Cant seem to find a date? Here are proven ways by experts that make menmore attractive to the opposite sexIt takes more th...
make is to fake it. So, dont buy suits off the shelf, get them tailored to givethe impression that you have broader should...
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invite her for coffee. Chances are, if you were drawn to her, she‘ll have a lot of other friends—including male ones—who w...
might have to make the first (or 100th) move to warm up your marriage, be moreaffectionate, or keep things civil.3. Become...
ambitions and interests that probably contributed to us making that love connection." Both partnerscontinue to pursue at l...
We happened to be staying at my parents house. Decorum dictates that you do notindulge in frenzied sex when your mum and d...
Pre-marital jitters are very common among couples who opt for an arranged marriage. And if youreexperiencing them, ask you...
Now I think I was probably attracted to him because he was so much the opposite of everything I wasthat we had to be toget...
and/or the casualty ward. In fact, love has lost its premier position in the forbidden league. It findsitself with all man...
1. Hide and SeekBefore you chuck this idea out as a stale game, let us tell you that its a uncovered hide and seekmatch th...
Rules: Abandon the usual tracks or shorts and dress formally from head to toe. More the number ofclothes...more is the sex...
beau on the very body part you located them. Tickling caused by your eating coupled with the magic ofberry-juice dripping ...
Rules: You cant skip your turn. Whosoever fails to find a body part loses the golden chance to kiss. Asthey say one person...
for approval."So the key to conduct new-age relationships is: discover the feisty attitude "that will turn you into adiva ...
Walk the tightrope......between being intimidating and independent by being feminine, yet quietly strong. When you donttel...
Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you presentyourself. Just like...
the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn‘t help if you tooget stressed out...
Everybody loves to be on the receiving end and may be she doesnt mind it. So, if you want to turn thetables, then practice...
Not tonight honey!How often do you hear this? But merely blaming your partner for never being in the mood is not fair.Shee...
Some women have now revealed what really scores with them between the sheets.Single comedian Shazia Mirza, 34, said that s...
3. Guys, developing an EQ (Emotional quotient) would help. That however, does not mean that theyneed to cry at the drop of...
Creates positive feelings about oneselfIdeally, great sex means you are enjoying the sexual act and participating equally....
role. It helps me burn greater calories, leaving my guy in ecstasy," says Payal Verma.Invokes passion"Sometimes I feel lik...
The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night,as she likes a "man with a plan".The...
1. No make-up: Oops. Sorry girl. There‘s a great chance that your guy hasn‘t evennoticed your smokey eyes or the new bronz...
thought to be someone who doesn‘t have an adventurous life.Can you talk? Don‘t try to fake interests where you have none. ...
7. Talking about your butt is boringIt‘s a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn‘t want to be dumped — will ever tell h...
and is at its best when unplanned.2. Playing with her hairWhile this may seem immaterial at first and often make you ask "...
"Dont hold your limbs too tightly against your body. Maintain a little distance, but not so much that youare completely ou...
rise to fractures otherwise not warranted in a healthy relationships.There are certain things, which may not look as very ...
relationships. He says, "Both partners might have different sex desires — husbands might havea bigger one, while the wife,...
you were first dating?If it seems like her phone habits are changing and you cannot understand the changes, youmay be witn...
going through the motions? Is she asking for things you never did before or teaching you newtricks?Any extreme variances i...
Theyre all you think about.SIX:You get high just from their scent.FIVE:You relize youre always smiling when youre looking ...
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  1. 1. Cant seem to find a date? Here are proven ways by experts that make menmore attractive to the opposite sexIt takes more than just good looks to woo a woman, but having the looks of aGreek god doesnt hurt either. If you have been languishing at bars hoping for awoman to return your seductive glance, there must be something you are doingwrong. With science on your side, thankfully reconstructing your face is not theonly option. Here are five ways researchers have proven that will have womengoing gaga over you.Attitude mattersA woman can determine what kind of relationship you are looking for from yourattitude. If you smile a lot and are a warmer person during a date, women takethat as an indicator that you are looking for a long-term relationship. So if youare dating a woman for the long haul, be nice. The contrary is true too.A study showed women photographs of men who seemed disinterested anddistracted during a date. The men who look like they dont care were picked bythose who were looking for a fling. So if you are looking for a great night outwith a woman, just be sure to be a little moody.Smell nice, but just rightNow everyone knows that a woman loves a man who smells good. But studiessay that you should not overdo it. The study in question has found that womensubconsciously determine whether a man is genetically compatible with herthrough her sense of smell. So, in order to ensnare a woman who you think isattractive, you should wear a light cologne so that your natural odour can comethrough. That does not translate into not taking bath before a date.Get some definition to your jawNot everyone is born with a Brad Pitt jaw line. Thank god for facial hair.Researchers have found that women who are in the most fertile phase of theircycle prefer men with chiseled jaw lines. Men with weak chins can use facialhair to give your face more definition.V for victoryMost men know of the 0.7 waist to hip ratio that is supposed to set menstoungues wagging. Research has shown that women too have a number on theirmind. Studies have shown that the women love Vshaped bodies on men, andthe ideal waist-to-hip ratio is between 0.9 to 1. Now, to achieve this in thelong run, you need to hit the gym. But if you are too lazy, or work takes up toomuch of your time, try using your clothes to do the same. The easiest way to
  2. 2. make is to fake it. So, dont buy suits off the shelf, get them tailored to givethe impression that you have broader shoulders. To slim your torso, try v-necktops.Its all in the symmetryStudies say that women dont really care if a man has facial hair or not, as longas you stick to your look. Like with everything else, this too points a primevalunderstanding of the opposite sex. A man who is symmetrical looking, isconsidered to be a healthier mate. Play around with your facial hair, but keepthings even. If you are going for a clean shaven look, be sure not to keeppatches of hair on your face, or if you have a goatee, shave off the surroundinghair. The point is to balance both the halves of your face. For the moreadventurous, try tweezing your eyebrows. It will hurt, but science says itsworth the pain.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If youve been waiting for your man to pop up ‗Will you marry me?‘ or insisting he buys that rock solidsolitaire, its time you rethink your game plan. Follow our practical tips to get your guy down onbended knees...1. Dont talk about weddingsDont make it obvious that you are dying to be proposed to as chances are that your guy will run a mile.So, every time you pass a wedding procession pretend to be irritated. If theres a wedding scene in afilm you both are watching, yawn and if you go to a wedding together, complain about the length ofthe ceremony and the poor quality of food. At home, keep saying, "I just hope youll never make me dothat."2. Feel bad for engaged and married pairsWhen you meet up with your oldest pal whos got everything according to you - the house, the man andthe kids -pretend that you guys are better off than them. On your way home, keep telling your manhow you thought that they looked miserable and bored. Even if know you are lying to yourself - justkeep telling your guy that you both are far happier than them. Hes bound to be surprised.3. Holiday with your girlfriendsDitch your man and head to an exotic destination with your gal pals. Save up and take that dreamholiday youve been vying for a long time. Now, even if you do spend every night in a ram shackledresort talking about how much you miss your love, he wont know that. Let him go green with envythinking youre in indulgence heaven, getting hot and heavy with other eligible men.4. Keep your parents awayDont suggest he spend his Diwali holiday with your family. Let him enquire why he wasnt invited, thentell him, "Why trouble yourself honey!" This is likely to make him feel left out, but at the same time itwill make him wonder. Once he feels these two emotions about you, hell have no choice but to pin youdown and beg you to be his eternal flame.5. Resist the temptation to move in with your guyYoure dying to stay over after that night of wild sex and never leave his cozy sex pad. Youve evenmade place in his medicine chest in the loo for your belongings, but woman remember moving in minusthat commitment is just giving it too easy to your man. Hes likely to never ask for your hand, coz hesenjoying all the perks of marriage, minus the responsibilities. So, keep that distance and keep himwanting more when you kiss him goodnight at the door.
