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  1. 1. Emotional Affairs Limerance and Love Struck Syndrome
  2. 2. Emotional Affair <ul><li>A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy and can begin as innocently as a friendship. It may also be called an affair of the heart . </li></ul>
  3. 3. Emotional affairs are more common than sexual affairs <ul><li>One recent study indicated that 44% of husbands and 57% of wives have had an emotional affair. That’s right: more women than men! </li></ul><ul><li>The terminology emotional affair causes confusion among some people. Everyone knows that affairs are bad, and that they involve sex with someone other than the spouse. But what is an emotional affair? It’s an affair without the sex! Why call it an affair if it doesn’t involve sex? Because it is a romantic relationship with someone else, and because it involves emotional intimacy with the non-spouse. </li></ul>
  4. 4. When does a friendship cross the line to an emotional affair <ul><li>When you are thinking more about your affair partner than about your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>When you get jealous while hearing about your affair partner’s love life. </li></ul><ul><li>When you have sexual fantasies about your affair partner, or at least wonder what it would be like to kiss or touch him/her. </li></ul><ul><li>When you hide the extent of the involvement from your spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>When you share intimate details about your marriage with your affair partner. </li></ul>
  5. 5. How can an emotional affair damage a marriage <ul><li>It seriously injures the secure feeling of attachment that the uninvolved spouse feels. </li></ul><ul><li>It creates emotional distance between spouses. </li></ul><ul><li>The involved spouse usually shares intimate details (including dissatisfaction) about his/her marriage with the affair partner. </li></ul><ul><li>Time spent with the affair partner may mean less time spent with the uninvolved spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>It typically increases deception and secrecy as the involved spouse tries to hide the affair from the uninvolved spouse. </li></ul><ul><li>Some emotional affairs become full-blown sexual affairs. </li></ul>
  6. 6. To survive the Affair and Rebuild the Relationship <ul><li>1. Establishing safety and addressing the traumatic symptoms. A necessary component of establishing safety is ending all contact with the affair partner. </li></ul><ul><li>2. Telling the story of the affair. This stage usually progresses from a truth-seeking inquisition to a more neutral process of information gathering. The guiding principle in this stage is using information to enhance healing, versus engaging in destructive interrogation. </li></ul>
  7. 7. <ul><li>3. The most important components of this stage are recognizing the vulnerabilities in the relationship and how they led to the affair and addressing them appropriately. The couple develops a renewed sense of trust, commitment, and a shared responsibility for change. </li></ul>
  8. 8. Limerance
  9. 9. LIMERENCE <ul><li>An emotional state in which a person feels an intense romantic desire for another person </li></ul><ul><li>Expressed as having a “crush” with someone which can last months, years or even a lifetime </li></ul><ul><li>Experienced as intense joy or extreme despair, depending on whether or not the feelings are reciprocated </li></ul>
  10. 10. LIMERENCE <ul><li>The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov to describe the ultimate, near obsessive form of romantic love and can also be referred as “infatuation” </li></ul><ul><li>Characterized by intrusive thinking and sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual </li></ul><ul><li>One is inspired with an intense passion or admiration for someone </li></ul><ul><li>Often dismissed as ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction </li></ul>
  11. 11. ORIGIN <ul><li>First originated in the mid 1960s by Dorothy Tennov </li></ul><ul><li>Interviewed 500 people on the topic of love </li></ul><ul><li>Coined the term “limerence” in 1978 </li></ul><ul><li>Publishing it in her1979 book “ Love and Limerence: The Experience of being in love” </li></ul>
  12. 12. COMPONENTS <ul><li>Intrusive thinking </li></ul><ul><li>Fear of rejection </li></ul><ul><li>Physical effects </li></ul>
  13. 13. INTRUSIVE THINKING <ul><li>during the height of limerence, thoughts of limerent object (or person) are at once persistent, involuntary and intrusive </li></ul><ul><li>First and foremost a condition of cognitive obsession </li></ul><ul><li>All events, stimuli, and experiences return thought to the limerent object with unnerving consistency </li></ul>
  14. 14. Cont’ <ul><li>limerent fantasy is unsatisfactory unless is rooted in reality, </li></ul><ul><li>The fantasizer may want the fantasy to seem realistic and somewhat possible </li></ul><ul><li>Fantasies are occasionally dreamed by the one experiencing limerence </li></ul><ul><li>Dreams give out strong emotion and happiness when experienced </li></ul>
  15. 15. FEAR OF REJECTION <ul><li>Considerable self doubt and uncertainty is experienced and it causes pain, but also enhances desire to a certain extent </li></ul><ul><li>Most cases, this helps to eventually destroy the limerence if a long period of time has passed without reciprocation </li></ul><ul><li>Can result in shyness in the present of llimerent object </li></ul>
