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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. [NEW Version]

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Level-up your leadership skills by using curiosity, language and mindfulness.

Mindfulness is well-known for reducing stress – but how does it contribute to our modern disruptive business world?

It does very well as it supports developing authentic human beings – the people who know when it is time to lead and when it is time to follow.

It helps to grow responsible, resilient and courageous individuals – the key contributors to business agility.

It supports us in delivering value in a sustainable manner.

Mindful leadership is about taking care for the future by being “in the here and now”.

You’re invited to be curious!

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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. [NEW Version]

  1. 1. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. Cosima Laube // #AgileTD 2019 ( my pronouns: she/her)
  2. 2. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Why are YOU here?
  3. 3. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Why I am here...
  4. 4. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Bridge Builder & Travel Guide
  5. 5. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Growing Leaders?
  6. 6. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Leader-ship is an activity
  7. 7. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c “Growing leaders”
  8. 8. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Leadership is a journey that starts with your self
  9. 9. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Multiple Selves? Self!
  10. 10. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c mental illness cognitive dissonance wearing multiple hats/roles
  11. 11. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c concepts
  12. 12. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c awareness
  13. 13. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c context
  14. 14. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c concept contextawareness
  15. 15. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Resilient, flexible Self self as concept self as context self as awareness
  16. 16. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Resilient, flexible Self stories (old & current) past-oriented “data” from body and mind present-moment looking at the data and the stories like “sitting on a bench” self as concept self as context self as awareness
  17. 17. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Mindfulness
  18. 18. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Cover-image of the movie “Karate kid” showcasing that Mindfulness needs practise like Karate needs practise - regular practise of seemingly easy, unrelated “things”. (image removed in public version because of copyright)
  19. 19. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Three breaths
  20. 20. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Leadership
  21. 21. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Leadership is a journey that starts with your self and involves others
  22. 22. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c One minute / moment to arrive (individually or as group check-in)
  23. 23. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Shift to connection (variation of 3 breaths)
  24. 24. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Done?...yet? Are we...
  25. 25. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c #1 - Stress
  26. 26. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c
  27. 27. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Beliefs // Assumptions // Judgements Comparison with others “I deserve that <promotion>” “I cannot do this” “I AM inadequate” Ruminating at night or day ∞
  28. 28. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Just “make it go away”? We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking (that) we used when we created them. [A. Einstein]
  29. 29. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Comic-style image from the book “Quiet the Mind” by Matthew Johnstone (https://matthewjohnstone.com.au/product/quiet-the-mind/) Image shows a human lying in bed on a pillow. Their brain is standing outside their skull happily “talking” to the seemingly unhappy human who is trying to get some sleep (image removed in public version because of copyright)
  30. 30. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Just “make it go away”? Work on a bigger “mental torch” self as awarenessself as concept self as context self as awareness
  31. 31. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Check your Self-Talk unhelpful (old) stories?
  32. 32. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c #2 - Decisions
  33. 33. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c when to lead and when to follow
  34. 34. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c when to do sth. and when NOT TO DO sth.
  35. 35. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c I better should… // I must… I do not want, but… Procrastination // Avoidance “Better avoid this!” “I hate... but I have to do ... anyway.” am I (really) doing “the right things”? ∞
  36. 36. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c F.E.A.R.
  37. 37. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Fusion with thoughts Evaluation of experience Avoidance of experience Reason-giving of behaviour Our own mental box of F.E.A.R....
  38. 38. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Fusion with thoughts Evaluation of experience Avoidance of experience Reason-giving of behaviour What if you can shrink that box...?
  39. 39. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c ED A Fusion with thoughts Evaluation of experience Avoidance of experience Reason-giving of behaviour … shrink F.E.A.R. and D.A.R.E. more! R
  40. 40. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c DARE “line-up”
  41. 41. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Reconnecting with your values Engaging (committed action) Defusing your thoughts Accepting life ED A R DARE “line-up”
  42. 42. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c present moment awareness (mindfulness) self-as-context (→ resilient self) DARE “Support” ED A R
  43. 43. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Experiment with volume! “Schlager music” Cover Images of your favourite music (for me personally that is Beatles & Queen) (images removed for public version because of copyright)
  44. 44. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Psychological Flexibility
  45. 45. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c a scientific concept for growing YOUR “space for more options” [Cosima Laube] “Flexible, authentic, responsive Self” [Atkins & Parker, 2012]
