There’s an old story about a city slicker watching a farmer begin to train a mule. First, the farmer picked up a two-by-four and hit the mule over the head. Then he did it again … and again. The city slicker finally said, “I don’t get it. What are you trying to teach him?”

1. Are you listening to your body?
There’s an old story about a city slicker watching a farmer begin to train a mule. First, the farmer
picked up a two-by-four and hit the mule over the head. Then he did it again … and again. The city
slicker finally said, “I don’t get it. What are you trying to teach him?”
The farmer replied, “I’m not trying to teach him anything yet; I’m just trying to get his attention.”
Every day, your body and mind may be trying to get your attention before you have a big stress
breakdown, resulting in anything from minor illness to a heart attack. Are you paying attention?
Here are some early signals:
• Forgetfulness
You go to the post office, then realize the letter
you needed to mail is back at home.
• Automatic pilot
You mean to do several errands on the way home,
then find you’re sitting in your garage before you
realize it, with the errands undone.
• Living too fast
You’re walking very fast, with your head down, even if you’re not late.
Or you have a half an hour for lunch but finish it in ten minutes.
• Urgency
Believing everything you are doing is so important that it must be done and only you can do it.
Increasingly serious signals include:
• Tunnel vision: irritation at anything or anyone that interrupts your focus
• Realization that you are not enjoying your life and haven’t been for a long time
• You’re fatigued, but you still don’t sleep well
• Vague dread of the coming day, without any specific reason
• Mysterious headaches, backaches, stomach aches … remember when you were a kid and
didn’t want to go to school? Yup, same process.
Stop this process immediately when you detect it. Take an afternoon or an evening to pamper
yourself, listen to soothing music. Walk in the park. Go for a massage or a facial.
This is the time for you to discover that if you take a day off, or even an afternoon off, and do
something wonderful for yourself, you will progress even faster towards your goals. If you don’t
understand that, you are already at least halfway to stress-related illness.

2. Pay attention! Save your own life.
Lynette Crane, M.A.(Psychology) and Certified Life Coach,is a Minneapolis-based speaker, writer,
and coach. She has more than 30 years' experience in the field of stress management. She currently
works to provide stress and time pressure solutions to harried women, those women who seek
"Islands of Peace" in their overly-busy lives. Her talks to groups of what she calls "harried women"
are receiving rave reviews. Visit her website at http://www.creativelifechanges.com/ to see more in-
depth articles and to view her programs.