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1. 9 Mistakes To Avoid When Overcoming Social Anxiety
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Overcoming social anxiety is hard.
No
Let me correct myself...
Overcoming social anxiety is next to impossible if you donâEUR(TM)t have the right advice. If
youâEUR(TM)re suffering through anxiety knowing the most common mistakes can really make a
difference when changing this part of your life.
When you donâEUR(TM)t watch out for these mistakes youâEUR(TM)ll repeat them over and over
again, and never realize youâEUR(TM)re doing it. Once you get the right foundation on how to
overcome social anxiety you move forward in the right direction. YouâEUR(TM)ll know where you
went wrong when you get a setback.
In short, not only are these nine mistakes, they are also nine tips on how to be more successful in
overcoming social anxiety.
Save them in your computer or print it out so you can always refer back to it.
So without further ado here are the nine mistakes:
#1 Seeking Approval
You might feel the need to get approval from the people around you. Once you start getting approval
you can start to overcome social anxiety more and more...Right? Nope, this is one of those things
that works backwards. If people see that you DONâEUR(TM)T need their approval they are most
likely going to give it. They wonâEUR(TM)t treat you âEURoeniceâEUR because you are openly
showing weakness. You have to be street smart when it comes to social anxiety.
#2 âEURoeNeedingâEUR Friends Too Much
Learn the ultimate rule of negotiations...if you need something really badly youâEUR(TM)re going
to get a bad deal. When you need something A LOT youâEUR(TM)ll probably do anything to get
it...Especially if you have shyness and anxiety against you. YouâEUR(TM)re going to end up with
unappreciative friends, friends who will take you for granted.
#3 Only Sticking To One Group Of Friends
The best thing to do is try to make friends in different groups. The worst thing you can do is rely on
only one set of friends. When all your effort is put into one group of people and it fails

2. youâEUR(TM)re going to suffer a big blow to your confidence.
#4 Having Zero Boundaries
Think of all the things others have done to upset you. Make a list and commit to yourself that you
will not accept those things in your life. DonâEUR(TM)t let it happen more than once with a
person. ThatâEUR(TM)s the rule, donâEUR(TM)t let it happen more than once. Boundaries is
what creates strong character.
#5 Withdrawing From Set-Backs
Have you ever encountered a set-back or a failure and decided to quit? A set-back or
âEURoefailureâEUR is in reality a challenge. When something gets challenging just stick to it a
little more to get the experience.
#6 Staying Away From People You Envy
The people you envy have what you want. A better social life. You can either envy them from a
distance and secretly think bad of them; or you can be friends with them. These people will become
your best friends if you approach them nicely.
#7 Staying At Home
Making yourself step out of the house regularly will help you condition yourself to the outside social
environment. Examples of places you can go is the library, the mall or even better volunteer groups.
This gets you into a momentum of being in social environments. But make sure not to lose a 1-2
times a week rhythm because once you stop your mind will get lazy.
#8 Being A Conformist
When you try too hard to fit in it stands out in a negative way. It says that you are seeking approval.
ItâEUR(TM)s actually ok to have a different opinion or style than others. The mistake is agreeing
with everything others have to say at the risk of looking like youâEUR(TM)re different. As you start
to get better and better at overcoming social anxiety this will become easier to do.
And finally the last one:
#9 Being Too Cautious
At some point youâEUR(TM)re gona have to take a leap of faith and stand in the fire so-to-speak,
take the heat...even if itâEUR(TM)s just a little bit. When youâEUR(TM)re suffering from anxiety
being socially cautious is in your nature. But being overly cautious is what keeps you from ever
overcoming it.
If you find yourself not being able to overcome anxiety it usually relates back to one of these points.
Once you learn these nine points the next step for you is to learn social tactics for getting people to
like you. Go to the AuthorâEUR(TM)s Bio below and click on the link provided to learn those tactics
Author's Bio:Â

3. I used to be the guy who showed up to hang out and people would say âEURoeWhyâEUR(TM)d
they have to bring HIM?âEUR and they avoided talking to me or even looking in my direction. In
high school I used to read about cool scientific facts and knowledge about the universe. And
IâEUR(TM)d remember it for conversation starters thinking it will mesmerize people and get them
to notice me.
But no one cared. I was shy, introverted and usually lonely.
But I wasn't the type to throw in the towel. I studied some of the most outgoing people around and
read about anthropology, ethology and psychology to understand what makes them so likable from a
scientific point of view. Eventually I started getting the same success they were and created step by
step methods to teach other introverted, shy men about being social and outgoing.
I met some famous people from Miss Korea, Jean-Claude Van Damme to small time movie directors
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I coached many guys over the years and took them from shy and meager to being the center of their
social circle. Once they became successful they never went back to being the same again. You
should check out my page if you want to learn more about my systems and methods
http://www.crushsocialanxiety.com
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