MEET AND MAINTAIN BUDDIES IN 10 EASY WAYS
Friends are the flowers in the garden of life. With their warm and heart-warming behaviour,
their concern and care for you, you would feel like you are the luckiest person in the world.
There are bosom friends, close friends, late night friends, just friends, and what not. But
sometimes, life is not that easy, you have to move away from their due to unforeseen
circumstances. How would you feel? A new place, possibly a new language, a new area,
new neighbours, new colleagues or classmates, everything is brand new. Your wish for a
brand new close friend, is hanging in the air, because you can’t get the exact idea of where
to start. You wish to talk to the person or your colleague sitting next to you but you cannot
figure out on what topic you will talk, and the worst part is you are not able to just speak at
random. These phases will occur when you try to find a new best friend.
Some people are born connected. They can easily mingle in the crowds, can converse
easily with their colleagues and in no time become the popular girl or boy in the group. On
the other hand, some are extremely introvert types. They are reticent and shy in nature
though they want to be friends with people. These are some of the tips that you may follow
to have new connections and good friends. Here’s what you can do.
• Try focusing on who you really are, and what you want in other person to be your
friend. This is the first step of your journey. Either, you want to be with the peers
resembling to your taste, age or fashion. You will be really comfortable with them.
Or, you want a new genre of people who differ from you, but still can make you feel
“in” by their unique ability to present out their views to you.
• Constantly keep in mind that a person's name is one of the most vital and the most
gorgeous word one can hear. Speaking the person's name to them a few times or
keeping in mind the name on a paper can help you bear in mind the name.
Welcoming a person by name is vital.
• Try the naming technique. Nothing sounds better then calling a person by his/her
name. Rather than calling him by addresses like, Mister or miss, or lady or
gentlemen, or even excuse me, just say “Hello Gilbert hope you are doing fine “, or
“it was nice meeting you Kate.” People would automatically warm up to you by the
address you gave. If you cannot remember the name write it down in pen and
paper. Just try it out and see the welcoming response because it’s an essential part
of building the bond and trust between two persons.
• If you are new to the place, find a venue where you can communicate with
people. Visit places like shopping malls, gymnasium, theater, or restaurants, or the
best option is book store or a library. If you go to a gymnasium, there would be
oodles of people, exercising like you. So it would be easy to ask to someone whom
you find a bit comfortable. Start with hello, I am finding some trouble with the
equipments would you please help me? This is very normal. But you don’t always
have to ask for help. This was situational example. You can start moderately by
asking the person that can you join him/her as you don’t know about the place, or
asking him about the places to visit. But be careful, until you become close, do not
reveal too much about yourself. Just keep a normal conversation.
• Make sure that you are not interrupting the conversation. You might talk with a
group, but don’t just butt in and start talking about your problem. Wait for them to
• Wear a genuine smile when you talk. Do not show your teeth much; it’s a sign of ill
manners. Listen to them attentively and respond after understanding to what they
have to say. Get along with their moods, so that their approach to you would be
clearer. Do not wear a fake or a plastic smile; people are smart enough to guess.
Perk up your mood and join the crowd.
• Be confident and be smart. However do not sound so arrogant that the other will
spill his/her drink on your face. Have a satisfaction of the information gained from
the other person. And before leaving thank him.
• Maintaining eye contacting is one crucial factor in field of communication. So, while
talking with the person, look him in the face and talk. Do not look here and there
and everywhere. Looking at the person will make him feel that you want to
understand them. Listen attentively, and respond to the questions with a positive
attitude with intrinsic good manners. You can ask questions regarding their topic
which would please them. Take a usual theme regarding, restaurants, food and
drinking, or entertainment. Discussing Sports is a good way to go, or talk about
pets, or beauty products. Make a flow with your words so that their interest would
also be raised in your topic. Just be yourself then. You can laugh all you want or
smile, or make moderate jokes. Being original really helps. If the people will
understand what you are, and have no objection to that, they will certainly accept
you. Now you just have to march on and get some buddies by your shoulder.
• Social networking is a universal mode of communication and making friends. Social
media sites like Zorpia, Facebook and others help the person to find a partner of
his own interests and choice. They can easily communicate on line and share their
likes and dislikes, and gradually after knowing each other for a period time they can
become good friends and share personal spaces too.
• These on line networking sites are attractive, but there are certain safety measures
that you have to take before chatting with an unknown person. People that you find
in sites like Zorpia Facebook or Twitter can be false some times. There are
recorded cases of frauds happening. So unless, you are thoroughly acquainted with
your on line friend, do not give away your personal details like your picture, your
home address or your cell phone number. It is positively a dangerous territory. If you
find that person suspicious just stop talking to him/her. Virtual warmness is not an
option to physical friendship. Also, one thing to remember is while you chat on line;
do not forget your old pals, your real world friends, with whom you share your life.
Make new friends but stay in a safety zone.