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1. Homelessness
Empathy Driven Enforcement
1. Homelessness
Empathy Driven Enforcement
2. Punishment
1. Homelessness
Empathy Driven Enforcement
2. Punishment
3. Psychology
1. Homelessness
Empathy Driven Enforcement
2. Punishment
4. Tools
3. Psychology
Disclaimer
Part 1
Homelessness
Three “Types”
of Homelessness
50% = 2 Weeks or Less
50% = 2 Weeks or Less
40% = 2 Weeks – 1 Year
50% = 2 Weeks or Less
40% = 2 Weeks – 1 Year
10% = More than 1 Year
Trauma
Prefrontal Cortex
& Hippocampus
Prefrontal Cortex
& Hippocampus
• Decision making
Prefrontal Cortex
& Hippocampus
• Decision making
• Abstract thought
Prefrontal Cortex
& Hippocampus
• Decision making
• Abstract thought
• Context (time/place)
Prefrontal Cortex
& Hippocampus
• Decision making
• Abstract thought
• Context (time/place)
• Mood regulation
Amygdala
Amygdala
• Fight or flight
Amygdala
• Fight or flight
• Fear memories
I wonder how much
leopards weigh?
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Effects of Trauma
Effects of Trauma
• Damages Prefrontal Cortex and Hippocampus
Effects of Trauma
• Damages Prefrontal Cortex and Hippocampus
• Amygdala becomes hyperactive
Effects of Trauma
• Damages Prefrontal Cortex and Hippocampus
• Amygdala becomes hyperactive
• Amygdala suppresses
Prefrontal Cortex and
Hippocampus
Consequences
Consequences
• “Misperceive threat stimuli”
Consequences
• “Misperceive threat stimuli”
• Difficulty “self-regulating emotion”
Consequences
• “Misperceive threat stimuli”
• Difficulty “self-regulating emotion”
• Impulsive
You have a
$1.00 fine on
your account.
You have a
$1.00 fine on
your account.
@$@@#!
$!$@$!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!
You have a
$1.00 fine on
your account.
View of Time
Everyday Sadists
Part 2
Punishment
What
I want
to Do
What
I want
to DoPunishment
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Mental Illness
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Mental Illness
Substance Abuse
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Mental Illness
Substance Abuse
Trauma
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Mental Illness
Substance Abuse
Trauma
Shortened Time Horizon
Traits that Lower Effectiveness of Punishment
Mental Illness
Substance Abuse
Trauma
Shortened Time Horizon
“Habituated to Punishment”
Punishment-Driven
Enforcement
Empathy-Driven
Enforcement
Tools
Benefits
A New Paradigm
Punishment-Driven
Enforcement
Empathy-Driven
Enforcement
Tools
Threats
Punishment
Benefits
A New Paradigm
Punishment-Driven
Enforcement
Empathy-Driven
Enforcement
Tools
Threats
Punishment
Benefits Simple
A New Paradigm
Punishment-Driven
Enforcement
Empathy-Driven
Enforcement
Tools
Threats
Punishment
Psychology
Benefits Simple
A New Paradigm
Punishment-Driven
Enforcement
Empathy-Driven
Enforcement
Tools
Threats
Punishment
Psychology
Benefits Simple
Effective
Compassionate
A New Paradigm
Part 3
Psychology
Neurochemistry
Reciprocity
Psychology of
Relationship
Relationship “Builders”
Relationship “Builders”
 Compliments
Relationship “Builders”
 Compliments
 Questions
Relationship “Builders”
 Compliments
 Questions
 Deeds
Relationship “Builders”
 Compliments
 Questions
 Deeds
 Touch
Relationship “Destroyers”
Relationship “Destroyers”
 Criticism
Relationship “Destroyers”
 Criticism
 Defensiveness
Relationship “Destroyers”
 Criticism
 Defensiveness
 Stonewalling
Relationship “Destroyers”
 Criticism
 Defensiveness
 Stonewalling
 Contempt
Part 4
Tools
Navy Seal Speed
“Slow is smooth.
Smooth is fast.”
Cup of Pennies
Get One Penny
Get One Penny
Compliment
Get One Penny
Compliment
Question
Get One Penny
Compliment
Question
Deed
Get One Penny
Compliment
Question
Deed
Touch
Lose Five Pennies
Lose Five Pennies
Criticism
Lose Five Pennies
Criticism
Defensiveness
Lose Five Pennies
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Lose Five Pennies
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Contempt
Lose Five Pennies
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Contempt
Enforce a Rule
= Voluntary Compliance
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Editor's Notes

  • #13 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #26 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #27 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #28 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #29 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #30 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #31 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #32 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #33 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #34 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #35 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #36 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #37 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #38 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #39 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #40 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #41 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #42 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #43 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #44 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #45 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #46 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #47 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #48 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #49 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #50 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #51 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #52 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #53 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #54 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #55 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #56 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #57 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #58 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #59 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #60 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #61 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #62 Reciprocity   Examples: - Someone buys you a beer - Someone takes your shift   Caveats: - Perceived, not actual - Negative stronger than positive by about a factor of 5   Results in “Reciprocity math” (5 x 5 x 5) Feuds, gang fights, wars, etc.   If I could change one thing I would make it 1:1   The bible tried: Eye for an eye
  • #75 New paradigm Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart The key is HOW you enforce the rules
  • #76 New paradigm Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart The key is HOW you enforce the rules
  • #77 New paradigm Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart The key is HOW you enforce the rules
  • #78 New paradigm Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart The key is HOW you enforce the rules
  • #79 New paradigm Punishment-driven vs. empathy driven chart The key is HOW you enforce the rules
  • #114 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #115 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #118 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #133 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #135 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #138 Four stages of conflict Plus mindset
  • #140 Remember:   1) Homeless people are exactly like you, except communication style, experiences, worldview, triggers 2) Punishment-driven enforcement is dominant model but not effective with homeless patrons 3) Empathy-driven enforcement is better 4) You all have tools. Hopefully you learned a few more. Go practice them!   Thank you for everything you do!
  • #141 How to ask someone to leave   1) Take a minute to listen 2) Make it clear you don’t think negatively 3) Offer a fresh start 4) Be sad about it 5) Use baby steps