This document provides advice from Ibn Al-Qayyim on dealing with struggles in life. The key points are: - Friends and loved ones cannot literally share your struggles or physically take away your pain. You must look after yourself. - When difficulties come, only you can heal yourself and regain determination to continue. Do not rely on others. - Find self-worth from within by having an at peace conscience, not from what others say about you. Live according to pleasing Allah, not worrying over life's uncertainties.

1. A friend will not
(literally) share
your struggles,
Be certain that
when you break
no one will heal
you except you,
protect it,
nurture it...and
don't give life's
events more
than what they
are really worth
A closeone will
not stay up the
night on your
behalf
A loved one
cannot
physically take
away your pain,

2. I have never read something as beautifully written as this....amazing advice by the great scholar,
Ibn Al-Qayyim..:
"A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, an a loved one cannot physically take away
your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf...so look after yourself,
protect it, nurture it...and don't give life's events more than what they are really worth...Be certain
that when you break no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will
give you victory except your determination...your ability to stand up again and carry on is your
responsibility...Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from
within your conscious...if your conscious is at peace then you will ascend high...and if you truly
know yourself then what is said about you won't harm you.
A close one will not stay up the night on your behalf
Do not carry the worries of this life... because this is for Allah...and do not carry the worries of
sustenance because it is from Allah...and do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in
the Hands of Allah...
Carry one thing: How to Please Allah. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfils you
and enriches you. Do not weep from a life that made your heart weep...just say "oh
Allah...compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter".
Sadness departs with a sajdah...happiness comes with a sincere du'a...Allah Does Not forget the
good you do...nor Doe He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them
from...Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh...
Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don't receive good...not because of other's
sake but because Allah Loves the good doers".
when you are
defeatednoone will
give you victory
except your
determination.
so look after
yourself,
your abilityto
standupagain
and carryon is
your
responsibility.