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6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage


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  1. 1. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage
  2. 2. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage NOTICE: You Do NOT Have the Right to Reprint or Resell this Report. You MAY NOT Sell this Report You ARE ALLOWED to Share, or Give Away this Report without ANY Changes to the Content © 2010 Copyright Silviya Love - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopying and recording, or by any information storage or retrieval system, without written permission from the publisher. DISCLAIMER AND/OR LEGAL NOTICES: While they have made every effort to verify the information provided in this publication, neither the author nor publisher assumes any responsibility for errors in, omissions from or different interpretation of the subject matter. Any perceived slight of specific people or organizations is unintentional. The information contained in this report is stric tly for educational purposes. Therefore, if you wish to apply ideas contained in this report, you are taking full responsibility for your actions. The publication is not intended as a source of legal, medical, accounting or other professional advice and, where appropriate, the advice of a suitably qualified professional should be sought. Many factors will be important in determining your actual results therefore no guarantees are made that you will achieve results similar to ours or anybody else, nor are we responsible for any of your actions. The author and publisher shall in no event be held liable to any party for any damages arising directly or indirectly from any use of this material, which is provided as is, and without warranties. Any links to other websites are for information only and are not warranted for content, performance, accuracy or any other implied or explicit purpose. Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 2
  3. 3. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage Recommended Reading 3 Steps to Improve Your Marriage “Bring the Fire Back” 3 Steps to Improve Your Marriage – Bring the Fire Back Some Useful Resources You may find some of these useful to you: The Magic of Making Up Save My Marriage Today! 500 Love Making Tips and Tricks 1000 Questions You Must Absolutely Ask Your Partner Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 3
  4. 4. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage Believe it. You, yourself can greatly improve your marriage. How? By changing your way of thinking and interacting, your marriage will improve greatly and will be exciting for you and your partner. You are not alone. Everyone is capable of making mistakes and being married is not easy for anyone. Looking after one’s own desires can lead into several problems in a marriage. Without even your partner knows, you may start to work on your marriage by yourself. Here are some tips to follow in order to improve your marriage: 1. Practice Kindness Don’t think this is easy. It is actually lot harder than you might think. After being in a married life for a while, it is very easy to settle with a day to day routine. You can easily forget the things that make your spouse happy. You may respond to your spouse with quick answers rather than enjoy talking with him/her. The end result will be a spouse who got hurt, betrayed, and angry. When you just came from work with a bad mood, it is easy to be rude to your spouse. It’s true that you need to leave your personal problems at home when you go to office. I stress another thing. If you have a bad day, just don’t take it home with you. Your spouse is nothing to do with the problem you have in your office or outside of your relationship. Treat them with kind words and actions. Don’t make them feel less important. Watch your words carefully. You can retrieve anything back, but not words. Always look for ways to help and serve your partner. If you notice they are not their usual, ask them frankly what is bothering them. Don’t just assume that your partner is upset because of you. They might have a rough day or stressed about something outside of the relationship. Very often, we take good things for granted and focus only on the bad stuff. Never, take anything for granted, including your spouse. Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 4
  5. 5. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage 2. Gain Self Confidence Being confident is very important factor that contributes to your marriage. If you are highly confident and have a strong personality, never use it to manipulate or control your partner. You completely accept your partner for who they are and find ways to increase their self confidence. By constantly criticized and ignoring your partner’s feeling will eventually lead to loss of their individual worth and to become depressed and hopeless. If you lack the Self Confidence, you should find ways to improve it before you do that to your spouse. Always trust your ability to make decisions. Never feel small because you have some things that didn’t go the way you expected in the past. If you have problem at work or didn’t get the promotion that you expected, find ways to work smarter or leave to another company where your strength is recognized. Never dwell on why you didn’t get that promotion. If you feel that you lack Self Confidence, talk to your spouse for support and advice. They will appreciate your honestly and openness and they will support you. It will increase their love for you. The point I am trying to make here is, talk to your partner as you will talk to your friend. Find out all the positive aspects of yourself, list them in a journal and keep reading it each day. The increase in your Self Confidence will be automatically conveyed to your partner, and the result will be a happy and healthy marriage in the making. 3. Be Realistic It is easy to get emotional when confronted with some issues. When people get upset, the reaction will be a quick emotional response. Before reacting, take some time to think. It is not best to resolve problems with your partner when you are reacting purely out of emotion. If you find the argument put against you by your partner is unreasonable, just ask yourself, “Is it worth picking the fight for it?” You don’t need to say everything that you are thinking. Let’s say, your wife is trying to make a good meal for you, but unintentionally added a bit of salt more. When she asks you about the Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 5
