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Difficult People
1. 6/8/2010 Cope, Inc.
A Work & Life Article
Difficult People
Difficult people are part of life - at work and outside of work. Where two or more people gather together,
someone is likely to be or become difficult. It could be you.
We all have moments when we react in a hostile way, are indecisive or just don’t feel like being flexible on an
issue. Some people however, are difficult by nature and are consistently hard to deal with. The only way to
cope with their behavior is to learn how to minimize their impact.
What You Need to Know About Difficult People
Difficult people have learned that their behavior keeps others off balance and unable to work effectively. If
you passively accept their unpleasant behavior it will continue - their tactics work. When you respond in a
calm but firm manner however, you empower yourself and shift control away from the difficult person back to
the larger group.
How to Recognize and Cope with 3 Types of Difficult People
1. Hostile and Aggressive: these people try to bully and overwhelm by bombarding others like a tank with
hurtful remarks or they strike like a sniper, and then disappear.
1. The Tank - The bully who rolls over people like a tank has a strong need to prove that his view
of the world is right. The bully favors combativeness as a communication style and respects
confidence in others. Demeaning someone is one way to demonstrate combativeness and a
sense of confidence. The bully devalues people he believes lack these qualities. How to COPE
with a Tank - you can see them coming, because they roll over you
Let the bully rage for a short while until the anger loses some momentum
Remain in place and look directly at them
Do not worry about being polite
If interrupted, say, “you interrupted me, XXXX" calling them by their name
If seated, stand up. Try to get the bully to sit down.
Speak from your point of view -"In my opinion..."
Stand your ground without letting the argument escalate
2. The Sniper - If it is a sniper you have on your hands, then the coping tactics are different.
Snipers take shots at you or others that are harder to recognize. They use not-so-subtle digs,
gossip or they tease. The sniper craves control of the situation, but won’t say so. How to COPE
with a Sniper - they are harder to spot, because their tactics are subtle
Ask them to speak clearly and directly when they disagree
Call them out by asking, “That sounded like a dig. Do you mean it that way?"
If the sniping is in front of others, stop and address the attack then
Phrase your response as a question which gives the sniper an alternative to fighting
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