There is nothing worse than a bully with a Black Belt, so please bear in mind the power that you are developing. W A R N I N G
Becoming Aware of What You Communicate Effective communicators get their message received in the way they intended it to be received Good communicators exploit the strengths and weakness of language Communication is creating understanding in the minds of others
The Power of The words Words are cheap, the saying goes, they cost nothing, yet they have power to evoke images, sounds and feelings in the listener and reader as every poet and advertising script writer knows. They can start or break up relationships, sever diplomatic relations and provoke fights and wars. Words have been used to make us laugh and cry. They can hit or heal us. They can create hope or devastation. With words we can describe our intentions, desires and feelings. Words don’t only create emotions, they create actions as well. Most beliefs are formed by words and they can be changed by words as well.
<ul><li>Throughout the human history, great leaders, speakers, teachers and coaches used the power of words to lead people and to make them work for their cause (mission). </li></ul><ul><li>Words can injure our egos or inflame our hearts – </li></ul><ul><li>we can instantly change any emotional experience simply by choosing new words to describe to ourselves what we are feeling. </li></ul><ul><li>Words can put us into good or bad states; they are anchors for a complex series of experiences. So the only answer to the question, ‘what does a word really mean?’ is, ‘to whom?’ </li></ul><ul><li>Language is a tool of communication and as such, </li></ul><ul><li>words mean what people agree they mean. </li></ul><ul><li> It is a shared way to communicate about sense experience. </li></ul>
Setting Goals <ul><li>Always Create Well-Formed Positive Outcomes </li></ul>Goal Sheet List a positive Goal: WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL GOAL COMMITMENT FOR ACHIEVING YOUR GOAL? How much do you really want it? V.poor Poor Fair Average Good V.Goo Total 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 70% 80% 90% 100% 1. Personal Benefits To Achieving Your Goal 2. What Keeps You From Achieving Your Goal 3. What Steps Are You Going To Take To Achieve Your Goal? 4. What May Happen If You Don’t Achieve Your Goal? 5. What May Happen If You Do Achieve Your Goal?
How to Derive a Well-Formed O U T C O M E <ul><li>What do I want ? </li></ul><ul><li>Is it achievable ? </li></ul><ul><li>What will I accept as evidence that I have achieved my outcome ? </li></ul><ul><li>Is achieving this outcome within my control ? </li></ul><ul><li>Are the costs and consequences of obtaining this outcome acceptable ? </li></ul><ul><li>Do I have all the resources I need to achieve my outcome ? </li></ul><ul><li>If I could have it now, would I take it ? </li></ul>