Something nice – to share.. THE ARGUMENT ♫ Turn on your speakers! AGAINST ARGUMENTS CLICK TO ADVANCE SLIDES “A soft answer starts on slideaway wrath.” Music turns 2 Proverb 15:1a
HOW DO WARS BEGIN?A boy once asked his father, "Dad, how do wars begin?” "Well, take the First World War," said his father. "That got started whenGermany invaded Belgium."Immediately his wife interrupted him, "Tell the boy the truth! It beganbecause somebody was assassinated!”The husband drew himself up with an air of superiority and snapped back,"Are you answering the question or am I?"Turning her back upon him in a huff, thewife stormed out the room and slammed thedoor as hard as she could!When the dishes stopped rattling in thecupboard an uneasy silence followed,broken at length by the boy:"Daddy, you dont have to tell me howwars begin; I KNOW now!"
Arguing!We all do it sometimes!We all know what it is towalk away from anargument with the mouthdry, tummy in a knot,head hot and spinning,and heart sick--wishingthat it had neverhappened, deeplyregretting the unkindwords that were said!Believe it or not, morehomes are destroyed byarguments than by firesor funerals!
We all know that arguing for the sake of arguing is a pointless waste of time! We have absolutely NOTHING to gain - only our time, energy and someones friendship is LOST! It is said that the only people who really LISTEN to an argument are the neighbours!Some people love to For others, arguing has argue, and will do become a HABIT, an anything to prove automatic reaction of their point! Theyd saying something rather lose a friend contradictory to than an argument! whatever is being said!
A LESSON FROM BENJAMIN FRANKLINOne compulsive arguer was the early American statesman,philosopher and author, Benjamin Franklin. As a youth heloved nothing more than a good argument until a closefriend took him aside and said,"Ben, you are impossible! Your opinions have a slap inthem for everyone who differs with you! Your friends enjoythemselves better when you are not around! You think youKNOW so much that no one can TELL you anything.Indeed, no one is going to try, for the effort would only leadto discomfort and hard work! So you are not likely ever to know any more than youdo now--which is actually very LITTLE!"
Ben Franklin was BIG enough and WISE enough toaccept these stinging truths, and to realize that he washeaded for failure and social disaster! So he immediatelybegan to change his bigoted, argumentative ways!He became one of the best loved, wisest and mostdiplomatic men in American history, and was actuallyremembered for saying: "If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes. But it will be an empty victory, because you will never get your opponents good will!"
NO ONE ever really wins an argument! You can shout and scream and argue until youre blue in the face, but people are not going to believe that you are right unless they WANT to believe it!And even if they would LIKE to agree with you, your tonemay have put them so much on the defensive that it wouldbe like an utter humiliation, a defeat on the battlefield, for them to confess youre right or even partly right! And remember, Nine times out no amount of of ten, an logic or argument ends argument will with each side make anyone more firmlychange his mind convinced than if he doesnt ever that he is want to! absolutely right!
You cant win an argument,because if you lose it, you lose it!-- And if you WIN it, you still LOSE it! Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other person and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that hes an absolute idiot. Then what? Youll feel fine, smug and satisfied. But what about him? Youll have made him feel inferior. Youve hurt his pride. He may resent your triumph, and… "A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still!"
"WHAT CAUSES FIGHTS AND QUARRELS AMONG YOU?" …. “Dont they come from your lusts and desires that battle withinyou? You want something, but dont get it...so you quarrel and fight.” --James 4:1-2. So greediness and selfishness can be one of the root causes of arguing, trying to get the things you selfishly want. Other arguments are caused by PRIDE. Proverbs 13:10 says, “Only by PRIDE come quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.” Also, as weve clearly seen, many arguments are caused by SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS.--Pushing your point, thinking that youre so right, putting yourself up and the other person down by contradicting them!
And what it all boils down to is a lack of LOVE!Arguing isnt the real problem, thats just a SYMPTOM! --A LACK OF LOVE is the REAL problem!Thats one of the major lessons that God wants us to learn--how to LOVE people, how to work with them, how to treat them, how to give the other person the advantage and the benefit of the doubt, how to build them up unselfishly, instead of selfishly tearing them down through contention and argument! All this is a part of LEARNING TO LOVE, to put ourselves in other peoples shoes, to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you!”
GOD can give you the solutions,change your heart and spirit, fill you with His Spirit of Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.-- GOD also can give you thestrength and grace to LOVE and NOT argue!— So stay close to GOD !!! Love, Humility and Prayer solves all problems! You may want to share this with your friends…..feel free..