Build yourself and your country

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In the nation’s service : Arvind Bajoria ( CS & CMA )
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BUILD
YOURSELF
&
YOUR
COUNTRY

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Contents
 Introduction 3
 STEP 1 : Understanding How Your Mind Works 5
 STEP 2 : Mastering Your Mindset 10
 STEP 3 : Manage The Fear 18
 STEP 4 : Create A Wonderful Future 19
 STEP 5 : Take Decisions & Create The Steps 22
 STEP 6 : Building Habits 26
 STEP 7 : Repeat Positive Affirmations 28

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INTRODUCTION
We all have dreams of what we would like to have in life. They
vary significantly between all of us. They also vary significantly
within us. We dream about what it would be like to have financial
freedom, a beautiful house, to travel, a nice car, a good body, and
so on….. We also dream of having good relationships, and having
good results at school and at work.
But for the majority of people these dreams remain just
that……DREAMS.
For many, they turn these dreams into goals. They have a plan on
how to achieve these goals. But when it comes down to working
these plans…..They hit a wall and don’t proceed any further…..Their
goals just become dreams once more. We are guided by our
mindset in all our efforts and right mindset is the first prerequisite
to make a beginning towards right action and achieve success in all
aspects of our life. Sometimes, we develop a wrong mindset due
to wrong impressions on us during childhood or wrong
impressions received from various people in our life.
But for some, they take the necessary steps to take ACTION. They
do what it takes to work their plan. They hit crossroads along the
way and adjust their plan accordingly to move in the right
direction…..They DON’T GIVE UP until they SUCCEED.
Who are you..??

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Are you a ‘Dreamer’..? Someone who has the dreams but hasn’t
turned them into goals.
Are you a ‘Planner’ . . ? Someone who does have a plan, but
hasn’tyet gone any further.
Or are you a ‘Doer”..? Someone who has the dream, wants to
make it a goal, and is prepared to take whatever it takes to
achieve and succeed.
It doesn’t matter who you are ….. ANYONE can achieve whatever
they desire…even you….as long as you are prepared to change
your way of thinking……And we are going to show you how

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STEP 1: UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR MIND WORKS
As we mentioned in the introduction, you MUST change your way
of thinking to be able to change your way of living. This cannot be
emphasised enough.
Your unconscious mind controls up to 80% or your everyday life.
Not only your breathing and heart beating, but your habits, your
thought patterns, your belief systems and your values. The way
we react or respond to things, feelings, urges, addictions,
anxieties, conflicts and concepts.
The other 20%, the conscious mind, is where we find the things we
are aware of. In part, our thoughts, feelings, sensations and
memories. It is our 'awareness' of these things that bring it to our
'consciousness'.
This part of the mind has the ability to accept or reject thoughts
and ideas.
As much as we like to think we have 'conscious' control of these
thoughts, and our accepting or rejecting of ideas, even this process
is largely controlled by the values and belief systems that sit
within our unconscious.

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Understanding this with our conscious mind can allow us to make
'informed' decisions. Decisions on how far we 'choose' to unravel
the mystery of our own unconsciousness.
The unconscious mind, has no ability to decide or differentiate, it
accepts obediently what is turned over to it, be it good, bad,
healthy or unhealthy. As our conscious mind is largely intertwined
with our unconscious, we often find ourselves in repetitive cycles.
We take an ‘X’ type idea, it becomes an ‘X’ type thought, and it
brings about an ‘X’ type behaviour - a habit.
But what if we recognised that the ‘X’ type behaviour didn't serve
us well, that it wasn't good for us? What if we thought of a ‘Y’
type idea... a positive, more productive idea?
We attempt to turn this new ‘Y’ type idea over to our unconscious,
but it conflicts with our ‘X’ type, well established habits!
We look around us and we still see ‘X’ type results. This can create
an uncomfortable feeling and our unconscious mind, either with or
without our conscious awareness, will do what it can to bring us
back to our known ‘X type patterns………also known as Psycho
Cybernetics.
Psycho Cybernetics is a mechanism that keeps us where our
beliefs say we should be.

