10 Signs of a weak minded-person.
In this article we’ll explore expert opinions and analysis to determine the top signs that someone is weak minded, and how to overcome mental weakness and build mental strength.
1. 10 Signs of a weak minded-person.
Have you ever heard the saying not to judge anyone until you walk a mile in their shoes?
I fully agree.
However, sometimes it’s necessary to be brutally honest about people’s shortcomings, including
our own.
That’s why I’ve put together this list of 10 definite signs of a weak-minded person.
1) Blaming others for your problems
Sometimes other people really are to blame for some of your problems.
But the mentally strong person doesn’t focus on that. They focus on solutions and action.
They don’t look for who’s to blame: they look for how to fix the problem.
Blame is a weasel tactic, and as long as you hone in on who or what is to blame for a
substandard situation you’ll remain stuck in it and feeling powerless.
When we blame, we shift the power outside ourselves and create a scenario where we don’t
have control or agency.
2) Seeking frequent external validation
Everyone loves to be told they’re appreciated and doing a great job.
2. I personally consider it a key part of building community and solidarity and encouraging people
to better themselves and embrace their full potential.
But seeking frequent external validation is different. It’s born of deep inner insecurity and it’s
cloying, annoying, and worthless.
So what if other people approve of you or not, how do you feel about yourself?
You can’t base yourself on the opinions and emotions of others, you need to find a deep and
proven inner core of self-worth built on your own actions and identity
3) Being overly trusting
It’s nice to believe the best of others and give people the benefit of the doubt if you can.
But being overly trusting of strangers and people in your life can lead to major problems.
Trust should be earned, not given out recklessly.
This is a lesson I’m still working on fully learning myself, but I used to be even more naively
trusting of almost everyone.
Now I can discern more about their motives and inner self. I’m not perfect, but I’m more
skeptical about just trusting the surface impressions I get when I meet someone who seems
cool.
Being overly trusting includes rushing into friendships with people who turn out to be a bad
influence, trusting strangers with money, and allowing yourself to be easily seduced, talked into
shady projects, or pressured into doing things you don’t want.
You need to stand firm in your beliefs and your decisions. Trusting and following others blindly
can sometimes lead you right off the edge of a cliff.
One of the toughest things about trust is that many of us are taught it is inherently good.
Our own parents or others we trust may have impressed on us that it’s always a noble thing to
do.
But being overly trusting is actually a toxic and dangerous habit.
4) Embracing a victim mentality
Being a victim is a real thing, and victims should never be blamed for the pain or anger they are
feeling.
3. But a victim mentality is an altogether different phenomenon.
A victim mentality is when we base our identity on victimhood and filter life’s events through a
prism of having been victimized.
Even people who are trying to help you often become symbols of you being spoken down to or
not respected. Every damn thing is just shitting all over you and it seems like there’s nothing you
can do to change it!
5) Reveling in self-pity
One of the most definite signs of a weak-minded person is self-pity.
The fact is that self-pity is a choice.
You can feel awful, let down, betrayed, angry or confused about something that’s happened.
But feeling sorry for yourself, as a result, is a choice, not an inevitability.
Self-pity is awful, and the more you engage in it the more addictive it becomes. You think about
all the ways life and other people have mistreated you and you feel like absolute crap. Then you
feel like crap about feeling like crap.
Try this for a few months and you’ll be knocking on the door of the psych ward.
The simple fact of the matter is that mentally strong people don’t bother with self-pity because
they know it accomplishes nothing and is usually counterproductive.
Self-pity buries us in a self-defeating loop. Avoid it.
6) Lacking resilience
Do you know what holds people back the most in achieving what they want? A lack of
resilience.
And this is something most weak-minded people suffer from.
Without resilience, it’s extremely hard to overcome all the setbacks that come with everyday life.
I know this because until recently I had a tough time overcoming a few hurdles in my life which
were holding me back from achieving a fulfilling life.
7) Obsessing and over-analyzing
4. Some decisions and situations require deep thought.
But many times mentally weak people put far too much analysis and obsession into simple
matters. They overthink to the point of psychosis and mental breakdown.
Then they blame the situation or choice, saying it’s not good enough or left them trapped.
Even if that’s true: too bad.
Obsessing and over-analyzing are other of those very First World problems that start to affect
people whose bellies are too full of food.
You have the luxury to sit there and whine and obsess, but it’s not going to accomplish anything
other than leading into self-pity, blame, or one of the other dark avenues I’ve discussed here.
So don’t do it.
None of us get everything we want in life and many situations are a choice between two bad
paths.
Stop overthinking and obsessing and do something.
8) Being consumed by envy
Jealousy has been a big challenge for me my whole life, and I don’t mean that in a frivolous or
casual way.
Even from a young age, I wanted what other kids had, from their clothing brands to candy to
their happy families.
And as I aged the jealousy – and accompanying resentment – just got worse.
I saw so many things other people had, including popularity and success and I wanted it for
myself.
9) Refusing to forgive and move on
Many of us have real reasons to feel angry, mistreated, and cheated.
I’m not denying that.
But holding on to the anger and bitterness will only cripple you and put a muzzle on your
dreams.
5. If you don’t want to forgive – or can’t – do your best to at least move on. What this means is that
you take a wrong that has occurred and you push it firmly into the past where it belongs.
It exists, it hurts, it was unfair, but it’s over.
And you have a life to live now.
10) Focusing on what you can’t control
There are so many parts of life we can’t control: from death and time to the emotions of others,
unfair breakups, being cheated on, hereditary health conditions, and our own upbringing.
It’s easy to notice this and get really angry or sad.
After all, what did you do to deserve X, Y or Z?
Well, unfortunately, most of life and existence is not in our control.
I admit this still terrifies me, but I have learned to focus 90% of the time on what I can control.
My own nutrition, my exercise regime, my work schedule, sustaining my friendships, showing
love to those I care for.
There’s still a wild universe out there that’s spinning, but I’m narrowed in on my own locus of
power, not spiraling out of control into oblivion about all the things beyond my grasp.
Why?
Because it just doesn’t do anything except wear us down and make us give up
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