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Self Confidence Tips
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- Table of Contents -
7 Secrets to Reclaiming Confidence that Successful People Know 4
7 Small Ideas to Reclaim Confidence in Big Ways 6
8 Tips for Reclaiming Lost Confidence Quickly 8
8 Power-Ups for Reclaiming Confidence 10
7 Things You Can Do to Boost Your Confidence Right Now 12
5 Steps to Fix Confidence Quickly 14
3 Truths About Reclaiming Confidence You Need to Know Right Now 16
5 Things to Reclaim Your Confidence When It Has Taken a Blow 18
6 Ways to Reclaim Confidence After Losing It 20
4 Things You Need to be Doing Now to Reclaim Lost Confidence 22

7 Secrets to Reclaiming Confidence that Successful People Know
Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no
loss of enthusiasm.”
The problem is, enthusiasm can be hard to come by, especially when yours has
taken a beating. Setbacks and disappointments have a way of knocking it down.
We start doubting ourselves and lose sight of who we really are. Without
confidence, it becomes impossible to try, guaranteeing failure.
Thankfully, we know one thing for certain: confidence can be reclaimed, as every
successful person knows. Read on to discover 7 things successful people know
about reclaiming confidence.
They Remind Themselves They Can Do It
Successful people recognize failure is normal. Getting there won’t be without
bumps. The important thing when trying to regain confidence is to realize success
is still a possibility…or even a probability. This is where you remind yourself of
your goal and visualize success all over again.
They Walk Away
There comes a time where a break is the best thing you can give yourself.
Confidence wavers when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Doing a
hobby you love, or even just taking a walk, or spending time with friends, does a
lot toward regaining a positive mindset when you’re feeling frustrated.
They Revisit the Past
Where have you succeeded before? Where have you failed? Everything that’s
come before is a teaching moment. What do you know about yourself already
from these events? Understanding the “you of yesterday” is where your insights
today come from. Confidence comes from using this knowledge well.

They Forgive
Hating yourself for some mistake you made isn’t going to get you anywhere and
only destroys your confidence. Being able to let go and forgive the past is crucial
to future success.
They Keep a Handle on What They’re Saying
Self-talk can be particularly destructive to confidence. How do you talk to
yourself? Are you patient and understanding, or do you tend toward negativity?
Grabbing hold of those mental put-downs will preserve self-confidence. Using
more positive statements will build it up.
They Start Over
The only sure way to fail is to do the same thing, in exactly the same way, when
you’ve already failed the first time. Rather than force failure onto yourself and
eradicate confidence, revamp the strategy. Ask yourself how you can do things
differently this time.
They Keep Trying
Persistence pays off. If you fail and stop, you’ll always think of yourself as a
failure. It’s the person who gets up and tries again who builds confidence as they
go.
In the end, the only way to reclaim your confidence is to put intentional work into
recovering it. By using these tips, you’ll get there. Recognize the process can
sometimes be slow, but success truly does still lie within your grasp, even after a
setback.

7 Small Ideas to Reclaim Confidence in Big Ways
Children are absolutely fearless. If you ever doubt this fact, then spend some time
on a playground, and you’ll see exactly what’s meant by this statement. They
jump into play, enlisting the help of perfect strangers for companionship and to
meet their goals. They climb and run and jump, frequently with unbridled
enthusiasm that adults come to envy.
We’re actually born with confidence. Sadly, this becomes lost through experience.
All it takes is a nasty trip and fall to teach a child to approach life with more care.
As we grow older, the process continues. We lose confidence with every failure
and start taking to heart every harsh criticism. Soon we become so immobilized
we see no way out.
The good news? Confidence can be fixed just by making several small changes in
your life. Read on to find out how.
Honor Small Achievements
If you’re feeling like you never do anything right, making a list of the things you do
well, and the accomplishments you’ve made is a great place to start. Enlist the
help of someone who knows you well, as they’re apt to think of the things you
might be too close to see. Once you have your list, keep it handy and re-read it
when you feel confidence flagging.
Pull Yourself Together
A lack of confidence can make you want to hide in your own clothes. Rather than
losing yourself in baggy, unattractive clothing, pull out the outfits you know you
look good in. You’ll find yourself feeling more confident every time you look in the
mirror.

