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Body language ii


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Body language ii

  1. 1. Body Language II Advanced Dr.V. Veera Balaji Kumar Soft skills Trainer Cygmax institute of management studies
  2. 2. Body language in communication What is body language? Body language is the communication of personal feeling, emotion, attitudes and thoughts through body movements. In other words it is the way people unconsciously show their private thoughts and emotions through body movements.
  3. 3. Why learn body language ? • Our ability to use body language in a positive way and to read other people's minds through their body language can boost our interpersonal skill. • and can be a powerful tool to our overall personality development
  4. 4. Reading others like a Book • Suggesting Interest • Indications that they're more open to agree with you • Indications that they are thinking • Indications that they are frustrated/ dismayed • Indications whether they Are Action-Oriented
  5. 5. Reading a person contd… • Indications that they are defensive/hiding something • Indications of boredom • Signals conveying excitement or interest • Signals exhibiting confidence/authority/power • Signals of anger/resistance
  6. 6. Reading a person contd… • Signals of nervousness/tension • Signals made when they are doubting/suspecting you • Signals made when they need reassurance • Indications of pride • To know when they are lying
  7. 7. Gesture • • • • • • • • • • • • Yawning Tuning up the nose Crossing the legs above the knee Sitting on the wedge of the chair Scratching the head Crossing the arms at the chest Biting the lower lip Tapping the foot Clenching the hands Rubbing the eyes Placing hands on the hips Pointing the index finger
  8. 8. Yawning Yawning is a response to a wide variety of response to a wide variety of stimuli, including sleepiness, awakening hunger, boredom, nervousness and inter cranial diseases. There are several causes of yawning: Psychological, including boredom, drowsiness, fatigue, separation hormonal, due to the actions of ACTH and MSH; neurological, as a result of various brain pathologies, psychiatric, for example, schizophrenia, psychosis, depression and withdrawal; general pathologies, including ear disorders, gastric and biliary disorders and motion sickness; drug overdose such as naloxone, valproate, imipramine, clomipramine, serotonin, and phenobarbitol; and drug withdrawal, from heroin, morphine, lefetamine, methadone and pentazocin.
  9. 9. Scratching the head Indications That They Are Frustrated/ Dismayed This gesture clearly indicates that the person is frustrated by some loss or disappointed.
  10. 10. Mouth covering • He may be lying • He may be unsure of what he is saying • He may want to suppress a feeling • It is just a habit and doesn’t mean anything
  11. 11. Arms • Cross or folded arms • Arm gripping • Arms behind the back Hiding something they don’t want others to find out
  12. 12. Eye contact Eye contact shows our self confidence and any of our personality traits. o Types of looking Direct look The sidelong glance  The concentrated gaze  The blank stare  Blinking
  13. 13. Hand  signals • • • • Limp hands Relaxed hands Restless hands Clenched hands
  14. 14. Finger • • • •  movements Pointing the index finger Steeling Thump gesture Cracking of knuckles
  15. 15. BODY LANGUAGE - II Different gestures and postures Our face is the most expressive part of our body. There Six universal facial expressions are HAPPINESS, SADNESS, SURPRISE, FEAR, ANGER AND DISTRUST. Each of this expression is accompanied with a combination of recognizable mouth and hand gestures
  16. 16. The • • • • • • •  face Smiling and frowning are the two major facial expressions. Different types of facial expressions Indicate our respect for others Reflect our interest in someone or something Transit out positive attitude about people and things Convey our ambition as professionals Express our compassion for our co-worker, family and friends. • Reveal the kind of personality we possess.
  17. 17. Which is which ?
  18. 18. Which smile is genuine ?
  19. 19. Disgust
  20. 20. Distress / Pain / Suffering
  21. 21. • • • • • • • • • • Putting object in the mouth (under pressure, taking his time, wants more information) Touching the lip (relieve anxiety, boredom, excitement, fear, horror or uncertainty) Scratching the neck (psychological discomfort, ) Rubbing the eye (doubtful or telling lie) Rubbing the nose (hiding the truth) Putting the hand on the cheek (Deep thinking, attention / interest) Stroking the chin (during decision making & evaluating process) Head in hand (despair / loss / prolonged thinking / boredom) Hands behind the head (Feeling confident / superior about something) “associated with professionals” Hands on hips (Readiness / ability to do a job) “associated with achiever”
  22. 22. Handshakes (gesture of welcome) Three main attitudes depending on the approach. • Dominance • Submission • Equality
  23. 23. Styles of hand shake • • • • • • • Firm hand shakes Glove hand shakes The knuckle grinder hand shakes The stiff arm hand shakes The arm pull hand shakes The double handed handshakes The grasp
  24. 24. Double handshake
  25. 25. How to shake hands • Shake hands firmly • Never hold longer than few seconds • Wipe your hands so that they are not moist
  26. 26. Gestures to be avoided • Pointing at others • Touching others to emphasize a point • Being too familiar • Invading people’s personal space
  27. 27. Styles of sitting • • • • • • • • The Lincolnesque position - Sitting in a chair with both feet planted firmly on the floor and apart, and arms resting flat on the arm of the chair signifies a open mind Sitting on the edge of the chair - Compromise, co-operate, agree or accept Leg over the arm of the chair - Relaxed, open, co-operative and informal Straddling the chair - Dominance or aggression Rocking or swinging in the chair - Full control of the situation and confident that situation will favor him Fidgeting - Move restlessly Upper body - Show of self confidence Lower body - It sends a message of I don’t want to be here. CORRECT POSTURE - It is important to lean slightly towards a person in order to show that one is interested and involved
  28. 28. Crossing the legs above the knee Indicate Defensiveness
  29. 29. The Boss (Bore) and his victim
  30. 30. The buyer and the seller
  31. 31. Sitting on edge of chair leaning forward : Eagerness
  32. 32. Superiority feeling
  33. 33. Indifference or Casual approach • Can be seen as a mark of disrespect. • Dominance or aggression • Arrogant attitude (sometime)
  34. 34. STRADDLING A CHAIR Shows that a person is feeling safe, and is self confident. Can also show leadership.
