Do you get a mind blank or hear the crickets of silence when you meet someone new? The A to Z of conversation starters for shy girls could be just what you need. All you need to do is put them into practice.
oes your mind go blank
or do you hear crickets of silence when you meet someone new? One of the best things about starting at university is having the opportunity to meet new people and make great friends who will laugh with you during the fun times and support you during the hard times. We know it can be tough to strike up a conversation with someone you’ve never met before, but we’ve got your back! This A–Z guide of conversation starters for shy girls could be just what you need. With a few classic movie or television quotes, sharing your favourite local eats or giving a compliment, you’ll be on your way to making loads of new friends in no time!
ccessorise! We all have that
statement piece of jewellery that everyone comments on. Wear it with confidence and when someone approaches you to tell you how cool it is, start a conversation about where you bought it, how amazing online shopping is or even the colours that are in this season. If you’re not into fashion, wear a badge that highlights your interest in a TV show, movie or cause you are passionate about. e yourself You’re amazing. You don’t have to be anyone other than yourself for people to want to hang out with you. Stay true to yourself and you will attract like-minded uni friends with similar interests.
o I know you? If
you’ve seen someone around, an excellent conversation opener is to ask them about previous, albeit brief, interactions. For example, ‘I think we’re in CMS1000 together. What do you think of it so far?’ or ‘I think we used to catch the same bus. What are you studying?’ ompliment Everyone loves a compliment and when you find someone with a mutual love for shoes and cute summer dresses, you will find a good friend for life. If you see someone in a flattering pair of jeans, tell them! You might even hear about a sale you didn’t know about.
at in Whether you bring
your lunch to uni or buy it, eat it on-campus. Ask to sit with the people you met in class, or approach a group of people who look like they’re having a good time. There’s always someone to sit and start a conversation with over sandwiches and cake. Everyone loves cake. all over If you fall over or drop your books, do it in style! Either Prince Charming will scoop you up and help you back on your feet, or you’ll have a pretty amazing first meeting story for your new BFF.
umour Nothing breaks the ice
faster than saying something funny. Okay, telling a joke is easier said than done, but it’s an excellent way to show your fun, witty personality. Whatever you do in life, always give 100%... unless you’re donating blood! [insert laughter]. ive people a chance Step out of your comfort zone and say ‘Hi’ to someone you might not normally approach. It’s likely that everyone else will be just as nervous as you, and whoever you approach will be grateful you made the first move.
nvest time Don’t be in
such a hurry that you miss out on talking to that cool chick with the pixie haircut and Doc Martens. Walk over and say ‘Hi’. If you hit it off and you have to get to the next class, invite her to lunch and spend time getting to know her. All relationships take work, so if you think you could hit it off with someone you’ve just met, invest the time, and you could be besties for life. oin us on social media We encourage all students to get involved in the conversation online and many a ‘gal- mance’ has started over shared geographic locations or a love of cat memes. You can join us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, LinkedIn, Spotify, Youtube, Snapchat and Google+ for exclusive competitions, study tips, and to connect with other students. Don’t have social media? Jump onto USQ’s Social Hub instead!
ectures/tutorials/ workshops When you’re in
a lecture, look left and look right. Beside you will be two people with the same passion about teaching, nursing or engineering that you have. Go to your classes a little bit early and spend some time chatting to your classmates. When it comes time to pack up, keep the conversation going and you may just find yourself on the receiving end of a lunch date. eep up with the Kardashians/Bachelorette MasterChef/Home & Away Trashy TV is an excellent talking point. We all love to hate the characters on these shows and friendships are often forged over a mutual disgust for who didn’t get a rose, who cooked something delicious or who said something out of line on our favourite show. If you don’t usually watch much TV, find out what shows are trending and try to watch at least one episode so you know what’s going on and can join into some of those trash-tastic conversations.