Clean Up Your Act
Like dressing well, just taking better care of yourself does wonders for confidence.
Eat right, exercise, and be sure to get enough sleep. You’ll feel worlds better,
meaning your outlook likewise improves.
Check the Self Talk
Speaking of outlook, what have you been telling yourself? If you’re hyper-critical,
it’s no wonder your confidence is flagging. Instead, turn your inner dialogue
positive, focusing on the things you like best about yourself.
Challenge Yourself in Small Ways
A little success goes a long way toward improving confidence. Give yourself a task
to do you know you can complete then set about doing it. Just the feeling you get
when you finish is enough to give you a positive boost.
Finish Something
We all have unfinished projects around the house or at work. Digging in and
finishing up something you’ve needed to for a while will serve a twofold purpose:
you’ll feel good about getting something done, and you’ll even reduce some of
the stress hanging over you. Both things increase confidence in giant ways.
Be Nice
Doing a kindness always boosts your own mood. This leads to increased
confidence as you realize you really can make a difference in someone else’s life.
Because confidence comes from acting, use this list as a jumping-off point. Soon
you’ll be discovering a multitude of ways to increase confidence. How exciting is
that?

8 Tips for Reclaiming Lost Confidence Quickly
Not having a good day? Before you start internalizing and ruining what little
confidence you have left after the disaster, think about these things:
Remember Who Loves You
Sometimes just knowing someone is already in your corner is enough to replenish
fading confidence. After all, your friends are your friends for a reason, right? If
you’re feeling particularly alone, you might want to consider your Facebook feed
or Instagram followers. Someone out there cares about you, probably more than
you think.
Realize What Caused the Shift
Something just caused you to lose confidence. What is it? By figuring out where
the problem lies, you’re that much closer to solving it.
Remember Who You Were
Somewhere before this confidence drop, you were someone else entirely. In
other words, if you were confident once, it’s merely a matter of remembering
who that person was. Believe it or not, you’re still the same person inside. You’re
just not feeling it right now.
Figure Out the Goals
How are you supposed to move forward from this point if you don’t know where
you’re going? It’s definitely time to look at the future ahead of you. Where do you
see yourself in a week? A month? A year? What does this person look like? What
are they accomplishing? Here’s where you do some serious goal setting. You’ll be
amazed at how much a solid destination helps confidence.
Try a Strategic Retreat
If your confidence is wavering thanks to the input of a certain situation or
individual, it might be time to pull back. There’s nothing wrong with cutting toxic

people out of your lives, and no one says you need to stay in an unhealthy
situation. The absolute best thing you can do for your confidence is to protect
yourself from things bent on destroying it.
Talk to Your Tribe
It’s nearly impossible to feel confident after a hard blow when you’re going it
alone. Find your friends and supporters. Talk to your mentors. These are people
who are there to help and build you up. Let them.
Act “As If”
Faking it is an amazing magical thing all on its own. Oddly enough, studies have
found that people who go out and fake confidence start feeling genuine
confidence very quickly.
Give Yourself Time
Nothing happens overnight. Realize the process might take longer than you want
it to. Be patient and acknowledge it might be a while before you feel your old self
again.

8 Power-Ups for Reclaiming Confidence
There is nothing more crippling than losing your confidence.
Without confidence, everything gets harder. You struggle to concentrate. Tasks
feel overwhelming. If you stay there, you’ll even find a more long-term emotional
impact, where you might fall into depression or become bogged down in
indecision. Without confidence, you lose all forward progress.
This is why it’s so important to reclaim your confidence after suffering a blow. For
a fast boost, try these eight power-ups.
Do What Makes You Uncomfortable
When you take risks, you stretch yourself in surprising new ways. This is a
powerful feeling. Why? It takes confidence to step outside your comfort zone.
Trying something new forces you to act with confidence, whether you started out
feeling it or not.
Find Your Purpose
Knowing what you’re destined to do is a fantastic feeling and fills a person with
confidence. If you’re unsure why you’ve set a particular goal, or are questioning
what you’re doing, you’re not likely to feel confident at all. Solidifying the goal in
your mind is a rapid boost to confidence then.
Keep Trying
It’s normal to experience failure from time to time. This kind of disaster can easily
destroy confidence. You regain this confidence when you get up and try again.
Learn Things
Knowledge truly is power. When you really understand something inside out, you
tend to be very confident (at least in that area). Continually learning new things

expands your knowledge base. As a result, your confidence extends in new
directions as well.
Drop the Idea Things Have to be Perfect
When nothing is ever good enough, confidence falters. How are you supposed to
feel sure of yourself when you’re feeling things are always unfinished or lacking
somehow? By accepting things as they are, warts and all, you’ll find you’re relax
more and even become more confident in what you’re doing because you’re
telling yourself that what you have or are doing is exactly what you need.
Dress for Success
How we present ourselves to the world really can affect our mental state.
Wearing what makes you feel good about yourself will restore confidence. A
change in attitude is only a change in outfit away.
Trust Yourself
When you doubt your instincts, you’re telling yourself you don’t really know what
you’re doing. This is why it’s so important to ‘go with your gut’ when faced with a
challenge. This kind of trust instills confidence in your ability to judge a situation
or outcome.
Look Forward
Confidence has a hard time standing up to ghosts from the past. When you get
caught up in your previous failures or uncertainties, confidence falters. Instead,
look forward to positive emotions. When you recognize your potential, you start
seeing just how amazing you are.

