1. Secret Relationship Why Keep A Secret
A secret relationship could seem exciting at first, but it can also become a burden to keep the secret.
There are legitimate reasons for not telling anyone about a relationship. At some point, the burden of
secrecy will probably start to strain the relationship and youll have to decide whether not keep it a
secret relationship.
One of the main reasons for having a relationship with someone secretly is because you worry what
other people will think. Maybe your parents or friends would not approve of this person. You should
really stop and consider why they wouldnt approve before having a secret relationship.
Your family and friends really just want whats best for you in most cases. Now and then there are
situations where they just want to impose their will on you. But for the most part, theyre looking out for
you.
Do they feel the person will hurt you, or doesnt treat you right? Has that person given them reason to
think the relationship might not be a good one? If they disapprove on those grounds, you can hardly
blame them. In fact, keeping the relationship a secret hints that you might not disagree completely.
It could be that you just dont want to hear their protests. But it also could be that you know theyre not
entirely wrong. Otherwise, why not have the relationship out in the open and show them how wrong
they are?
If they disapprove of the relationship for reasons that are petty or clearly based on their own issues,
then you should ask yourself why youre having a secret relationship at all. Things like thinking that
your partner doesnt have enough money or class, for instance, would be no reason to hide the
relationship.
You may, out of a desire to not have to hear their complaints. But for such a narrow minded reason,
you shouldnt worry about keeping their minds at ease. If they dont like your partners race or even
sex, it can be simpler to keep the relationship a secret. But you shouldnt have to unless you really
want to.
Why not show them that youre your own person and youre proud of how you feel? By having your
relationship out in the open, youre being more true to yourself and your partner. And maybe youll
even change their minds about what being a relationship means.
You might even be surprised to find some friends or family members dont feel the same as the rest.
Often, if a family or group of friends is against something, like an interracial relationship, you perceive
each person as feeling that way.
But it could be there are a few who didnt want to speak up and be different. Dont be too hard on them
for not standing up for you and what they believe in. They probably felt outnumbered and didnt want

2. to hear the arguments. And youre in a secret relationship, after all, because you didnt want to have to
hear the protests either.
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