Excerpts from the YouTube interview of Lewis Howes to British life coach, YouTube personality, and writer Matthew Hussey.

1. WHAT MAKES RELATIONSHIP
BETTER IS TRUE REALNESS,
VULNERABILITY, PEOPLE
LIVING THEIR TRUTH, PEOPLE
BEING MORE REAL, BEING
MORE UPFRONT, MORE
DIRECT.
THISISHOWYOUFINDLOVE(TRANSFORMYOURRELATIONSHIP)
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2. In a world with more noise than ever, everyone's
talking. You can no longer rely on just the
scarcity of people to be special.
You have to have a voice that defines you. You
have to have a voice that makes you different.
M A T T H E W H U S S E Y & L E W I S H O W E S
E X C E R P T F R O M V I D E O
T H I S I S H O W Y O U F I N D L O V E
( T R A N S F O R M Y O U R R E L AT I O N S H I P )

3. IT IS A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
when you stop thinking about your needs and you say
'I'm gonna give this person & look at them from a place
of understanding & want to bring them so much joy &
fulfillment & not expect in return'. But hopefully, the
other person is saying the same thing about you.
M A T T H E W H U S S E Y & L E W I S H O W E S
E X C E R P T F R O M V I D E O
T H I S I S H O W Y O U F I N D L O V E
( T R A N S F O R M Y O U R R E L A T I O N S H I P )

4. is a very hard thing to give up in a relationship
because we've become competitive, often very quickly;
when we feel threatened, when we feel vulnerable,
when our partner has done something to hurt us.
PRIDE
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E x c e r p t f r o m v i d e o
T h s i s h o w y o u f i n d l o v e
( T r a n s f o r m y o u r r e l a t i o n s h i p )

5. REFLEX
RESPONSES ARE
OFTEN BASED ON
INSTINCT & ARE
VERY DANGEROUS
MATTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
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Ths is how you find love (Transform your relationship)

6. We have to love the way
we wanna be loved & we
have to constantly
educate our partner on
what it is to love.
Matthew Hussey & Lewis Howes
Excerpt from video
This is how you find love (Transform your relationship)

7. Don't invest in
someone based on how
much you like them.
Invest in how much
they invest in you.
M A T T H E W H U S S E Y & L E W I S H O W E S
E X C E R P T F R O M V I D E O
T H I S I S H O W Y O U F I N D
L O V E ( T R A N S F O R M Y O U R
R E L A T I O N S H I P )

8. Castles are relationships. A castle
becomes a castle because two
people work on it. And it
becomes unique & ornate &
there's a secret passage that only
the two of you know about.
MATTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
ExCERPT FROM VIDEO
THIS IS HOW YOU FIND LOVE
(TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP)

9. THE ONE-DAY WAGER IS
THE MOST DANGEROUS
WAGER YOU CAN POSSIBLY
MAKE IN YOUR LOVE LIFE.

11. will support you & will do everything in their power
to make you feel safe & to make you feel secure.
MATTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
A loving partner
THIS IS HOW YOU FIND LOVE
(TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP)
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12. WE NEED TO SHOW OUR PARTNER
THAT WE'RE COMMITTED TO OUR
OWN GROWTH.
M A T T H E W H U S S E Y & L E W I S H O W E S
Excerpt from video
This is how you find love
(Transform your relationship)

13. EVERY RELATIONSHIP
HAS A FLOWER & A
GARDENER. SOMETIMES
YOU HAVE TO BE THE
GARDENER, NO MATTER
HOW LONG YOU'VE
PLAYED THE FLOWER.
Matthew Hussey & Lewis Howes
Excerpt from video
This is how you find love
(Transform your relationship)

14. Part of growing up is
realizing that 'I wasn't
always right '.
MA TTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
Th i s i s h ow you fi n d lov e
(Transform your relati onshi p)
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15. If you find someone who sees you and who
really gets you, then all of a sudden you
don't feel so alone in the world.
MATTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
E X C E R P T F R O M V I D E O
T H I S I S H O W Y O U F I N D L O V E
( T R A N S F O R M Y O U R R E L A T I O N S H I P )

16. MISTAKES
MAKE
RELATIONSHIPS
BETTER
MATTHEW HUSSEY & LEWIS HOWES
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THIS IS HOW YOU FIND LOVE
(TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP)
IF YOU CAN IMPROVE FROM
THEM & MOVE ON & BE THE
THINGS YOU WANNA BE NOW.

17. V U L N E R A B I L I T Y I S
A B S O L U T E L Y A N A C T O F
C O U R A G E .
I T S H O U L D B E
E N C O U R A G E D M O R E F R O M
B O T H S E X E S .
Matthew Hussey & Lewis Howes
Excerpt from video
This is how you find love
(Transform your relationship)

18. “I need to show up for my partner
in ways that they need me, not just
ways that are comfortable to me".
In other words, pay attention to
what your partner actually needs.
Matthew Hussey & Lewis Howes
Excerpt from video
This is how you find love
(Transform your relationship)