Every aspect of a breakup is usually pretty awful. However, there are a few things you can do to make a breakup feel even worse. The real problem is a lot of us engage in these sorts of behaviors, sometimes in a masochistic sense that only seems to continue our own misery. It is important to have a clean break from your ex and to avoid the following behaviors. Leslie Jo Saul is a Certified Master Neuro-Linguistic Life Coach (MNLP) and Clinical Hypnotherapist (C.ht). Leslie received her diploma in Healing and Success Arts and Sciences from Bennett Stellar University, an internationally recognized school of Life Coaching, with emphasis in relationships and certifications in the additional areas of DreamSculpting®, TimeLine Regression & Trauma Release, Hypnosis Mastery, and Communications and Life Mastery.

1. Harmful
Post-­‐Breakup
Behavior
By
Leslie
Jo
Saul
February
25,
2014
Every
aspect
of
a
breakup
is
usually
pretty
awful.
However,
there
are
a
few
things
you
can
do
to
make
a
breakup
feel
even
worse.
The
real
problem
is
a
lot
of
us
engage
in
these
sorts
of
behaviors,
sometimes
in
a
masochistic
sense
that
only
seems
to
continue
our
own
misery.
It
is
important
to
have
a
clean
break
from
your
ex
and
to
avoid
the
following
behaviors.
 Do
not
jump
into
bed
with
someone
else
right
after
a
breakup.
It
may
feel
empowering
at
first,
but
really
you
are
just
reminding
yourself
of
what
it
was
like
with
your
ex.
Sleeping
with
someone
new
is
an
important
part
of
getting
over
your
ex,
but
it
shouldn’t
happen
until
you
have
emotionally
connected
with
someone
else
and
feel
that
you
are
ready.
 It
is
also
important
to
stop
stalking
your
ex
on
social
media.
It
will
only
bring
pain
to
look
through
his/her
photos
and
wonder
what
they
are
up
to
every
moment
of
the
day.
If
you
feel
like
you
can’t
stop
yourself
from
looking
through
their
accounts,
it
may
be
wise
to
‘unfriend’
and
cut
yourself
off
from
them
for
a
while.
 Do
not
revisit
your
old
spots
to
try
to
run
into
them.
This
will
be
painful
for
you
and
very
obvious
if
you
do
see
them
at
that
coffee
place
just
around
the
corner
from
their
apartment.
Do
not
put
yourself
in
that
situation,
find
different
places
to
make
your
own.
 Closure
is
not
often
possible,
and
not
often
necessary.
Meeting
up
post
break-­‐up
usually
just
results
in
someone
wanting
an
apology.
Even
if
‘closure’
happens
there
is
a
reason
you
are
not
together
anymore
and
a
magical
post
break-­‐up
meeting
is
not
going
to
change
that.
 Do
not
constantly
talk
about
your
ex.
Although
it’s
hard
because
you
shared
a
lot
together,
try
to
keep
yourself
in
check.
Filter
your
stories
so
your
friends
don’t
have
to
hear
about
him/her
all
the
time.
If
you
really
need
to
have
a
conversation
about
your
ex
with
your
friends,
frame
it
as
such.
Constantly
dropping
your
ex
into
other
conversations
will
get
old
very
quickly.

2. 
Do
not
lose
it
over
your
ex
meeting
someone
else.
It
is
not
healthy.
It
is
perfectly
reasonable
to
be
upset
with
the
new
boyfriend/girlfriend
your
ex
has,
but
don’t
broadcast
it
publicly.
They
have
moved
on
and
it’s
time
that
you
did
so
too.
Leslie
Jo
Saul
is
a
Certified
Master
Neuro-­‐Linguistic
Life
Coach
(MNLP)
and
Clinical
Hypnotherapist
(C.ht).
Leslie
received
her
diploma
in
Healing
and
Success
Arts
and
Sciences
from
Bennett
Stellar
University,
an
internationally
recognized
school
of
Life
Coaching,
with
emphasis
in
relationships
and
certifications
in
the
additional
areas
of
DreamSculpting®,
TimeLine
Regression
&
Trauma
Release,
Hypnosis
Mastery,
and
Communications
and
Life
Mastery.