“Happiness is the meaning and thepurpose of life, the whole aim andend of human existence.” - Aristotle
These habits will not solve all your problems and make you happy all the time from now on, but itcontains some of the pieces that I believe are most important for living a happy life. Those pieces,or habits, can help you to feel happier a lot more and help you to handle challenges in your life.But to gain the benefits you have to implement the advice consistently. You have to live it.
Habit # 1 : Choose HappinessThe first thing you must do is to choose happiness. Just like misery. Both of them are optional. As you usethese techniques you start to realize more and more how much you can affect and choose your ownhappiness. Just like tying your shoes choosing to be happy is a conscious choice. You choose eachday what you focus on and how you interpret your reality. “Most people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” Abraham Lincoln
Habit # 2 : Keep Your Focus on What You WantWhat you think about most of the time you see around you and become. If you see the world andyourself through a lens smudged by negativity then you’ll find much misery. If you look outwards andinwards through lens brightened by positivity you’ll find much to be happy and appreciative about.So being happy or miserable is seldom so much about the external circumstances at the moment.
Habit # 3 : Be Grateful for What You GotJust appreciate the weather, your friends and family, the food in front of you, your roof and cleanwater, your awesome shoes and the cute wo/man that just walked by. Yeah, it might seem a bit silly.But just doing this for two minutes really works well to turn a sour mood into a more positive and openone. Do this whenever you feel down or like your focus is in the wrong place.
Habit # 4 : Use Big and Written goalsBy setting goals, writing them down and posting them on a wall where you can see them every dayyou can keep your focus steadily on what you want instead of what you don’t want out of life. I wouldalso recommend setting big goals, not reasonable ones. Suddenly, I felt uncomfortable but alsoexcited. My mind started to spit out solutions to help me reach that goal. "Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
Habit # 5 : Ask Yourself Useful QuestionsThis is a powerful way to refocus if you slip or to find even more clarity in what you choose to focus yourtime and energy towards. Here are two great ones. 1) Is this useful? By asking if something is useful youcan stop yourself while heading down a negative path. What is awesome about this situation? Yourmind starts to accept that you can indeed find something good in just about any situation. “Very little is need to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius
Habit # 6 : Choose an Environment of HappinessYour environment has a big influence over you. You are in it every waking hour so you need tobe proactive and create an environment that supports your happiness and habits. Being a bitruthless and cutting out as much of the negative influences and busywork makes your mindclear, uncluttered and focused.
Habit # 7 : Socialize with People that Lift You UpSome people tend to drag you down. Some people may be kinda indifferent. Some people tend to liftup you up and support and motivate you. Focus on spending as much of your time as you can with thethird group of people. It will be very hard to live a happier life if the people you hang out with the mostalways are negative and complain about everything.
Habit # 8 : Create an Action Habit.I admit, it’s not always easy to take action. It can be scary and difficult. But if you don’t take actionyou’ll be missing out on most things. Including many moments, people and experiences that canbring you a lot of happiness. If you don’t create a habit where you take a lot of action you won’t geta lot of results in real life. "Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.” Dennis Waitley
Habit # 9 : Use a Morning RitualYou simply set up a routine in the morning that you do as soon as you wake up. This works so wellbecause what you do early in the day often sets the context for your day. As humans we have astrong tendency to want to be consistent with what we have done before. That’s one big reasonwhy a bad start often leads to a bad day and a good start often leads to a good day. "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain
Habit # 10 : Do Things Even If You Don’t Feel Like ItYour inner voice and feelings can be disregarded if you like. You can do whatever you want todo anyway. Just do it. The more you get into habit of doing this, the easier it will become. Focuson and take responsibility for the process, not the potential results. Take responsibility for showingup and doing your workout.
