The document outlines a program focused on missional discipleship aimed at men within the church, addressing reasons for their absence and the need for a more engaging approach to spiritual growth. It emphasizes the importance of experiential learning and mentoring in discipleship, highlighting that transformation occurs through lived experiences rather than traditional classroom setups. Additionally, it provides practical strategies for churches to become more appealing to men, including worship style, teaching methods, and physical church environments.

2. South East Asian Theological Schools, Inc.SEATSSchools of MissionDiscipling LeadersBuilding NationsMissional Discipleshipwww.facebook.com/seatsinc

3. SEATS Missional Discipleship ProgramSOM-11 Understanding Jesus MatthewSOM-12 Understanding Jesus - MarkSOM-13 Understanding Jesus - LukeSOM-14 Understanding Jesus - JohnSOM-15 DiscipleshipSOM-16 Hermeneutics of MoneySOM-17 8 Principles of Being Like JesusSOM-18 Jesus, Mission, & ChurchSOM-19 Truth & TransformationSOM-10 Men & Discipleship

5. SOM-20 Men & Discipleship

6. Men : Women41 : 765 : 1613 : 12

7. What does it mean to be a man? Anoba’ngibigsabihin ng pagiginglalaki?“His work, his hobbies, his entertainment, his follies, his addictions, everything he does, is designed to prove to the world he is a man.”This belief demands that “he avoid anything that might call his manhood into question.”

8. Why Are Men Not In Church?Many intentionally reject the Christian faithSome men are proud & want to be their own godMen hate to admit weakness or needinessMillions are captive to sin, unbelief & other religions that rule out commitment to ChristMen get distracted by the concerns of the world & lose interest in spiritual mattersMen suffer abuse at the hands of church people & fall away.The same problems face womenbut they are still in church!

9. Believe in GodIdentify selves asChristiansAttend Church on SundayMen

10. Buddhism, Judaism, Hinduism have almost equal numbers.Islam may have more menOnly Christianity has less men.Why?

11. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, Inc., 2005

14. Which set best describes Jesus & His Followers?Left SetRight Set{}CompetencePowerEfficiencyAchievementSkillsProving OneselfResultsAccomplishmentObjectsTechnologyGoal-orientedSelf SufficiencySuccessCompetitionLoveCommunicationBeautyRelationshipsSupportHelpNurturingFeelingsSharingRelatingHarmonyCommunityLoving CooperationPersonal ExpressionMarsVenus

17. Discipleship is probably the most misunderstood word in the church today. Here's simple definition: discipleship is people leading each other to maturity in Christ. As the Bible says, it’s one person sharpening another. It’s a band of brothers spurring each other on toward love & good deeds. It is the model left to us by Jesus.

18. We cannot expect men to come to maturity in Christ in a classroom environment. Although reading, study, sermon, & classes can help, these academic exercises cannot penetrate to the hidden places in a man’s heart. But discipleship can, because it’s teaching by example. Christ didn’t hand out a study guide, He demonstrated a life pleasing to God. His example, even more than His words, produced 11 men who shook the world. That is why a man who has sat in church for 30 years without much life change will be suddenly transformed by going on a mission trip. Men are changed by what they experience, not necessarily by what they are told.

21. SOM-20-01 Ephesians 4 & the 5-Fold Ministry of the ChurchThis class will examine the 5-Fold Ministry of the Church from Ephesians 4, & develop a theology of male discipleship in the church.

22. Ephesians 4:1-16I, a prisoner in the Lord, encourage you to live the kind of life which proves that God has called you. Be humble & gentle in every way. Be patient with each other & lovingly accept each other. Through the peace that ties you together, do your best to maintain the unity that the Spirit gives. There is one body & one Spirit. In the same way you were called to share one hope. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God & Father of all, who is over everything, through everything, & in everything.

23. Ephesians 4:1-16God's favor has been given to each of us. It was measured out to us by Christ who gave it. That's why the Scriptures say: "When he went to the highest place, he took captive those who had captured us & gave gifts to people.” Now what does it mean that he went up except that he also had gone down to the lowest parts of the earth? The one who had gone down also went up above all the heavens so that he fills everything. He also gave apostles, prophets, missionaries, as well as pastors & teachers as gifts to his church. Their purpose is to prepare God's people, to serve, & to build up the body of Christ. This is to continue until all of us are united in our faith & in our knowledge about God's Son, until we become mature, until we measure up to Christ, who is the standard.

24. Ephesians 4:1-16Then we will no longer be little children, tossed & carried about by all kinds of teachings that change like the wind. We will no longer be influenced by people who use cunning & clever strategies to lead us astray. Instead, as we lovingly speak the truth, we will grow up completely in our relationship to Christ, who is the head. He makes the whole body fit together & unites it through the support of every joint. As each & every part does its job, he makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

25. Ephesians 4:1-16Be humble & gentle in every way. Be patient with each other & lovingly accept each other. Through the peace that ties you together, do your best to maintain the unity that the Spirit gives. There is one body & one Spirit. In the same way you were called to share one hope. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God & Father of all, who is over everything, through everything, & in everything.