  3. 3. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If hitting all the so-called single spots isn’t helping you find your dream match, rethink your routinewith some out-of-the-box guy-meeting tactics.1. Find your friends’ friends : Combine your love of online shopping with the best way to meeteligible men —through friends, recommends Rachel Greenwald, author of Why He Didnt Call YouBack:1,000 Guys Reveal What They REALLY Thought About You After Your Date. Scroll through yourfriends‘ friends on social networking sites like Twitter or Facebook and play a game Greenwald calls, ―ISpy a Cute Guy.‖ Find someone intriguing who‘s also single (check with your mutual friend if his profileis private)? Ask to be introduced. ―Because Facebook isn‘t an official online dating site, the pressure isoff,‖ she says. ―You can get to know each other first as friends and go from there.‖2. Brush up on current affairs : It‘s a good idea to make info-gathering an everyday part of your life—and not to impress guys (even though it‘s a fact that they like smart, well informed babes), but foryour own IQ and confidence. Make news channels like Times Now, CNN or BBC your Internet homepage, subscribe to political and news magazine that gives you each week‘s news stories. You‘ll be ableto strike up a conversation in no time.3. Twitter for love : Everyone seems to have been bitten by the Twitter bug. Now use Twitter formore than getting the lowdown of your friends‘ lives. Send a tweet on Friday afternoon that you‘remeeting friends at your favorite watering hole for an impromptu happy hour. Tell your followers tobring their friends. You‘re bound to meet new people, and even if they‘re not single, they might knowsomeone to fix you up with later.‖4. Go Solo : It can feel odd to watch a movie by yourself or sit solo at a coffee shop, but many happilyattached women know that spending some time by yourself is a surefire way to meet someone great,says Karrine Steffans, author of The Vixen Manual. So chill at a Barista with your laptop and a latte,take your dog for a long walk or treat yourself to lunch at an outdoor café—solo!5. Say Yes More Often : It can be tempting to cancel on a party invite if you‘re feeling pooped or dyingto catch the new episode of your favourite show, but accepting an invite or two each month that you‘dotherwise turn down can give your love life a life, says Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was Aliar: The Real Reason You Cannot Find (Or Keep) A Prince. Asked out by a guy who doesn‘t fit yourdream definition? Just say yes!6. Recycle the single guys you know : Everyone knows interesting guys who aren‘t right for them(think your single best male pal, coworker or a former date who‘s now just a friend) but who might beright for someone else. Go ahead and guy-cycle. Organise a low-key get-together and recycle thosegreat-but-not-for-you guys by inviting single women to the party. Set a one-single-guy minimum,encouraging female guests to bring at least one guy they‘d recommend to other girls. Then watch thesparks fly!7. Get sweaty!: Local sports clubs let you get in shape by playing softball, swimming, karate, tennis orany other sport you enjoy, and they‘re full of athletic, fun-loving guys.8. Learn how his stomach thinks : The best place to meet guys is at a busy restaurant at lunch. Sohead out more often for that lunch break at a popular eatery as there is always a line of cute guysaround the corner. Apart from a heart meal, men feel these are perfect places to strike up aconversation.9. Make more female friends : The next time you walk into a party, don‘t scan the room for handsomemen only, but rather seek out the most social, outgoing woman you can find. Get to know her and
  4. 4. invite her for coffee. Chances are, if you were drawn to her, she‘ll have a lot of other friends—including male ones—who were drawn to the same qualities as you.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------We share with you 10 ways to get romantic, despite the monsoon...Time for some musicBollywood movies and filmi songs come to your aid. Be it a sensuous song or a fun number, there‘s asong for every situation. Pull out that CD of romantic rain songs and listen to some good musictogether.Have a photo shootIf you can‘t get out of the house and listening to music isn‘t your cup of tea, you can definitely pull outyour digi-cam and try out a photo session with your partner. Whether to make it a naughty or flirtysession... well, that‘s up to you. So get clicking.Go bowlingIt may not seem like the most romantic thing to do, but for those couples who are really sporty, thiscould be an ideal way to spend some quality time together.Have a movie marathonThere‘s nothing more romantic than snuggling under a blanket and watching some nice romcoms on arainy day. Bring out the romance with the help of Bollywood or Hollywood classics. You and yourpartner can take turns and pick the movies you want to see.Cook a romantic dinnerIf you aren‘t confident about your cooking abilities, then ordering something from a good restaurantcan be an option too. But if you want to watch your purse, then whipping up a meal of your partner‘schoice can be a good option. Light some candles to get the romance going.Snuggle timeIf you are just not in the mood to watch a movie or read a book or get out of your home, then theperfect thing to do would be to spend your day in bed with your partner. It‘s not only extremelyromantic, but also cost effective. What better way to spice up a rainy day, right?-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------s your marriage on the rocks? Well, heres how you can save it.Alisa Bowman, in her new book, Project: Happily Ever After, offers advice and tips toother miserably-married couples who may be finding themselves at the point of noreturn, reports FoxNews .1. Look in the mirror. I initially thought that my husband was 100 per cent to blame forour marriage problems. It wasnt until I took a good, hard, humbling look in the mirrorthat I was able to see that our problems originated with me. Id failed time and timeagain to tell him what I wanted, what I was thinking, how I felt, and how his actions (orinactions) affected me. Once I started speaking up for myself, our marriage improved.2. Drop the idea of fairness in favour of the idea of happiness. What it takes to improvea marriage isnt always fair. You might have to be the big person most of the time. You
  5. 5. might have to make the first (or 100th) move to warm up your marriage, be moreaffectionate, or keep things civil.3. Become a problem solver, not just voice it. Shift from complaining about whatswrong to doing something about it. Marital problems are no different from any other lifeproblem. Attack them with an open mind.4. Stop stockpiling old grievances. Fight about current issues. Forgive the old ones. Manypeople use the words "I cant" when talking about forgiveness, as in, "I cant bring myselfto do it." But you probably can. Forgiveness is a decision. When you feel like you cantforgive, its because you are holding onto the old hurt as if it were a precious jewel, andyou are afraid to let it go.5. Be adventurous in the bedroom. Most of us have learned how to have sex somewhataccidentally. As a result, we end up relying on a small number of techniques that we useover and over again. This, however, leads to sexual burnout. Pretend you are 16 againand that you know nothing about how to please a man or a woman. Learn everything youcan, and ask your partner to do the same. See if there are new positions you might wantto try.6. Focus on before play, not on anti-play. Think of before play as everything that getsyou warmed up about your spouse. It includes compliments, thank yous, favours, hugs,physical intimacy, skin on skin contact, listening, and support. Think of Anti-Play aseverything that turns you off: sarcasm, henpecking, ignoring, putting things off, slackingwhile you are hard at work, criticism, and more. The more your practice before play andthe less you practice anti-play, the happier your marriage will become.7. Communicate assertively, without blame. Dont brace for a fight. Just ask for whatyou need, and do it in as few sentences as possible. Do it as warmly as possible, too.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------1. Talk, and listenMake sure to share your thoughts with each other, daily, if possible, and to take interest in each otherslives. Make sure to check in with your spouse to ensure that theyre truly hearing what youre saying --and that youre receiving and understanding right back. "This is a responsibility that both people2. Kiss goodbye and hello"Hugs, kisses, quick squeezes, even holding one anothers gaze are ways in which the couple can affirmtheir connection and commitment to one another,". Pausing for a hug and a kiss before you leave forwork in the morning may seem like a small thing, but the warm glow it gives you is something to lookback on all day.3. Do fun activities togetherFind a shared outside activity: Ballroom dancing, jogging, foreign films and gardening are someexamples. They can help you both keep learning about each other. "While these hobbies can seemfrivolous, they can actually serve to remind the couple of what they have in common and encouragethem to relate to one another as a real people."4. Have independent livesDont live life glued together. Make sure to have your own hobbies, interests and friends on top of yourshared activities; youll maintain a sense of your own individual identity and have lots to talk aboutwith your partner to boot. "Before we ever knew our spouse existed on the planet, we had dreams,
  6. 6. ambitions and interests that probably contributed to us making that love connection." Both partnerscontinue to pursue at least one independent hobby or activity in order to nourish both themselves andtheir relationship.5. Plan aheadFrom parenting philosophies to thoughts on money to prioritizing goals and dreams, marriage meansmaking plans together -- and the earlier, the better. Financial planning, for instance, "can often be adeal-breaker in a marriage." Dont assume that your partner knows how you feel about important issues-- sit down and discuss them before they have the chance to become a problem.6. Fight with a purposeHandling conflict constructively is key. A three-point plan for making sure fights have a positiveoutcome. First, acknowledge that every couple faces arguments, and that theyre "not an indicationthat the relationship is doomed." Second, "each person should examine their own contribution to theconflict and be prepared to own up to it." Finally, both partners have to be able to spell out what upsetthem and how they would like the problem to be resolved. "By having this level of clarity, the couple isthen in a position to talk about what happened in a focused way."7. Make time for intimacy"Sex is really the culmination of all of the little things that are done throughout the day," a reminder ofhow much you enjoy your spouse." So, the more, the better, right? Well, its not so simple. What isimportant is that you are meeting each others needs for intimacy -- which means they need to bearticulated, as well (see 1, above). And intimacy doesnt necessarily mean sex, per se. "The broader thecouples physical repertoire, the better," This means that everything from kisses to cuddles to sharedglances is game.8. Focus on the positiveSometimes, all it takes to brighten someones mood is an honest compliment from someone he or sheloves. One consequence of being part of a deeply committed relationship is trusting your partnersopinion, whether its a compliment or a put-down. Dont take this power for granted. So if you thinkyour partner looks cute in her new dress, say so -- and if youre not crazy about the shoes, keep yourmouth shut. Its all about the greater good, after all.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Think having sex with your partner would improve you married life? Well, you maywant to reconsider that idea after reading this.Rosie, who tried indulging in sex for a complete month, every day, found herselfunhappy for the first time in eight-year relationship, reports the Daily Mail .Being a journalist, she experimented to have sex every day for a month and keep adaily diary of the results.She heard of people claiming that having sex every day brings a couple closer, inducesnew levels of intimacy and rejuvenates sex lives. But it rather had an adverse effectas it ultimately destroyed her relationship.In the course of having sex for 30-days, just three days in, it became obvious it wasgoing to be more challenging than she imagined.By day four, desire had been usurped by boredom. Actually we flunked it. On the fifthday we managed a desultory fumble and it was only a change of scene on day six thatrevived us.