Habit # 11 : Be Here NowTomorrow isn’t here yet. Yesterday has passed. Now is the present moment. And all three of them arealways the present moment when we are living in them. So much time is lost by thinking compulsively,over and over again, about things we have little control over. And it distracts us - blurs our vision andshatters our focus - and keeps us from fully enjoying what is really the most important time. Now."The secret of health for bothmind and body is not to mourn forthe past, nor to worry about thefuture, but to live the presentmoment wisely and earnestly.” - Buddha
Habit # 12 : Help and Make Other People HappyWhen you do the right thing and make people happy you feel good about yourself. When you makesomeone else happy you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you.And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside. People will feel like giving back toyou. So focus on giving happiness instead of zeroing in on receiving it. It’s better for everyone. If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap. If you want happiness for a day — go fishing. If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else. - Chinese Proverb
Habit # 13 : You and Your Relationship with YourselfNow, increasing the love and value you give isn’t only about other people and what they give back.By doing positive things for other people you start to see yourself as a person who is better and moredeserving of more love, good things and happiness in life. This is essential to avoid self-sabotage onyour path to more success and happiness in life. "Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” - Eleanor Roosevelt
Habit # 14 : Don’t compare yourself to other peopleOne thing that can cause quite a bit of unhappiness is comparing yourself to other people and theirlives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on. Andat the end of the day you create a lot of negative feelings within. And perhaps also outside ofyourself. This won’t help anyone. "If men would consider not so much wherein they differ, as wherein they agree, there would be far less of uncharitableness and angry feeling in the world.” - Joseph Addison
Habit # 15 : Compare yourself to yourselfSee how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towardsyour goals. This habit has the benefit of creating gratitude, appreciation and kindness towards yourselfas you observe how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome and the good stuff youhave done. You feel good about yourself without having to think less of other people.
Habit # 16 : Do What You Love to DoWhen you do something you love you don’t have to push yourself so much. You keep going becauseyou like doing it, not just because your want to reach some goal (although that can be exciting too).Taking action also becomes natural when you doing something you really want to do. A lot of the timeyou can’t wait to get going with it. "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” Albert Schweitzer
Habit # 17 : Explore YourselfWhat activities make you feel the happiest? What activities that you do make time just disappear? Youmay also want to think back and explore your past. If you are really busy with life – family, long hours atwork etc. – then what were the things you used to do when you were younger and had more free time?And what things did you have a talent for or what skills have you developed throughout your life?
Habit # 18 : Let GoWe often carry with us a lot of stuff. Not in our hands perhaps. But in our minds. It can become like youare carrying half the world on your back. Not very helpful. So you need to let go of things. Not only tomove lighter and more freely. But also to be able to fully move forward in life. Letting go enables youto drop irrelevant stuff and makes the choice to focus on the stuff that bring you happiness easier. "When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” - Lao Tzu
Habit # 19 : Give Up “Being Right”Realize that you may cling to things because they might make you feel right as you replay anargument or conflict over and over in your mind. It gives you a certain sense of satisfaction asthe other person is wrong. But you have to give up that kind of satisfaction to move on. Acceptit. Then let it go "We need to learn to let go as easily as we grasp and we will find our hands full and our minds empty.” - Leo F. Buscaglia
Habit # 20 : Change Your Life by Changing Your Bad HabitsChanging a habit is a lot of mental effort. Don’t try to do this all at once. Focus on one habit at a time for30 days or more. It may seem slow and I understand that it’s easy to get wrapped up in the enthusiasmand the hope that you will give your life a total overhaul right now. Nothing wrong with that. You won’tbe able to keep it up until your new habits are established and stable.
Stick to the path of applying these habits as much as you can in your daily life. Not only will thehabits themselves help you. Because when you actually live habits like these, when you do whatyou know deep down is the right thing then you also raise your self esteem and you feel that youactually deserve good things in life. This is a big factor for increasing your happiness.
"Action may not always bring happiness;but there is no happiness without action.” - Benjamin Disraeli Thank You Very Much Sompong Yusoontorn