7 Things You Can Do to Boost Your Confidence Right Now
Confidence is a funny thing. When we have it, we tend to not think about it. We
simply go out and do things. We probably don’t even realize just how amazing
some of those things are.
But when confidence has taken a sharp blow, suddenly everything becomes more
difficult. Even getting started on something so simple as a new project or talking
to a stranger can seem daunting. The world becomes a much more complicated
and difficult place.
So, if you’re needing confidence, you’re in the right place. Read on to find out
about some really clever things you can do to boost your confidence right now.
Make a List
Caught up in a spiral of thinking you never do anything, right? Defeat the blah
blues by making a list of everything you’ve accomplished. You’ll very likely be
pleasantly surprised to find out just how capable you are.
Learn Stuff
Nothing makes you feel more confident than having the feeling you know what
you’re doing. With this in mind, become an expert somewhere. How about
learning how to make the best-mixed drinks, take up a hobby you’ve been
thinking about forever, or get a skill certification at your local community college?
Dress the Part
When you look your best, you can’t help but feel confident. Always wear clothing
that makes you feel like a million bucks.
Understand Your Belief System

Do you hold with certain moral or religious beliefs? Why? Having your values
questioned has a way of demoralizing even the most confident person. On the
other hand, having a clear understanding about what you believe will give you the
confidence to share these beliefs with those around you.
Do What Scares You
Nothing builds confidence more than achieving something you previously thought
was beyond your capabilities. Dare to do something you never thought you’d do.
For some, that might be something super adventurous, like skydiving. For others,
even talking to a stranger can be terrifyingly daunting.
Be Inspired
Feeling like you can’t achieve what you want to? Find books, videos, or
documentaries on people who’ve done something similar. Confidence comes
from knowing what you want in life is possible. If they can do it, you can too!
Analyze Your Actions
Feeling like you’ve been making nothing but the wrong decisions? It’s hard to feel
confident when your moral compass is taking a beating. Ask yourself if your
actions are in keeping with what you believe. If not, something needs to change
before you can be your confident self again.
In all of this, remember the most important thing is to be true to yourself. You’ll
never feel confident if you’re caught up in trying to be something you’re not. Be
true to you first and foremost. The rest will follow.

5 Steps to Fix Confidence Quickly
You didn’t even see it coming. One minute you thought everything was fine, and
the next, you were looking at a disaster. The question is, what are you going to do
next?
Confidence can take a hit anywhere, whether you’re trying to accomplish
something new you’ve never done before, trying to get ahead at work, or even
looking for that special someone. The problem is, without confidence, it’s hard to
pick yourself up and keep going. Since you know the only thing standing between
you and success in moments like this is you, fixing confidence is crucial. Lucky for
you, these five steps should get you there quickly.
Fake It
In psychology, the phrase is to “Act As-If.” How do you do it? If you’re not feeling
confident, act like you are. The funny thing is, once you get started, your body will
kick in and will begin to find the old confidence for you all by itself. Don’t believe
it? An entire Harvard study proved this to be true.
Take Care Of Yourself
Things battering at your confidence can do quite a number on you. Covering up
can only get you so far. Sometimes you just need to deal with the stuff that hit
you hard in the first place. Here is where you acknowledge the emotional impact
of what just happened. It might be you have some stuff to work through. The key
here is not to go, so caught up wallowing in negative emotions that you forget to
heal. Do what you need to process the situation, then move on. Sometimes
therapy helps in this stage if you’re having more trouble than you know how to
handle on your own.

Learn the Lesson
Failure hits confidence hard, but can also be an excellent teacher. Ask yourself
what you can discover from this challenge and allow yourself to grow from the
experience.
Make it Hard
Quitting is the easiest thing in the world to do, especially when your confidence is
shattered. How to hang in there and restore your confidence? Making it
impossible to give up. By using accountability partners or programs, you’ll find it
harder to let go of the project and walk away. The upside to this? By being forced
to keep going, your confidence will begin to rebound.
Look for the Accomplishments
Very rarely are you faced with a total catastrophic failure. Examine what’s going
on. What things went right? Where are the successes? By noticing what you’ve
accomplished, you’ll find your confidence comes creeping back.
Confidence can be a tricky thing, but with some careful examination of what
you’re already doing now and taking some solid action to put yourself back in
motion, you’ll quickly find it’s not as hard to be confident as you once thought it
was. Here then, are the seeds to your future success.

