How Shoudl Churches Deal With Crisis


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How Shoudl Churches Deal With Crisis

  1. 1. ==== ====The Church Consultants are able to assist a church through crisis situations. Their experienceand understanding of the various situations within the church that can harm ministry areinvaluable. Find out what are some of the crises that are dealt with by churches and how to dealwith them. ====Stuff happens. An unexpected crisis can throw you into a fog. It could be anything, an accident, aserious illness or a random violent crime. Sometimes a crisis has been brewing below thesurface: divorce, death, or an escalation of a loved ones mental illness or dementia.Do you walk through in a maze with overwhelming life challenges? If so, you can take control. Itdoesnt have to define who you are.First, be careful. Hang on. During times of intense misfortune, it becomes easier and easier to slipaway. We listen to other people tell us how we should feel, what we should do and how we shouldact. The irony is the more we allow others to direct us, the less in touch we are with our truefeelings and what we want to do. Thats when your sense of who you are slips away. Your soul issuffocating. You feel overwhelmed and powerless.Heres how to reclaim your life now:1. Be your own advocate.What do you think you need? It doesnt matter if other people feel your needs are unnecessary orextravagant. Nancys mom, Ethel, was getting out of the hospital, she had been dehydrated,depressed and becoming more frail and confused. Ethel would need someone to check on herdaily. Nancys brothers just assumed Nancy would do it. She lived nearby and only worked part-time. When they told Nancy of their decision, she first felt guilty. She had a life of her own. Heryoungest son, Todd, didnt drive yet and was in all sorts of activities. Nancy usually rushed fromwork to do housework, errands and run Todd around. Although her job was part-time, she oftenstayed over to get everything done. She also volunteered at church and could hardly keep up withthat. Her friends had been encouraging her to go to yoga with them. Nancy was ready to sign up.Her doctor said it would be good for her arthritis and stress.Nancy had to be her own advocate. It was difficult, but with support she refused to allow the"shoulds" or guilt to be a factor. Remember: There are always options and alternatives. Takinginto consideration her own needs and her desire to do what she could for her mom, Nancyproposed that her brothers take turns calling mom every day and let her know when of a concern.The hospital social worker set up community resources and some in-home help for additionalsupport and safety. Nancy checks in a couple days a week, on different days and times,depending on her schedule. The older grandchildren also got involved and started stopping by
  2. 2. grandmas for visits. If Ethel needs more care, they will set up more resources and look at alloptions. Nancys mom is actually benefiting more from so many family members being involved.Realizing her power, Nancy started leaving work on time, said "no" to volunteer requests andsigned up for yoga.2.Limit Stress.No matter how minor it may seem, stay away from people and situations that aggravate you. AuntBetty may mean well, but if you are upset every time you see her, stay away. Why put up withanything you dont have to?3.Fix whats broken.Slowly work on getting life back in alignment. For example, are you a workaholic who didnt spendenough time with your spouse and kids? If you are going through a divorce, use this time as aturning point. Make the time you have with your kids, quality time. Really enjoy it, dont just gothrough the motions.Rose owned her own business. She wanted to spend more time with her kids but somethingpressing always took priority. Now, Rose protects the time she has scheduled with her kids bynot even bringing work home when they are there. Instead of glancing over at a drawing she getsdown on the floor to color with them.4.Accept help.Be open to people who are healing for you. Do not feel obligated that you can only receive if yougive back immediately. Many people enjoy giving. Give back or give to others when you are able.Giving and receiving are part of the same energy flow. Dont block it. Keep your heart open.5. Speak your truth.Staying silent creates so much internal stress during times of strong emotion. If your loved one isunstable, alcoholic or abusive, be sure you are not enabling the situation. Tell them how you feel,set clear boundaries and enforce them. Staying quiet to keep the peace may feel appropriate attimes, but if this is a pattern that you are living, its very destructive.Kayla was a successful businesswoman with 2 children. John, her husband of 14 years often haderratic behavior resulting in violence. Kayla was always quiet in an attempt to not escalate thesituation. Kayla was nervous and had severe headaches. One day she realized she didnt haveto live this way. She started speaking up and told John she wouldnt tolerate the violenceanymore. John didnt listen and Kayla divorced him. Kayla set and enforced boundaries for hersafety and her children. Kayla now speaks her truth. Her health has improved and she isempowered.6.Have fun.Joy is healing no matter what crisis you are facing. Do things big and small that make you happy,every day. Schedule time for it. The more you make joy a priority, the faster the healing.
