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The hidden reasons why 70% of
change projects don’t reach
their goals
Jan Vermeiren
Founder
Four Vibes
Feeling
Safe
Feeling Supported
Negative Vibe
Neutral Vibe
Positive Vibe
Inspiring Vibe
Early ∣ Mid ∣ Late
Early Late
Early Late
Early Late
∣ Mid ∣
∣ Mid ∣
∣ Mid ∣
People don’t resist change.
However they do resist the tensions linked to the
change that they don’t know how to deal with.
The Myth of Resistance to Change
1. Practical / Process Tension
2. Personal Tension
3. Interpersonal Tension
Three Kinds of Tensions
1. Tensions don’t feel nice –> ignore them
2. Every tension is considered a practical tension
3. Tensions often become intertwined -> causes delays and
lowers the vibe
Problems with Tensions
Example of Intertwined Tensions
Practical
tension
Personal tension
Interpersonal tension
• Assess how (psychologically) safe and
supported people feel
• Send e-mail to connect@thecompassionateleader.org for a DIY Vibe
Assessment
• Have a framework/toolkit ready to transform
tensions
What to Do?
Transforming Tensions via the D.U.E.T. Process
1. Detect and face the tension
2. Understand and solve the tension
3. Embrace and transform the root of the tension
4. Take action
Interpersonal tension Practical tension Personal tension
Compassion Technique
Compassionate
Problem Solving
ABC of Destressing
Compassion Quadrants
Compassionate
Communication
Inner Balance Technique
Self CareApply the Proposal
Compassionate
Problem Solving
From Negative to Neutral Vibe
1. Detect and face the tension
2. Understand and solve the tension
3. Embrace and transform the root of the tension
4. Take action
Interpersonal tension Practical tension Personal tension
Compassion Technique
Compassionate
Problem Solving
ABC of Destressing
Compassion Quadrants
Compassionate
Communication
Inner Balance Technique
Self CareApply the Proposal
Compassionate
Problem Solving
From Neutral to Positive Vibe
1. Detect and face the tension
2. Understand and solve the tension
3. Embrace and transform the root of the tension
4. Take action
Interpersonal tension Practical tension Personal tension
Compassion Technique
Compassionate
Problem Solving
ABC of Destressing
Compassion Quadrants
Compassionate
Communication
Inner Balance Technique
Self CareApply the Proposal
Compassionate
Problem Solving
From Positive to Inspiring Vibe
1. Detect and face the tension
2. Understand and solve the tension
3. Embrace and transform the root of the tension
4. Take action
Interpersonal tension Practical tension Personal tension
Compassion Technique
Compassionate
Problem Solving
ABC of Destressing
Compassion Quadrants
Compassionate
Communication
Inner Balance Technique
Self CareApply the Proposal
Compassionate
Problem Solving
Roadmap to High Performing Teams /
Teams in an Inspiring Vibe
Align the Team Align Team &
Personal Mission
Share Your
Added Value
Clarify Needed
Support
Deal with
Tensions
Resolve
Conflicts &
Misunderstandings
Understand the
Root of Conflicts
& Misunderstandings
Solve
Personal
Stress
Communicate
Voice & Discover
Needs & Concerns
Propose Solution
& Decide
With Consent
Agree on Outcome
& Timing3
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• DIY Vibe Assessment
• Guide for Business Owners & Managers to Increase
Ownership without Worrying about Results
• E-book 5 Most Overlooked Dynamics that Impact
Agile, Self-Organizing and Traditional Teams
=> Send an e-mail to connect@thecompassionateleader.org
Free Support
Thank you!
jan.vermeiren@thecompassionateleader.org
+32 (0) 3 337 40 60
www.thecompassionateleader.org