The Art + Science of the Rethink:             7 Steps to     Expand Your Possibilities +Succeed at Your Pursuit of Happine...
TimelineThe Art + Science of the Rethink
“There’s no there there.”                                     Gertrude SteinThe Art + Science of the Rethink
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Fast forward to                  happy.The Art + Science of the Rethink
• Being rich doesn’t make you happy.    • Finding “the one” doesn’t make you happy.    • Being “normal” “like everyone els...
How can we fast forward to happy?The Art + Science of the Rethink
How to fast forward to happy:    • Move past perfect.    • Stop fighting what is – respect what’s real      right now.    ...
What is happiness?The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Philosophers            Aristotle: Happiness = Virtuous Activity                            eudemonia              “eu...
The Philosophers        Oprah: Happiness = living your best life now                  The Power of Evolution + IntuitionTh...
The Self-Experimenters                  Benjamin Franklin: 13 Virtues                Henry David Thoreau: Walden Pond     ...
The Academics      Sonya Lubomirsky, Ph.D.: Happiness = Formula                              50% genetic                  ...
The Academics          Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi: Happiness = Flow      “. . .being completely involved in an activity for ...
The Academics    Martin Seligman, Ph.D.: Happiness = Flow ++++                            P – positive emotion            ...
Tara on Happiness    • Seligman left something out    • Circumstances – can’t make us happy, but can      make us very unh...
The Art + Science          of the Rethink              7 Steps                 Belief . Language . ActionThe Art + Science...
Why do we need The Rethink?    • Eckhart Tolle – 3 Options: Leave, Change      or Accept situations – anything else is    ...
Step One:                       Diagnostics             Identifying what’s not working.The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step Two:                     Stabilization                 Managing chaos and energy                   • Certainty anchor...
Step Three:        Getting Unstuck +             Urgent                   Momentum building             Cultivating traits...
Steps Four + Five:        Belief Remodeling                       Unlearning               Creating new belief systemsThe ...
“If I feel myself to be wronged, a loser or a       victim, I will tell myself that some assumption       I have made is t...
Step Six:              Future Framing                       Generative Language                          Speech ActsThe Ar...
Step Seven:                         Prosperity                          Practices         Practice makes perfect permanent...
My houseThe Art + Science of the Rethink
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Ready to Rethink?    Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn: @taranicholle    email: Tara@REThinkRealEstate.comThe Art + Science of the...
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The Art + Science of the Rethink: 7 Steps to Expanding Possibility and Success at the Pursuit of Happiness

  1. 1. The Art + Science of the Rethink: 7 Steps to Expand Your Possibilities +Succeed at Your Pursuit of Happiness Tara-Nicholle Nelson, M.A., Esq.
  2. 2. TimelineThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  3. 3. “There’s no there there.” Gertrude SteinThe Art + Science of the Rethink
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  5. 5. Fast forward to happy.The Art + Science of the Rethink
  6. 6. • Being rich doesn’t make you happy. • Finding “the one” doesn’t make you happy. • Being “normal” “like everyone else” doesn’t make you happy: 54% of US adults are "moderately mentally healthy yet not flourishing”The Art + Science of the Rethink
  7. 7. How can we fast forward to happy?The Art + Science of the Rethink
  8. 8. How to fast forward to happy: • Move past perfect. • Stop fighting what is – respect what’s real right now. • Lean into the fear, anxiety and grief of painful circumstances. • Rethink failure as fodder.The Art + Science of the Rethink
  9. 9. What is happiness?The Art + Science of the Rethink
  10. 10. The Philosophers Aristotle: Happiness = Virtuous Activity eudemonia “eu” = well; “daimon” = divinity, spiritThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  11. 11. The Philosophers Oprah: Happiness = living your best life now The Power of Evolution + IntuitionThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  12. 12. The Self-Experimenters Benjamin Franklin: 13 Virtues Henry David Thoreau: Walden Pond Liz Gilbert: Eat, Pray, LoveThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  13. 13. The Academics Sonya Lubomirsky, Ph.D.: Happiness = Formula 50% genetic 10% life circumstances + 40% intentional activities Your HappinessThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  14. 14. The Academics Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi: Happiness = Flow “. . .being completely involved in an activity for its own sake.. . . Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”The Art + Science of the Rethink
  15. 15. The Academics Martin Seligman, Ph.D.: Happiness = Flow ++++ P – positive emotion E – engagement {flow} R – positive relationships M – meaning A – accomplishmentThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  16. 16. Tara on Happiness • Seligman left something out • Circumstances – can’t make us happy, but can make us very unhappy • Happiness = PERMA + “The Rethink” – Flexibility around circumstances – Resilience – Ability to reinvent, transform on desire or on demand – Mindset managementThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  17. 17. The Art + Science of the Rethink 7 Steps Belief . Language . ActionThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  18. 18. Why do we need The Rethink? • Eckhart Tolle – 3 Options: Leave, Change or Accept situations – anything else is suffering. • We want to, but can’t or don’t make situational or mindset changes we want. • Rethink is the mise en place that optimizes our ability to make these changes.The Art + Science of the Rethink
  19. 19. Step One: Diagnostics Identifying what’s not working.The Art + Science of the Rethink
  20. 20. Step Two: Stabilization Managing chaos and energy • Certainty anchors • Capture + complete • DecathexisThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  21. 21. Step Three: Getting Unstuck + Urgent Momentum building Cultivating traits of the unstuckThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  22. 22. Steps Four + Five: Belief Remodeling Unlearning Creating new belief systemsThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  23. 23. “If I feel myself to be wronged, a loser or a victim, I will tell myself that some assumption I have made is the source of my difficulty.” Benjamin ZanderThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  24. 24. Step Six: Future Framing Generative Language Speech ActsThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  25. 25. Step Seven: Prosperity Practices Practice makes perfect permanent. Skill-buildingThe Art + Science of the Rethink
  26. 26. My houseThe Art + Science of the Rethink
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  32. 32. Ready to Rethink? Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn: @taranicholle email: Tara@REThinkRealEstate.comThe Art + Science of the Rethink

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