  16. 16. CONT’ <ul><li>Although it appears that limerence blossoms under some form of adversity, extreme caution and shyness, it may prevent the relationship from occurring even when both parties are interested </li></ul><ul><li>Results from a fear of exposing one’s undesirable characteristics to the limerent object </li></ul>
  17. 17. PHYSIOLOGICAL EFFECTS <ul><li>Heart palpitations </li></ul><ul><li>Trembling </li></ul><ul><li>Pallor </li></ul><ul><li>Flushing </li></ul><ul><li>Pupil dilatation </li></ul><ul><li>General weakness </li></ul><ul><li>Awkwardness </li></ul><ul><li>Stuttering </li></ul><ul><li>Shyness </li></ul><ul><li>Dizziness </li></ul><ul><li>Syncope </li></ul><ul><li>Headache </li></ul>
  18. 18. PHYSICAL EFFECTS <ul><li>Fainting: rarely happens but can take place when a person is deeply in love with the limerent object </li></ul><ul><li>Game playing: no matter how intensely reciprocation is desired, it cannot simply be requested </li></ul><ul><li>To ask is to risk premature self disclosure </li></ul><ul><li>The interplay is delicate, with the reactions of each person bound to the bahavior of the other </li></ul>
  19. 19. CONT’ <ul><li>Sexuality: awareness of physical attraction play a key role in the development of limerencebut is not enough to satisfy the limerent desire, and almost never the main focus </li></ul><ul><li>Limerence increases sexual interest in other partners when the limerent object is unreceptive, such as when married people find sex with their spouses more pleasurable when they become limerent over someone else </li></ul>
  20. 20. HOW TO TELL IF YOU ARE IN LOVE OR LIMERENCE <ul><li>are you preoccupied and obsessed with the person you love? </li></ul><ul><li>Would you want this person to be happy even if it meant they would never be with you? </li></ul><ul><li>Have your feelings reminded you or others with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) </li></ul><ul><li>Do you think about the person in question intrusively? (you can’t get them out of your mind even when trying) </li></ul><ul><li>Are you afraid to share your feelings with the person you are thinking for fear of they might reject you? </li></ul>
  21. 21. CONT’ <ul><li>Are you or have been in a relationship with this person as more than “just friends”? </li></ul><ul><li>Is the hope that someday this person will love you in return one of your biggest motivational factors in life? </li></ul><ul><li>add all your points, if they lean heavily to the love side, you are probably in true love, cherish it! If you fell in limerence column, you may want to cpnsider re-evaluating your feelings and the chnaces of your love being real </li></ul>
  22. 22. Love Struck Syndrome
  23. 23. Love Struck Syndrome <ul><li>Also called “Love at first sight”, “Love sickness” </li></ul><ul><li>Love sickness is a non-medical term used to describe mental and physical symptoms associated with falling in love. </li></ul><ul><li>Historically, love sickness has been viewed as a short-lived mental illness brought on by the intense changes associated with love. </li></ul>
  24. 24. Love addiction <ul><li>The normal process of falling into love addiction begins when a person begins to feel sympathy with another person after going through an initially innocent moment of attraction and automatically idealizes the other to the point of divinity. </li></ul><ul><li>The individual is then blindly attached to the other person, where they are incapable of making a realistic analysis of the situation and projects in the other all kinds of illusions, believing the other to be the only one that can bring happiness. </li></ul>
  25. 25. Research <ul><li>Research has shown two bases for love at first sight. The first is that the attractiveness of a person can be very quickly determined, with the average time in one study being 0.13 seconds. </li></ul><ul><li>The second is that the first few minutes of a relationship have shown to be predictive of the relationship's future success, more so than what two people have in common or whether they like each other. </li></ul><ul><li>Love sickness only occurs when a person has fallen in love, not when a crush emerges. However it may develop into love. </li></ul>
  26. 26. Signs and Symptoms <ul><li>Some of the symptom clusters shared with love sickness include: </li></ul><ul><li>Mania or hypomania – abnormally elevated mood, inflated self esteem, extravagant gift giving </li></ul><ul><li>Depression – tearfulness, insomnia, loss of concentration </li></ul><ul><li>Stress - high blood pressure, pain in chest and heart, acute insomnia; sometimes brought on by a &quot;Crush&quot; </li></ul><ul><li>Obsessive-compulsive disorder – preoccupation and hoarding valueless but superstitiously resonant items </li></ul><ul><li>Psychologically created physical symptoms, such as upset stomach, change in appetite, insomnia, dizziness, and confusion. </li></ul>
  27. 27. Dangers of Obsessive Love <ul><li>Obsessive love can occur when love is not reciprocated </li></ul><ul><li>Aspects of obsessive compulsive disorder can be found in those experiencing lovesickness, such as preoccupation and obsessively checking for text messages and e-mails. </li></ul><ul><li>Obsessive love can lead to dangerous consequences. </li></ul><ul><li>Extreme obsessive love can be the cause of stalking, rape, and murder, among other things. </li></ul>
  28. 28. The end
  29. 29. Group 3 <ul><li>Jonathan Reyes </li></ul><ul><li>Mah Asombang </li></ul><ul><li>Jinky Harvey </li></ul><ul><li>Jung, Sung youn (Jay) </li></ul><ul><li>Yang, Chang Jing (mavis) </li></ul><ul><li>Chen, Dorie </li></ul><ul><li>Chen, Kerina </li></ul><ul><li>Arsenio Reblando </li></ul><ul><li>Barbara Korua </li></ul>