Please answer all of the following questions in 2 – 4 sentences each. Be sure to EXPLAIN your answers. I am asking for your opinion, but support your answers with concrete examples and reasons. Write well-developed answers; don’t do the minimal. This is due in class on Sunday, April 16, but we will be working on it partially in class. Your answers should be typed and double-spaced, using one-inch margins and 12-point type. No email submissions will be accepted! This assignment will be counted toward your class participation grade. 1) Is love at first sight possible? Why or why not?
 2) What is the difference between romantic love and infatuation? 
3) What is the difference between romantic love and friendship?
 4) Why do we love? Is love always beneficial?
 5) Do you love someone for his/her traits or characteristics? Or do you love the “person”? What does it mean to love the person?
 6) If you love someone for his/her traits, does that mean that your love is transferable? In other words, shouldn’t you also love someone else having the same traits as your beloved?
 7) Is love rational? Can you explain why you love someone or stop loving someone?
 8) Do we choose whom to love or does it just happen to us? In other words, is love voluntary? 9) Does everyone have one perfect “soul-mate”? Why or why not? 
10) What’s the difference between a) parental love, b) love of country, c) romantic love, d) love of one’s siblings? 
11) Is true love selfish or selfless? (Compare parental love. Is romantic love like that?)
 12) What does it mean to be “honest” with your beloved? Does it mean that you should reveal everything about yourself to him/her?
 13) What is the point of the verbal expressions of love such as “I love you”? Why do we say those things and what role do they play in loving relationships?


1. Love
1) Is love at first sight possible? Why or why not?
Love being a feeling that comes from the heart is possible at first sight, this is because a
person’s inner feeling of love can be aroused when they see someone for the first time who
makes the feelings resonate in them. This is to say a person can fall in love with the other at
the first sight of seeing the other people as they have no control over it.
2) What is the difference between romantic love and infatuation?
The difference between romantic love and infatuation is that romantic love relates to the
moments and scenarios within a relationship that illustrates intimacy between the two persons
and this aims at enhancing the depth and strength of the love through creating a relationship
connection. Infatuation, on the other hand, relates to a strong and short- lived admiration and
obsession towards something or someone.
3) What is the difference between romantic love and friendship?
Romantic love is characterized by intimacy between two persons while friendship is the
general likeness towards somebody.
4) Why do we love? Is love always beneficial?
We love because our feelings and emotions compel us to do so but love is not always
beneficial because when it turns sour, it leads to emotional pain that sometimes
gravitate towards physical pain in extreme cases of love affairs where former lovers
decide to revenge through killing the other person or taking their lives instead.
5) Do you love someone for his/her traits or characteristics? Or do you love the

2. “person”? What does it mean to love the person?
You love a person for whom they really are irrespective of their traits and love is the inner
beauty and not the outward physical appearance of a person. What it means to love the person
is to have an emotional connection with the person that is not based on physical traits. This is
the case for instance, when a physically able person falls in love with a physically challenged
person, and they end up marrying each other.
6) If you love someone for his/her traits, does that mean that your love is transferable? In
other words, shouldn’t you also love someone else having the same traits as your beloved?
Love that is based on traits and outwardly appearance I transferable while love that is based
on the emotional connection of the two hearts is not transferable because outward appearance
can be easily compared from one person to the other while the inner self is not comparable.
6) Is love rational? Can you explain why you love someone or stop loving someone?
Love is rational in a sense it is based on all the senses of the body and takes account of what
has happened previously. You stop loving someone due to the lost emotional connection
between the two persons or when they are irreconcilable differences between the two people
involved.
8) Do we choose whom to love or does it just happen to us? In other words, is love voluntary?
Love being an inner feeling that we have no control over does not allow us the liberty to
choose the person to love as it just happens. This is to say that is not voluntary as we have
no control over it.

3. 9) Does everyone have one perfect “soul-mate”? Why or why not?
Everyone does not have a perfect soul mate as some of the relationships being witnessed
illustrate that some relationships are based on coercion and were not meant to take place in
the first place since the two people were not meant for each other as they might be misled by
infatuations.
10) What’s the difference between a) parental love, b) love of country, c) romantic love, d)
love of one’s siblings?
Parental is the motherly or fatherly that exists between parents and children as they share a
common blood, the love of a country is known as patriotism and is the love for the
government and the country that is as a result of good governance while romantic love is the
affectionate and intimate between couples while the love for one’s sibling is similar to
parental love and is brought by having the same blood.
11) Is true love selfish or selfless? (Compare parental love. Is romantic love like that?)
True love is selfless in all dimensions because when you truly love someone, you can do
anything in your capacity and out of the ordinary for them irrespective of whether It is
romantic or parental love.
12) What does it mean to be “honest” with your beloved? Does it mean that you should reveal
everything about yourself to him/her?
Being honest means revealing all the material facts about oneself to the other so that there
is no room for speculations of what might have happened in the past or will possibly
happen in the future. This is to say that one should reveal everything about themselves to
their significant other.

4. 13) What is the point of the verbal expressions of love such as “I love you”? Why do we say
those things and what role do they play in loving relationships?
The essence of the verbal expressions of love is the reassurance of the person of the love that
they have for the other. This reassurance makes the other person happy to hear and play an
important role in keeping the fire of the relationship burning.
14) What is the relation between romantic love and sex? Is sexual attraction to one’s partner a
necessary component of romantic love? If it is not necessary, then what makes it romantic
love rather than some other kind of love?
Sex is a bond that makes the romantic love stronger as it is the ultimate expression of one’s
love and commitment to other and in for instance in Christian matrimony it is should be
respected. Sexual attraction towards one partner is an integral component of romantic love as
it is the bond that makes the relationship stronger hence when you are not sexually attracted to
your partner the romantic love is greatly affected negatively.
15) Can love be expressed through sex? Can any emotions be expressed through sex?
Love can be expressed through sex in a romantic relationship only, and it is sex that expresses
love in a romantic relationship besides other emotions.
16) We think that a parent should love all of his/her children—not just one—and, likewise,
many believe that God loves all of his creatures. Why do we value exclusivity (or monogamy)
in romantic love but not in these other types of love?
Exclusivity in romantic love is valued as compared to other types of love as romantic love is
only meant for two people while other types of love can involve more than two people as a
parent can love all his ten children with the same amount of love at the same time.

5. 17) Why have some people thought that so-called “oral sex” does not count as sex? Is
someone who has participated only in oral sex still a virgin? Why or why?
Oral sex does not count as sex because the general understanding of sex is different hence it is
just a foreplay thing that leads to the sex hence participating in oral does not make someone
lose their virginity.
18) What does it mean to flirt? (Define it in your own words) Why do people flirt? If you are
in a committed relationship and flirt with someone else, does that count as cheating?
To flirt means to act in a manner as if one is attracted towards someone, but the intention is to
offer amusement as opposed to having serious intentions. When in a committed relationship
one should have their allegiance towards their partner hence flirting with another person is
tantamount to cheating and should be condemned as it is unacceptable.