3 Truths About Reclaiming Confidence You Need to Know Right Now
Not everyone is going to get it right. Sadly, there’s always someone quick to point
out when you’re getting it wrong. It’s when you come under fire that you lose
confidence quickly.
To get past this kind of blow to our confidence, you need to understand these
simple truths:
Not Everyone Has It Right. Not Even You
Haters are gonna hate. But just because someone comes at you with the most
reasonable-sounding explanation in the world of why you’re an idiot (and you’re
an expert at giving that speech to yourself), the truth is, the person doing the
talking quite likely doesn’t know what they’re talking about. This is because of
one simple truth: People really don’t know everything, and even when they think
they do, they have a tendency to get things wrong. So just because something
nasty has been said, it doesn’t make it right. Regardless of who it’s coming from.
A Lot of Criticism is Grounded in Jealousy
That disaster you’re beating yourself up over? How much of it was the result of
the green-eyed monster? Too often, we give people authority over us they don’t
deserve. We listen to their complaints thinking they’re right without questioning
why they’re attacking what you’re doing. The biggest culprit of why you’ve drawn
the attention of the critics is jealousy. Don’t let someone pull down your
confidence just because they’re feeling threatened by where you are.
You’re Better Than You Think
The loss of confidence can make you the critic. Why? Because now you’re looking
for justification for thinking you’re no good. And trust me, when you go hunting
for this kind of justification, you’ll always find it. Here’s where you need to back
up and take a good, hard, impartial look at yourself. Ask:

• Is This Thought Really True?
For example, you might be thinking, “I fail at everything I do.” Is this
realistic? Probably not.
• If This Thought Isn’t True, What Emotion is it Coming From?
The most likely explanation? A lot of negative emotions come from fear. In
the previous example, you might be afraid of failing, so by convincing
yourself you’re a failure already, you no longer have to try.
• What’s a Truer Statement I Might Make Instead?
Try rewording the thought and keep it honest. ‘I’m afraid of failing, but
since I’ve succeeded in the past, there’s good reason to think I will succeed
now.”
Confidence comes from accepting the reality of who you are and where you are.
Remember, nobody, not even you, has a right to make you feel small.

5 Things to Reclaim Your Confidence When It Has Taken a Blow
No one is confident all the time. Think about it. Even the superstars have bad days
from time to time. Take for example, actor Christ Pratt. After being cast in several
roles where he played a jerk because (as he was often told), ‘you just look like a
jerk,’ he started doubting himself. He lost his confidence. Yet no one can argue
with his success now.
When we lose our confidence, we initially flounder. Chris Pratt started stress
eating. He even wanted to give up. He didn’t though, and neither should you. In
fact, it’s a lot easier to reclaim your confidence than you think. Even after it’s
taken a severe blow.
Find a Friend
Sometimes the best therapy is to just talk things through with a friend or mentor.
Rehashing what just happened clarifies in your own mind the incident and helps
you to process your emotions connected with whatever caused the blow. Doing
this with a friend means doing this with the help of someone who won’t let you
fall into confidence defeating self-talk. Keep in mind, though, this isn’t the job of a
casual acquaintance. Pick someone you can count on to be honest, who’s already
in your corner.
Dive Back In
Doing nothing guarantees continued failure. This is why it’s so important to jump
back in and try again when your confidence is shaken. Going back to our example
of the actor Chris Pratt, he always kept looking for the next role to play despite
how the previous one turned out.
Celebrate the Successes, No Matter How Small

Once you’re in motion, you’re going to start seeing progress. Embrace even the
tiniest of steps. Anytime you’ve gained momentum, it’s worth celebrating. In fact,
these small successes are what’s going to do the most work in rebuilding
confidence, which you’ll see in the next step.
Revisit Your Accomplishment
Take a minute and think about those things which you have accomplished. By
recognizing you’re capable of success, you’ll start to realize the negative things
you’re telling yourself about you are not necessarily true. Here is where you
recognize you’re worth more than you think. With this comes confidence.
Learn Lessons
Failure is also valuable. It’s in moments of disaster where you learn the best
things. This goes far beyond the basics of finding out what doesn’t work. The best
character-building exercises come straight out of these kinds of mistakes, building
confidence, and showing what you’re capable of.
In the end, Chris Pratt gained his confidence back by following steps very much
like these. He found out he was good at humor and used the lessons learned to
move forward and build a fantastic career. You too can find success and brand-
new confidence again. Hang in there. You’ll be amazed at how far you can go with
a little confidence!