ovies More than one new
‘gal-mance’ has been forged over a mutual love of Mean Girls, The Notebook, The Great Gatsby or even Anchorman. ‘Do you even go to this school?’ ‘LOUD NOISES’ or ‘No one puts Baby in the corner’ are perfectly appropriate comments to make, and when you both stop laughing and exclaim ‘I love that movie!’, you’ve found a friend who gets you. ostalgia As soon as you finish school or are old enough to realise how uncool your favourite band are, you can reminisce with your new study friends about life before you started studying. Be careful not to include too much about how you used to drive an ’81 Corolla and not-so- secretly loved to play the Backstreet Boys at full volume with the windows down. There’s a fine line between nostalgia and being a dork!
repare with a few one-liners
On your way to uni, think about a few one- liners you can use to get the conversation going. For example, ‘Have you got your textbooks yet?’ ‘I can’t believe uni’s already started!’ ‘How quickly did the break go?!’ It’s always handy to have a few of these up your sleeve that you can whip out when the opportunity arises. pen yourself up Don’t be embarrassed to open up about your life experiences, interests and what you have decided to study. You can guarantee that your love of family, fashion or even scrapbooking will be shared by others. If your lecturer or tutor asks you to share a little bit about yourself, make the most of the opportunity!
estaurants Who doesn’t like food
or sharing their culinary insights of the best go-to food places near campus? Share your foodie knowledge with your classmates, because nothing is better than a BFF who also loves sushi or gourmet sandwiches. uestion When all else fails and you can’t remember any of the one-liners you prepared or the conversation starters listed here, ask your potential new friend a question. Most people will be more than happy to give you the time or point you in the right direction if you ask for help. Refrain from asking too many questions though, or people may wonder if you’re in the secret service.
it by yourself When you’re
on-campus, don’t be scared to sit by yourself. If you’re not comfortable walking up to people, chances are there will be a social butterfly (extrovert) not too far away who will ask you to join their table or just come and sit with you. If you are going to try this tactic, though, make sure you sit ‘in public’ rather than hiding in the toilets on your breaks! ry something new Friday afternoon drinks and cheese at your new friend’s house? Count us in! Put yourself out there and do something you’ve never done before. You never know who you’ll meet.
ending machines The person in
front of you has popped in their cash and they’ve got the holy grail of drinks: an ice cold, refreshing coke. Now is the perfect time to share that you also can’t function without the invigorating effervescence of black gold (this post was not sponsored by Coca-Cola). ni discounts On a tight budget, but still want to meet people? Your student ID card is your gateway to bargains and some fun experiences. Make the most of your student ID card by asking some of your new friends to a movie on Cheap Tuesday or to share a pizza with you for lunch.
here can I get coffee?
Coffee lovers unite! The coffee line is an incredible place to meet people and you have one huge thing in common… you can’t function without that first cup of hot, smooth coffee… [insert drool]. -treme weather Be the ultimate Girl Guide and help a sister out when it rains by sharing your umbrella. It’s almost guaranteed you will get a coffee date as she thanks you for saving her wool trench coat from the downpour.
Block is which way? Nothing
gets a friendship going faster than sharing a walk to your next class. Ask the person next to you if they’re headed to Z Block, A block, or wherever you’re heading, and share the walk with them. odellodeling We’ve all got a mad skill that will get others talking. Whether it’s touching your nose with your tongue, yodelling, or that you can speak 5 languages, share the things that make you unique with your new study buddies.
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great example of how to put these conversation starters into action, check out this video. If you’re after more tips on how to make friends at uni, discover How to make friends on-the-line or where to make friends on-campus. #usq #usqstudybuddy social.usq.edu.au You’ve got the conversation starters, now you just need to put them into practice! eing the first one to strike up a conversation can be scary, but you don’t have to be anyone other than yourself for people to want to hang out with you. Stay true to yourself, use these conversation starters to break the ice, and you will attract like-minded uni friends with similar interests in no time.