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Imagine a heater thermostat, it is set to 22ºc. The heater will turn
on or off according to the temperature of the room. You have this
warm room hovering around 22ºc and someone goes outside and
leaves the door open! The temperature quickly drops several
degrees. The cybernetic mechanism detects the temperature
drop, fires up the heater and pumps out more hot air to bring the
temperature back up to the selected 22ºc.
Once the heater has been going for a while, it records the
temperature as moving from 22ºc to 23ºc, recognizes the
deviation from the set temperature and shuts off the heater
temporarily to prevent the temperature from passing the selected
22ºc.
This cybernetic mechanisms job is to detect change from the set
target and adjust accordingly.
This same type of mechanism is also found in the autopilot on a
plane. When autopilot is activated, the plane is constantly
correcting its direction to remain on course. Any deviation is
detected, and it is brought back into line.
Now imagine this same mechanism functioning within the mind
(psycho) and belief systems of a human.
A person, let’s say a student, has developed a belief about
themselves as a learner. They are an average C grade student.

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Their beliefs are set that a C is good for them and that is all they
are really capable of. They may not believe they are smart enough
to get higher grades than this.
Now mid-year reports come home, parents decide this isn't really
good enough, demand more homework, restrict activities, and
more attention be paid to school work. A temporary fix of working
harder. This hard work pays off a little, grades increase slightly,
parents are happy and pressure comes off a little. However, the
belief system of the student is still that they are not really that
smart, and they are not really capable of those results ongoing.
The cybernetic mechanism picks up the deviation of the belief
system, and kicks in ways to bring it back onto target.
This may be self-sabotage, it may be staying up too late and
getting run down and sick, it may be getting distracted in class, or
it may be forgetting homework, then rushing it at the last minute.
Everyone finds different ways applicable to their life to have this
downward turn happen. Eventually the grades come back to
average, and right where their current self-belief has them.
This way, their cybernetic mechanism kicks in and works in the
positive way by bringing the grades up to where their new belief
system says theyshould be.
Once last example of how this mechanism works in people is the
cleanliness of a room.

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It can often be referred to as a 'tolerance' level. A room may stay
at a certain level of tidiness, we get a phone call... the in-laws are
coming over! So, we work hard, and get the place clean and tidy.
A few days later, the room is back to where it was before, but
that's ok, because you 'tolerate' it at that level. Over a few days,
maybe you had a week of rushing around and the room gets extra
messy, you look around and it is now 'intolerable', and you are
motivated to tidy it back to the level of tidiness it would normally
stay at- a level you can 'tolerate'!
But what if there was a way to bypass the conscious mind? What
if we could just go directly to the unconscious mind and change
the ‘X’ type processes that are bringing about the unwanted ‘X’
type results ?
The purpose of this book is to help you create a life you desire and
we have only provided an overview of this topic.
Working with the unconscious mind can sometimes be quite
challenging, but at the same time very rewarding, and for those
who choose to ‘reprogram’ their unconscious language

STEP 2: MASTERING YOUR MINDSET
The most important step to moving forward and creating your
future is being able to master your mindset.
From the research in Psychology, we can understand how we
live our lives from one of two different mindsets – A Fixed
Mindset, or a Growth Mindset.
Those that live with a Fixed Mindset believe that their personality,
their potential, and their intelligence are all framed and determined
at birth.
Those that live with a Growth mindset believe that their
personality, their potential, and their intelligence can be developed.
They believe that we are all born with a ‘clean slate’, and every
person on this planet has the ability to be whatever they
choose to be. They choose to grow themselves through learning,
applying themselves, and by failing.

"I choose a
growth
mindset"
"I push
myself and
take risks "
"I am always
learning"
"Will this
situation
allow me to
grow"
"Other
people's
success
inspires me"
GROWTH
MINDSET
"I failed"
"I will try
harder next
time"

"I was born
like this. I
can't change"
"I won't try it.
If I fail I will
look stupid"
"Why bother,
it's not going
to change a
thing"
"Will I
succeed or
fail"
"I feel
threatened by
success of
others"
Fixed
Mindset
""I knew I'd
fail. I'm an
idiot"

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Read through the following comments.
Place a tick in one box on the right in the column
that best describes how you feel about the
comment
StronglyAgree
Agree
Disagree
StronglyDisagree
1 My intelligence is something very basic and can’t be
changed
2
No matter how much intelligence I have, I can always
change it quite a bit
3 I can always substantially change how intelligent I am
4 I am a certain kind of person, and there is not much that
can be done to really change that
5 I can always change basic things about the kind of
person I am
6 Music can be learned by anyone
7 Only a few people will be good at sports…I have to be
“born with it”
8 Math is much easier to learn if I come from a culture who
values math
9 The harder I work at something, the better I will be at it
10 No matter what kind of person I am, I can always change
substantially
11 Trying new things is stressful for me and I avoid it
12 Some people are good and kind, and some are not. It’s
not often that people change
13 I appreciate when people give me feedback
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I often get angry when I get feedback about my
performance
15 All humans are capable of learning
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I can learn new things, but I can’t really change how
intelligent I am
17 I can do things differently, but the important parts of
who I am can’t really be changed
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Humans are basically good, but sometimes make terrible
decisions
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An important reason why I do my work is that I like to
learn new things
20 Truly smart people do not need to try hard

