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April27 dyc

  1. 1. Building Digital Communication Skills<br />
  2. 2. About Alex Wills<br />I have worked for years trying to better understand people and their lives. I have volunteered in both Americorps and Peace Corps and have worked in a number of non-profit organizations and school systems.<br />I have a bachelor’s degree in journalism and a masters degree in sociology. For the past several years I have worked as an ethnographer, which means I have traveled the U.S. and the world to spend time with people and learn about their lives so that companies can learn more about the people who buy their products. I have been lucky enough to make a living learning about the world around me.<br />Thank you for having me.<br />
  3. 3. What we will learn today<br /><ul><li>How real-life transitions into digital spaces
  4. 4. Creating a positive digital footprint
  5. 5. Strategies and techniques for improving digital communication, digital safety and digital responsibility</li></li></ul><li>Some topics<br />Girl Drama Online<br />Cyber Bullying<br />Online Predators<br />Helping/Supporting Friends Online<br />Your Online Reputation<br />Creating a Strong and Positive Social Network<br />
  6. 6. What it’s really about<br />
  7. 7. Our Commitment during this process<br />Confidentiality<br />Pledge “I, _____, so solemnly swear that I will keep confidential what we talk about in this workshop.” <br />General “we”<br />Support is available<br />
  8. 8. Some stats and information<br />71% American teenagers own mobile phone (Pew Internet & American Life Project)<br />58% teens have a social network site profile (Lenhart et al., 2008)<br />10-40% of youth report experiencing cyber bullying, and 10% admit to bullying at one time or another (Cyberbullying Research Center)<br />81% of parents and 79% teens agree children not as careful as they should be posting things on line; AND,<br />62% of parents with teens and 62% of online teens agree children do things online they wouldn’t want their parents to know about (Pew Internet and American Life Project)<br />
  9. 9. Understanding the text generation<br />Activity<br />We are going to ask our daughters to help us understand why their age group loves texting so much.<br />Top 3 reasons we love to text.<br />Top 3 things we wish our parents would understand about whywe love to text.<br />
  10. 10. Digital Footprint<br />
  11. 11. Digital footprint as a cornerstone<br />
  12. 12. Digital footprint = Online Reputation<br />Content posted by you, about you<br />Can be posted by you or someone else<br />Includes pictures, posts, videos, documents and more<br />Largely permanent<br />
  13. 13. Consider this:<br />Largely indifference or negligence, not malice<br />Consequences, what consequences?<br />The adolescent brain (Nurture Shock)<br />
  14. 14. Consider this:<br />
  15. 15. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />
  16. 16. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />Periodically “review” yourself<br />Have you “Googled”/“Binged” yourself lately?<br />What do you see? What’s the “message”?<br />Don’t think about just the literal words, but think about the overall meaning they convey<br />Analogy: Think about going to a store and seeing a display of merchandise – what words, images and arrangements do you see? <br />
  17. 17. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />Periodically “review” yourself<br />Pretend you are someone else looking at your comments, posts, photos, etc. What do they say about you?<br />Examples: Mean, two-faced, innocent, bashful, sporty, musical, excited, loves to travel, etc?<br />Your message can be positive and negative at the same time<br />Don’t rely on keyboard courage<br />
  18. 18. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />A lot of experts recommend computer use occur in shared spaces at home <br />A lot of experts recommend parents, with their kids, periodically review themselves online/on their phones<br />
  19. 19. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />Think before you click<br />Cognitive control: “But it isn’t just about managing information; it’s also part of the process of squelching frustration and anger, and stifling an inappropriate or impulsive response.” (Nurture Shock, page 171)<br />Don’t be an impulse junky!<br />
  20. 20. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />Think before you click<br />Anyone can copy and paste<br />Anyone can forward<br />Anyone can ‘quote’ you, correctly or incorrectly<br />
  21. 21. Creating a positive digital footprint:<br />Do you suffer from FOMO?<br />Activity: One-minute brainstorm<br />What can you do before you click/press send?<br />
  22. 22. Privacy<br />Good use of privacy settings worth their weight in gold<br />What social networks and digital programs are you using? <br />Activity <br />Let’s check out privacy settings using a popular social networking site – Facebook! <br />Visit this video for more information (http://www.wiredsafety.org/fbprivacy/)<br />
  23. 23. Communication<br />
  24. 24. Communication<br />Validate feelings<br />I statements – avoid the b-word<br />Critical feedback<br />Brainstorm solutions<br />Negotiate, compromise, agree<br />
  25. 25. Bottoms up!<br />make informed <br />conclusions<br />look for patterns<br />walk a mile in someone else’s flip flops<br />eyes and ears open<br />It’s not about proving what we think we know<br />
  26. 26. Understanding the whole story<br />Did you know a group of Roman Mathematicians developed an equation to describe how gossip travels on the internet? <br />In a test it only took 17 hours to spread a rumor across the globe using digital communication.<br />
  27. 27. Understanding the whole story<br />Activity – Can you guess what’s going on?<br />2 volunteers have a conversation about a friend<br />Another volunteer overhears the conversation<br />She shares that information with a volunteer outside the room <br />The volunteer outside the room then comes back in and tells us what the conversation was about. <br />
  28. 28. Digital drama<br />“Willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computer, cell phones, and other electronic devices.” (Cyberbullying Research Center)<br />Activity<br />What is harm?<br />
  29. 29. What is Harm?<br />Your best friend told Bryan you LOVED him after you told her it was a secret<br />You didn’t get invited to the birthday party of the most popular girl in school<br />Your friend forgot to wish you a happy birthday<br />You see a boy get thrown into a locker at school and don’t do anything<br />
  30. 30. What is Harm?<br />Your friend forgot to tag you in a photo of the party<br />You didn’t ask your friend how you should respond to a text from her boyfriend<br />During an IM your friend says “You are so stupid”<br />You have a chat scheduled with a friend but then have to do your chores and then she gets mad<br />
  31. 31. The Unhealthy Friend<br />Tries to control what you do, say or wear<br />Threatens not to be your friend when you don’t do what she wants<br />Always makes decisions for you when you’re together<br />Gives you the silent treatment<br />Makes you feel bad about yourself<br />Doesn’t listen to yourideas<br />Gets jealous when you spend time with others<br />Embarrasses you in public <br />Fights a lot without trying to solve problems<br />Tells your secrets to others<br />Source: Understanding Girl Bullying and What to Do About It<br />
  32. 32. Bullying: What do we do?<br />http://socialtimes.com/bullied-teen-quietly-takes-a-stand-on-youtube_b43727<br />Activity: Think, Pair, Share<br />How would you support her if you knew her?<br />How would you support her if she was your daughter?<br />
  33. 33. What can we do about it?<br />To intervene or not to intervene, that is the question?<br />No one size fits all<br />
  34. 34. What can we do about it?<br />Activity<br />Popcorn: handling drama – pair up <br />Each group reads a scenario of a digital drama and comes up with a strategy to deal with it<br />Parents listen, then offer their solutions after each group presents<br />What are the policies around bullying at your school?<br />
  35. 35. Just some things to think about<br />We model behavior every single day<br />Life is full of teachable moments<br />Everyday we teach life skills<br />One day they will leave nest<br />It’s messy, hard and full of gray areas<br />We are in this together<br />
  36. 36. Some books<br />Nurture Shock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman (Hachette Book Group, 2009)<br />How to Talk so Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (HarperCollins, 2005)<br />Girl Bullying and What to Do About It by Julaine E. Field, Jered B. Kolbert, Laura M. Crothers and Tammy L. Hughes (Corwin, 2009)<br />