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ARGUMENT H OW T O AV O I D Y O U R N E X T
What Situation Are 
You In? 
Scenario 1 The Tangle 
‘Don't forget dinner 
tonight.’ 
‘Tonight?! 
We said tomorrow!’ 
Where crossed wires lead to uncertainty, uncoordinated action and 
frustrated expectations. How often do you shake your head in 
bewilderment and wonder how on earth a mix-up occurred? Learn how 
to adapt your style of communication, set the context for the conversa-tion 
and check for clarity to prevent misunderstandings and confusion.
Scenario 2 THE Big argument 
‘You’re tight 
with money.’ 
‘And you’re 
hysterical.’ 
This is where a convivial start has spiralled out of control and into a 
bitter row with a partner, family member, work colleague, neighbour 
or anyone else you’d had no intention of falling out with. By recogniz-ing 
the Warning Lights that tell you a conversation is going off track, 
you can bring it back to ground level.
Scenario 3 The Bad Place 
‘That conversation 
was a disaster.’ 
‘Where did it all 
go wrong?’ 
Where a conversation with someone has gone horribly wrong and 
you’re in the mire. Or where you simply feel disconnected and fed up 
with someone and you are wondering how you're going to address the 
issue or recover the situation. By understanding the dynamics of 
difficult conversations, and knowing practical steps to tackle them, 
you’ll get into the Bad Place less often and get out of it more quickly.
Scenario 4 The LockDown 
‘Can we talk 
it through?’ 
‘I don’t ever want 
to discuss it again.’ 
Where feelings and thoughts are internalized or withheld and negative 
conclusions are drawn, leading to an implosion rather than to the 
explosion of the Big Argument. If someone’s in the Lockdown, they’ll 
withdraw and won't want to talk, even though it’s obvious that they’re 
deeply upset. Asking open questions, putting your own story on hold and 
listening without justification can help you re-establish your connection.
Blamestorming 
The ultimate guide to 
mastering conversation 
at work and at home 
watkinspublishing.co.uk

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Blamestorming: The 4 Signs You Are Heading for an Argument

  • 1. ARGUMENT H OW T O AV O I D Y O U R N E X T
  • 2. What Situation Are You In? Scenario 1 The Tangle ‘Don't forget dinner tonight.’ ‘Tonight?! We said tomorrow!’ Where crossed wires lead to uncertainty, uncoordinated action and frustrated expectations. How often do you shake your head in bewilderment and wonder how on earth a mix-up occurred? Learn how to adapt your style of communication, set the context for the conversa-tion and check for clarity to prevent misunderstandings and confusion.
  • 3. Scenario 2 THE Big argument ‘You’re tight with money.’ ‘And you’re hysterical.’ This is where a convivial start has spiralled out of control and into a bitter row with a partner, family member, work colleague, neighbour or anyone else you’d had no intention of falling out with. By recogniz-ing the Warning Lights that tell you a conversation is going off track, you can bring it back to ground level.
  • 4. Scenario 3 The Bad Place ‘That conversation was a disaster.’ ‘Where did it all go wrong?’ Where a conversation with someone has gone horribly wrong and you’re in the mire. Or where you simply feel disconnected and fed up with someone and you are wondering how you're going to address the issue or recover the situation. By understanding the dynamics of difficult conversations, and knowing practical steps to tackle them, you’ll get into the Bad Place less often and get out of it more quickly.
  • 5. Scenario 4 The LockDown ‘Can we talk it through?’ ‘I don’t ever want to discuss it again.’ Where feelings and thoughts are internalized or withheld and negative conclusions are drawn, leading to an implosion rather than to the explosion of the Big Argument. If someone’s in the Lockdown, they’ll withdraw and won't want to talk, even though it’s obvious that they’re deeply upset. Asking open questions, putting your own story on hold and listening without justification can help you re-establish your connection.
  • 6. Blamestorming The ultimate guide to mastering conversation at work and at home watkinspublishing.co.uk