12 steps to get beyond perfectionism

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STEPS TO GET
PERFECTIONISM
12BEYOND
LAUNCHYOURGENIUS.COM

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Are you putting off that creative task because you are afraid that you
will not be able to meet your own expectations?

IS YOUR BEST
STILL NOT
GOOD
ENOUGH?

Are you feeling paralyzed by
PERFECTIONISM?

Here is a system of 12
steps to get you
BEYOND
Perfectionism...

1. Awareness and Realization That you
get Stuck by Excessive Perfectionism
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Perfectionism = Trying to
make your
best work even
BETTER
BETTER
BETTER

Now, there is
nothing
wrong with
attempting
to do the
best
workof
your life.

The PROBLEM: Do you
allow your desire to be
perfect interfere with
your desire to launch
and put your work out
there?

DO you feel
STRESS and
ANXIETY?
Are you JUDGING
yourself too harshly?

Action Tips:
Become AWAREof
PERFECTIONISM in your life.
Are YOUstopping yourself
because you are trying to be a
perfectio...

2. Kinds of Perfectionism
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In a research article by psychologists Hewitt and Flett,
Perfectionism has been categorized into:
1. Self-oriented perfect...

Adaptive and Maladaptive Perfectionism
Adaptive = High Standards, less stress
and less self-censure
Maladaptive = High Sta...

ARE YOU DIRECTING
PERFECTIONISM
INWARDS OR OUTWARDS?
DO YOU HAVE STRESS
AND CENSURE
ASSOCIATED WITH IT?

3. Scratching Below the Surface: Cast Aside
the Past Beliefs that Sustain Perfectionism
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Did you ever hear statements like :
“You should not provide half baked
solutions.”

“It is not WORTHdoing if it is not perfect.”
“My parents and friends will not APPROVEof
this work.”

These “memes” or
programs may be
causing you stress,
anxiety and
perfectionism...

REPLACE WITH:
“It is far better to provide half-baked solutions than
to provide no solutions at all.”

It is much better to launch something that is
GOOD ENOUGHrather than waiting, getting
stuck and not launching something pe...

Action Tips:
Become aware of and cast aside
beliefs that predispose you
towards unrealistic perfectionism.
Question the va...

4. Dismantle the Anxiety and
Stress behind Perfectionism
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According to psychologist Kenneth Rice and his
colleagues from the Journal of Cognitive
Psychology:
“The defining feature ...

In other words,
maladaptive perfectionists
experience more personal
distress when their high
standards and goals are not
a...

Become aware that the perfectionism trap is a cycle
of unrealistic expectations, excessively high
standards, incorrect ass...

Action Tip:
Break the cycle by
REDUCINGthe stress
associated with performance.

5. Peeling off the Layers of
Perfectionism- The Three Primal
Problems: Fear, Self-Worth and Shame
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Do you believe that your work is not
WORTHY for the world to see?

You may have deep-seated fear
of getting rejected
There may be many types of fear: fear
of failure, success and of rejecti...

Hence, they portray themselves as being deficient in
their own minds and get stuck from taking action to
auto-correct.
Ac...

Action Tip:
Understand that fear,
shame and low self-worth
may be orchestrating the
perfectionism in your
actions.

Action Tip: Embrace
Excitement,
Acceptance and
Great Self-worth.

6. Blame, Self-Criticism and Criticism
From Others: The Judgment Trap
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Are you constantly COMPARINGyourself with
others and fueling a non-realistic perfectionism
because of that.

ARE YOU EXCESSIVELY
SELF-CRITICAL
AND EASILY BLAME
YOURSELF?

Do you believe that you
need to be perfect to be
loved and accepted?
Are you looking for external
validation and approval?

Action Tips:
Cast aside self-criticism and self-
blame.
Choose self-acceptance and praise your
work as good enough.
Move...

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7. Master Controller of Your
Universe: Trust and Safety Issues
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Do you have a subconscious need for safety and control. A lot
of perfectionism is based on trust and safety issues that we...

In a research study on perfectionism and
psychological control by Soenens et al.,
maladaptive perfectionism, self-esteem
a...

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Action Tips:
Address trust and safety issues
Delegate small tasks to others
and loosen the grip on control
and wanting to ...

Take small risks towards
allowing yourself to be less of a
perfectionist.
Develop a sense of safety and
trust in yourself ...

8. Set Up Rules and Deadlines for Your
Project: Structures that work
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Do you have any rules or restrictions to manage
the tendency to become a perfectionist?

Set a firm deadline and place the habit
of perfectionism within a FRAMEWORK

Rules can sound like:
“My time to write today is
one hour and during that one
hour I will NOT EDIT or
go back to correct a...

Allow for Creative Perfectionism: Perfectionism in a
small sub-set of activities or just one task.
Complete other tasks wi...

9. Getting Realistic about Your
Approach to Life and Tasks: Dropping
Standards
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Many perfectionists think in
black and white. It is all or
nothing. Either the work is
outrageously good or they
refuse to...

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If on a scale from 1 to 10, 7-10 being a great job and
1-3 being a poorly done job, where would you place
yourself? A perf...

WHERE ARE YOU ON THE SCALE?TURN THE DIAL BACK
A NOTCH IF YOUR STANDARDS ARE UNREALISTICALLY
HIGH...

The scale is relative:your 7 may
be a 10 for others...

10. Dismantling the Process of
Moving Forward: Small Steps to
overcome Perfectionism
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Do you know how to
CONTINUE forward?
The NEXT step?

One of the issues that
perfectionists face is getting
overly caught up in a
TINYdetail that may
not be very important.

Create Structural Tension: According to Robert Fritz,
author of Path of least Resistance, when you know where
you are at a...

11. Become a Scientist in Your
own Life: Observe, Experiment
and Change the Core Concepts
behind Why you are being
a Perfe...

Scientific Process:
Observation
Hypothesis
Experimentation
Data analysis
Peer review

OBSERVE
the stress and other
effects that perfectionism
brings...

Make alternate
HYPOTHESES...
ways other than
Perfectionism...

TEST OTHER
ALTERNATIVES!
EXPERIMENT!

GET DATA on how
letting go of perfectionism is
bringing VALUE to
your life...

Ask objective PEERS to
evaluate
your work! When you do
your BEST,
it is usually GOOD
ENOUGH...

Recognize those cues and replace them with
motivations with a higher purpose such as giving
great value to others...
Disma...

12. A new Model: Value the Process
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Perfectionist are often
obsessed with the way
the end product or
OUTCOME should
look like.

Let us change that model. Slow down and savor
your creative process and your projects and not
be overly caught up with the...

Replace Perfectionism with:
Excellence +
Imperfection +
SAVOR the Journey!
Ability to Fail +
LESS Stress +

SUMMARY
1. Awareness and Realization That you get Stuck by Excessive Perfectionism.
2. There are different types of Perfe...

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