Problems With Marriage After an Affair - Should You Seek              Marriage Counseling or Divorce?                     ...
More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to...
More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to...
More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to...
But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when ...
But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when ...
But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when ...
1. Is Your Spouse Willing to Work on Your Relationship?If your cheating spouse is not willing to work with you to save you...
2. Is Your Spouse Willing to Go to Counseling?A lot of people are reluctant to go to a marriage counselor. They may fear b...
2. Is Your Spouse Willing to Go to Counseling?A lot of people are reluctant to go to a marriage counselor. They may fear b...
3. Are YOU Willing to Go Through the Effort to Save Your Marriage?You may be feeling vulnerable and wounded as a result of...
3. Are YOU Willing to Go Through the Effort to Save Your Marriage?You may be feeling vulnerable and wounded as a result of...
Dealing with problems with marriage after an affair is never easy and it is best to seekexpert advice. To rebuild the trus...
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Problems With Marriage After an Affair - Should You Seek Marriage Counseling or Divorce?

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If your spouse has had an affair, clearly there are problems with your marriage. It may or may not have come to you as a surprise, but the emotional effects of discovering an affair are some of the most devastating that anyone can encounter. You may be thinking at this moment, “Should I seek marriage counseling or a divorce?”

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Problems With Marriage After an Affair - Should You Seek Marriage Counseling or Divorce?

  1. 1. Problems With Marriage After an Affair - Should You Seek Marriage Counseling or Divorce? http://www.saving-relationships.comIf your spouse has had an affair, clearly there are problems with your marriage. Itmay or may not have come to you as a surprise, but the emotional effects ofdiscovering an affair are some of the most devastating that anyone can encounter.You may be thinking at this moment, “Should I seek marriage counseling or adivorce?”
  2. 2. More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to simply throw in the towel, pack up, and leaveyour spouse for good.
  3. 3. More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to simply throw in the towel, pack up, and leaveyour spouse for good.Your marriage over the years most likely has had its ups and downs. But the thoughtof your marriage coming to an end often can be as much of a blow as learning aboutthe affair in the first place; kind of like a one-two punch.
  4. 4. More often than not, the discovery of infidelity is a surprise. And one of the morecommon reactions early on is for you to simply throw in the towel, pack up, and leaveyour spouse for good.Your marriage over the years most likely has had its ups and downs. But the thoughtof your marriage coming to an end often can be as much of a blow as learning aboutthe affair in the first place; kind of like a one-two punch.First off, if you are trying to decide in which direction you should go next, you need toknow a couple of things. No marriage counselor can tell you whether you should getdivorced or not. That is a decision that has to be made between you and your spouse.It is common for the spouse who was betrayed to want to move forward with divorceearly on due to their pride being wounded. Perhaps this is even how you feel.
  5. 5. But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when your marriage has just been rocked by theaffair, but you may come to regret not trying to work things out with your spouse laterin life.
  6. 6. But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when your marriage has just been rocked by theaffair, but you may come to regret not trying to work things out with your spouse laterin life.Should you decide to try and work on the problems with your marriage, you also willwant to understand that just getting your marriage back to the point is was at beforethe incident will not do you much good either. That is where the current crisisdeveloped in the first place.
  7. 7. But divorce isn’t always the answer and is not something that should be entertainedlightly. It may seem logical now, when your marriage has just been rocked by theaffair, but you may come to regret not trying to work things out with your spouse laterin life.Should you decide to try and work on the problems with your marriage, you also willwant to understand that just getting your marriage back to the point is was at beforethe incident will not do you much good either. That is where the current crisisdeveloped in the first place.Whichever direction you decide to go, it is one of the most important you may evermake. Your decision comes down basically to answering three questions:
  8. 8. 1. Is Your Spouse Willing to Work on Your Relationship?If your cheating spouse is not willing to work with you to save your marriage, then your decision may end up being made for you. You will need to consider whether or not he or she has 100% ended the affair. Is your spouse remorseful and repentant for what they have done? Has he or she indicated to you that they indeed want to save the marriage?
  9. 9. 2. Is Your Spouse Willing to Go to Counseling?A lot of people are reluctant to go to a marriage counselor. They may fear beingjudged, feel humiliated by the idea, or just aren’t ready to put these details out therein the open, even with an objective counselor. This does not mean there is no hopefor your marriage.
  10. 10. 2. Is Your Spouse Willing to Go to Counseling?A lot of people are reluctant to go to a marriage counselor. They may fear beingjudged, feel humiliated by the idea, or just aren’t ready to put these details out therein the open, even with an objective counselor. This does not mean there is no hopefor your marriage.You have to gauge whether or not your spouse will entertain some alternative tocounseling, such as sitting down and going through relationship-building exercises, orworking with you on some other suggested practices, including making adate/appointment to sit with you and talk openly.
  11. 11. 3. Are YOU Willing to Go Through the Effort to Save Your Marriage?You may be feeling vulnerable and wounded as a result of the actions of your cheatingspouse, but that does not mean that they are in control of the outcome. They do nothave all the power in your relationship. You are indeed a strong person and capable ofmaking your own decision.
  12. 12. 3. Are YOU Willing to Go Through the Effort to Save Your Marriage?You may be feeling vulnerable and wounded as a result of the actions of your cheatingspouse, but that does not mean that they are in control of the outcome. They do nothave all the power in your relationship. You are indeed a strong person and capable ofmaking your own decision.Indeed, you have a tough road ahead of you. Dealing with negative thoughts andimages regarding your spouse’s infidelity, openly discussing the details with him orher, and perhaps finding out more information than you already know. Are you indeedwilling to go through that in an effort to ultimately save your marriage? That is aquestion that only you can answer.
  13. 13. Dealing with problems with marriage after an affair is never easy and it is best to seekexpert advice. To rebuild the trust, and save your marriage from divorce I stronglyrecommend for you to download this 7‐Part Survive an Affair course from Dr. FrankGunzburg. Click here now for instant access. Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.

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