How often do you wish you could stop the clock, slow things down, get more time for yourself, reorganize, restart your life? .Time flies, yes, time sure flies
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How often do you wish you could stop the clock, slow things down, get
more time for yourself, reorganize, restart your life?
Time flies, yes, time sure flies
You work long hours each day eagerly looking forward to the
Ah, the weekend, your time, your pace, your space.
But when the weekend does comes along, so do forgotten tasks,
unexpected errands, uninvited guests and unwanted
Before you know it, whoosh, the weekend is over and you are far
Sounds Familiar Right?
The Deadline Factor
You get back to your workplace on a Monday morning feeling
shortchanged, the work challenges there suck you in and
demand your complete attention.
You are your role and you live up to it. Meetings, more meetings,
conference calls, things to do, reports to submit, analysis,
market share data, crazy deadlines, conflicts, confrontations
and the week has just begun.
By Wednesday morning you are already aching for a peaceful
weekend again. But then, another busy, unplanned weekend
whizzes by leaving you with that same sinking feeling of
helplessness and lack of control.
You really wish you could stop the clock, get off the ride,
reorganize your life and restart.
Your Precious Life
Because you believe there is more to life than working long hours
Because you believe there is more to you than just your work role
Because you believe your family needs more time with you
Because you believe you deserve to have more fun
The Simple Truth
Well, the truth is you can. Yes, you can restart your life right now.
You can have more fun, pursue your hobbies, do stuff you love and
also enjoy greater work life balance.
Neither do you need to stop the clock nor take time off because let
us be real, thats just not possible.
You have bills to pay, commitments to meet, you live in a hectic
world moving at a hectic pace.
So what do you do?
Set Life Goals
You start by making a simple plan. To help you become clear,
become happier, to get you closer to things you want to do and be
in life, to maintain balance, to keep important things important you
need to have a plan.
A plan is what professional leaders the world over use to
communicate and achieve the vision for their company, their teams,
their workers and shareholders.
Military commanders, CEOs, leaders, coaches, trainers, mentors,
everyone believes in and practices the concept of a plan. The same
process can help you achieve your desires.
Your life plan will be a strong foundation and the blueprint of your
A plan is what brings awe inspiring things from the drawing board
into the real world, be it magnificent tall structures, super fast
trains, massive bridges, deep space satellite probes, life changing
technology or cool gadgets that get sold in the millions… all of them
come to life thanks to a clear plan.
Your life is more valuable than all of the awe
inspiring things mentioned above, isn’t it?
If so, why is it that you do not have clear life goals yet?
If you are like most people, you will say it’s because you have been
meaning to set them but have been too busy at work.
If you are like most people, you will also admit that in the
meantime days have turned into weeks, which have turned into
months and those months have become a few years now.
am a life coach and trust me I hear this from clients all the time.
However, it does not have to be this way.
Here are 7 simple steps to making a plan and
setting life goals that really matter
You continue to complain about the lack of work life balance,
about not being able to pursue your hobbies, passions, not having
time to focus on what really matters, about not being able to
achieve what you truly are capable of.
Yet you do nothing to fix it. Complaining sucks away your energy
and creativity. Stop this today and learn to redirect your attention
on how you can live a better life despite the demanding
2. Become Aware
Like with any plan, begin your life plan too with a situational
analysis. Reflect on key areas of your life like health, finance,
relationships, career or business, leisure time and spiritual
growth/inner peace. Next, for each of them answer the below
1.Where are you?
2. Where do you wish to be?
3. How can you get there?
As you work to answer these you must set clear milestones to
check progress and achievements. Using a rating scale can
help.Rate key areas of your life on a scale of 1 to 5 with 1 being
poor, 3 being good and 5 for excellent. Give the rating for current
and desired status.
e.g. Current rating for leisure/hobbies could be 1 and your
desired rating maybe a 4.
Like everyone else you too have just 24 hours in a day and your
work plus commitments at home are bound to take up a
substantial portion of your time.