  7. 7. We happened to be staying at my parents house. Decorum dictates that you do notindulge in frenzied sex when your mum and dad are in the next room. But we had sexsimply because it felt a bit naughty.At the end of the week, however, we were flagging again. Wed been to a friendswedding and were staying in a Travelodge. Frankly, the unalluring surroundings wouldhave quenched even the tiniest spark of desire. Once again we failed.By day eight the tension was building. Going to bed each night was no longer arelaxing experience, but something to be dreaded because they both knew what wasexpected of them.With time, sex became mechanical, passionless and irksome.And when the 30 days ended-having replaced several required steamy encounters withnights sitting side-by-side in bed, simmering with resentment-their argumentscontinued.Sex, once a shared joy, had become about as appealing as squeezing lemon juice intoa finger cut. And now we werent compelled to do it for the experiment, it wasnteven happening spontaneously.In short, the compulsion had killed intimacy stone dead. Now that there was nophysical closeness to patch over the cracks when we had a row, the fractures in ourrelationship grew into a chasm."Youve always known I want children. And weve both conceded we had such a goodrelationship it would be hard to end it because you dont. But as weve been arguing somuch lately, now seems the right time to split up," her partner said.The silly but well-intentioned experiment designed to bring them closer had actuallydriven the couple apart.She said that it seems the most important thing is to have enough sex to make youand your partner happy, not an arbitrary amount dictated by scientific experiments.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Match, set, go... easier said than done. Here we list tips on ways to understand your partner betterThey say marriages are made in heaven. But then, there are also those made here on earth. Though anarranged marriage may feel like a pre-historic concept, such matches are still prevalent in society.Whether you marry someone youve fallen in love with, or someone your parents have chosen, as acouple you are bound to go through some ups and downs. Its just that if its an arranged marriage, itmay take you a tad longer to understand the thought process of your partner. If you are about to enterinto an arranged marriage, here are some pointers you need to keep in mind:Pre-marital jitters
  8. 8. Pre-marital jitters are very common among couples who opt for an arranged marriage. And if youreexperiencing them, ask yourself what is causing the anxiety. Among the most prominent reasons is thefear of sharing space and adjusting to a relatively unknown partner. Then, of course, is the fear of howto deal with a new family; how much youd have to change your behaviour to adapt to their thoughtsand habits.The best way to overcome this problem is by interacting frequently with your partner. It will put you atease with your partner and also improve the intimacy between the two of you.Never complainAn arranged marriage means more responsibilities and expectations. Both partners are under pressureto make the marriage work. Your partner may not share all your likes and dislikes and his/her familymay not follow the same values as yours. You may be constantly corrected about the way things aredone in this house. Relax!Adjustment is the name of the game. Have a frank talk with your partner, list out your anxieties andfigure out a way to do things without antagonising your new family. In the initial days of your marriage,dont take rude remarks or the seemingly harsh moves of your partner too seriously. Also, dont adoptthe tit for tat philosophy. Stay away from troublemakers and look for allies. Also, dont complain orsound whiny to your partner. Remember, he/she is just as confused and nervous as you are.The magic of loveLove is that essential ingredient that can help both of you overcome hurdles. If love at first sight hasnthappened, dont worry. It may take time, but you will grow to love each other. Even if youre in lovealready, dont expect your partner to immediately reciprocate the feelings. Give him/her time andwork on how you can earn his/her love. Be patient and dont get frustrated every time your partnersays or does something wrong.Remember, marriage is like a whirlpool which takes one from a carefree world to a world filled withcommitment and sacrifice; a world with love as its backbone.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------This arranged match is now a love affair for a lifetimeWhenever a female acquaintance sees my husband doting on me, she invariably says, "Aww...lovemarriage?" When I reply in the negative, the next question usually is "Love-arranged?" I then offer,"arranged-cum-love," proud to have coined a new term in relationship studies.My husband proposed to me over the third "date" set up by our families. I had successfully managed tomaintain the mystery about myself with my short and sweet answers, which he labelled "goodheartedness" (honestly, I was just not as eloquent as the "big fan of communication" that he is). I feltas if I had known him for a lifetime and was ready for six more. At that time, I thought I was saying "Ido" to a quirky US-returned guy who loved eating Thai food, visiting museums, and skiing. Being thesmall town girl that I am, I liked Indian-Chinese, felt drowsy in museums and preferred siesta oversport (I wasnt exactly sure what skiing was). "Im okay if youre okay," I said, accepting his dealromantically.I dont know why I said yes, though. Maybe because he made my favourite part of the fairytale - ofsomebody going down on one knee with a ring - come true for me. Or maybe because, with him, I feltcomfortable the very first time we met. So after his proposal and my acceptance began our not-so-comfortable courtship. I had to "report" to him every night on the phone what I did during the day. Atfirst, I went blank on encountering the question I had never been subject to before and had seldomthought about: What did you do today? Well, I ate and slept and watched TV. But of course I wasntgoing to tell him that.
  9. 9. Now I think I was probably attracted to him because he was so much the opposite of everything I wasthat we had to be together. Im extremely impatient, while he talks and listens carefully, savours foodand feels gratitude. While I am always anxious about the future, he relishes the present like no othertense exists. I am supersensitive and nothing and nobody can ruffle him. While I like to flaunt mygreatness for no reason at all, he likes to "live in the shadows" (like the proverbial source who wisheshis identity be kept undisclosed). I need everything to go right in order to be happy and he feels hedoesnt have any reason to be unhappy (He has me, after all).Sometimes his many positives get on my nerves. Why does he have to be rational all the time? Whycant he take what I say at face value without doing a cost-benefit analysis? Why doesnt he pamper me?Why does he want me to become independent? Why is he so righteous that he cannot fight impulsivelyfor me like Ghataks Sunny Deol or swear like Sholays Dharmendra? Why does he never show hispossessiveness for me? Thankfully, knowing that he loves me above everything and everybody makesthese trifles hardly worth bothering about.Many things have changed over the last two years since we met, but some havent. I still aminexpressive but he somehow comes to know whats on my mind. Even now, when the doorbell rings inthe evening, I struggle to make a mental note of what Im going to say when he asks me what I didduring the day. I have realised, though, that whatever I do (and that includes doing nothing) doesntmatter to him as long as I am happy. I have come to love Pad Thai, I dont mind going to museums withmy husband sporadically (with the exchange offer that he will take me to watch a romantic comedy thenext day). And after trying skiing on bunny slopes last winter, I have told him to take me skiing toColorado next. What has changed in him? Well, he now goes to Hindi movies with me (and almostalways cries during the emotional scenes). And he wears jeans with a flashy yellow jacket just becauseI like it.On our "proposal" anniversary, he surprised me with a day trip to a palace hotel in Rajasthan. It wasperfect - there was a swimming pool attached to our room, we pretended to be royalty, he gifted meSwarovski earrings and after a seven-course dinner we had delicious chocolate cake. With that day asthe benchmark, I was looking forward to our wedding anniversary, wondering how he would outdo hisown surprise. We sat by the Charles river (weve been in the US for some time now) and munchedpizza. When I dramatically asked my year-old husband why the "proposal anniversary" enjoyedsuperiority over the actual wedding anniversary, he gently said, "Because I married you in my mind onthat day, darling." I guess it was a love marriage then.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Between covers, isnt that where love is supposed to lie? Shouldnt all love — or the making thereof —get your knickers in a twist? So why the fuss, the surprise, the tamasha and the brouhaha overforbidden love and those who forbid it? Love actually must be more chhupa chhupi than khullamkhulla, and whats the fun of pyaar without the protest?For decades, true love had to contend only with crass commerce every Valentines Day. The makers ofcards, candles and heart-shaped everything in yucky shades of pink. The sellers of wine and roses. Themerchants of diamonds which were supposed to be forever but which strangely had to besupplemented every year, or oftener.We had prided ourselves on being the originators of the book of love. Now we have to ask ourselves thequestion: What came first, the Kama Sutra or the VHP? Or the Shiv Sena, MNS, Ram Sene and everyother self-appointed, self-righteous custodian of our morals, our culture, our entertainment and ourwardrobes.So forget the old adage about forbidden fruit tasting sweetest. You wont get much chance to find out.For, barely after you have savoured the first nibble, you might find yourself in the police station
  10. 10. and/or the casualty ward. In fact, love has lost its premier position in the forbidden league. It findsitself with all manner of bedfellows as our professional protestors keep extending their eclectic rangeof targets. The canoodler is now in the company of the filmmaker or the beer drinker. Anything is gristto the milling goons.The point to be made is that when you let the hate brigade decide on matters of love, it doesnt stop atcouples. It becomes open season on anything that offends anyone. Everything is pushed into theforbidden pit. Push is already becoming shove. The magic of the movies has turned into a witchescauldron. Cuddling lovers have to be burnt at the stake. Gays are evil incarnate. Who knows, next theymay even convert the missionary position into an act of the Devil.And yet, heres the irony. Everything is forbidden exists in an urban environment which also subscribesto the culture of anything goes. Just do it is as much a part of our social lexicon as Dont you dare.Globalised India is cocooned in a surround-sound of liberalism. The Net, iPods, cellphones, hoardings,television, print, all media exhorts you to smile and bare it. It seductively persuades you to let go,come what may.The young are experimenting like never before and at an age when even their older siblings were babesin the woods instead of being a tangle in the thickets. Family equations have changed with parentsdesperately wanting to be cool instead of getting hot under the collar over their childrens hormonaladventurism. In this no-holds barred scenario, nothing is non-kosher. Fore-bidden has replacedforbidden. And it isnt happening only in some sliver-thin upper class pickled in Western decadence. Goto any public park. You wont have to look hard. Its so brazenly in-your- face that all but theunabashed voyeur would squirm.However, events of the past few years have forced us to believe that its not only Cupid who sharpenshis arrows in preparation for February 14. He has serious competition from an entire army of smashers,bashers and other crashers of parties. So each year, after the lust and the bloodlust, when the hurly-burlys done, when the battles fought and won, we are left wondering, Whose V-Day was it this time?That of the lovers or that of those who hate love?------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------We fully agree with age-old adage that competition between lovers makes a relationship sour, but whatif the competition is packed in some utterly romantic love games?Well, in such a case, these love games will strengthen your love ties by bringing you closer to yourmate thus taking both partners to newer heights of interactivity and intimacy. In short, lovecompetition adds the much needed spice to your relationship.Sometimes it takes something as simple as being playful to ward off the monotony surrounding our lovelife and to get you both back into the mood for romance and passion. So, get into the act folks as itsplaytime and remember theres nothing like a sexy romantic game to sizzle up the action between thesheets. Theres no time like the present moment so go ahead and get acquainted with these fun-filledlove games that seek to unleash the playboy in your man and the sex siren in you. You dont have to bea newly-wed to play these love games. These games are the best remedy when you feel the sparkfizzling out of your love shack. Just gear up for some love action coz as the saying goes - couples thatplay together, stay together!