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StronglyAgree
Agree
Disagree
StronglyDisagree
From the questions you
answered on the previous
page, now circle the score
corresponding to the box
you ticked.
Add together all the circled
numbers
My score is:
60 – 45 points
Strong GrowthMindset
44 – 34 points
Growth Mindset with some
Fixed ideas
33 – 21 points
Fixed Mindset with some
Growth ideas
20 – 0 points
Strong FixedMindset
Question 1 0 1 2 3
Question 2 3 2 1 0
Question 3 3 2 1 0
Question 4 0 1 2 3
Question 5 3 2 1 0
Question 6 3 2 1 0
Question 7 0 1 2 3
Question 8 0 1 2 3
Question 9 3 2 1 0
Question 10 3 2 1 0
Question 11 0 1 2 3
Question 12 0 1 2 3
Question 13 3 2 1 0
Question 14 0 1 2 3
Question 15 3 2 1 0
Question 16 0 1 2 3
Question 17 0 1 2 3
Question 18 3 2 1 0
Question 19 3 2 1 0
Question 20
0 1 2 3

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Well done. Now you have a good idea of where your mindset is a t .
We say “where your mindset is at” for a reason. Because whatever
your mindset has been in the past, is exactly what it was, and it
has got you to exactly where you are now.
What you choose to do with it from this point forward is what
matters. And those choices, whatever they may be, are totally up
to you.
If you have a Growth Mindset how are you using it? Are you using
it to it’s best potential, and well on track to creating the life you
want? Or do you know where you want to be, and just don’t know
how to get there? As long as you have the vision of where you
want to be, and are prepared to learn how to get there, and do
what it takes to get there, then you are heading in the right
direction.
If you have a Fixed Mindset, then ask yourself these questions:
Am I happy where I am at right now? Y / N
Do I want to stay where I am at right now? Y / N
Do I want a successful life? Y / N
Do I want to choose how I live my life? Y / N
Am I prepared to change to a Growth Mindset Y / N

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STEP 1
Recognize that
there are two
different mindsets
Look for evidence by
researching people
who have achieved
high levels of
success
STEP 2
Make a decision to
change your mind
Change your internal
language
Choose to learn
STEP 3
Embrace challenges
Do your best to find
success - Effort
Be motivated by
setbacks
How To Create A
Growth Mindset
Never Stop Doing The Things That Cause You To Improve
If your choice is to change to a Growth Mindset you are probably
now asking: “How do I create a Growth Mindset?”
I am glad you asked……..
Now you know the principles to creating a Growth Mindset. Keep
progressing in the direction you want to go by building and
expanding your thinking around these steps.

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We understand that sometimes this is easier said than done. And
some people have many things that weigh them down with their
thinking that it is hard to move forward.
If this is where you are at the moment, that is fine. As long as you
are prepared to move forward, then there are simple tools to help
you get moving.

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STEP 3: MANAGE THE FEAR
When faced with situations in life that we have not been exposed
to before, and we don’t know what results we are going to arise,
this is what most people tend to do.
If you have not been on a road to real success before, then you
really have no picture of what that success looks like. Sure, you
may have passed a test at school, won a sporting event or made
something that worked. These could be considered ‘small’
successes. Sure, there was meaning to them, and feelings of joy
when they were achieved, but there was no real risk in achieving
them. There was no ‘skin in the game’. And when faced with these
‘risks’, or having to ‘put something in’ to win, the primal instinct
inside usually makes people Forget Everything And Run.
“What if this is a scam?”
“What if I lose everything?”

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“I might fail and look like anidiot”
“That stuff is only for people who know how to do it! Well……
What if you didn’t lose everything….And you were to actually gain
so much more?
What if you didn’t fail, and you and others were proud of you? Or,
what if you actually DID fail……And you learnt a lesson from the
failure that allowed you and others to be even more proud?
Yes…..that ‘stuff’ is for people who know it….And what would it
look like if you were one of them..?
Those that create big successes in life know how to manage and
control their fears. They know that fear and risk is a very important
part of the process. If there wasn’t fear and risk, we would
rush into everything that came our way, and that would of course
lead to many failures, and probably even worse.
So how do you manage your fears and control the risks?
 Sometimes there are underlying unconscious issues that arise
as fear. These can be removed with coaching
 Find someone that has successfully achieved what you are
wanting. Learn what they did right, and more importantly,
learn what they did wrong. This is modelling them.
 Get a Guide who has been successful.
Picturing things in a
different way, will
give a different
meaning.