6 Ways to Reclaim Confidence After Losing It
So many things can batter at your confidence. Is it any wonder sometimes you’re
feeling less capable, or even something of a failure? The main thing is not to allow
yourself to stay in this frame of mind for any longer than necessary. Here are
some quick ways to reclaim confidence after losing it:
Watch Your Language
First of all, you’re not a ‘failure,’ and using any variation on that word isn’t going
to help. By paying attention to your self-talk, you’ll find you can shift your focus
very quickly. Reword negatives over to positive phrasing and be careful not to
allow any putdowns in how you think of yourself.
Figure Out the Roadblocks
How are you undermining your confidence? It might be you have some habits or
behaviors which are doing you a lot more harm than good. For example, you
might be hanging out with a ‘friend’ who continually puts you down. While it
might seem hard to do this kind of self-examination at first, it’s absolutely crucial
to protecting your own confidence and ability to move forward. Once you have
these things listed, ask yourself what you can do to change these behaviors.
Find Your Tribe
Nothing builds up confidence, like being surrounded by people who believe in
you. Find friends, mentors, and people who share your interests and are more
interested in building you up than tearing you down. Make concrete plans to
spend more time with these individuals.
Understand Yourself
Sometimes we can’t help but feel shattered, especially when some outside force
(such as the loss of someone dear) has left us emotionally vulnerable. Research
what you’re going through. Understanding where you are and that your reactions

are normal, will go a long way to preserving your confidence as you work through
the crisis.
Practice Self-Care
It’s hard to feel confident when you’re not feeling well. Eat right. Exercise. Get
enough sleep. You’ll be amazed at what attention to the basics does to improve
your outlook and your feelings regarding yourself.
Live in the Moment
Confidence is easily shattered by the failures of the past and can make you feel
weak and frail when faced with an uncertain future. For this reason, take some
time to really focus on the now. Meditation or mindfulness are great ways to
relax and put yourself in the moment. You’ll find yourself feeling a lot calmer and
less stressed, a place where confidence thrives.
Being more confidence happens when you pay attention to what’s hurting your
confidence now. Be mindful of yourself and intentional in your actions.
Confidence will grow best when you pay attention to these details.

4 Things You Need to be Doing Now to Reclaim Lost Confidence
Confidence. It’s such an essential part of who we are, that we become crippled
when we lose it entirely. Even a ding on our confidence levels can have a way of
setting us back or even derailing our day. This is why it’s so important to reclaim
lost confidence quickly when you lose it.
Thankfully, there’s been a lot of scientific study into confidence and what
happens in the brain to inspire it. Read on to find out about 4 scientifically proven
things you need to be doing right now to reclaim lost confidence.
Start with a Vision
Perhaps one of the most underrated techniques to attain success is visualization.
Most people look at this in surface terms. They might picture the project
completed without taking the time to really envision the act in absolute detail.
The thing is the more complex the visualization, the more likely you are to realize
the success you’re striving for. Why? You’re actually building neural pathways
designed to ‘trick’ your brain into thinking you’ve already succeeded, leading you
to step out with a lot more confidence when you’re working toward your goals.
Use Affirmations Often
Silly as it seems, using positive statements about yourself frequently will turn into
positive self-talk. This kind of internal dialogue bolsters confidence without you
even realizing you’re doing it.
Win Lots
How many successes have you had today? Most people would probably say very
few, focusing only on the big victories such as the promotion at work, or meeting
some big relationship milestone. The thing is, our day is filled with small
successes. By recognizing all these minor victories, you signal your brain that, yay,
you did this thing. This creates a rush of dopamine (the ‘feel-good’ brain chemical)
coupled with a dose of testosterone, which acts as an appetite for more victories,

making petty wins addictive. All this together creates a biofeedback loop that
pushes confidence levels higher the more you ‘win.’
Change Your Position
Body language tells the world everything they need to know about you. When
confidence is low, you look it. Your entire body slumps, your limbs feel slack, and
your energy levels drop down to nothing. But doing something so small as sitting
up straighter or taking a more assertive pose, your body recognizes this as
confidence. As a result, you start feeling more confident inside, whether you’d felt
confident before shifting position or not.
Understanding how the mind works make restoring confidence an easy task.
These actions are all simple, easy to do things even when you’re not feeling
confident at all initially. The results will speak for themselves.

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