  11. 11. 1. Hide and SeekBefore you chuck this idea out as a stale game, let us tell you that its a uncovered hide and seekmatch that we are proposing! So, make sure your blinds are down before you both decide to do theFull Monty or peeping Toms in your neighbourhood may just end up having a field day.Rules: When the game is intensely naughty, the rules have to be sexier to keep up the tempo. Howabout something like: "If he finds you, he wins 10 minutes of extreme pleasure." And in case he fails,hell be your love slave for the day and vice versa. Exploit his weakness to the fullest!Add the sizzle: Rather than being stark without clothes, wear just one piece of clothing that simplyturns your partner on. How about a garter belt or those killer stilettoes? Men, how about those sexythongs or how about flaunting that tattoo near your navel. Finding you wearing just what he/shedreams of will add to the victory match!2. Bursting balloonsWho said only kids play with balloons? Even adults do! By the end of this balloon game, resisting eachother will be simply impossible. Blow up ten (or more) round party balloons. Place them between youand your lover while lying in bed together. Now, both of you start to hug, squeeze and kiss each other,while squashing the balloons in between your bodies resulting in them going pop! The bet is to break asmany of them as possible.Rules: You cant break the balloons alone by riding on them, but strictly by squashing them betweenyour hot bods.Add the sizzle: Pep up the thrill of breaking the balloons by putting sweet little love notes into some ofthem. The balloons are a lot harder to pop this way than you might imagine.Image Courtesy: Getty ImagesRe: Top 10 love-games by Rahul » 08 Jan 2010 01:563. Basketball strip gamePlaying basket ball with your partner is a good idea to induce some physical exercise. All you need todo is set up a basketball hoop in your home and start shooting hoops. Doesnt sound interesting enough?Why not make it titillating by adding a sensuous reward for every shot you get through?So, every time he scores, you have to strip a piece of clothing you have on and if you get through, hestrips and so on. This acts as an exciting twist in your normal basketball routine and is surely going toset the temperature soaring with sweaty passion. Before you know it, waiting for that last winning shotwill be actually interesting!
  12. 12. Rules: Abandon the usual tracks or shorts and dress formally from head to toe. More the number ofclothes...more is the sexual excitement as you view your partner stripping off every last piece ofclothing to keep up with your sex drive!Add the sizzle: The winner gets it all as the losing partner has to do anything and everything thewinner demands. The more creative you are, the more fun the exercise promises to be!4. Sniff the kiss zoneIn this game you need five diverse fragrances sprayed on five different spots of your body. Now, letyour partner employ his senses to detect those sweet smelling spots and leave his love mark there!Reward? Hmm...whats better than a sweet smelling kiss or a long lasting hickey?Rules: The hunter is strictly supposed to do a nose job with no skin touches until he/she locates thesweet smelling spot and once its done; the other partner simply has to surrender.Add the sizzle: Get experimental! Instead of regular flowery smells...go for heady fragrances to driveyour mate to new heights. The effect will not just be magical, but lasting as well.5. Nooky numbersThis will only make initial play even more intense. All you both need is a deck of cards here. Shuffleand place them face-down between you and your partner. Now, take turns to pick out cards from thepile. Follow the rules below and keep playing till you can resist taking the big plunge.Rules: If you draw a number card, you get to kiss that many spots on your partners body.You drew a King/Queen? You win a 15-minute, sensual body massage.If a Jack is drawn, simultaneously pleasure each other for ten minutes in all your favourite love spots.Aces are considered wild card entry here! If you are lucky to draw one, it grants you one of your carnaldesires.Add the sizzle: Surprise your partner with a yummy smooch in his/her desired body part if you lovedthe massage. You never know...you may end up hitting the jackpot!TopRe: Top 10 love-games by Rahul » 08 Jan 2010 01:576. Blind Berry HuntingIn this love hunt, one partner blindfolds the other. Whoever is not blindfolded hides small quantities ofberries (raspberries, blueberries, etc) all over their body and the other has to hunt them out. Thereward is that the hunter wins wishes equaling the number of berries he has located.Rules: The hunter is not allowed to use hands, only mouth-work here. And the other partner has togrant the hunters most exciting wishes.Add the sizzle: Dont let the excitement finish at just discovering the berries. Hand feed them to your
  13. 13. beau on the very body part you located them. Tickling caused by your eating coupled with the magic ofberry-juice dripping while you eat will turn-on your partner leaving him/her craving for more action!7. Love PictionaryYou must have played Pictionary as a child. We are just making it love pictionary for the adults. In thisgame, one of you makes a sketch of the surprise you want to have at night from your partner.Forinstance, draw a beach, sand, sun and sea if you want to get dirty on the beach this weekend! And ifyour partner guesses your clue right...you dont have to ask for another reward! He too wins a chanceto etch out his wildest fantasies! A win-win situation for both!Rules: Whosoever is drawing should not speak and the guessing mate cant deny actually performingwhats been drawn. What if he fails to guess? He doesnt get a chance to draw what he wants till hemakes the right guess.Add the sizzle: The drawer can be as suggestive as he/she can while drawing out the clues. After all,you want your partner to guess right!8. Ultimate patience testAs the name suggests, in this game both the partners take chances to test each others patience. Oneof them is active, while the other is a passive partner. The passive partner has to lie still, while theactive partner takes charge to do just about everything pleasurable to the other. Being active, yourmotto is to elicit a response from the other, while the latter has to strive to control so as to enjoymaximum gratification.Rules: It is only when the passive partner reacts (moans or moves) that the doer wins his pleasure trip.Add the sizzle: The active partner is allowed to touch all levels of teaching and touching to excite thepassive partner. The best part about this game are the discoveries you make about your partner -sensitive areas on his/her body, most erogenous zones, favourite pleasurable techniques, sensualresponses, the list is endless. Every game will make you more adroit to excel in the second round.TopRe: Top 10 love-games by Rahul » 08 Jan 2010 01:589. Catch an alphabet!You must have played it in your schooldays. It was something like this - one person started with a citystarting with A as the other called out a citys name starting with the alphabet on which the first cityended. Replace the cities with parts of each others bodies now! Let him start with a body part startingwith A and then you take it forward. The tease here is that each one has to kiss the body part beingcalled out. If theres no body part corresponding to an alphabet, just get creative and name it yourselfto keep the passion soaring sky high.
