open this eBook ever again.
How To Make Your Romantic Blueprint
As you read through these 30 Romance Tricks, make a
note of five Tricks that are most suited to where you are in
your relationship right now.
What will delight her most?
Please refrain from choosing romance tactics that are what
YOU want. Meet her where she is and right-size your choices
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Once you have five or so ideas identified, start thinking about them and
put your own personalized spin on them instead of using them as is.
Figure out which you’ll do when. Go ahead, look at a calendar. Plot out different
times over the next month when you can spring these five romantic actions on
her. Keep them a surprise so she gets the added excitement of spontaneity.
If she asks what you are up to, just tell her the truth. You got an eBook on the
Internet about romance so you could surprise her with some playful adventure.
Then ask her how she likes it so far.
If she gives you any negative pushback, don’t take it personally. It’s very likely
NOTHING to do with you. Just consider it feedback. Try a different tack.
She could be a crusty old coot whose been starved for attention. Warm her up slowly.
And remember, romance is irresistible. You will feel progress.
5 Romance Ideas For Us
Write the five ideas you want to try first here and put dates next to them:
1. _____________________________________________
2. _____________________________________________
3. _____________________________________________
4. _____________________________________________
5. _____________________________________________

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Now put these on your calendar and set an reminder alarm on your
phone or calendar for yourself to remember. Put a note one day ahead (or
more) so you keep your commitment to your plan.
Make a list of anything you need to source, like restaurant reservations, lingerie,
an exotic car rental or breath mints here:
1. _____________________________________________
2. _____________________________________________
3. _____________________________________________
4. _____________________________________________
5. _____________________________________________
When you’re implementing your romance tactics, be mindful of what she
seems to like most and least. That’s excellent biofeedback about what
she values that can feed into your next list of five romance ideas.
We’re Here To Support Your Success
If you want help understanding the ideas or how to apply
these Tricks to your personal situation, email our customer
support team at support@personallifemedia.com.

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Epilogue
You’re At A Fork In The Road
One path is full of love and intimacy.
The other is a downhill slide to feeling alone and disconnected.
Put into practice what you’ve learned about the power of polarity, the elements of
desire and the pillars of passion.
Figure out a plan that will work to help you remember to do your favorite of these
Tricks every day, every week or on a timeframe that works for your life.
Put some ideas on your calendar. Set a reminder on your phone to plan a romantic
date. Grab your lady and give her “The Best Hug Ever.” Whatever you decide, see
how long you can keep your romantic activities humming.
Every ounce of effort you put in will result in a ten-fold response. If you’re not
seeing her eyes light up, there may be deeper issues of pain or upset that are
masking her ability to feel her desire. If this is the case, probe into this area
sensitively and see if you can help your lady overcome her resistance to
romance.
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Acknowledgements
In Gratitude
It remains for me to thank some of those who have made this book possible. First
I wish to thank my mentor, Dr. Patricia Taylor, whose distinctions in the area of
couples communication honor the masculine and feminine and create clarity and
safety in a way unlike any other teaching I’ve experienced.
Dr. Patti’s knowledge about “training each other,” her method of “Sharing Frames” and
her “Four Keys to Seduction“ created a foundation of understanding about couple’s
dynamics that allowed me to dig further into what men can do to romance women in
the way they love to be romanced.
The person who encouraged me most in my writing career was my husband, Tim
Bratton, who cleared the technical hurdles that allowed me to publish my online
home study courses and deliver them to men worldwide. And his giant appetite
for love, affection and wanton sensuality give me plenty of practice both giving
and receiving romance.
It is impossible to mention all the colleagues, friends and lovers who, over
the years have contributed to my understanding of romance and
passion. I particularly benefitted from Adam Gilad’s understanding
of erotic communication and the interactions I’ve had with so
many men in the world of pick up, seduction and masculinity
including David Van Arrick, Alex Allman, Carlos Xuma and
John Alanis.
My gratitude extends to all of the authors of countless books
on desire, passion, monogamy, polarity and sexuality I’ve
devoured, especially Sheri Winston, who co-created “Secret
Maps to Buried Pleasure,” with me.
Finally, I wish to record my gratitude to all of the men who
have written to me to ask for help so I could apply my
theoretical knowledge to their situations to see that my
techniques and advice work. Their willingness to be
vulnerable in their hunger for connection with their woman
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what to do to romance, seduce and make sweet love to their lady, give
me the juice to keep on helping, keep on teaching, keep on supporting.
Thank you again for being the kind of man who wants to feel romance. I am
honored to have touched your life.
Because ultimately, I work on behalf of all women. Through the education of men
who want to learn, I get the sheer joy of helping women experience the love and
passion they so richly deserve. To everyone, I am humbled in my appreciation.
I wish you both much pleasure.
Email me anytime you have questions : susan@personallifemedia.com
Warmly,
Susan Bratton
CEO
Personal Life Media, Inc.
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