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HAVE A PLAN <ul><ul><li>The SXSW SIS test: Sociability, Icebreakers, Shared Interests. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>How will you deal with sexual opportunity? Friends, one night only, bootycall mate, dating? </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be clear about what you want. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be cool with your roommates. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Decide what you'll share with potential lovers. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Make rules about what you will and won't do, and stick to them. </li></ul></ul>

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GEEK FLIRTING <ul><ul><li>Know gender sexual stereotypes in geek scenes. Learn geek sex communication nuances. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Prep conversation topics, make a self-check physicality system. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Pick targets. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Stick to positive communication. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don't take it too personally or expect anything. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Decide if it's tonight, tomorrow or never. Plan exit strategies. </li></ul></ul>

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HOOKING UP <ul><ul><li>How to know they want you. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Alcohol, drugs and sex: &quot;too drunk&quot; and risk assessment. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>How consent works (know how to say yes or no). </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Decide your SXSW sexual rules, and do your best to follow them. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Negotiating sex: sex acts to expect. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Safer sex tips. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Make your post-sex intention clear. </li></ul></ul>

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THE NEXT DAY <ul><ul><li>Zero out your expectations. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be neutral, but don't ignore - or PDA. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If you made a mistake or were lied to, make a plan. Don't make them a Foursquare location. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don't brag, or fuck their friends or coworkers. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If you want to see them again, invite them to something you are already doing. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Stay on track with SXSW. </li></ul></ul>

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SOCIAL MEDIA SXSEX <ul><ul><li>Don't @ reply about last night's hot sex. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don't expect reciprocity, or work opportunities. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Message a follow-up; cement friendly impermanence or build communication. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To pursue, don't let 2 days go by. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Avoid confrontational communication channels. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>(Do your best to) get their consent before tagging photos. </li></ul></ul>

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