Take note ... the pregnant body has a 3 dimensional relationship to the 3 dimensional baby inside. Once you learn to work with that 3 dimensional understanding then childbirth preparation takes on a whole different viewpoint. Giving birth is a journey of a 3 dimensional object moving down, through and out of a 3 dimensional container. You want to help that happen and not hinder the journey. Pregnant women and expectant fathers can learn so many wonderful skills and techniques that make the birth journey safer, easier and more forth right.

1. Birth &
Coaching Skills
you Need
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2. Timeline
• We think skills just arrive
• Skills lead the way
• Skills to grow during pregnancy
• Birth is the transition
• Birth is a lot like plumbing
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3. We think skills just arrive
• Learning skills can come so easily to some people. Some people
don’t recognize how much time they practiced or repeated doing
something over and over again in order to become skilled.
• Skills can be difficult but birth skills are not.
• Now you’re pregnant … yes, men get pregnant too.
• Once your baby’s mother gets pregnant you get dragged into all
her changes whether physical, emotional or mental.
• Unfortunately, no one is guiding you as you move through
‘becoming’ a father during pregnancy to ‘being’ one immediately
after the birth of your baby.
• No one is telling you or your baby’s mother how important it is to
develop skills
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4. Skills lead the way
• To ‘be’ a father, you must
learn fatherhood qualities
and skills to help your baby
come out of its mother’s
body.
• Without skills the pregnant
woman will give birth one
way or another
• How you and your
pregnant partner ‘do’ the
activity of giving birth
leaves life long memories.
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5. Skills to grow during
pregnancy
• Kindness
• Patience
• Awareness
• Attention to detail
• Being able to see what needs to be done
• Growing a second set of arms
• Growing two more sets of eyes
• Humor
• Delight
• Clarity
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6. Birth is the transition
• Birth is the pivotal activity that must be started,
done and completed in order to move from
‘becoming’ a father or mother to ‘being’ one.
• Birth is never something that should ‘just happen’ to
you.
• Birth is an activity that must be prepared for in the
right manner from 24 weeks of pregnancy.
• During the activity there are skills to be used so that
the process occurs with as little trauma or stress to
either your baby or its mother.
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7. • From 24 weeks onward, you must focus on:
o Preparing the pregnant body to let out a big object
o Learn and practicw the skills you will need to work with your baby’s efforts
to be born during the process of giving birth.
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8. Birth is a lot like plumbing
• Process that takes place inside her body to open
(the cervix, pelvis and birth canal) is often
accompanied by natural occurring pain. Without
coping or pain management skills, its easy for a
woman to tense up in reaction to pain.
• Big object has to open up diaphragm (cervix),
come down through a tube (bony pelvis) and then
down through a soft tube (vagina) and open an
aperture (vaginal opening).
• Learn to create space and openness to let big
object out.
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9. These are the skills that will help the pregnant woman learn to
open up during pregnancy:
• Map the pelvis so you know what plumbing shape your
baby has to navigate through.
• Hip Lift … create space in the pelvis side to side.
• Kate’s Cat … keep the sacrum mobile to help ease any
back pain caused by pressure from this big object as it
makes it’s journey down, through and out and create more
space back to front.
• Internal work … how to prepare the birth canal to open up
and let a big object pass through so there is no trauma to
the woman’s body and your baby comes out promptly.
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10. Then you have to learn the birth and coaching skills:
• 5 Phases of each contractions … know how to work with each phase
of increasing and decreasing pain of contractions using one or more
of your skills.
• Directed Breathing … how the birthing woman can use her inhalation
to open her body and her exhalation to relax inside her body.
• Pelvic Clock … how a woman can soften inside her pelvis
• Communication … verbal and non-verbal skills so you can read and
hear exactly when your partner is coping or needs your help.
• Positions … with plumbing in mind, you don’t want the woman to
close off her space and hinder the baby’s journey.
• Deep relaxing touch … how to cue your partner to soften in very
specific areas of her body.
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