Published in teens magazine July Issue

1. relationship
There will always be that senior classmate that you kind of fancy. If you’re a girl, it’s more
common to fall for that senior you deemed to be wiser and cooler than guys in your
same grade. But what happens when you’re a guy, and you fall for that girl who is 2
years older than you? Should you pursue it? By Gishmora Adams
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et’s break it down. When a one of my best girlfriends recently Are you ready to be more mature? Can
14-year-old girl dates a 16- reconnected with an old friend (who you be there for her when she is facing
year-old boy in school, it’s was our junior in NPCC back in emotional stress from the pressures of
considered cool. Friends would be secondary school) through Facebook. her classmates?
swooning on how she managed to After a few weeks, they had already
get a senior to notice her. However, if started dating. But, as soon as it got Are You Easily
the situation was reversed, would it serious, he bailed on her by sending an Influenced?
still be the same? SMS saying not to contact each other Will you be easily intimidated by
anymore because he couldn’t get past her? Is your ego willing to take a
It was too much the age gap. It was a break up through backseat? Will you fall prey to what
in the end... an sms. How immature was that? And your friends are telling you? Will you
I once knew a male classmate who to make matter worse, he started SMS- take heart to the gossip surrounding
was in a relationship with a senior ing & calling to explain how stupid he the both of you?
2 years older. They met each other was a week later.
though their CCA and after some These are just some of the questions
time realised that they “clicked” and Even the celebs that you have to answer before
decided to pursue a relationship. do it! jumping into the relationship. We’re
However, they kept their relationship Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore does it not saying jumping into a relationship
under wraps for a year before finally and even Justin Bieber does it. Well, not with that pretty senior who also
declaring that they were together. really, but he did confess his love for incidentally has a crush on you is
Why? Simply put: A fear of backlash Kim Kardashian and Barbara Walters wrong. All we mean is to take time
– which they received from friends who’s more than 30 years his senior. to reflect and be truthful. Remember:
and family. However, they persevered Examples aside, should you pursue What matters most is the sincerity
and stayed together till they both that love? that drives you, and your confidence
graduated – only to part ways when to pursue and uphold the relationship.
he was 19 and she, 21. Are You Ready? At the end of the day, there is nobody
Ask yourself this. Are you truly ready to else in between – just you, and that
Turns out I am be with someone older? Sure, she can special girl. And in the lyrics of Justin
not ready ... help out in your algebra homework, but Bieber, There’s Gonna Be One Less
In an example closer to home, surely there’s more to it than algebra. Lonely Girl.
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