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STEP 4: CREATE A WONDERFUL FUTURE
A compelling future is that which is interesting and fascinating,
but above all it isinspiring.
You have the ability to create and shape your reality to whatever
you want it to be. But to be able to achieve this, you must take on
the thinking of a ‘Doer’, that person who has the dream and
chooses to make it a goal, and is prepared to DO whatever it takes
to achieve and succeed.
Think of something compelling that you would like to achieve or
have. Something you have only ever dreamed of having.
Something, that with the tools you now have, you believe you can
now achieve:
 It can be in whatever area of your life you choose:
o Family
o Relationships
o School
o Work
o Health
o Finances
 It must make a positive change in your life
 Give it a time frame – 6 months from now
 The steps to achieve this goal must be within your control
 The goal needs to be big enough that it is going to stretch
you and challenge you.
 See/Feel/Hear what it is like with this achievement in your
life

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MY GOAL is :
Now, repeat this process and come up with some other goals.
Make a list of whatever it is that is going to make your future
more inspiring.

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STEP 5: MAKE DECISIONS & CREATE THE STEPS
Great….now that you have some compelling goals…..What do you
have to do to achieve them?
To do this, you must have a clear plan. You need to decide what
needs to be done and create the action steps.
By answering these questions, you will start to create some
momentum.
My goal is:
I want to achieve this by:
What personal changes do I need to make?
What are the actions I need to go through? If you find some
blocks here a) find someone who has achieved a similar success
and ask what they did, b) brainstorm with a friend

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From this list, what is the easiest, cheapest, or most comfortable
thing to do first?
By when will I start this one thing?
By when will it be completed?
Is there anything that might stop me from taking it? Y / N
If yes, what is it?

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What will I do to stop it from stopping me?
What resources do I need to achieve this one thing?
Do I need someone to: Circle what is applicable
Help me / Teach me / Guide me / Coach me /
Mentor me / Hold me accountable
Who is thisperson?
When will I ask this person?

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Is there anything else I need to consider before I take my first step
?
On a scale of 1 to 10….With 10 being the highest or strongest:
How strong is my intention to take the first step?
How high is my enthusiasm to take the first step?
How strong is my commitment to take the first step?
If your score is under 7 for any of these, what needs to happen to
raise the score?

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STEP 6: BUILDING HABITS
Awesome…….You are on your way.
Now what is going to keep you heading in that direction?
Habits….!
You now have actions that are required to build the steps to reach
your goals, and by regularly completing them, you will begin to
build positive habits.
To ensure these new habits stay with you, and become a part of
how you do things, they need to be programmed into your
unconscious mind. What would it feel like if what you did every
day, your thinking and actions, were a result of your positive
habits?
By creating and programming these habits, you are helping to
reset your ‘thermostat’…The one we mentioned in Psycho
Cybernetics in the Step 1.
To help this process, you need to be rewarded for your new habits.
Your unconscious mind needs to know which behaviors are
getting it the things that it likes.

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By getting rewarded when you have successes, your unconscious
mind will begin to be programmed with success, and it will actively
seek out more successes so it can receive more rewards.
So how do you get rewards…?
When you have success in each of the action steps you listed in
the previous exercise, you reward yourself. For example: a night at
a movie, takeaway for dinner….etc. You decide what reward is
worth the effort.
Yes, It’s that simple………especially when being enforced by a
Growth Mindset.

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STEP 7: POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
When on the road to creating success, there can be many
challenges. And as mentioned earlier, these challenges can create
obstacles that can cause disappointments and finally you may give
up.
But by constantly feeding your mind with positive affirmations,
your progress will be smooth and unhampered.
Some of the positive affirmations, which you must keep on
repeating to yourself, can be as following:
 I am a talented professional totally committed to my work,
 family and society.
 I am highly prosperous, healthy and talented and have the ability to live
my dreams.
 I am a gifted person and god has given me the talent and ability to face
any adversity and become successful in my life.
 I can manage any difficult situation easily.
 I am enjoying every moment and constantly learning and growing.
 I am getting new opportunities daily for growth and happiness.
We hope this guidance note is of value to you, and helps
you to truly prosper in whatever area of life you choose.
Best of success to you…
Arvind Bajoria
Company Secretary &
Cost and Management
Accountant
Email : bajoria21@rediffmail.com

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