  46. 46. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Some science on Psychological Flexibility Atkins, P. W. B., & Styles, R. (2015). Mindfulness, identity and work: mindfulness training creates a more flexible sense of self. In J. Reb & P. W. B. Atkins (Eds.), Mindfulness in Organizations: Foundations, research, and applications (pp. 133–162). https://www.researchgate.net/publication/290490487_Mindfulness_identity_and_work_Mindfulness_tr aining_creates_a_more_flexible_sense_of_self Atkins, P. W. B., & Parker, S. K. (2012). Understanding Individual Compassion in Organizations: The Role of Appraisals and Psychological Flexibility. Academy of Management Review, 37(4), 524–546. https://doi.org/10.5465/amr.2010.0490 Hayes, S. C., Barnes-Holmes, D., & Roche, B. (2001). Relational Frame Theory: A Post-Skinnerian Account of Human Language and Cognition. New York: Plenum Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2407(02)80063-5
  47. 47. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Recommendable tools, books & media ★ Stephen C. Hayes TEDxTalk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o79_gmO5ppg ★ ACT ADVISOR Tool https://stevenchayes.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/The-ACT-Advisor. pdf
  48. 48. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Best possible Selves (take-home exercise) [King, 2001; Blickhan, 2015]
  49. 49. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Day Parenting (take-home) [Bonifer & Shternshus, 2015] [Cosima Laube L.I.S.T.E.N. Blog]
  50. 50. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c bring more D.A.R.E.ing light to your life… one step at a time
  51. 51. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Why I am here...
  52. 52. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Bridge Builder & Travel Guide
  53. 53. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c More than that!
  54. 54. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c experience // knowledge // training
  55. 55. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c bring more D.A.R.E.ing light to your life…(and to the world) one step at a time
  56. 56. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Cosima Laube Developer, Coach, Trainer & more than that Contact -- booking -- slides: https://cosima-laube.de
  57. 57. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c ★ 4 days (best) in a row ★ 20 minutes per day ★ 1 life domain per day (health, work, partner/family, friends, treating yourself, …) Best Possible Self – in a nutshell (1)
  58. 58. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c ★ first minutes: step mentally into your future best possible self in that life domain ★ ~15 minutes: be your best possible self ○ Write continuously to those questions: How are you? // What do you do? // What is important to you? ○ Don‘t stop writing! Don‘t judge. ○ Be surprised! Best Possible Self – in a nutshell (2)
  59. 59. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Sources on „Multiple Selves“ / Psychological Flexibility (1) Atkins, P. W. B., & Styles, R. (2015). Mindfulness, identity and work: mindfulness training creates a more flexible sense of self. In J. Reb & P. W. B. Atkins (Eds.), Mindfulness in Organizations: Foundations, research, and applications (pp. 133–162). https://www.researchgate.net/publication/290490487_Mindfulness_identity_and_work_Mindfuln ess_training_creates_a_more_flexible_sense_of_self Atkins, P. W. B., & Parker, S. K. (2012). Understanding Individual Compassion in Organizations: The Role of Appraisals and Psychological Flexibility. Academy of Management Review, 37(4), 524–546. https://doi.org/10.5465/amr.2010.0490 Hayes, S. C., Barnes-Holmes, D., & Roche, B. (2001). Relational Frame Theory: A Post-Skinnerian Account of Human Language and Cognition. New York: Plenum Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2407(02)80063-5
  60. 60. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Sources on „Multiple Selves“ / Psychological Flexibility (2) Berger, J. G. and Atkins, P. W. B. (2009). Mapping complexity of mind: using the subject-object interview in coaching. Coaching: An International Journal of Theory, Research and Practice, 2 (1), 23-36. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233282213_Mapping_complexity_of_mind_Using_the_ subject-object_interview_in_coaching
  61. 61. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Sources on Mindfulness, Work and Leadership Good, D. J., Lyddy, C. J., Glomb, T. M., Bono, J. E., Brown, K. W., Duffy, M. K., Lazar, S. W. (2016). Contemplating Mindfulness at Work: An Integrative Review. Journal of Management, 42(1), 114–142. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206315617003 Shapiro, S. L., Carlson, L. E., Astin, J. A., & Freedman, B. (2006). Mechanisms of mindfulness. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 62(3), 373–386. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.20237 Dahl, C. J., Lutz, A., & Davidson, R. J. (2015). Reconstructing and deconstructing the self: cognitive mechanisms in meditation practice. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 19(9), 515–523. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2015.07.001 van Dierendonck, D. (2011). Servant Leadership: A Review and Synthesis. Journal of Management, 37(4), 1228–1261. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206310380462 Systematic iterature review on Mindfulness and Leadership (Bachelor thesis, Cosima Laube 2017) – available on demand
  62. 62. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Sources Books, exercises & more (1) Listening and Clean Language • Hartley, Tamsin (2017): The Listening Space – A New Path to Personal Discovery Positive Psychology • Blickhan, D. (2015). Positive Psychologie: ein Handbuch für die Praxis. Paderborn: Junfermann Verlag. Best Possible Selves Exercise • King, L. A. (2001). The health benefits of writing about life goals. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 27(7), 798–807. doi: 10.1177/0146167201 277003, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/247895325_The_Health_Benefits_of_Writing_about _Life_Goals • See pages 152/153 in Blickhan (2015) for a short description in German
  63. 63. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Sources Books, exercises & more (2) Karate Kid: Wax on, Wax off • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ynryUjGFt8 Improvisation / gamification of mindfulness for business organisations: • Bonifer, Mike & Shternshus, Jessie (2015): CTRL-Shift Day Parenting Exercise: • http://notebook.cosima-laube.de/blog/20180419_ctrl-shift_dayParenting/ The Hanselminutes Tech Podcast with April Wensel on Compassionate Coding • https://hanselminutes.com/641/compassionate-coding-with-april-wensel Listening, MIndfulness & Leading: • Bungay Stanier, Michael (2016): The Coaching Habit – Say less, Ask more & Change the way you lead forever
  64. 64. Cosima Laube // @gazebo_c Image Sources • mostly from unsplash.com • book covers photographed from my own hardcopies •

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