26. Ephesians 4:1-16God's favor has been given to each of us. It was measured out to us by Christ who gave it. … He also gave [some] apostles, [some] prophets, [some] missionaries, as well as [some] pastors & teachers as gifts to his church. Their purpose is to prepare God's people, to serve, & to build up the body of Christ. This is to continue until all of us are united in our faith & in our knowledge about God's Son, until we become mature, until we measure up to Christ, who is the standard.

27. Ephesians 4:1-16Then we will no longer be little children, tossed & carried about by all kinds of teachings that change like the wind. We will no longer be influenced by people who use cunning & clever strategies to lead us astray. Instead, as we lovingly speak the truth, we will grow up completely in our relationship to Christ, who is the head. He makes the whole body fit together & unites it through the support of every joint. As each & every part does its job, he makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

28. “At angiba’yginawangapostol, angiba’ypropeta, angiba’yebanghelista, angiba’y pastor at guro.”5-Fold Ministry“… upangihandasapaglilingkodanglahatnghinirang, saikauunladngkanyangiglesya.”

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32. Mission Matrix: The Nature/Structure of the whole church’s missionMission Matrix: The Nature/Structure of the church’s leadershipApostleProphetTeacherEvangelistPastor

33. PQuestioner, disturber, agitatorRecruiter, passionate communicator of organisational message, recruits to the causeEntrepreneur, pioneer, strategist, innovator, visionaryAEHumaniser, carer, social cement/glueSystematiser, philosopher, translatorPTFrom Frost & Hirsch, The Shaping of Things to Come, 174

34. It's not that movements abolish the clergy. Rather they abolish the laity. Everyone is ordained & mobilized for ministry.Steve Addison, When the church goes to the dogs (Shapevine Training Systems, 2009), p 3.

35. If you are the pastor of a church can you be called “bishop” / “overseer”?

36. Male Work CyclePlanWorkCelebrateRest

37. Spiritual DisciplinesRead your Bible. Pray. Give. Go to church.

38. Discipleship is probably the most misunderstood word in the church today. Here's simple definition: discipleship is people leading each other to maturity in Christ. As the Bible says, it’s one person sharpening another. It’s a band of brothers spurring each other on toward love & good deeds. It is the model left to us by Jesus.

39. We cannot expect men to come to maturity in Christ in a classroom environment. Although reading, study, sermon, & classes can help, these academic exercises cannot penetrate to the hidden places in a man’s heart.

40. But discipleship can, because it’s teaching by example. Christ didn’t hand out a study guide, He demonstrated a life pleasing to God. His example, even more than His words, produced 11 men who shook the world. That is why a man who has sat in church for 30 years without much life change will be suddenly transformed by going on a mission trip. Men are changed by what they experience, not necessarily by what they are told.

41. Group WorkDevelop a Male Discipleship Plan“How can we bring the Church to men?”

42. FIFTY WAYS TO MAKE YOUR CHURCH MORE APPEALING TO MEN:

43. Front door experience:Maintain your buildings and grounds Put men in the parking lot One layer of greeters (don’t be too friendly) Lots of signs so men don’t have to ask directions

44. Worship service:Keep the focus on God – not the family Minimize dead time between elementsDo something unexpected Add humor or something fun Good lighting and sound so people can easily see and hear

45. Décor:Remove the “old lady” stuff: quilts, felt banners, needlepoint, etc. Remove lace and flowers from communion table. Remove bulletin boards and “kindergarten classroom” collages from interior walls Decide if religious symbols in the sanctuary help or hinder Colors: choose earth tones and colors of the field

46. Give men space:Do not ask the congregation to hold hands Do not ask everyone to hug everyone else Discourage “prayer mushrooms”

47. Prayer:Keep pastoral prayers short Avoid showy “prayer-speak” when praying in church Avoid “vain repetitions” in public prayers Offer prayer after the service instead of prayer-and-share

48. Music:Quality is vital. Don’t attempt more than your musicians can deliver. Choose songs that convey respect to God Avoid wimpy “love songs to Jesus” Avoid more than 3 repeats of any chorusSelect a key the baritones can sing Help the worship leader “man-up”

49. A pastor who relates well to men will:Talk like a regular guy (avoid “preacher-speak”) Do man stuff and talk about it during the message Choose metaphors and stories men can relate to Be firm but gracious on theology and moral issues Be judicious about emotive displays

50. Teaching:Shorter is almost always better. Say it and be done. Share personal stories of your struggles as a man Avoid feminine metaphors (such as “fall in love with Jesus”) Avoid “preacher-speak”Build sermon around great illustrations Use visual aids Use video clips to illustrate Use an object lesson to illustrateCall men forward for a 3-minute “men’s huddle” at the end of the service

51. Honor men’s time:Start and end the service on time If something goes long, cut something else on the fly For services more than 90 minutes, offer an intermission or an opportunity to “get-up-and-go” so men don’t feel trapped