WITH SHEILA PEARL - LIFE COACH Pearls of Wisdom...To LIFT your LIFE Mind-Body-Spirit Connections Presents.... ” How to fin...
TROUBLING SITUATION  = OUR BEST TEACHER DIFFICULT CHALLENGE  = GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY
“ Life always gives us exactly  the teacher we need  at every moment.  This includes....every misfortune,  every obnoxious...
HERE IS A SHOCKING  POSSIBILITY: IT IS ALL PERFECT... The GOLD is the GIFT that resides in every circumstance in our lives...
PERSPECTIVE is our REALITY <ul><li>How we experience the stuff of our lives is largely determined by the ATTITUDES we choo...
DISCLAIMER: This Seminar is just a Taste... More to follow... In Books, Workshops & Seminars
You and I are born to be  creators  of our lives... We can choose to  create  joy
Being Joyful & Resilient is MAGIC <ul><li>Positive emotions such as JOY lead to RESILIENCE... </li></ul><ul><li>RESILIENCE...
“ The ability to tap into positivity spells the difference between stress reactions that escalate and endure for days and ...
the GOLD is INSIDE the GUNK...
Defining Moments <ul><li>Three examples of GOLDEN MOMENTS: </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>________...
What made one GOLD & one GUNK? <ul><li>Reasons they were GOLDEN for me... </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><u...
Assessing a Challenging Situation... <ul><li>List 3 PROBLEMS in this situation: </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li>...
What I SEE  Affects my Mood
Negative Emotions narrow the  range of vision, making it difficult to SEE options or be open to connecting Positive Emotio...
When I can ONLY SEE the GUNK,  I feel DOWN, DOWN, DOWN...
“ Narrowed mindsets of negativity can pull you on a  downward spiral and  drain the very life out of you...” --Barbara Fre...
The DOWNWARD Spiral NEGATIVE ATTITUDES THAT CREATE A DOWNWARD SPIRAL...
Negative Attitudes... List 5 Attitudes that bring you DOWN: ________________________________________ _____________________...
NEGATIVITY ATTITUDES... <ul><li>Gloom & Doom </li></ul><ul><li>Bad News & Gossip </li></ul><ul><li>Sarcastic Humor & Self-...
Stop focusing on what you  do NOT have and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all you ARE and  all that you D...
The UPWARD Spiral The Positive  Attitudes That Create an UPWARD SPIRAL...
You cannot always control  what goes on outside,  but you can always control  what goes on inside...
POSITIVE ATTITUDES... List 5 Attitudes that lift you UP: ____________________________ ____________________________ _______...
TEN FORMS OF POSITIVITY... <ul><li>JOY & GRATITUDE </li></ul><ul><li>LOVE & SERENITY </li></ul><ul><li>INTEREST & HOPE </l...
SO...HOW DO WE AVOID GOING DOWN THAT SPIRALING STAIRCASE? AND...HOW CAN WE LIFT OURSELVES BACK UP?
ENJOY YOUR BREAK Be back in 10-minutes PLEEEZE!
.... You are the COMPANY you keep...
You are the Average of the 5 People with whom you spend the most time the 5 People I spend most time with: _______________...
People who pull me DOWN & People who Lift me UP <ul><li>Who pulls me DOWN? </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><...
People I pull DOWN & People I lift UP <ul><li>People I bring DOWN </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_...
SOOO... ONCE AGAIN SLOWLY... HOW CAN I LIFT  MYSELF & OTHERS  UP  UP   UP???
HUG...DANCE...CONNECT
Learning to  SEE  it Creating Your  TOOL KIT
“ Life always gives us  exactly the teacher  we need at every moment....  This includes every misfortune.... every obnoxio...
“ The first core truth about  positive emotions is that they  open our hearts and our minds, making us more receptive  and...
YOUR TOOL KIT <ul><li>BE OPEN </li></ul><ul><li>CREATE high quality connections </li></ul><ul><li>CULTIVATE kindness </li>...
POSITIVITY = UPWARD SPIRAL <ul><li>POSITIVITY Creates the  </li></ul><ul><li>UPWARD SPIRAL </li></ul><ul><li>When Positive...
You have what it takes to free yourself... <ul><li>Negativity can hold you hostage, as if you had cinder blocks tied to yo...
By opening our hearts and minds-- allowing ourselves to expand  and grow--positive emotions energize and inspire us  to di...
When I can SEE the GIFT in the  Problems & Challenges...I can Thrive! <ul><li>POSITIVE EMOTIONS:  </li></ul><ul><li>Feel G...
RESILIENCE IS KEY TO VITALITY <ul><li>Emotionally nimble </li></ul><ul><li>React to what is happening NOW (not what-ifs) <...