  14. 14. Rules: You cant skip your turn. Whosoever fails to find a body part loses the golden chance to kiss. Asthey say one persons loss is anothers gain - the other partner takes over his chance to get naughty witha particular part of your body. So try and win!Add the sizzle: Dont just limit yourself to kissing your lovers body part!10. Role playingAll of us cherish certain wild fantasies relating to certain professions and professionals. Some lovegetting spanked by a head mistress, while others just love watching a doctor taking over. If even youhave one such naughty fantasy...get into some serious role playing! Dress up the way your partnerwants and play act a naughty role just for him/her. How about a wicked schoolgirl getting spanked by astrict teacher or a sexy librarian and student or for that matter a hot detective and his suspect? Thepossibilities are wild...Rules: While play-acting, forget your real self. You can only use the props and places suiting the role.For instance, a teachers spanking stick or a doctors stethoscope checking out never explored places inyour body will create quite a ripple.Add the sizzle: Ask your partner what all he fantasies doing with/doing to his favourite character andhelp him achieve the perfect part.Try these love games, and youll be surprised to watch your relationship grow all the more exciting andhealthy!Tips & Warnings1. Dont shy away from trying these games. If one isnt good for you, another must be. So, explore...2. Let your imaginative juices flow while playing these games to get the desired results.3. Make sure you know your partners preferences before you trigger off any love game. Everybody isnot equally sporting=---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Best selling American author and columnist Sherry Argov tells you why you need to shed the good girltag to win the love matchSugar and spice isnt always nice. A dash of hot n sour is what turns a bland dish into a gastronomicdelight. Likewise, in the dating game, just being nice to your man doesnt make him more devoted; attimes you need to be the bitch to walk down the Valentine path.That, in a nutshell, is best-selling author and columnist Sherry Argovs premise of her seminal booksWhy Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches . "Men secretly respect a woman who is strong, hasconfidence and dreams of her own," says Sherry. "They dont want women who are needy and desperate
  15. 15. for approval."So the key to conduct new-age relationships is: discover the feisty attitude "that will turn you into adiva from a doormat," says Sherry.Why nice girls finish lastEver wondered why despite putting your best face and foot forward, and treating your dreamboat likea dream, he seems to go for someone smarter, sassier and sexier — aka The bitch? Its possiblybecause: »You are making it too obvious that you are looking to find a man and your happiness isdependent on that. »You are unable to be alone.»You dont want to wait for the right person. Your impatience leads you to rush into a situation youwouldnt have chosen otherwise.Do men like strong women?The general consensus is that men get intimidated by strong, opinionated women who pose achallenge. But the truth is that any extreme is a turnoff. Whether you are the super aggressive sort orthe dreamy, shy type, extreme behaviour signals insecurity. On the contrary, there is nothing moreattractive than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is. So to woo the love of your life, besomeone he desires. And he cant desire something that is too easily available. It doesnt mean youhave to be unnecessarily aggressive or too stand-offish. It simply means you must be in control andkeep him guessing. Besides, never forget the golden rule of relationships: You dont marry a perfectperson. You marry an interesting person. And Sherry gives you the guide to be exactly that.The bitches dont...» Call or text him frequently» Ask where he is or what hes doing »Say You dont call me enough, or, You never tell me you loveme. Unpredictability is your asset. Dont let your loved one decode you easily» See a guy every night of the week. A woman who is easy wont scratch his competitive itch »Agreewith everything he says. When you never express your opinion, a man starts feeling bored» Go looking for him or chase him down at three different places where he said he might be having adrink. To be his steady, let him come track you down» Get mad when he doesnt call you in four days» Rearrange your schedule to spend time with him» Be rude because being considerate is more effective. But doesnt mean you have to compromiseyourselfThe bitches DOs
  16. 16. Walk the tightrope......between being intimidating and independent by being feminine, yet quietly strong. When you donttelegraph or make obvious what your strengths and weakness are, your partner wont be able to readyou. And when a man cant read a woman fully, he respects her more. Its not about demeanour, itsabout self-control. A woman with self-control has power and men are turned on by that.Eliminate the third angleWorried about finishing second best in the love race? Well, first ensure you are the one he is amorousabout. If he meets you and is crazy for you, other women should be a non-issue. If you are number 2for any length of time, it means there are "too many queens in the castle." Then, just walk out. Calmlytell him the relationship is "no longer interesting" and wish him luck. This resonates self-worth anddignity, and will blow him away. Often, this will get him to play straight and prioritise you. If not, itsno loss. A man with a third wheel is never worth pursuing.Be happy and positiveValue yourself and your peace of mind. Do not chase happiness outside yourself. Most importantly, trynot to give energy to what others think of you; it takes away your power. If you feel good inside, othersno longer can control you emotionally. This kind of calm and self-sufficiency is very attractive. Men areused to women who wear their heart on their sleeve and go crazy for the one they cant control.Pursue your own dreamsFocus on interests outside the relationship. He can know you care, but doesnt need to know how much.Men dont want to compete with other men for your attention, they want to compete for your timebecause you arent waiting for him 24x7. When he cant control you mentally, or remain invested inyour own life, you become much more interesting to share life with.(Sherry Argov is the author of Why Men Love Bitchesand Why Men Marry Bitches. Her work has beenfeatured in leading magazines and her books are published in 30 languages)-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------There are certain qualities in men that women absolutely dig.It‘s not just about being tall, dark and handsome. There are certain ‗manly‘ qualities about guys thatcan make any woman go weak in her knees. And while you may think it‘s all about the looks, guesswhat? There‘s more. It‘s a potent mix of both, physical attributes and of course, that all importantemotional touch. Here, we tell you about six points you need to heed.Well groomed
  17. 17. Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you presentyourself. Just like guys like a women who is well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that theyare perfectly groomed a la Leonardo DiCaprio. The basic funda women believe in is that if you arecareful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys,sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are anabsolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from theopposite sex.A sense of styleWomen would rather have you splurging on them than on obscenely priced designer wear. So, even ifit‘s a typical roadside purchase that you swear by, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylisedlook and maintain it. Women don‘t really expect you to be a picture copy of a Pierce Brosnan or aDavid Beckham, but trying to imitate their style will surely up your popularity quotient. Keep yourselfupdated on the latest trends. Also, just as you have your reservations against the ‗nun-type‘ dressers,women too hesitate when it comes to the boring office type dresser.Laugh it outOne of the most important trait that woman dig is a sense of humour. Women have more than enoughproblems to deal with and don‘t really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, youhave your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humour, and clean humour atthat. Beware, taking a dig at others and constantly putting others down do not really spell fun forwomen. And we can‘t tell you enough how much women love people who can laugh at themselves andtheir own mistakes.Show them you careWomen need to be constantly reassured that they are loved and cared for. Acts like holding their handwhile walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks andmaking sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care forthem. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you arewith. However, beware of being crass while displaying you affections.A sexy smile/winkThere‘s a reason why women absolutely adore Richard Gere or Hugh Jackman and it has a lot to dowith the way that they smile or that glint in their eyes. Believe us when we tell you that if you look atthem and smile like that, it does make them feel very special, like they are one in a million.Be calmWoman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is
  18. 18. the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn‘t help if you tooget stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in yourlooks as it does in your attitude - women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who isable to calm them down and reassure them that all is well----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------Though I love our image of the perfect couple, but if I read between the lines, may be I amunsatisfied.Its been three years, but I am still desperately waiting for the day when my lady love will take thesexual lead and surprise me with her moves. Many times, I thought of discussing it with her, butdropped the idea as she may find it derogatory. Though we share a great chemistry, be it in or outsidethe bedroom, still I crave for the day when she would make the first move," confesses Samrat Tripathi,a 29-year-old Delhi-based media person.Samrat isnt the only one craving for his girl to initiate the action in bed. "Is it just me who wants sex?","Am I failing to satisfy her?", "Is my technique wrong?", "Does she wish for more pampering and initialplays?" are some of the thoughts that keep haunting men. This thought process keeps them so occupiedthat most of the time they fail to see some of the very obvious reasons for their problem.It takes no rocket science to understand your beloveds physical needs, you just need to be caring andsensitive to figure out whats stopping her from making the first move. Here are some of the mostcommon reasons holding her back...Will he respond?Many women with fragile ego find it difficult to kick start the action in the bedroom, as the fear ofrejection keeps hounding them.Aarti Rawat, a call centre executive says, "I am not afraid of telling my boyfriend what I need fromhim, but something holds me back initiating sex. Guys are so complicated and its difficult tounderstand their needs so I keep guessing whats on his mind. I can just give him subtle signals likerubbing my cheeks against his or a passionate kiss to reveal my innate desires, but most of the times hefails to understand my hidden passion within these moves. It obviously hurts me so, even if I want to,so I let him take the lead."Expert speak: Dr Himanshu Saxena, a relationship expert opines, "Men are more vocal about theirsexual desires than women, that is one of the reasons they end up initiating sex almost always.
  19. 19. Everybody loves to be on the receiving end and may be she doesnt mind it. So, if you want to turn thetables, then practice some self-control. Maybe for a couple of days, seduce her the way you always do.Wear the smell that she loves, give her a soothing massage, a luscious kiss, after you realize that she isgetting turned on, gradually pull away. If you continue this for a few days, she might not be left withany option but to drag you to bed and take charge to sustain a night of pleasure."He might make fun of me!Some men are really critical when it comes to love-making and that is why their partners believe injust following the lead.Sunaina Verma, a corporate communication manager with a firm adds, "I was seeing this guy for nearlytwo years. Though I was deeply in love with him, but he I felt his love-making skills were veryamateurish. He was so focused on what he wanted that he usually used to forget my comfort levels.Therefore, to tell him what I wanted, I decided to take the lead one day. I had read that guys lovebeing kissed all over while making out, but the trick didnt work for me. After 15-20 minutes of my hardwork he said, dont treat me like candy, its no fun. It was humiliating for me."Expert speak: Dr Sameer Parekh, a noted psychiatrist says, "Everybody has their own comfort zonesand pleasure points. If you do not like your beloveds love-making techniques, rather than making funof her, tell her what makes you go week in the knees. Make love to her the way you want her to treatyou. Criticizing her will only hurt and will not help either of you. If you dont behave properly, shemight not ever dare to try anything new to please you."Baby it hurtsThe definition of enjoyment might be completely different for you and your wife.Nita Sahni, a homemaker informs, "I got married a couple of months back. It almost took us a month forme to get completely at ease with my hubby. As a result of my fear of physical proximity, I used towithdraw from my hubby. I noticed a great deal of disappointment in my hubby because of that. Idecided to keep silent about my discomfort and just go ahead with sex mechanically."Expert speak: "Encountering pain during sex is the most common problem that most of couples face,but finding a solution is necessary. Sometimes the reason can be just change in sexual behavior orinadequate inital play. But in some cases, you may have to seek medical help. Your partner might besuffering from a sexually transmitted disease. Therefore act responsibly and take note of whatsbothering your better half," tells Dr Saxena.
