Building for Generations: Product dictates design

1. Building for Generations
Product dictates design

3. Where are
you going?

5. Parenting

6. Parenting
A process where it is legal to
punish someone else for your
crimes.

8. If you want to be successful you
must respect one rule:
Never lie to yourself.
~ Paulo Coelho

9. Who’s responsible?
•If your child doesn’t study?
•If your child has no manners?
•If your child is not connected to Allah‫?ﷻ‬
•If your child has no life skills?
So who must be punished?But who is punished?

10. Do you want to change this?

11. Qualities of the Parent
1. Inspire respect & confidence
2. Demonstrate high values and moral standards
3. Communicate with understanding & respect
4. Motivate & create excitement in learning
5. Demand commitment & rigor
6. Never compromise on quality & principles
Remember: Children listen with their eyes

13. How are you on this list?
How do you
know?

14. Guide not Force
1. Don’t live out your fantasies through your
children
2. They’re individuals. Not your alter ego.
3. Don’t force them to do what you couldn't do or
what you think is best for them
4. Let them realize their own potential. Not yours.
Our generation made this world – not theirs

15. Reality
1. They belong to Allah‫,ﷻ‬ not to you
2. You don’t own them, you hold them in trust
3. Allah‫ﷻ‬ will hold you accountable for them, not
them for you
4. They are your Thawaab-ul-Jaariya
And your dua is their most powerful resource

16. What to do??

17. 3 – Key Steps
1. Accept that you need to change
2. Own up to your responsibility
3. Make Tawba and seek forgiveness
Prepare to take the pain

18. COMMUNICATE
1. Listen
2. Reflect
3. Seek clarity
4. Listen again
And again

19. Is this your child?

20. Then Why?
Do you imagine that
telling and forcing will
work?

21. New Way
1. Seek to understand them
2. Support them
3. Show them why your way is better
4. Show them WiiFM
Be prepared to work hard

22. Justice
1. Involve them in decisions that concern them
2. Seek their opinion seriously
3. Understand their fears
4. Get their buy-in to an exciting future
5. Challenge them and show the benefit
Otherwise prepare to fail

23. Teach Values first?
•Why Values?
• Inspire and motivate
• Sustain through hardship
• Provide a sense of purpose
• Create resilience
• Anchor self esteem and identity
Values can’t be legislated. They must be inculcated

24. Integrity
Integrity is one of several paths ~
But it’s the only one on which you will never be lost

25. 6 – Critical Attitudes
1. Power to envision the future
2. Courage to question & take a stand
3. Determination to set extraordinary goals
4. Tools to derive their own solutions
5. Willingness for team-work & collaboration
6. Lifelong openness to learning
Teach tools because you don’t know the future

27. And remind them that…..
•Current circumstances don’t determine whether
you will succeed or fail, they only determine
where you need to start.
Courage is a factor of faith

28. To teach the child to succeed in a
future that you know nothing
about
Your challenge

30. Action Steps
Start Stop Continue

31. A successful parent is one who enables
the child to leverage its strengths and
sets its feet on a path of self discovery
where s/he constantly strives to make
the world a better place.

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