Adultery is a major cause of marriage break ups with unfaithful spouses disturbing the trust shared between them. Depending on the case, options for forgiveness and continuing relationship should be thought and marriage counseling is a good choice for the couple.

1. Restoration
and
Forgiveness
after
Adultery

2. Restoration and Forgiveness after
Marriage is a relation between two
adults that is expected to last for the life
with mutual trust and love for each
other. But, it may not be possible for this
happy ending for all couples. One major
reason for the break ups is adultery,
where the people complain about
husband cheated on me or wife had an
affair. Such cases of unfaithful spouses
mostly lead to the divorce between the
couples.
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3. Restoration and Forgiveness after
How to react after knowing adultery
It can mostly be a knee jerk reaction
after knowing that the wife had an affair
or if the husband cheated on me cases.
Most of these cases with knee jerk
reaction leads to lot of mud-slinging on
each other, emotional stress and results
in extreme hatred towards each other. It
is always possible for saving marriage
after adultery because how to handle a
case of infidelity is more important
rather than infidelity itself.
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4. Restoration and Forgiveness after
Can infidelity be forgiven?
The most important question to answer
oneself in this situation is – What is
love? If love is a relation based on
mutual trust and that the spouse be
faithful and not failing, then adultery
cannot be forgiven. It can only lead to
break up of the couple. Granting
forgiveness is out of the scope in this
case.
But, if love is defined as an
unconditional contribution of the partner
on his or her spouse, then any extreme
case can be considered, thought and
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fixed. But, during such times it is
important to set the boundaries and
limitations for the unfaithful spouse with
an agreement that he or she shall abide
by these. Such cases can lead to a
better endings rather than the marriage
shattered.
Saving a marriage after adultery
There are many instances where cases
of adultery have not resulted in
divorces. Sometimes, the partner
indulging in infidelity truly realizes he or
she has done a mistake which is not
based on any negative feelings on their
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partner. If the spouse also believes that
true love exists in their relation and this
case of adultery can be forgiven, the
marriage can be successfully carried
further.
Counseling for the right advice
Another valuable step towards restoring
the marriage is to approach an
experienced marriage counselor.
Marriage counseling helps to alleviate
the differences between the couple and
helps them towards succeeding in the
relationship. Whilst this is an increasing
option which couples are restoring to, it
is important to identify the right
counselor first –
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Check the years of experience of the
counselor and the history of his
success. This is obtained through
inquiries with friends and family
Different types of counselors exists
these days like individual counselor,
couple counselor, family therapist,
religion based counselor etc. Ensure the
right person is identified
Try to understand his stance during
counseling. A wise one always looks to
heal the relationship by sorting out the
differences and that is the primary
reason people go to them
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8. Restoration and Forgiveness
after Adultery
Counselor should be easily
approachable, else you cannot share
your feelings
Cost, time and other tangible factors
should be checked
The primary reason people resort to
counseling is to sort out issues and aim
for a continued relationship. So, an
open mind is required during
counseling, else it will serve minimum
purpose.
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