  35. 35. Arms firmly gripping the chair crossed legs and stiff face.
  36. 36. Lincolnesque position Signifies a open mind
  37. 37. Walking styles • • • • • • • • ARM SWINGING - Goal oriented and on a definite mission HANDS IN A POCKET - Critical and secretive, they often criticize others HANDS ON HIPS - Move without wasting time. Use sufficient means to fulfill their goals in their shortest possible time. MEDITATIVE WALK - Thinking about some problem may walk at a slow pace with their heads down and hands clasped behind their back CONFIDENCE WALK - The person walked with their chin raised, arms swindling wildly, legs a bit stiff and the pace somewhat deliberate this style gives off confidence. LEADERSHIP WALK - They walk with deliberate steps, clearly showing that they ate headed towards specific goal PACING - Walking with measured steps targeting the goal, SWAGGER - Exaggerated Arm swinging style of walking
  38. 38. Arms behind the back Contemplation
  39. 39. HANDS ON HIPS Move without wasting time. Use sufficient means to fulfill their goals in their shortest possible time.
  40. 40. MEDITATIVE WALK - Thinking about some problem may walk at a slow pace with their heads down and hands clasped behind their back
  41. 41. STRUT: to walk somewhere with big steps in a proud way CONFIDENCE WALK The person walked with their chin raised, arms swindling wildly, legs a bit stiff and the pace somewhat deliberate this style gives off confidence
  42. 42. BODY LANGUAGE to be interpreted as positive and genuine • • Most important to be NATURAL – Always stand erect and walk with shoulders back and stomach in making people to recognize selfconfidence, awareness and enthusiasm. NON-VERBAL behaviors to be avoided. If you do not wish to show lack of self confidence, such as     Hunching the shoulders Slouching in a chair Leaning forward with the head resting on one of the hands Constantly shifting position while sitting or standing
  43. 43. Positive and Negative Traits Positive Traits  Arms relaxed – Sign of openness  Gesturing warmly / talking with hands - shows involvement in the conversation and openness to the other person  Good eye contact – shows interest  Leaning closer – shows interests are up and barriers are down  Nodding agreement – show there are no barriers to communication  Smiling / adding humor – signals a warm personal relationship.
  44. 44. Negative Traits  Arms behind the head / leaning back - shows desire for control and power  Arms folded in front – creates barrier and shows resistance to conversation  Blank stares / flipping through literature without reading – shows distraction  Fidgeting or moving restlessly in the chair – shows boredom, nervousness / impatience
  45. 45. Negative Traits  Hand on face / leaning on elbow with chin in hand / Yawning / Chewing gum – shows boredom  Trying to interrupt the speaker by opening the mouth to speak – shows impatience  Leaning away – avoiding moving closer is very negative  Shaking the legs – shows restlessness  Sitting with an arm dropped along the back of the chair – shows defensive
  46. 46. To Convey Positive Messages • • • • • Avoid closed gestures Avoid fidgeting or letting your eyes wander Maintain eye contact Maintain good posture Nod agreement and occasionally express it verbally to reinforce the nods • Smile
  47. 47. To Convey Positive Messages • Keep your fingers and hands away from your mouth while speaking and listening to others • Do not tap your fingers on the table / any surface • Start and end your day with positive attitudes • Display confidence and enthusiasm in your movement gestures and postures • Rise to great people when they enter the room. It show that you have good manners
  48. 48. Don't Jump to Conclusions • Be aware of the body language, but also combine your observations with the spoken words to get more hints regarding the inner feelings of another. • Constantly touching the mouth may indicate lying, although the real reason might just be that the mouth is itching • Judgment based more than two gestures can be dependable