  20. 20. Not tonight honey!How often do you hear this? But merely blaming your partner for never being in the mood is not fair.Sheela Oberoi, a school teacher says, "I am in my mid 30s, have a family to look after and a job thatconsumes nearly ten hours everyday. When I go back to my bedroom at 11 oclock in the night, I am leftwith no energy to do sex. May be my age has also affected my sex interest. Many times my hubbycomplains about it, but there is nothing I am able to do about my low sex interest."Expert speak: "If your partners interest in sex has dropped significantly, try to make make an effort tofind out what is it that is responsible for the same. If it is just stress and fatigue, then you should findout ways to relive the mental tension. Be it a surprise vacation, an encouraging massage or just anelongated conversation at a lavish dinner - try out diverse ways to take your lovers mind off the nittygritties of life. And never forget to experiment in bed," suggests Dr Parekh.She thinks its a tabooDo guys really think highly of girls who take the lead in sex? Many girls grow up with this question intheir mind.Sawati Arora, a bank employee says, "I am getting married in a few months, but I have no plans to takethe lead in bed with my future hubby. My friends have made me believe that if I do so, he may thinkthat I have had some past experience and may doubt my loyalty. According to the normal perception,guys are supposed to initiate things in bed and I plan to stick to the same."Expert speak: Dr Mittal says, "Most of new age women also have this fact imprinted in their mindsomewhere. So you should make all possible efforts to erase these doubts from her mind forever. On adate, try to talk to her about what turns her on and how eagerly you want her to make efforts topamper you in bed. She may take sometime to get okay with the idea, but if you try to make hercomfortable, soon she will express her desires in every possible way."Employing the subtle tricks of engaging her in sexual activities, patience and some sexperiment you arelikely to get what you have been vying for.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------------------------------------A Hollywood hunk, ex-lovers, an adult film scene and even what to buy in a grocerystore-these are things that women think of while having sex.
  21. 21. Some women have now revealed what really scores with them between the sheets.Single comedian Shazia Mirza, 34, said that some of her friends revealed that duringsex they are mentally writing a to-do list, remembering clothes they have to wash,what theyve got to buy at Tescos or those shoes they love in Selfridges.And some women even think of men they secretly fantasise of."A friend of mine, who really loves her husband, told me that during sex she cant helpthinking about all the men she secretly really desires, like Jeremy Beadle and JeremyPaxman," the Sun quoted her as saying."Ive been married twice and had many lovers and to be honest, with past lovers Ivebeen so bored in bed, Ive taken to compiling mental grocery lists and calculatingexactly how many shoes are in the wardrobe (82 pairs)," said author Kathy Lette, 51."Most wives are taken for granted. But how wed like to be taken is by a muscular-thighed Adonis with pecs appeal."Luckily sex with Johnny Depp is only the flick of a light switch away. Ah, Johnny - aman whose sex appeal is so deadly it should be registered at police headquarters as alethal weapon."Doing the horizontal tango with George Clooney is also amazing - if only hed beenwith me at the time!" she added.Sarah Millican, 33, is in a relationship, and she said: "I never walk out of a film at thecinema. Im the same with sex. I always think it might get better. To be honest, aslong as Ive got a bag of Maltesers, Im not going anywhere."-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Heres what women want from men1. When we talk listen, it shows us that you care about our feelings.2. Men should be smart enough and understand that not all our bad moods are connected to PMS-ing.
  22. 22. 3. Guys, developing an EQ (Emotional quotient) would help. That however, does not mean that theyneed to cry at the drop of a hat, it just means you need to be more sensitive towards us.4. With women communication is the key, so try and talk to us often.5. Here are some traits we wish men would display – chivalry, making an extra effort with our friendsand family, because we do the same!6. Cook for us once in a while – this one may sound like a cliche, but we love surprises so an occasionaleffort wouldnt hurt, would it?7. Your machoism is not directly proportional to the speed at which you drive your car. Rash driving isso uncool.8. Be protective, not possessive, hear that?9. We need our man to proclaim love all the time and we leave it to you as to how you wish to show it.10. Remember the quickest way to lose a woman is to lie to her; so be honest.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Men talk and think a lot about sex while women desire it more often. We explore the reasons...Men think, while women desire. Gone are the days when demanding sex was considered exclusively amans forte. Today women demand sex greater than men. And they have no qualms about getting vocalabout it. "I read these funny E-mail forwards that stress on men begging for sex and women denying it.It sounds so funny to me. Its totally the opposite in my case. While men can have a good laugh over itbelieving that this notion exists, I literally have to seduce my husband to get him hooked on to theact," quips production assistant Megha Mehra. And she is not alone. Many girls/women had a similarstory.We spoke to women from different backgrounds to figure out what is making them addicted to sex.Its physically pleasurableAmongst all the other reasons to remain glued to sex, this is the most prominent one. Good sexsatisfies your physical urge, which is very normal for anyone to experience. Psychologist Seema Nainaopines, "Sex is the most basic need of any person. And I am increasingly getting cases where women arecomplaining that men are unable to satisfy their physical needs."
  23. 23. Creates positive feelings about oneselfIdeally, great sex means you are enjoying the sexual act and participating equally. It makes you feelgood about yourself, thus adding to your self esteem. Shares housewife Neelam Nehra, "When myhusband comes back from a whole day at work and we have our sack session, it increases my selfesteem. The very feeling that I am able to satisfy him is a great pleasure. And since I never want to goout of shape to look unappealing to my husband (and other men), it even acts as a motivation to workout and feel desirable." Wondering why?"Sex has healing powers. It generates positive emotions and makes one feel more confident. When awoman sees her man passionate in the act, admiring her body and moves, it infuses a lot of goodfeelings within her," opines psychologist Sunaina Bajaj.Brings them closer to their manPhysical intimacy releases hormone Oxytocin, which is also known as the love hormone. Agreesrelationship expert Vandana Mitra, "I have always maintained that couples should never take sexcasually. Its a very important ingredient for any relationship to sustain. It helps couples to nurture therelationship and strengthen the bond." So whoever said having more sex with your partner means lessercases of infidelity, made sense.Content developer Prachi Sinha states, "I feel a major connect with my boyfriend after we make love. Ijust feel like being close to him. My faith in him and our relationship grows stronger." Prachis boyfriendagrees, "When she told me about the 7 days a week sex, I initially could not stop laughing. I mean, thisis not the only thing we have to do. But honestly it has got us closer. I just cant take my eyes off hereven when we are moving in a crowd."Negates unwanted emotions/ Stress-relieverSex is not just a physical sensation but its comforting and relaxing. Call centre executive Neetu Sharmashares her experience, "Whenever I have a bad day at work, sex really helps me unwind. It totally takesthe stress out of my mind and makes me feel relaxed and rejuvenated." Psychologist Reena Kapurexplains why. "Sex involves a lot of deep breathing and touching and the hormones that are releasedduring the act calm you down."Great form of exerciseThirty minutes of sex burns more than 85 calories. We have read it almost everywhere that sex helps inburning calories. Confirms fitness consultant Stuti Batra, "While I do not suggest giving up work outs,doubling up the session makes you drop more weight." While this is the most deadly mix, many girls areseriously taking to it. "It may sound a little funny, but while making love I prefer to play the dominant
  24. 24. role. It helps me burn greater calories, leaving my guy in ecstasy," says Payal Verma.Invokes passion"Sometimes I feel like a pervert, because I find myself always thinking about my boyfriend, and whatwe did the night before. It gives me a kick and makes me crave for our next sack session. He thinks Iam crazy, but it really happens to me," shares call centre executive Richa Sharma."It is completely normal to imagine about sex. But I have heard it can freak a guy out- we men are stilladapting to the concept of women demanding sex more than us. But we love that passion," admitspsychologist Prateek.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------An author has come up with a list of 10 top dating tips to guide men on what they shouldnever say to women.David DeAngelo, author of "Double Your Dating", says there is nothing worse than makingmistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember thefollowing, "Bullz-Eye" reported.First of all, a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, aman should never "ask" for a kiss.Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is notinterested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while onthe inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".Secondly, a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, asshe would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks herpermission to hit on her.A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out...whats your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.Thirdly, a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, asit would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.Women would be far more impressed by a mans material possessions if he does notmention them in conversation.