  6. 6. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage meal, don’t be rude by saying that she used too much of salt. Instead, say it politely that you prefer less salt and otherwise, the meal is very nice. Add something that will make her happy. Remember, compliments are free. My point is, avoid making it as an issue that doesn’t need to be added to your list of issues to be addressed. In reality, it is not. Pay attention to what you say to your partner. Your words and actions can have huge impact on your partner. It is easy to be proactive rather reactive. Almost over 90% of the time, we say things to our partner that we would regret later. So, why we have to say it in the first place? Look for alternative way to handle any situation without argument, name calling or pointing fingers. Learn from your past events, disagreements and the end-results. With that knowledge, always try to be a better person with less emotion and with improved reactions. 4. Listen, Really Listen You may have heard it before that communication is so important to any relationship. But many people confused with talking and communicating. Use this technique next time when you converse with your partner. Repeat few of the key points that they have mentioned in the conversation. This will help them to know that you understand what they are talking about. Do not be so mechanic with this process. Really listen and repeat. Show them that they have your full attention by keeping constant eye contact, nodding and smiling. Make sure that you do not have any distraction around you like TV or screaming kids. This will take away your attention easily and sent a message to your partner that “you are not listening”. It is easy for Men to interrupt the conversation before the spouse finishing it. Let her tal k and don’t offer any opinion of yours unless your wife asks for it. In order to build an open relationship, learn to listen and your partner will listen to you back. Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 6
  7. 7. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage 5. Never Hold Back of the Past Remember, there is no “Perfect Marriage”. The “Happily Ever After” is just real as a tooth fairy. However, the Happiness in Marriage is a real thing. What is the difference? Besides Happiness, you may experience some bumps along the way. Mistakes are inevitable by both parties. Practice forgiveness and never hold back anything that happened in the past. Never control your thought. Rather, watch your thought and apply caution when you talk something that might trigger your spouse. It is no different than talking to a friend, use words that are neutral without offending them. After you resolved the situation, never bring it up again. It simply doesn’t make any sense to bring the old stuff again to the present moment and fight over and over ag ain. 6. Physical Affection We respond to emotional and physical needs naturally. It is important to feel love and be accepted by our partner. Intimacy and the romance fade away quickly after being pressured by the daily routines and mundane tasks. Never forget that your partner has needs. Touch is magical. Touch your partner often by stroking their back, neck and arms. Hold their hand, put your arm around them when walking or standing, kiss them and hug them. All your actions should not always lead to sex. The point is here, a touch should show your partner that you care about them. Non-sexual way of touching is very important for a healthy marriage. Women expect their spouse to be loyal and faithful to them. But they need to understand that a man will be faithful when he feels the love from his spouse in a physical manner. Women can forget those needs of their husband as they caught up with other things. Always give it without any expectation, and you will receive it back beyond your imagination. Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 7
  8. 8. 6 Significant Ways To Improve Your Marriage Why stop being intimate with your partner? A hug or kiss when they come home after a long day, stroke their hair when you both are sitting in the couch, and be creative. Make your partner feel your love. The foundation for happy marriage is faith and love. By start working on yourself, you can greatly improve your marriage. By putting your partner first in your life, you will learn to be a better person overcoming selfishness. I sincerely hope that above tips helps you to improve your married life that is filled with happiness. Try it and share your thoughts. Also Share this report to your Friends and Family. They will thank you. About Author Silviya Love writes about Improving Marriages and Relationships at her blog. Her new book is 3 Steps to Improve Your Marriage. It contains numerous ideas to bring the happiness back to the marriage. ******************************** Copyright © 2010 Silviya Love. All Rights Reserved. – Page | 8