1. The vanity and the problem of 'other' :: Flávio Gikovate:: Erotic pleasure exhibitionist character is somewhat independent of who is watching our
show
. The observer is not totally irrelevant, as a girl always prefer to be looked at with desire for a man than it enhances it with one that is not differentiated (according to her). In all cases, if people who are looking to have a negative reaction, suffer the terrible pain of humiliation, whereas manifest admiration and respect, we feel high, and sexually stimulated somewhat excited. Depend, therefore, the reaction of other people (the observers). It is impossible to ignore the fact that our mood is very influenced by the way our people - or something we have done - will be received. This explains considerations that families have always done their teens about the importance of having a behavior consistent with the average opinion of the neighbors. Who ever heard or thought about yourself
of what others will say or think about us? The more we depend on the opinions of others to feel good, the less our individual freedom. Will think twice before taking any action less common. Think about the repercussions that our actions, our way of dressing and even our thoughts have on others. Others become our judges, who judge whether or not we are creatures legal, decent. Vanity leads therefore to a very delicate situation in which we are the judges of others and others will be those who will say whether or not we are creatures valid. The higher the vanity, the greater the dependency we have of others. Thus, the other become the
OTHER
, observers all-powerful which is duty. The paradox is unavoidable: to get their attention we have to highlight, in distinction. If we do so in an unacceptable manner, according to these criteria, we will be the object of ridicule and irony. How? Where to find the courage to risk and the risk of displeasing the OTHERS? In most cases, the matter is resolved only in terms of quantity and not quality. That is, people seek to highlight through the acquisition of a larger quantity of something that is valued by all. They will have more money, more knowledge will be thinner, more beautiful (and rely on the best surgeons to get to that), so most traveled. They will wear expensive clothes and have many of them. Not use, but those that are not approved by the majority, those without a signature (certificate of guarantee that it is something precious). Have many cars, many clocks, incredible and diets will tell you they are skinny
by force of nature. The policy focus will be governed by the motto
more of the same. Powerful people are therefore much the same things, and are admired for that. Featured without running the risk of disappointing OTHER and are subject to rejection and humiliation. It is clear that a person can be more brave and try to stand out to be, act and think in an original way. Almost always will be the subject of reactions varied and difficult to please all observers. It will be seen as extravagant person and perhaps arouse envy more courage than by way of behaving. Our companies provide a greater share of the original artists and some intellectuals, creatures responsible for the innovations. Yes, because the search highlighted the way just to have more of it does not lead to anything new (which would eventually determine the general stagnation). We know that there are some people with more courage to display unusually even without their having great talent. There are few, and especially in adolescence, they end up affiliating to any
tribe
minority, going to act in accordance with the standard of that subgroup. The desire to highlight is great and the lack of creativity eventually be part of a class where originality is questionable and extravagance is a goal in itself. I think the
punks
are a good example. That is not the freedom that enchants me. What delights me is to not letting go of our beliefs even if we will hit upon the opinions of others. Or, as St. Augustine said, he acknowledged, of course, the presence of pride in himself,
between the vanity and the fact I have no doubt about the path to choose.