FUTURE FORECASTS & ACTIONS <ul><li>One Action I will take THIS WEEK to... </li></ul><ul><li>Make sure I FEEL GOOD </li></u...
A Concluding Story...
One evening an old Cherokee   told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.  He said, “ my son, the battle ...
Get a LIFE LIFT... Call Life Coach  SHEILA PEARL Pearls of Wisdom...to LIFT your LIFE! 201-303-5990
HAVE A WONDER-FULL DAY!!!
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How To Find The Gold

  1. 2. WITH SHEILA PEARL - LIFE COACH Pearls of Wisdom...To LIFT your LIFE Mind-Body-Spirit Connections Presents.... ” How to find the GOLD in the GUNK ”
  2. 3. TROUBLING SITUATION = OUR BEST TEACHER DIFFICULT CHALLENGE = GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY
  3. 4. “ Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes....every misfortune, every obnoxious supervisor (or employee), every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression, every addiction....” --from POSITIVITY by Barbara Fredrickson, PhD
  4. 5. HERE IS A SHOCKING POSSIBILITY: IT IS ALL PERFECT... The GOLD is the GIFT that resides in every circumstance in our lives... What makes something “GOLD” or “GUNK” is simply a PERSPECTIVE
  5. 6. PERSPECTIVE is our REALITY <ul><li>How we experience the stuff of our lives is largely determined by the ATTITUDES we choose...Our attitudes often create our PERSPECTIVE... Our perspective is our REALITY </li></ul>
  6. 7. DISCLAIMER: This Seminar is just a Taste... More to follow... In Books, Workshops & Seminars
  7. 8. You and I are born to be creators of our lives... We can choose to create joy
  8. 9. Being Joyful & Resilient is MAGIC <ul><li>Positive emotions such as JOY lead to RESILIENCE... </li></ul><ul><li>RESILIENCE is not just for the chosen few; it is for the masses. </li></ul><ul><li>RESILIENCE is our ordinary MAGIC! </li></ul>
  9. 10. “ The ability to tap into positivity spells the difference between stress reactions that escalate and endure for days and those that dissipate more quickly...” --Barbara Fredrickson author of POSITIVITY
  10. 11. the GOLD is INSIDE the GUNK...
  11. 12. Defining Moments <ul><li>Three examples of GOLDEN MOMENTS: </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Three examples of GUNKY MOMENTS </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul>
  12. 13. What made one GOLD & one GUNK? <ul><li>Reasons they were GOLDEN for me... </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Reasons they were GUNKY for me... </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul>
  13. 14. Assessing a Challenging Situation... <ul><li>List 3 PROBLEMS in this situation: </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>List 3 BENEFITS of this situation: </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul>
  14. 15. What I SEE Affects my Mood
  15. 16. Negative Emotions narrow the range of vision, making it difficult to SEE options or be open to connecting Positive Emotions expand the range of vision, making it possible to SEE options and be open to receiving help from others
  16. 17. When I can ONLY SEE the GUNK, I feel DOWN, DOWN, DOWN...
  17. 18. “ Narrowed mindsets of negativity can pull you on a downward spiral and drain the very life out of you...” --Barbara Fredrickson, from POSITIVITY
  18. 19. The DOWNWARD Spiral NEGATIVE ATTITUDES THAT CREATE A DOWNWARD SPIRAL...
  19. 20. Negative Attitudes... List 5 Attitudes that bring you DOWN: ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________
  20. 21. NEGATIVITY ATTITUDES... <ul><li>Gloom & Doom </li></ul><ul><li>Bad News & Gossip </li></ul><ul><li>Sarcastic Humor & Self-Deprecation </li></ul><ul><li>Complaints & Criticisms </li></ul><ul><li>Chronically Angry & Grumpy </li></ul><ul><li>Chronically Fearful (the “Worry Wart”) </li></ul><ul><li>Insisting on “Being Right” </li></ul>
  21. 22. Stop focusing on what you do NOT have and shift your consciousness to an appreciation for all you ARE and all that you DO have
  22. 23. The UPWARD Spiral The Positive Attitudes That Create an UPWARD SPIRAL...
  23. 24. You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside...
  24. 25. POSITIVE ATTITUDES... List 5 Attitudes that lift you UP: ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________
  25. 26. TEN FORMS OF POSITIVITY... <ul><li>JOY & GRATITUDE </li></ul><ul><li>LOVE & SERENITY </li></ul><ul><li>INTEREST & HOPE </li></ul><ul><li>PRIDE & AMUSEMENT </li></ul><ul><li>INSPIRATION & WONDER </li></ul>
  26. 27. SO...HOW DO WE AVOID GOING DOWN THAT SPIRALING STAIRCASE? AND...HOW CAN WE LIFT OURSELVES BACK UP?
