6. We build our lives with someone we
trust and care for, and then, in
the blink of an eye, it's all gone.
This can leave people with sorrow,
anger, and some serious questions
— about ourselves and the
future. So, go back to BASIC when
you haven’t know/met him/her
7. A. GIVE YOURSELF SOME
TIME
You've probably been in a relationship for a while, or maybe you've
been thinking about that person non-stop for months. Now is the
time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next
challenge. Everyone falls down. It's how you get back up that defines
you.
8. B. Remove all the memories of the
person from your everyday life.
You're not trying to
pretend like the person
never existed, just
temporarily forget how
much they meant to
you and how they
broke your heart.
9. C. Disconnect the person from all
the social networks you use.
Nowadays, we have our
regular lives and our
online lives. Unsubscribe
from the person on
Facebook, unfollow them
on Twitter, and work so
that your online network
doesn't remind you of the
person who broke your
heart.
10. D. Exercise and eat right
Go the gym or get outside and sweat. Physical activity
increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which
acts like a natural antidepressant, improving your
mood. It's okay to eat ice cream and milkshakes every
once in a while (who doesn't do that?!) but it's best to
continue to eat a diet rich in fruits and veggies, lean
protein, whole grains, and water. These will not only
make you look fantastic, but feel fantastic as well.
11. E. Try not to be in the same place as
the person, if possible.
This is hard to do, obviously: The
other person has probably been
an important part of your life for
some time, and your body and
brain are used to having them
around. But giving the other
person up, like cold turkey, is a
good way to tell your body and
mind that there are plenty of
other people in the world who
deserve your attention. Why not
give them a chance?
12. F. Stay optimistic.
This is easier said than done, but whenever you feel yourself being overly
negative, dwelling on the past, or just looking at the glass as half-empty,
try to snap out of it. Remind yourself of everything you have and how
lucky you are.
14. A. Figure out what went
wrong in your
relationship.
Every relationship has its strengths
and weaknesses. Figure out what
went wrong in your relationship, or
what wasn't so great about the
other person. This way you can
grow in the future, or look for better
traits in your next partner. There
are a bunch of things that can
normally go wrong in a relationship.
15. B. Don't obsess over whose
fault it was.
You probably have room for growing, too, so try not to
pin all the blame on just the other person. Focus on the
issues, not the actors.
16. C. Learn from your mistakes.
Everyone makes
mistakes. It's how
you learn from them
that defines you as a
person. Learn from
what went wrong in
your last relationship
— what caused you
to be heartbroken —
and make sure that
17. D. Once you're ready,
forgive the other person.
Forgiveness is an important part of
healing your broken heart. In order
to move on, you need to forgive the
other person, or you'll constantly be
thinking about them or wondering
why they hurt you.
18. E. Don't argue with the
other person.
Sometimes you give the other person a chance
to speak their mind, or to talk about an issue
that went wrong. We do this to get closure. If
you are discussing things with the person who
broke your heart, be a little guarded and don't
let the conversation turn into an argument.
19. 3rd
TURNING YOUR LIFE
AROUND
Think about the last time you felt
emotional pain.
Perhaps the last time was about a
second ago, or perhaps a fairly
long time, regardless, put yourself
back there for a moment.
20. A. Lean on your friends
Your friends are there to help
you, to comfort you when
you're feeling bad, and
inspire you to feel good.
Deep down, your friends love
you. It's not unreasonable to
lean on your friends as you
deal with a broken heart.
They're maybe the ones who
will help you out of it.
21. B. Channel your energy into new
activities.
What we miss when a relationship ends is that we can't
express our love anymore. We can't express our
excitement to someone who's interested because
they're interested in you. You can continue this form of
heartfelt expression, however, by writing poetry,
painting, singing, dancing, etc. Do whatever it takes to
allow you to transform your pain into something
productive!
22. C. Go on a trip.
It doesn't need to be far, but it should be far enough to give you
a little bit of perspective. The world is such a big, beautiful
place; you should take advantage of it. Bring some camping
supplies or bunk it with that friend
you haven't seen in a while. A little bit of distance can
do wonders for your broken heart.
23. D. Tap your imagination. .
Nothing makes getting over a broken heart
harder than feeling trapped. And it may
be cheesy or cliché, but your imagination
will let you go places you've never been
and experience things you might never
see. Use it. You'll feel better.
24. E. Once you feel ready,
start dating other people
again.
After two or three months, many people feel
ready to date again. Be sure you've fixed
some of the issues you had in your
previous relation, and try not to make the
same mistake twice!
25. F. Remember the two-year
rule.
It takes two years to learn a new job, two years
to get accustomed to a new town, and two
years to completely heal a broken heart. If
you expect to be completely healed in a day
after a three-year relationship, you could be
sorely disappointed. Real results are
obtainable when realistic expectations are
