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Love Sense:
The Revolutionary New Science of
Romantic Relationships
DR. SUE JOHNSON

WWW.DRSUEJOHNSON.COM
Love is …
AN ANCIENT WIRED-IN SURVIVAL CODE –
DESIGNED TO KEEP KEY LOVED ONES
CLOSE.
WE ARE HOMO VINCULUM – THE ONE WHO
BO...
Intimates are our Ultimate
Resource:

GO TO: SAFE HAVEN
PROTECTION & SUPPORT

GO OUT FROM: SECURE BASE
EXPLORATION & EFFIC...
3 Bonding Strategies:

REACH
PUSH / DEMAND
TURN AWAY / TURN OFF
Recurring Distress/Conflict

CONFLICT IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS IS
90% PROTEST AT EMOTIONAL
DISCONNECTION.
Laws of Love:
1. OUR DEEPEST SURVIVAL INSTINCT / TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH
SPECIAL ONES.
- OTHERS ARE OUR PRIMARY BASELI...
Sex is a bonding behaviour

BONDING STRATEGIES SHAPE SEX:
SOLACE / SEALED OFF / SYNCHRONY SEX

BEST RECIPE FOR GREAT SEX I...
Changing Responsiveness to Threat
with EFT

www.drsuejohnson.com
www.drsuejohnson.com
LOVE IS NO STRANGE RANDOM RUSH OF SENTIMENT

IT MAKES SENSE
NOW WE CAN REALLY MAKE IT AND MAKE IT LAST
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Conversations at The Royal: Love Sense

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“Love Sense” (written by Dr. Sue Johnson): the revolutionary new science of romantic relationships offers the reader a ground breaking guide to the new science of love and loving that has emerged in the last 15 years. The science allows us not just to “fall” in love but to make sense of and shape our most precious relationships.

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Conversations at The Royal: Love Sense

  1. 1. Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships DR. SUE JOHNSON WWW.DRSUEJOHNSON.COM
  2. 2. Love is … AN ANCIENT WIRED-IN SURVIVAL CODE – DESIGNED TO KEEP KEY LOVED ONES CLOSE. WE ARE HOMO VINCULUM – THE ONE WHO BONDS.
  3. 3. Intimates are our Ultimate Resource: GO TO: SAFE HAVEN PROTECTION & SUPPORT GO OUT FROM: SECURE BASE EXPLORATION & EFFICACY
  4. 4. 3 Bonding Strategies: REACH PUSH / DEMAND TURN AWAY / TURN OFF
  5. 5. Recurring Distress/Conflict CONFLICT IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS IS 90% PROTEST AT EMOTIONAL DISCONNECTION.
  6. 6. Laws of Love: 1. OUR DEEPEST SURVIVAL INSTINCT / TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH SPECIAL ONES. - OTHERS ARE OUR PRIMARY BASELINE RESOURCE 2. REACHING IS OUR BEST AND PRIMARY STRATEGY. FUNCTIONAL. 3. ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS OPEN, RESPONSIVE. ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? BEING EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED, ATTUNED, SYNCHRONIZED 4. SEPARATION – ISOLATION TRAUMATIZES. 5. THREE MAIN MOVES IN THE DANCE OF LOVE: REACH/PULL/DISMISS
  7. 7. Sex is a bonding behaviour BONDING STRATEGIES SHAPE SEX: SOLACE / SEALED OFF / SYNCHRONY SEX BEST RECIPE FOR GREAT SEX IS: SAFE CONNECTION NOT CONSTANT NOVELTY
  8. 8. Changing Responsiveness to Threat with EFT www.drsuejohnson.com
  9. 9. www.drsuejohnson.com
  10. 10. LOVE IS NO STRANGE RANDOM RUSH OF SENTIMENT IT MAKES SENSE NOW WE CAN REALLY MAKE IT AND MAKE IT LAST

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