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1. Muslim MEN
and thei wives!!!
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2. …Oh Lord, the Creator of All,
seen and unseen with Power and
Knowledge of the seen , unseen,
past, present and future, open all
our Hearts to the Truth and
Guide Us All to the Straight Path.
Amen
The series of Booklets that have been produced is
to remove misconception on Islam, and see ways
and means to nd the similarities in the Great
Masters Teachings, through the available
Scriptures, and to prevent Mischief.
We hope you will enjoy reading them, and also
nd useful n Truthful Information that will help us
as a Society to live in Peace, whatever our
differences in Beliefs, Practices and
Understanding.

3. WOW!
How can we give a fair description of “them”?
A description of devout Muslim Men will give an insight of
“their” wives, and why it is indeed a privilege to be a “Muslim
Wife”.
As the Final Prophet, it was his Duty show us the Way by being a
living Example; The details of which are given below after a few
Quran verses
Islam is the only Religion that says marry only one!
4:129 You will never be able to treat your wives with equal
fairness, however much you may desire to do so, 4:3…. Marry
women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye
shall not be able to deal justly, then only one,….
Once this ayah came down, most of the men had to divorce their
wives not marry additional! It came down as a limit, while
explaining that it is wise to get married to one.
These are Eternal Laws, that have to take into consideration of
Society for all time and different cultural backgrounds and
situations.
From this is very clear get married to Only One.( a provision is
given to prevent bad behavior and to resolve issues due to
circumstances)
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4. Marriage
When one of Khadija's (ra) close associates asked
Muhammad(pbuh) why he had not yet married, he said he did not
have adequate means to support a wife.(this shows men got
married very young and he had passed his time. Further as he was
from the most noble family in Mecca, the standards may have
been high). When he was asked if would not mind marrying a
pretty lady with means, he inquired who it could be who will want
to marry him? When the name of Khadijia was mentioned, he was
shocked, as he said she had rejected many a man, why she should
want to marry him? He was told she was impressed with his
conduct and character, after which he agreed. (Prior to Prophet
hood he was called Al Ameen –The Trustworthy. The wealthy
lady Khadijia employed him when she came to know about his
conduct..)
Khadija al-Kubra
She was from the clan of Banu Hashim, a distant cousin of
Muhamad(phuh). At the time of her marriage she was 40years,
and was widowed twice while he was 25years. Khadija, was a not
a idol worshipper like her distant cousin Waraqah ibn Nawfal,
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5. and was called Ameerat-Quraysh, Princess of Quraysh, and
al-Tahira, the Pure One, due to her impeccable personality
and virtuous character, not to mention her honorable descent.
Family Life
It was a custom and at times a necessity to have more than
one wife. However the prophet(pbuh) within the 25 years of
married life, he showed no such inclination. In fact the
perfect Husband and Father.
Khadjia(ra) died after 25 years of marriage, during which
time they shared their love an affection, as a perfect couple.
In fact she is the rst person to become a muslim. She had
perfect Trust in her noble Husband. When she died it was
devastating blow to the Prophet(pbuh), and was the called the
year of sorrow.
The Prophet Muhammad(pbuh), is the most excellent
example as father and husband. He was very kind and
tolerant towards them. They could not envisage life, without
him.. He was the perfect head of family. The Prophet's
beloved wife, Aa'isha,(ra) said of her noble husband: He
always helped with the housework and would at times mend
his clothes, repair his shoes and sweep the floor.
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6. He would milk, protect and feed his animals and do household
chores' Not only was he a devoted husband, he also encouraged
his companions to follow his example:
On his last sermon he mentioned these famous words ”The most
perfect of the believers in faith are the best of them in morals.
And the best among them are those who are best to their
wives.”
Children
Anas ibn Malik(ra), the Messenger's servant for 10 continuous
years, says, "I have never seen a man who was more
compassionate to his family members than Muhammad(pbuh).
Whenever he returned to Madinah, he would carry children on
his mount. On such occasions, the Messenger (pbuh) embraced
not only his grandchildren but also those in his house and those
nearby. He loved his grand daughter Umamah. He often went
out with her on his shoulders, and even placed her on his
shoulders while praying.
Love
He love Khadija more than any one else. This was amply
demonstrated during her lifetime as well as long after her death.
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7. He frequently sent food to Khadija's friends after her death,
and spoke lovingly about her that Aiysah(ra) one of latter
wives was jealous and said” "I was not, jealous of any other
wife of the Prophet as I was jealous of Khadijah, because of his
constant mentioning of her and because God had commanded
him to give her good tidings of a mansion in Paradise of
precious stones. And whenever he sacriced a sheep he would
send a fair portion of it to those who had been her intimate
friends. Many a time I said to him: "It is as if there had never
been any other woman in the world except Khadijah(ra).