  25. 25. The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night,as she likes a "man with a plan".The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will notbe burdened with having to think about what to do.Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turnsoff a woman completely.He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look likehe has no confidence.The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered hismessage, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it wouldgive her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how men she has slept with, asthis shows that he is suffering from insecurity.The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has justmet, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and willlose interest if she senses she has won.The ninth tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a"next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly hewould kill any chances of her calling him.The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a womans guy friends especiallyif he hasnt met them and doesnt know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her tomark him as "insecure".---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Men are crazy. And they get crazier when they see you approach him in those redpumps and skinny jeans with a baggy and casual tee in style and confidence. Althoughthere are a thousand things which make your irresistible, here are the top mostunbelievable ones:
  26. 26. 1. No make-up: Oops. Sorry girl. There‘s a great chance that your guy hasn‘t evennoticed your smokey eyes or the new bronzer on your face. Save money and turn himon!2. Lingerie that doesn’t match : And you though you should pair your lacy, satinpurple underwear with a purple bra? Show him that you are unprepared and yet givein to his desires and make yourself hotter!3. Wit : You thought it was all about physical contact? Crack a joke or flash your smileand he‘s sure to get wooed! Tip: It‘s better still if you are game even for jokes thatare played on you. And why not? It just proves how self-assured you are.4. Curvy is sexy: He doesn‘t like flat abs and zero sizes. Men love love-handles.5. Intelligence, confidence, emotional maturity and sexual openness : Flaunt yourreal self (sans the gloss), support him when he is down, talk excitingly and show yoursensual attitude, and girl, you‘ve got him!6. Wearing a baggy tee to bed: Stay casual and he‘ll be more comfortable in yourcompany. Don‘t intimidate him by being prim always or sounding like a know-it-all.7. Unkempt hair: Whoa, why get prim and proper when your man likes your bed-hairor smudged kohl eyes?8. Eye contact: Make yourself irresistible by looking at his eyes and putting acrossyour point. Don‘t be shy.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Just the kind of drink you choose or what you wear can make a huge difference. We explain...Sunny smile: The way you smile can say a lot about the person you are. Make sure that if you aremeeting a guy for the first time, you are don‘t come across as someone who‘s eager to please andtherefore laughs at all his jokes a tad too enthusiastically. At the same time don‘t appear too stern bykeep a serious face.Dress it up: What you wear is obviously one of the first things that a guy is likely to judge you on.Whether you are a tom boy or a girlie girl... it is all revealed by the way you dress and most guys willdecide whether or not to make a move just by looking at the way you dress.Your drink: The best way to figure you out is by your drink. Your drink can demystify you within notime. Like, if you are a woman aged between 21 and 24 years having rum and coke, you may be
  27. 27. thought to be someone who doesn‘t have an adventurous life.Can you talk? Don‘t try to fake interests where you have none. So, if the guy is talking about footballand you have no clue about it, don‘t pretend to be an avid fan. Just tell him outright that it isn‘t yourfield of expertise.Hair scare: Are Plain Janes associated with a bun? The kind of hairstyle you sport is definitely going toleave an impression. An out-of-the-bed look is fine, but if your hair is downright messy then it can be amajor turn off.Watch your cleavage: Yes, if he is a man he is bound to check out your cleavage. So, be aware of whatyou are projecting yourself to be. A buttoned-up shirt is likely to give you a conservative look, whileshowing off too much may make you seem like an easy girl. So know what you are showing.What’s in your bag? If your bag resembles a haversack, it‘s not going to be very appealing, you maynot be high-maintenance, but if you keep bringing out stuff it may give a guy an impression that youare a hoarder or high-maintenance.Glam it up or tone it down: You don‘t need to look like an made-up doll if you are at a coffee shop,similarly don‘t look like you have had no time to even wash your face if you are at a party. Neither isappealing, and a guy is bound to notice.Clean it up: We are talking about your skin here. Guys don‘t notice things like a blemish on your face.But a fake tan or just an unwashed face can be a turn off. It‘s okay to not put on any make-up, butensure that you look clean.Hold yourself: The way you sit or stand or move says a lot about you. Fidgeting too much in your seatis a clear indication of your nervousness, while sitting far too straight may make you seem a bitstressed. Relax, be calm and just be yourself.We list 10 things every woman should know1. Calling you does not mean we are hitting on youMost men are left wondering that why‘s it that just because he called you, you assumed he wants youto fill in the post of his girlfriend. He may actually just want to hang out with you.2. You are much prettier without all that makeupYour basic foundation and kajal is fine, but layers upon layers of makeup only makes you unappealingto your guy. So keep it simple.3. When you act giggly, it’s seriously embarrassingWhen you spot your gang of girls while you are out with your boyfriend, don‘t squeal and go giggly orjump up and down. Most men find it extremely childish.4. Gossiping, whispering and writing notes makes you look shallowWhen you pass notes or whisper when you and your friends are sitting at a table along with othersmakes it seem like you are still in your classroom.5. Boys worry about what you think of their hair, skin, weight and clothesDo tell your boyfriend if you think his new haircut makes him look cute or if his favourite T-shirt needsto be done away with.6. PMS is no excuse to be meanYes, men do understand that every month you are likely to get crabby for a few days, but that‘s notreason enough to be mean and cranky all the time.
  28. 28. 7. Talking about your butt is boringIt‘s a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn‘t want to be dumped — will ever tell his girfriend thatshe is looking fat. So no in point discussing, arguing and then discussing some more, about weight issueswith your boyfriend.8. Tight clothes make you look sort of desperate and insecureYou may be in shape but anything that amounts to too much skin show is not going to be appreciatedby your boyfriend. Don‘t keep showing how desperate you are. It can be a big put off if the guy isserious about you.9. Most boys are looking for the right girlIt‘s not just women who are looking for Mr Right, but boys are looking out for their Miss Perfect too. Sodon‘t be scared to play the love game.10. If you like him, just tell himDon‘t pretend to ignore him and then cry when he asks another girl out for dinner. If he‘s interested inyou, and if you feel the same way then respond. Don‘t keep the guy waiting too long.Its indeed a fine line – one where the quintessential player of the game is separated from the eternalwannabe. To the above-average go lucky male(aka the proverbial alpha male), flirting is a mere tool, aritual to be performed before getting down to the real action, but for the rest of us, it is the oneobstacle which prevents access to the untold world beyond. Granted, flirting is a complex behaviourthat is largely seen as a male trait. While 100% of men are ever-willing to offer advice on the topic,few are actually masters of it in their own right. But this time, that is beside the point.There might come a time in life when one does not have to try too hard. Like the ad for that talc goes,"Is it me, is it you, is it now", we may never know. But to put it straight, if that girl across the room(oracross the table) is actually trying to initiate a flirting session with you, and you miss the obvious signs,there is just no excuse for your sin. To save you from such a predicament, we list 5 simple signs thatcould tell you the light is green…opportunity never knocks twice!5. Eye contactThis is in fact a preliminary test for the merit of the male she has her eyes on. As has been drilled intoour brains over time, "anyone who frequently breaks eye contact is not to be trusted". While here it haslittle to do with trust, it can of course stand out as a lack of confidence. Yet, make sure you dontoverdo it by staring back as if you have nothing else to focus on. Look away for a while and then trainyour eyes back on her…very naturally! The longer she looks, the more the interest level.4. Lip gamesA very flexible maneuver, it can be employed under almost any circumstances, irrespective of thesurroundings – be it in office, a pub or the restaurant round the corner. It may be a simple smile atfirst, but in more opportunistic surroundings it could well go on to a seductive chew on her lower lip.Remember, for an entire generation Y, this was the extent of sexuality in Bollywood – for there is nodenying that a man finds a womans lips seductive. While the latter is perhaps a little too bold andoften avoided for fear of the filthy connotations, a smile is a very safe bet. Slowly running her fingeracross her lips after a sip is also a fair enough sign.3. Copying body movementsIt is a known fact that when a human focuses attention on another, he/she begins to absorb certaintraits from the other person. This is most often at a subconscious level and can happen irrespective ofthe gender of the people involoved, as long as the level of interest is high enough. Notice how sheholds her glass, crosses her legs or even the tone of her voice. If traits such as these are unusual in hermanner, she may well be giving you a rock-hard sign that shes flirting. Imitation is a form of flattery,
  29. 29. and is at its best when unplanned.2. Playing with her hairWhile this may seem immaterial at first and often make you ask "Am I just imagining things?", it is infact a major giveaway on her part. It is actually her underlying feminine mystic quality rearing its headas she twirls her hair or lets a lock of it fall unassumingly to cover one eye while in conversation. But ofcourse, it will definitely get her your attention.1. Creating opportunities for youIf she keeps breaking away from her gang, and acts lost, that is a good cue for you to move in. Thelevels may continue to rise, if shes already sitting right across your table. Consciously leaning over justenough for you to catch a whiff of her perfume, or making sure she lets you know her guard is down,are all silent ways of saying "Come on, mister…is that all youre planning to do all day?". Now are youreally waiting for her to touch you?Ironically, it is once the 5 cues are all in place that the trouble begins for most men. This is where theactual line of flirting is drawn. But just remember, when it comes to relationships, women talk. Andwhen given the chance, women flirt…just as much as men do.Karina Bose was watching Kabhi Haan Kabhi Naa and couldnt stop laughing when SuchitraKrishnamoorthi got angry after Shah Rukh Khan called her a flirt.A surprised Karina says, "What was so insulting about it? Whats wrong with a little harmless flirting!"Were with you Karina! Theres nothing wrong about it. In fact, it can mean a lot of fun.Havent tried it yet? Well you are missing out on something, so here are some tips.Look shy and sexyNeha Arora, 26, an MBA student, says you should dress in a sexy manner, without looking provocative."You might end up attracting the wrong kind of guys, if youre showing too much skin," she says.Neha uses the coy, vulnerable look instead. "And boy, does it work! I have got myself a lot of dateswith that look," she says.Use your eyesRebecca Ferreira, a 25-year-old textile designer, says using your eyes is the best way to communicate."Once he catches your eye, raise your eyebrow and give him the once-over from top to bottom andback again!Then flash a flirtatious smile in his direction and hell instantly be drawn towards you," she says.Use the magic touch"It helps to get a little touchy-feely when you are flirting," says 23-year-old psychology student AnitaRebello. She suggests you pretend to reach out just beyond the guys shoulder and (innocently!) putyour hand on his shoulder."You dont need to do much. A light touch will communicate your interest," she adds.Body language"Always keep your cool and dont appear too eager," advises Karuna Pradhan, a 27-year-old interiordecorator. But let yourself loose. Yes, we mean literally!