  3. 3. 7.Control what you can.Everyone wants the pain to end immediately, but too often the factors are beyond your control.Ethans wife ran up a large gambling debt. He divorced her, but still had half of the debt to pay.Ethan was distraught and found it hard to concentrate on anything else. He didnt run it up; itwasnt fair that he had to pay. Ethan realized he just had to figure out what he could do and focuson the solution. He checked into bankruptcy and didnt want to go that route. He was able to setup payment plans with different credit cards and negotiate the debt. Ethan also got a second job,which was part time two weekends a month. Ethan still had time to enjoy his life and stoppedworrying because he knew he was able to make the reduced payments and keep his credit ontrack. As an added bonus he met some new friends at his second job.When you focus on what you can control and let the rest go, life falls into place much easier.8.Rest.Many people live with sleep deprivation. Poor sleep has been linked to everything fromdepression to obesity and even diabetes. Good and adequate sleep is linked to all of theopposites, especially well-being. There are rarely true emergencies. You can do less and survive.Spend time in stillness. Your mind, body and spirit will thank you.9.Be hopeful.Appreciate positives and practice gratitude daily. No matter how minor the positives in your lifeseem right now, focus on them and they will multiply. Tell yourself what a good job you are doing.Bethany was a divorced, struggling, working mom with three sons. She could only afford to rent arun down house that needed a lot of work. She felt depressed every time she walked in the door.Bethany realized that many people in her situation didnt even have a house to live in, she wasgrateful that she and her kids had a roof over their heads.She started decorating each room with little pictures and knick-knacks that she really loved. Nowwhen she walked into the house she loved seeing her favorite things. Her whole attitude changed.The house she hated became a home she loved. When you see things in the best light, you feelbetter and your life is better.10.Practice acceptance.Life is not fair. Look around you and see many people living with whatever injustice you aresuffering. There are inspiring stories everywhere of people who have surmounted even worsecalamities. Once you accept your life as it is, it can change. When you resist it, you are stuck.Free yourself through acceptance.Your crisis doesnt have to be a life long burden. How you deal with it can make all the differencein your world. What good can you take from it?
  4. 4. Mothers Against Drunk Driving is just one example of people who took their personal tragediesand turned them into something meaningful.What can you take from yours? Keep this thought in the back of your mind; it may take time tosee it. It can be a simple insight or a profound epiphany. Have faith that you will emerge strongerand wiser than you have ever been before.Rebecca Rengo, shows you how to improve your health & decrease your pain. She is giving awayFREE pain relief Secrets. To get access to these powerful and practical secrets that can help youtransform your life - go to now.Rebecca Rengo, MSW, LCSW, is author of Beyond Chronic Pain: A get-well guidebook to soothethe body, mind & spirit. She has been a Pain Relief Coach, Author, Speaker , Psychotherapist andEducator for over 25 years. She has presented internationally and been featured on television andradio and in publications. Rebecca is current president of the Missouri Pain Initiative and onadjunct faculty at Washington University. For more information visit: or http://www.beyondchronicpain.comArticle Source: ====The Church Consultants are able to assist a church through crisis situations. Their experienceand understanding of the various situations within the church that can harm ministry areinvaluable. Find out what are some of the crises that are dealt with by churches and how to dealwith them. ====