Talk by Bill Kemp, editor of “Help! My Church is Leaving Me,” a guidebook for negotiating our changing UMC. This workshop is not designed to rehash the LGBTQ issue but to provide clergy and interested laity with a strategy for navigating the future with balance and integrity. Whether the recently proposed “Protocol of Reconciliation & Grace through Separation” is adopted or not, we are amid a time of transition. Healthy change leaders will focus on the following tasks: 1) Acceptance of Current Reality, 2) Clarification of Congregational Identity, 3) Adapting to Loss and New Leadership, 4) Adopting a Process for making tough Decisions, and 5) Discerning Future Ministry & Mission. Remaining a healthy, non-anxious, and self-differentiated church leader will be critical.
5. Bishop James Osgood
Andrew
General
Conference 1845
1) Church rules ignored by a
Bishop
2) Individual Conscience is
Polarized
3) The conflict within the
church mirrors the
conflict outside in the
nation
6. WHAT ARE THE ODDS?
• The General Conference
votes a fair separation
plan
• The WPA Conference
votes a to be on your side
• Everyone in your
congregation is okay with
the above
• You do not experience a
change in leadership
12. NON-ANXIOUS PRESENCE
• Learn to Listen
• Accept Ambiguity
• Talk about what will Change &
what does not Change
• Avoid Simplistic Answers
• Never be Negative or
Judgmental
13. 5 DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS
1. Accept Current Reality
2. Clarify Identity (DNA)
3. Adapt to Loss and
Leadership Change
4. Adopt a Process for making
the tough Decisions
5. Discern Future Mission &
Ministry
21. How do you SEE your church?How do you SEE your church?
22. • Your congregation’s
identity (DNA) will
determine who it attracts as
members and leaders
• Saying that we are
Wesleyan, Methodist, or
Biblical, is not enough
• A Congregation’s identity
(DNA) far outlasts its
current pastor
24. DNA IS IN THE CARDS
Where is the leadership’s heart/passion?
• Spades: In preserving the
buildings and traditions of
the church
• Clubs: In bringing in the next
generation
• Hearts: Mission and Outreach
• Diamonds: Making the
worship and programs of the
church be the highest quality
27. “Now the people
complained about
their hardships…
We remember the
fish we ate in Egypt
at no cost—also the
cucumbers, melons,
leeks, onions and
garlic. ”
- Numbers 11:1&5
In the wilderness, leaders help people adjust to their loss
31. STEP FOUR: Adopt a Process for making the
tough Decisions
The Formula:
• Hilary has a budget and
a deadline to renovate
the old house
• David has a budget and
a wish-list to fulfill from
the current real-estate
listings
• The home-owners must
choose: Love It or List
It
32. REMEMBER THE WILDERNESS RULE &
Build confidence in your decision-making process
before deciding to change your relationship to the UMC
33. DISCERNMENT: Perception in the
absence of judgment with a view
to obtaining spiritual guidance and understanding
There are only
3 ways to make a
decision:
• Authority
• Vote
• Discernment
34. STEP FIVE: Discern Future
Mission & Ministry
A good hockey
player plays
where the puck
is.
A great hockey
player plays
where the puck
is going to be.”
- Wayne Gretzky
“Only an
idiot
would
chase
what used
to be...
35. THREE QUESTIONS:
1) Who can be a
disciple of Jesus
Christ?
2) What relationships
will we bless?
3) How will this
Church transform
society?
36. Here and now,
we are children
of God.
What we will be
has not yet been
made known.
But we know
that when Christ
appears, we shall
be made like
him...
(I JOHN 3:2 )
37. • Always practice self-
care
• Expect Leadership
Change & Dislocation
• Be Intentional &
Transparent
• Remember that you
are only responsible
for the next step
MY ADVICE:
38. BILL’S ETHICS:
1) Always be
compassionate
2) Awareness beats
Ignorance
3) Never let your ends
determine your means.
(process first)