  30. 30. "Dont hold your limbs too tightly against your body. Maintain a little distance, but not so much that youare completely out of his personal space," Karuna says.Flirting is a great stress reliever, but if you dont intend to take him home with you for the night, donttake it too far. Learn the difference between harmless flirting and giving out a signal that youreavailable for some naughty fun."Its safest to flirt while you are hanging out with your friends. If things get out of hand, you have helpat hand," adds Neha.Sparks can certainly fly and there can be wonderful spells of romantic undertaking even inthe sultry summer evenings.And summer can be the best time to discover the bliss of togetherness. All you need to do isto make sure that youve got the right ingredients to make the nights and days too, sizzle.Read on...Ice ice baby:A cube of ice, if used as a prop with imagination, can work wonders. Pick one of the ice cubesfrom the freezer and let it act as a tool of before play. How? Use your imagination – hold theice cube in your mouth and begin by trying to plant a kiss and then simply put – carry forwardif the formula clicks.Summer coolers:Is there any better mode of seduction than wearing a see-thru top? Make sure that it is soakedenough to tempt your partner to take notice of what you want to say. What about wrappingyourself up in a damp towel just before going to sleep? If you have a water bed, fill it up withcold water. And then let the chemistry sizzle. Remember, cold is hot.The morning after:If the long summer day makes you feel pooped out during the night, dont worry. Both of youcan make some effort to get up a tad early. Well, an ice cold coffee topped with vanillaflavored ice cream can act as an appetizer. What about sharing the coffee together?So, indulge yourself. Fantasize. Buy yourself something that will melt with the sweat causesalty is sexy. What is food without salt anyway?Lifes equations keep changing. Sometimes, unknowingly, owing tocircumstances we often tend to ignore the issues that come in the way.Before reaching a stage where there is no other alternative but to call it aquit, giving time to think what is or what has been going wrong can help oneiron out the differences in a relationship. Particularly, in a man-womanrelationship, there are many factors like lack of spending quality time,inability to listen to the partner, lead to misunderstandings which may give
  31. 31. rise to fractures otherwise not warranted in a healthy relationships.There are certain things, which may not look as very significant factors, butwhen paid attention to can act as buffers which will save ones relationship.Here is how:1. Never look lost in things while your partner is saying somethingimportant. This may give rise to the feeling that you are least interested inlistening to what he or she feels or that you dont think his/her opinioncounts much in your life.2. Ask for your partners opinion when in doubt. But if you think the adviceproves counterproductive to what your logic says, politely convey the sameand explain without losing cool why you think your viewpoint will be theideal solution for the problem.3. Even if at the working hours, pay equal attention to the calls from yourfamily. There must be some reason why someone very close to you wants tospeak to you. If you think repeated calls come in the way of work, politelyand affectionately explain why one should not do so without losing yourcool.4. Gifts, parties, hangouts, food joints are alright. But there is somethingmore than just material pleasure. Get closer on an emotional level and seeyour relationship working wonders.5. Work towards physical compatibility. One does not just enter arelationship for the sake of fun. So share your likes and dislikes on the bedand go ahead to make it a wonderful experience.Celebs debate whether Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewarts month long no-sex agreementis the new therapy to heal relationships.Twilight stars Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart have been trying to patch up after Kristenwas photographed getting cozy with director Rupert Sanders in July. The couple has soughtthe help of a counsellor, who advised them to sign a no-sex pact. This means that eventhough the two share the same living space, they will sleep in separate rooms for a monthwhile they work on communicating, healing wounds and trust exercises. We explore whetherthis is a practical solution for couples.Its advisableCity-based counsellor Ian Faria says this kind of advice is given to couples in troubled
  32. 32. relationships. He says, "Both partners might have different sex desires — husbands might havea bigger one, while the wife, not so much. Taking a month-long sabbatical helps, because itfrees the wife of sexual obligations and will help her gather her thoughts. Earlier, wiveswould take breaks every year and visit their parents home with the children, which doesnthappen now. This lack of space can make it suffocating to be in a relationship."Abstinence is goodModel Faith Panday thinks abstinence is a good thing and says, "Abstinence is probably thebest decision to make while in a relationship. These days, love is replaced by sex, which, inturn, begets a string of negatives that our generation is getting used to, especially with whatthey see around them and on the big screen. But facades can change and mistakes can bereversed. If Robert Pattinson and Kirsten Stewart stay abstinent, good for them!"Its all a gimmickFashion guru Prasad Bidapa thinks Robert and Kristens no-sex pact might be a publicity stunt."The timing seems suspect as their film is due for release soon. Nowadays, romance seems tobe the most disposable thing. The personal lives of celebrities is always under scrutiny andthey live under a lot of pressure, but when they dont get enough attention, they feel lost."Its natural instinct to move onto a new relationship after leaving a sour one behind.But in most cases, one looks for comfort, someones shoulder he or she can cry on. And thats where,one confuses a rebound with a new relationship. Here are some tips to decipher if you are in a reboundrelationship:- The most common sign is that you quickly rush into a new relationship just to get over your ex. Thepain of the previous relationship is too much to deal with and thus, you cannot get over your ex.Therefore, getting into a new relationship works as a form of catharsis.- One expects his or her new partner to possess the desirable qualities and traits that their ex lacked.Chances are that one begins to be demanding with regard to expectations from their new partner.- Sometimes you expect your current partner to possess the same qualities and traits that you founddesirable in your ex. For example, good culinary skills, taste in clothes etc.- You cant help but draw comparisons between your current partner and your ex. Thinking is adifferent matter but saying it aloud is a sure shot sign that you are in a rebound relationship.- At times, you enjoy doing things with your new partner but are somehow reluctant to get physicallyintimate, unlike with your ex. This is another sign that you are unable to move on.- Last but not the least, you are still in love with your ex but you either fail to realise this or youreunable to accept the truth. You think more about your ex than your current partner.Experts have given a few sings to look out for if you want to know weather your wife ischeating on you.Firstly, phone calls - any change in phone calls including frequency of calls, time of day, toneof voice or a change in text messaging habits could all signify that she is cheating. When sheanswers the phone, does she drop her volume or suddenly sound as flirtatious as she did when
  33. 33. you were first dating?If it seems like her phone habits are changing and you cannot understand the changes, youmay be witnessing an affair, the Huffington Post reported.Secondly, dates with girlfriends - is she spending more time with her girlfriends than in thepast? Are there many evenings out with the girls, when there were almost none just a shortwhile ago? When you ask her who she will be with, does her answer sound sincere?If any of these scenarios ring a bell, your wife may be going out, but not with the girls. If shewas not socializing with her friends with the same frequency that she is now, that is a sign. Ifshe is doing different things than she did with the girls in the past, that is a good indicationthat all is not what it seems.Thirdly, showering and the gym - does she come home freshly showered, when in the past shedid not shower during the day? Does she seem to be going to the gym more often than sheused to?There are two parts to this one. The gym excuse could be legitimate; it just might be that sheis going there more frequently. The problem is that she might be working out more to impressher new love interest. And if she is not in need of her usual shower at night, chances are sheis showering after an afternoon of interesting sex, followed by a hot shower.Fourthly, cologne - does she ever smell of different cologne, one that is more masculine thanhers? Do you ever comment on the new scent she is wearing, only to find that she does notapply the same scent at home?It could be that the new scent is not hers, but his. Do you by any chance recognize the scentas one you might have tried in the past? Do you recognize it as a scent one of your friendswears?Fifthly, eye contact - has she stopped making eye contact when answering questions aboutwhere she has been and what she has been doing? Does she avoid looking you straight in theeye, when that was not an issue before?For most people, it is very challenging to look someone who knows you very well in the eyeand tell an out-and-out lie. If your wife is lying to you, there is a very good likelihood that shewill be looking anywhere but into your eyes when she does.Next, alcohol and other substances - is she drinking outside the home at odd times or morethan before? Have you suspected drug use, where there was none before? Does she ever smellof cigarettes, even though she doesnt smoke?If you are seeing any of these scenarios, there is probably a partner in crime. Sex, drugs androck and roll all go together, as does alcohol, and could all be indulged in during a tryst. Ifshe smells of cigarettes and she does not smoke, you can bet that he does. You know, almostcertainly, that someone else is influencing her choices if these behaviours are taking placewhen they were not happening before.Lastly, sexual deviations - does she want sex less often than usual? Does she seem to just be
  34. 34. going through the motions? Is she asking for things you never did before or teaching you newtricks?Any extreme variances in sexual behaviour are possible indications that there is a newinfluence in her life. While there are other possible circumstances, the most likely scenario isthat she is getting fulfilled outside of the relationship or realizing that there are new anddifferent things that she enjoys and is bringing them into your bed.Sixteen signs that you like someoneSIXTEEN:When youre on the phone with them late at night and they hang up, you still miss them even when itwas just two minutes ago.FIFTEEN:You read their Texts and Ims Over and over again.FOURTEEN:You walk really slow when youre with them.THIRTEEN:You feel shy whenever theyre around.ELEVEN:When you think about them, your heart beats faster but slower at the same time.TEN:You smile when you hear their voice.NINE:When you look at them, you cant see the other people around you, you just see him/her.EIGHT:You start listening to slow songs while thinking about them.SEVEN:
  35. 35. Theyre all you think about.SIX:You get high just from their scent.FIVE:You relize youre always smiling when youre looking at them.FOUR:You would do anything for them, just to see them.THREE:While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time.TWO:You were so busy thinking about that person, you didnt notice number twelve was missingONE:You just scrolled up to check & are now silently laughing at yourself.Ten signs your partner is not into youThere must have been moments when youve sat up all night waiting for an elusive call from the oneyou love.That is what Ayesha did after she went out on a date with her colleague. She imagined his reaction,consulted her friends, analysed his every move in minute details, but after a point it was clear that thecall wasnt coming. In office the next day, her colleague generally avoided her even as she triedguessing what was going on in his mind. His behaviour left Ayesha miffed. She avoided future dates andno amount of persuasion could make her think otherwise.

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