  27. 28. ENJOY YOUR BREAK Be back in 10-minutes PLEEEZE!
  28. 29. .... You are the COMPANY you keep...
  29. 30. You are the Average of the 5 People with whom you spend the most time the 5 People I spend most time with: _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________
  30. 31. People who pull me DOWN & People who Lift me UP <ul><li>Who pulls me DOWN? </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Who lifts me UP? </li></ul><ul><li>________________ </li></ul><ul><li>________________ </li></ul><ul><li>________________ </li></ul><ul><li>________________ </li></ul><ul><li>________________ </li></ul>
  31. 32. People I pull DOWN & People I lift UP <ul><li>People I bring DOWN </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>__________________ </li></ul><ul><li>People I lift UP </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul><ul><li>_________________ </li></ul>
  32. 33. SOOO... ONCE AGAIN SLOWLY... HOW CAN I LIFT MYSELF & OTHERS UP UP UP???
  33. 34. HUG...DANCE...CONNECT
  34. 35. Learning to SEE it Creating Your TOOL KIT
  35. 36. “ Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment.... This includes every misfortune.... every obnoxious supervisor... every illness... every loss... every moment of joy or depression....”
  36. 37. “ The first core truth about positive emotions is that they open our hearts and our minds, making us more receptive and more creative...” --Barbara Fredrickson, PhD from POSITIVITY
  37. 38. YOUR TOOL KIT <ul><li>BE OPEN </li></ul><ul><li>CREATE high quality connections </li></ul><ul><li>CULTIVATE kindness </li></ul><ul><li>DISPUTE negative thinking </li></ul><ul><li>FIND NEARBY NATURE </li></ul><ul><li>LEARN to apply your strengths </li></ul><ul><li>MEDITATE mindfully & on loving kindness </li></ul><ul><li>RITUALIZE gratitude </li></ul><ul><li>SAVOR positivity </li></ul><ul><li>VISUALIZE your future </li></ul>
  38. 39. POSITIVITY = UPWARD SPIRAL <ul><li>POSITIVITY Creates the </li></ul><ul><li>UPWARD SPIRAL </li></ul><ul><li>When Positive Attitudes Prevail... </li></ul><ul><li>ENERGY and EMOTIONS </li></ul><ul><li>Move UP </li></ul>
  39. 40. You have what it takes to free yourself... <ul><li>Negativity can hold you hostage, as if you had cinder blocks tied to your ankles and a black hood tied over your face. It can keep you so constrained and smothered that you are simply unable to flourish. But the good news is that you have what it takes to free yourself.... </li></ul>
  40. 41. By opening our hearts and minds-- allowing ourselves to expand and grow--positive emotions energize and inspire us to discover and build new skills, new knowledge, and new ways of experiencing life
  41. 42. When I can SEE the GIFT in the Problems & Challenges...I can Thrive! <ul><li>POSITIVE EMOTIONS: </li></ul><ul><li>Feel Good </li></ul><ul><li>Broaden Minds </li></ul><ul><li>Build Resources </li></ul><ul><li>Fuel Resilience </li></ul>
  42. 43. RESILIENCE IS KEY TO VITALITY <ul><li>Emotionally nimble </li></ul><ul><li>React to what is happening NOW (not what-ifs) </li></ul><ul><li>Don't spend energy worrying about future </li></ul><ul><li>Belief in ability to cope with whatever happens </li></ul><ul><li>Adopt a “wait and see” attitude </li></ul><ul><li>Minimize angst by cutting out advance worry and afterglow obsessions </li></ul><ul><li>Focus of reality of present moment </li></ul>
  43. 44. FUTURE FORECASTS & ACTIONS <ul><li>One Action I will take THIS WEEK to... </li></ul><ul><li>Make sure I FEEL GOOD </li></ul><ul><li>__________________________________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Experience BROADENING MY MIND </li></ul><ul><li>__________________________________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Build my RESOURCES </li></ul><ul><li>__________________________________________ </li></ul><ul><li>Create increased RESILIENCE </li></ul><ul><li>__________________________________________ </li></ul>
  44. 45. A Concluding Story...
  45. 46. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “ my son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “ which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “ the one you feed.”
  46. 47. Get a LIFE LIFT... Call Life Coach SHEILA PEARL Pearls of Wisdom...to LIFT your LIFE! 201-303-5990
  47. 48. HAVE A WONDER-FULL DAY!!!

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