Your desires will always be more than the time on hand to
make them come true. So get real, learn to prioritize and ask
yourself which ones are important, which life goals will have
the greatest impact on your life in the short, medium and long
term.Which ones if pursued will bring you joy, fulfillment and
greater meaning in your life.
( hint : it’s not money)
4. Get clear on your desires
It’s only when you know what you really want that you can start
working towards achieving it.
If your current rating for leisure/hobbies is a 1 and your desired
rating is a 4, you can gain further clarity by asking yourself “
What must happen in my leisure time/hobby life area for me to
give it a rating of 4”? An answer then might be “It will be a 4
when I fulfill my desire to learn to play a musical instrument“.
5. Make it specific
Vague targets get vague results. By being specific you eliminate
trivia and lesser important desires to focus on what really
matters. Going with the previous example you may restate your
desire as “ It will be a 4 when I fulfill my long held desire to learn
to play a piano”
6. Be realistic
Your life goals should stretch you however not be completely out of
reach. If it takes about 12 weekly sessions to learn the basics of
playing the piano, you must give yourself 3 to 4 months to achieve
it, not lesser.
Else you are setting yourself up for failure by being unrealistic. So
your desire statement would now be something like “ It will be a 4
when I fulfill my long held desire to learn to play a piano in 3 to 4
months from now ( or specific date and month of the year)”.
Dreams and goals widen your horizon, help you imagine what
could be, however, you need to take action to makes them come
true.Every action you take must a have direct impact, it should be
Move you forward and get you closer to living as per your life plan.
Continuing with the previous example If you wish to learn basics of
playing a piano in 3 to 4 months from now, actions would involve
looking for piano teachers, signing up, buying a keyboard or a piano
for practice and start attending the classes.
As much as you start taking action towards your life goals, you must
also stop spending time, acting on things that are not aligned to your
life goals. That is the only way you can have more time pursuing
activities that really matter.
Notice how you began with shifting your attention from complaining
to contemplating, then became aware on key areas, then expressed
desires, worked to gain clarity, made it specific and identified key
actions that would help you achieve it.
You can use the same seven steps to define and work to achieve rest
of your life goals to
In his insightful book ‘Do the work’ Steven Pressfield writes about
resistance and how it comes in the way of holding people back from
fulfilling their dreams and desires.
As you begin on your new life plan, you are bound to face
resistance from within, a voice in your head that tells you why
you can’t do this, how you will fail, be laughed at, made fun of….
If you let the voices dictate your decisions, you will start finding
excuses, skip action and fall back into old patterns of thinking,
Ignore the voice and continue to take action. Keep your eye on
the prize, on the benefits of sticking to and achieving everything
in your life plan.
Commit to it with your supportive friends and family members,
ask them to hold you accountable, work with a life coach, keep a
calendar and track you progress.
wake up each morning and visualize yourself taking action,
moving forward, moving closer.
imagine how it will feel when you have achieved everything in
your life plan effortlessly and joyfully. Do everything you can to
stick to the life goals.
Choices, choices, choices
Remember everything you experience today is because of the
choices you have made in the past. By simply choosing to set life
goals, you are taking the first and most important step in living a
happier and more fulfilling life.
Give your plan the importance it deserves. Stick to it, choose to
take consistent and persistent action and you will see positive
changes across key areas of your life.
Your life is invaluable, set and work on life goals that really
‘It is never too late to be who you might have been’. ~George
Points to ponder
1. What are some things you have been wanting to do but have not
2. How would you feel if you did these things, experienced them?
3. What must happen to make them come true ( please be as specific
4. What resources do you need to get started? Who can help you?
5. When will you begin on your life goals?
ABOUT SRIDHAR LAXMAN
I am a Professional Certified Coach with International
Coach Federation and a graduate from International Coach
Academy. I am also a student of Jack Canfield’s ‘The Success
Principles’ Coaching Program. Its my passion to help people
live to their true potential.
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