“CAN YOU HEAR ME
The Simple Act of Being
Heard As A Woman!
By Teresa Spangler
Selling Your Ideas
Telling Your Story
The girl effect: The clock is ticking
The girl effect is about leveraging the
unique potential of adolescent girls to end
poverty for themselves, their families,
• Women often have a hard time making their otherwise strong voices heard in meetings, either because they’re not speaking loudly enough or because they can’t find a way to
break into the conversation at all.
- More than a third indicated female peers do speak up, they fail to articulate a strong point of view.
- Half said that women allow themselves to be interrupted, apologize repeatedly, and fail to back up opinions with evidence.
- One male executive offered this description of two “highly successful and powerful” female colleagues in a meeting he attended: “one went off on tangents, bringing in
disparate points with few facts. It was like a snowball going down a hill and picking up stuff in its path. The other got wrapped up in the passion she feels for the topic,
and she said the same thing three different ways.”
• Men frequently described women as being
- Defensive when challenged and apt to panic or freeze if they lose the attention of the room. “These are high-octane meetings that are filled with domineering personalities,” one CEO told us.
“Women are often either quiet and tentative, or they pipe up at the wrong moment, and it sounds more like noise to some of us.”
• If men perceive that women lack confidence at meetings, it’s because in many cases they do.
- Female executives, vastly outnumbered in boardrooms and c-suites and with few role models and sponsors, report feeling alone, unsupported, outside their comfort
zones, and unable to advocate forcefully for their perspectives in many high-level meetings.
- As one said, “it is harder to read the room if there are no other women around the table.”
Women, Find Your Voice
Kathryn Heath, Jill FlynnMary Davis Holt
FROM THE JUNE 2014 ISSUE
• Know your lines
• Rehearse before you perform
• No apologies accepted
• Tilt Not thy head
• DON’T Be..…...MOM!!!
How vs What
• Hear What is Really Being Said
• Eye Contact
• Body Posture
• Distance/Physical Contact
• Facial Expression
• Voice Tone, Inflection, Volume
• Content, Content, Content
- Women: “hmm, think a burger would be good but what would you like, I think In and Out burger is good but I don’t
know for sure if you like that you know maybe we could do fries and milkshake too but maybe you want something
different” what do you think? There’s this chineese place too but I think a burger sounds good. Oh yeah there’s a sushi
place across the street from the burger place.
- Men: “Let’s grab burgers”
The Art of talking in bullet points
Selling Your Ideas
Influencing vs. Demanding or Asking
Influencing takes time, great care, proof points, change of mind or behavior
Build your influence team – More voices supporting your thinking make
Speak in more than one language!
Analytics/Data to support your points
Visual – images speak louder than words
Stories – help put the picture together of why, what, when, how