Once, when Aishah(ra) complained and asked why he spoke
so highly of "an old Quraysh woman", the Prophet (pbuh) was
hurt and said: "She was the wife who believed in me when
others rejected me. When people gave me the lie, she afrmed
my truthfulness. When I stood forsaken, she spent her wealth
to lighten the burden of my sorrow..”
Consultation
The Messenger discussed matters with his wives as friends.
Certainly he did not need their advice, since he was directed by
Revelation. However, he wanted to teach his nation that
Muslim men were to give women every consideration.
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8. This was quite a radical idea in his time, as it is today in many parts
of the world. He began teaching his people through his own
relationship with his wives.
Then why did he Marry so many?
As mentioned earlier, he was a devoted man to one women, despite
in the territory the practice was otherwise. We understand, a
Prophet is a Messenger of GOD, as such he must obey and fulll
his Command. When you read the Quran and Hadith you will note
a lot details why he married them, and every one of them was a
divine command. Further you will nd that it is obvious from the
age, and nature, and circumstances they had nothing to do with
Male inclinationsand and above all his CHRACHTER and
C O N D U C T . F u t h e r r e a d i n g :
http://www.muslimway.org/content/view/1682/32/
Muslim Men marry 4 women?
Who said they marry 4women? How many do we know who are
married to more than ONE. Well we all know how many men
misbehave with women: Only famous men like Presidents, Film
stars, Sports Stars, Religious Leaders come to our knowledge, and
the man in your OWN ofce, or neighborhood .A wild guess will
horrify us of the proportion that is not reported.
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9. Have we understood the suffering the women and children
have out of situations like this? They start by telling lies. After
some time there is no guilt in telling lies. Today we live in a
world where mass media is used skillfully by the powerful to
meet their ends, which is most of the time has a double
standard. Don't we think there must be a more humane way of
overcoming the greater passions of those rare individuals
while protecting the Modest Women in Society.
You will nd that muslim men are the ones having the least
amount of partners. Among those few who have, there must be
more harmony among the families.
There are situations, when men are forced to marry more than
one: When the wife is barren, when she cannot be intimate, or
there are more women in society-like in developed countries
today.
Yes like in other Religions there are those who will take
advantage of the provisions in the law, and treat their
spouses badly.
It will go unabated if Society does not uphold Justice with
Wisdom.
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10. Consider the Freedom of Expression, where over a billion
people were humiliated;
People of a land living for thousands of years now without a
State! and none Dare help THEM!!!! Today's media can be used
skillfully to fool the Public.
Be careful when we criticize other Religions or
Practices…perhaps it is not suitable for us or our society: can we
say others not to practice if all those who practice are not
bothered as to those who do not practice! Look at Gay
marriages. All Religions prohibit it, yet the law allows, such a
unnatural ACT!
What is preventing a man from having another wife if there is
a requirement!!
It's the Law! Other Religions did not prevent men marrying,
except that laws were in acted to prevent it. Now in the World
there are in most cities in developed Counties more women than
men(I mean in the millions!)
Their basic right to enjoy life , and live a Full Life with Honour
and Dignity has been deprived! I hope in your environment there
are sisters and daughters having such problems, so that
something is done to help them and Uplift the Dignity of Women.
Finally let me show you some of the other rights and Honour
Women have in Islam.
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11. Wife: She need not work. She is entitled for domestic help.
Her personal funds are hers, husband has no rights. No man
can marry a women without her consent. She can get a
divorce immediately.
Daughter/Sister/Mother They must be provided by the
family-father, husband, brother, son. Their property is their
personal matter, it cannot be questioned.
Mother-There is a very famous saying by the
Prophet(pbuh) -Paradise lies at the Feet of the Mother!
The following U Tube is worth watching, it will completely
change your mindset on Islam and its
Practices.http://tubeislam.com/video/11623
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12. Acquiring Knowledge - Good
Informing others - V. Good
Applying it - Excellent
Preventing Mischief - Noble

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14. VR Ordinary Muslims trying to explain to
Ordinary Non Muslims.
Authors Note:
Hope you found this little booklet Truthful and informative. You
will wonder why a basic Muslim takes this much of trouble? The
answer is very simple. We want to follow the Basic Principles of
Islam. This can never be done without understanding the
Character and Practices of the Final Prophet. Read his Last
Sermon to Understand better( we are asked to inform others even
if we know even one thing!).
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